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Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by franzis(m): 10:18pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Take it back to the beginning, do some if not all of Those things you did while chasing her and after getting her. Women are naturally insecure in nature |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by shugaboy6102(m): 10:18pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
mastermaestro:thanks for ur comments bro |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Fisher007: 10:18pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Playstation1: My brother from another mother. You gave him the best advice, only if he will think rationally and not emotionally. If he truly wants peace, calmness, tranquility and happiness. That is the solution. Safeman. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Nobody: 10:19pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
shugaboy6102:Fear first catch me @bolded The other nairalander that impregnated a girl three times after making that statement Back to your post If you get anyone pregnant out of wedlock its not really necessary you rush into marriage, the choice of a lifelong partner should not be tired to pregnancy out of wedlock, it's advisable to take sometime to make such decisions after the child is born. If she wants out then so be it. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Jaqenhghar: 10:19pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
shugaboy6102:No be by force nah. Even married couples split up when they have had enough |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by kushme: 10:20pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: You are welcome... I am in my mid-thirties and I spend my money alone, eat anything I want.. No female, no child support... I fvck when I want to.. Just look at you, you still wanna live with another woman... Yous a puusy nigga. 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by odinga1of: 10:23pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: Bro I am 29, tho not yet married. I co habitated with girl in 2014/15, she said same thing to me (out of anger 2019, we are chatting, she told me, she truly loved me then and now. If you are 29, but of you are too young, so whatever you are going thru even Rich couples goes thru same hurdles. Matured minds like Efewestern (My Urhobo Brother) has advised you. I respect my case......work things out with your old wife. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by abdullkabar(m): 10:25pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Mindfulness:Most times when we have a question The answer is always right there staring us in the eyes If what Op is saying is true I will never trade my peace of mind for anything Even if its marriage She has made it clear she's tired(if she sees another option, she will go for it, who knows if she's already planning her exit) Sometimes you just have to be wicked for some peoples sake cuz they don't respect being good Your future is probably still long, make it a good one Note: Things are always easier said than done but if you can think it then you can achieve it |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Mutemenot(m): 10:25pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Bro, there's no perfect marriage, all has to be managed ... The new one won't even give you the peace you expected, I suggest you reason well 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Nobody: 10:27pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
In as much as marriage isn't the criterion of making heaven, divorce too wouldn't land you in hell, especially if life is being threatened by either party. In this case, your life isn't under any threat. She never said she'd stab or poison you. My advice...all women are jealous and nagging. Try and build the confidence in her that you love her and make your marriage work. Who told you this new catch of yours wouldn't be worse than her? I urge you invite God into your home in prayers and all will be well. You could invite elderly ones to talk to her too. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Reference(m): 10:28pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Just lurching from one defeat to the other instead of working things out. Relationships are not made primarily for personal gain and personal satisfaction. Human beings are created to make things, to build things together. Marraige is the ultimate building site, where monuments are constructed out of absolutely nothing but sacrifice and sheer determination. You better start digging the foundations of your relationship instead of chickening out. What makes you think the next woman will be better. All human beings have 'issues'. I have not seen a perfect person yet. Not one. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Nobody: 10:29pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: If you couldn't make the first one work, the same thing will still happen to the second one. It long throat that is worrying you. After youll get tired of the second and start looking for a new one. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by fatymore(f): 10:30pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
engrchykae: Sorry for your divorce case. May God heal you and make you happy. We all have our problems |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by mejai(m): 10:30pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
For some days now, Nairaland has witnessed topics about marriages and other forms of relationship. Seun, I think the time has come to rename this forum. Those in support of retaining the name, Nairaland, click like. Those in support of renaming it to relationship land, click share 1 Like |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by madridsta007(m): 10:30pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: There’s nothing like “half rites” Oga. You are married. If you want to divorce her, that’s another thing else. You will be divorcing a woman you are married to. My advice is to try and sort yourself out with your wife. Get someone she listens to involved. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by nuhu2018(m): 10:31pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
OK |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Stillthebest: 10:34pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Depends on what the customs of of where the lady cane from says. Tbh, you have never been married legally in the face of Law, that mean there's not going to be any divorce between you. So, if you consider what she opts for, whag her tradition says, your child together and your unhappiness then you are close to your answer. You can go your seperate ways without any procedural requisites by the law except for the cultural attachment relating to the one precession of marital tradition you half-done. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Nobody: 10:35pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Do you love your her? Do you love your Kid? Do you love yourself? after you answer that What are your best options? Do you need counselling? Is there another lady in the picture? |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by nototribalist: 10:35pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: From my family experience, you're not legally or fully married to her. This is what to do, politely tell her parents that you've tried to make the marriage work but their daughter just want to continue to fight everybody. Once you tell them that their daughter made comments like you should go find someone else while she too go find someone else, then her parents will know it's not your fault. After talking to her parents officially then you two are separated for good. But always make out time to visit the child every now and then. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Nobody: 10:35pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
sisisioge:Ara'lu lorin, enle faaa |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Owaincouncil: 10:35pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
All I can see are two immature people forming husband and wife. Go and ask those that celebrate 50 years in marriage, it started like this, but they manage their stuffs and handle each other with maturity. You are sanguine and she is phlegmatic. U both have your strenght, weakness and area of common. Work on those area and u will find peace again. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Nobody: 10:36pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
addictiv:Gbabesky. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by tete7000(m): 10:37pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: Well I don't believe you have a marriage yet. However I must point to you that there is so much contradictions in your life. You claimed your "marriage" wasn't intended. You claimed you envy those who are single. Yet you are ready to jump in with another woman just to avoid the pain in the first union, how are you sure this one won't end up worse that your current union? You will want to claim you know this other lady better but I am sure that was how you had thought you know your current woman before impregnating her. If you envy the single ones, what I would have expected you is to take time off woman matter and resolve the fundamental issues about yourself. The way you are ready to jump from woman to another woman will leave you with sour taste in the mouth if you don't try to understand yourself and what type of woman you think can complement you. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Reference(m): 10:38pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
For starters the Holy Book says when you get married quite literaly, two become one. You should be one with your wife which means whatever you see in her is a reflection of what tou see in yourself. With this in mind will the first thing you think be to cut off your arm, leg or head because it gives you pain. No. You will go see a doctor for palliatives and possibly repair. The only reason you will pernit your precious member to be severed is if it poses a threat to your life such as with gangrene but consider if that member was your head, its death will be your death too. So to be alive and enjoy marraige make sure your partner is as important as your head, elevate such a person to the level of inevitability and see how peace and love will overcome all. |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by hopebacy(m): 10:38pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
imagine she was ur daughter and the matter came to ur table.. whatsoever you will advice the both of them is what you should do. now the new fire that is burning in ur stomach is the same that burn few years ago. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by Happyguy201: 10:40pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
80% of married people are either tIred or sucidal |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by bossrillboss: 10:41pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
this marriage thngs self don use style to dey fear me self,abi na only Nigeria the thng dey ni.kilode gan. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by ericgold(m): 10:42pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
LadySarah:how your life be? |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by InvertedHammer: 10:49pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
shugaboy6102: / Relationship? There is no right or wrong answer. Every relationship is unique. Do what you have to do and be ready to deal with the outcome. You and only you know the ladies you are dealing with. That's all. / |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by bigpicture001: 10:50pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
......all you wrote is how u cheated nd sh reacted nd you cheated again...nd sh reacted nd niw u want to dump her Ppl should get old enough to get married....relationship nd marriage is not same tin..u guyz would nvr hear |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by makavelian(m): 10:50pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
Bro I must be sincere with you because I personally have been in this kind of situation before... Stick to the woman you know because living together with a woman under same roof is different from seeing her from afar once once... The very loving, glittering woman that you think you have found love with may even become worse than this one you living with at home now... Like someone up there already stated try to recandle the relationship with your woman... Try bring in a few responsible people to come into your home and help you fix things... That woman is carrying your baby, if she didn't love you she will not go that far to carry your seed... Go ask your dad today he will tell you that sometimes he will even want to call it quit with your mum, my point is that marriage do have ups and downs, so I wish you well... Try fix what is broken instead of buying a new one... Sometimes its better this way... 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Keep Enduring In This Supposed Marriage? by OnlineMonarch(m): 10:55pm On Dec 18, 2019 |
This is the most direct and mature response i have seen on NL this year. Amanee: 1 Like |
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