loving01:



@ Thonia slim,yes, he is ready to get back to school now, which is why I am looking for a school for him in europe, and he is determined to struggle while schooling too. He has assured me that he will do all it takes to be up and doing.

ThoniaSlim:

He says not He does! two different things girl. Its not about what he says but what he does. Does his actions speak determination?

What happened to Nigerian schools? Moreover he's 27years old without a previous degree or something to show since he left school, you really think the high commission/embassy won't take this into consideration?

I just feel you wasting your time on this dude! I also feel he's using you as a means to an end. When he gets what he wants (Leaves the country) that will be it for you.


Well its your life and your choice. But I just hope for your sake it turns out well and you don't end up regretting when its already too late.

Please answer that if you are opportune d to,
A school drop out,

He wants to go abroad with WAEC or NECO or GCE,
Please well and hard, You are ruining your life staying longer with him

Tink_sh:

Poster, you can do anymore for him. You cant change him. You need to accept him the way he is or move on. Why are you checking out schools?? If its his dream then he should be doing it. Sounds like you do all for him and he is just sitting back enjoying your fruits. Are you looking for someone to mother or look after? If so stay but you really need to run girl. Save yourself cos he is never going to get any better and you should not be looking to change him. Thats not fair. He has to want it. Good luck. I hope you get a revalation soon.

Dyt:

All u guys r sayin is nt gettin 2 er,she's nt even feelin a bit of it,dont u all get it,she loves him n dats all matters 2 er,y dont u let er b,she knows wats best 4 er

loving01:

okay, let me be honest with you guys, this guy is kind of helpless. He admits that he doesnt know much. I have to help him look for schools, because he is not really good on the internet, and it has been difficult for him to find a school for himself.

loving01:

He is not a womanizer at all, he doesnt smoke, he doesnt drink, these are some qualities in him that i really like.

loving01:

He is also a dedicated guy, and sometimes, i even go as far as telling him that he has to be a man and cater for my needs too, and when i say that, he goes out of his way to give me stuff, and i dont like this, because i know he has to get the money from his parents, and he does this to just show his love.

loving01:

i know deep down inside that he is a good person.

loving01:

Im sorry if it seems like i am not taking your advice nairaland, but truth is, I have been needing to talk to someone about this for a while now. I was just happy to find this forum. I have been needing to bare out my heart to someone, and i cant do it with my family, because i know they will instantly tell me to leave him.

loving01:

okay, let me be honest with you guys, this guy is kind of helpless. He admits that he doesnt know much. I have to help him look for schools, because he is not really good on the internet, and it has been difficult for him to find a school for himself.

[size=13pt]He is not a womanizer at all, he doesnt smoke, he doesnt drink[/size], these are some qualities in him that i really like. He is also a dedicated guy, and sometimes, i even go as far as telling him that he has to be a man and cater for my needs too, and when i say that, he goes out of his way to give me stuff, and i dont like this, because i know he has to get the money from his parents, and he does this to just show his love.

i know deep down inside that he is a good person.

Im sorry if it seems like i am not taking your advice nairaland, but truth is, I have been needing to talk to someone about this for a while now. I was just happy to find this forum. I have been needing to bare out my heart to someone, and i cant do it with my family, because i know they will instantly tell me to leave him.

He doesn't do any of thoes and yet he's a cultist

Unless of course you are talking about OKADA BIKERZ SECRET CULT !!

Nothing special . . . even 190 can claim this as well.

Seriously i dont know your issue with me!

But i dont smoke Not in dis life nor the next,

But i only drink (occasionally)

and i dont womanize!

Purplediamond:

@OP wats actually your reason for puttin up this post to beg for advice? D way i see it, u dont need any advice! U've already settled in your heart wat u want to do!

I think NOT! She appear to be in dilemma much

@OP

Albeit love conquers all however this isnt applicable in this case as He doesn't wanna get up his azz and do something meaningful with his life and you, perhaps unbeknownst you, are encouraging his lazy azz by constantly giving him money. Gosh! Wat Man will enjoy taking money from a woman while lazing about at home? Some men sha! smh

Omolola1:

@190, The womanizing aspect, re u talking about on or off NL

ladygaga:




RUN BABY RUN!!!!!!!!!

Run to where,
Village!!

madlady:

@loving01, is it possible for you to get him a private tutor, he/she could coach him up to a level so that he could resit his failed exam. 
Maybe you could coach him yourself. If he were able to pass this exam it might motivate him to kick start his life.

Run to where,
Village!! Angry Angry

madlady:

@loving01, is it possible for you to get him a private tutor, he/she could coach him up to a level so that he could resit his failed exam. 
Maybe you could coach him yourself. If he were able to pass this exam it might motivate him to kick start his life.

bayonle1:

@op,seriously i know how it is with you and i wud like u to consider this few points,the most fundamantal thing is love and fulfillment.that guy cannot be completely silly and dat is why u keep going back to him.i also want you to consider the spiritual aspect of his life,dos type of issues might be metaphysical.u can make him wateva u desire if he is not being spiritually afflicted.finally,do not be hoodwinked into sending him abroad except u are doing a visa for 2.

loving01:

yes I did get him a private tutor before he took the exams. He was coached for about a month. But right now, I am just looking for an easier way to get him into a school with less stringent requirements.

Thank you so much for reasoning with me