aca77:

@poster

Seriously, jealousy is perhaps the only genuine and reliable sign that someone truly truly loves you and wants u all to himself or herslf. When your supposed 'partner' doesn't care what you do or who you roll with, and you mistake that for trust or 'security' then you're getting it totally wrong. Either he or she doesnt love you (enough), or he or she has alternative lover(s) elsewhere. Period.

People get these things twisted. Perhaps thats why girls that I don't love one bit and only fool around with tend to fall more easily and cheaply than the few ones that I genuinely feel love for and let it show. I certainly wouldnt marry a woman that doesnt care who the lady that just called me is, or who doesnt worry about my female friends. It means she either doesn't love me enough, or she is up to her own dirt somewhere else.

mediatrix8:

@ ACA77, if a person who is seldom gets jealous but shows his care and love to you by calling you often and chatting you often,giving you everything but you seldom see him being jealous even you are with your group of friends hanging out,paryting, jamming etc.What do you think of that?

aca77:

All that isn't a sure sign of love. Any playboy worth his salt knows how to pamper his would-be 'victim' with fake show of attention, care and generosity until he decides he has had enough, dumps her, and moves on to the next 'victim'.

From my experience at least, affectionate jealousy proves either or both of 2 things:
1. Love/devotion
2. Faithfulness/absence of alternatives.

Trust me, when someone freely gives you 'trust' that you've not earned, or acts all 'secure' about who you hang out with or what you do, its usually because he or she isn't so crazy about you, or because he or she has got other sweet affairs/alternatives on the side.

Note this: you can't be completely devoted and faithful to someone without expressing some apprehension when the other gets too close to the opposite gender. If not because of love, at least because of the fear/possibility of being cheated. But on the other hand it is easy not to get jealous or insecure over him or her when you know you are already doing stuff behind his or her back, or you know you have no future together. Believe me on this one.

mediatrix8:


Yes,but too much jealousy is Selfish and possessive? Isn't it too much, and you won't have space if he is too jealous?

MrsEve:

There are different level of jealousy, there are what you call possessive jealousy and innocent jealousy, the problem with these level of jealousies that the line is so THIN that it can easily break and therefore the innocent jealousy can become possessive jealousy.

From my experience, African men are some of the MOST JEALOUS hearted men in the ENTIRE world, and it the culture of African men.  It is cute to some women and a turn off to some women. A man that loves his wife or girlfriend is jealous if a man approaches his wife or girlfriend they ready to fight, to me IS WHY WOULD YOU FIGHT SOMEONE BECAUSE THEY APPROACHES YOUR WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND? 

I, as a woman will never understand THAT KIND OF JEALOUSY because to me it a sign of insecurity and  paranoia.  Black men in America get jealous as well, BUT NOTHING TOP AFRICAN MEN JEALOUSY, whooooweee, you can feel some HEAT in their jealousy and be ready to take cover,

They say if your man doesn't show jealousy then he doesn't love you, I THINK THAT BULLCHIT, I THINK African men just want to control and dominant and when they see other men APPROACHING THEIR TROPHY they get ignant,

MrsEve:

Wait until YOU get married and let a man approach you for some sugar at the restaurant,

Then come back and give me a full report afterward, 

MrsEve:

There are different level of jealousy, there are what you call possessive jealousy and innocent jealousy, the problem with these level of jealousies that the line is so THIN that it can easily break and therefore the innocent jealousy can become possessive jealousy.

From my experience, African men are some of the MOST JEALOUS hearted men in the ENTIRE world, and it the culture of African men.  It is cute to some women and a turn off to some women. A man that loves his wife or girlfriend is jealous if a man approaches his wife or girlfriend they ready to fight, to me IS WHY WOULD YOU FIGHT SOMEONE BECAUSE THEY APPROACHES YOUR WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND?  

I, as a woman will never understand THAT KIND OF JEALOUSY because to me it a sign of insecurity and  paranoia.  Black men in America get jealous as well, BUT NOTHING TOP AFRICAN MEN JEALOUSY, whooooweee, you can feel some HEAT in their jealousy and be ready to take cover,

They say if your man doesn't show jealousy then he doesn't love you, I THINK THAT BULLCHIT, I THINK African men just want to control and dominant and when they see other men APPROACHING THEIR TROPHY they get ignant,

aca77:

But isn't it rude and disrespectful for a man to 'approach' some other guy's gf or wife in his presence? Thats seems like an act of war to me; not that I would fight him though. I'd wait to see how my gf/wife reacts: whether she'd tell him off, or 'encourage' him with warm smiles and attention. And then she would be the recipient of my reaction, not the strange man that I don't know from Adam.

But for real it amazes me when I hear of guys who fight other men who are their 'love rivals', or who kill a man they catch atop their wife. As a man, I know that guys would always try their luck with any and every woman - single, married, separated, divorced, or widowed. It IS the woman's responsibility to reject their advances if she is dating or married. As such, if I stumble upon my gf/wife making out with another man, I'd probably shake the guy's hand and congratulate him on his seducing skills (after all, its not a case of despoil). The woman on the other hand, would be the object of my rage - and God help her if a gun is in sight.

biola44:

yes, Exodus 20:5 " for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God"

Yorisb:

hehehe

Yorisb:

Don't u have a bible?

mediatrix8:


Yes, I have, and the verse s right hmmm

Good, and that settles it I guess

MrsEve:

There are different level of jealousy, there are what you call possessive jealousy and innocent jealousy, the problem with these level of jealousies that the line is so THIN that it can easily break and therefore the innocent jealousy can become possessive jealousy.

From my experience, African men are some of the MOST JEALOUS hearted men in the ENTIRE world, and it the culture of African men.  It is cute to some women and a turn off to some women. A man that loves his wife or girlfriend is jealous if a man approaches his wife or girlfriend they ready to fight, to me IS WHY WOULD YOU FIGHT SOMEONE BECAUSE THEY APPROACHES YOUR WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND? 

I, as a woman will never understand THAT KIND OF JEALOUSY because to me it a sign of insecurity and  paranoia.  Black men in America get jealous as well, BUT NOTHING TOP AFRICAN MEN JEALOUSY, whooooweee, you can feel some HEAT in their jealousy and be ready to take cover,

They say if your man doesn't show jealousy then he doesn't love you, I THINK THAT BULLCHIT, I THINK African men just want to control and dominant and when they see other men APPROACHING THEIR TROPHY they get ignant,

djcrucifix:

@ poster, sometimes it is, other times it's very dangerous

MrsEve:

I don't have a problem with spelling, JUST IGNANT AZZ NUKKAS LIKE YOU,