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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Graxie(f): 9:24am On Dec 15, 2019
I think there should be thread for baby fathers. Both your woman and Iyawo ossy are horrible people. But you yourself you are a very stupid guy. It's good you are taking care of innocent kids, but run and do DNA. Your woman doesn't want DNA test because she knows iyawo ossy will manipulate you more. You have been engaged to her for over 5years and you are still talking about children from another woman. Some of this single mothers are terrible, you only need to come close and see how they destroy their baby fathers without considering their kids. My younger brother almost fell into such, if not that I stood my ground, told the girl the bitter truth, she was already getting her way through pastor. The pastor wanted to manipulate my brother all in the name of counseling, I am ADA, I have danced all manner, you can't bring your yesterday Makosa to confuse me. Once these ladies see a man with uncontrolled sexual urge, and soft heart, they use kids to manipulate them. Even after DNA, once those children are yours, seek for custody, especially the first. Meanwhile, be sure your woman is not even worse than what you have.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by baba4thegehs: 9:36am On Dec 15, 2019
One single mistake result into a 9 years Drama! Wow.

That's like 10% of your life wasted on resolving a messy situation.

Let's be guided please.
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nobody: 9:44am On Dec 15, 2019
henvest, which part of Igbo is she from and where are you from?

That will go a long way in knowing what to tell you. Taking those kids for a DNA Test is the first issue to be cleared but where that lady is from is the main issue.

Waiting for your reply...
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Emestar1999: 10:10am On Dec 15, 2019
Graxie:
I think there should be thread for baby fathers. Both your woman and Iyawo ossy are horrible people. But you yourself you are a very stupid guy. It's good you are taking care of innocent kids, but run and do DNA. Your woman doesn't want DNA test because she knows iyawo ossy will manipulate you more. You have been engaged to her for over 5years and you are still talking about children from another woman. Some of this single mothers are terrible, you only need to come close and see how they destroy their baby fathers without considering their kids. My younger brother almost fell into such, if not that I stood my ground, told the girl the bitter truth, she was already getting her way through pastor. The pastor wanted to manipulate my brother all in the name of counseling, I am ADA, I have danced all manner, you can't bring your yesterday Makosa to confuse me. Once these ladies see a man with uncontrolled sexual urge, and soft heart, they use kids to manipulate them. Even after DNA, once those children are yours, seek for custody, especially the first. Meanwhile, be sure your woman is not even worse than what you have.
. Thanks cause you just spoke my mind. Op your woman is afraid the kids might be yours. Please go for DNA test biko
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Mightyify(m): 10:14am On Dec 15, 2019
Chidonc:
brother man, you are been manipulated, don't be surprised if after the you take those kids for DNA you find out they are not even yours. you missed the first step from beginning, you were supposed to get DNA done. if the kinds are yours, try reaching to her family members to settle for the children since you have been catering for them won't be difficult but on the other hand, go to court. at least use intimidation to your advantage. let nobody blackmail you, am in almost similar case at the moment just that mine didn't give birth for me. but her level of manipulation would make the devil rethink.

can you share with me on my email. I have been dealt with too bro.
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by dheilaw1(m): 10:22am On Dec 15, 2019
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where den dey sell 2007 Camry Muzzle for 900k. Bros u no fit see that car sell for 600k. Better EOD sef na 500-550
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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Chidonc(m): 10:28am On Dec 15, 2019
Mightyify:

can you share with me on my email. I have been dealt with too bro.
have sent you a pm
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nobody: 10:38am On Dec 15, 2019
How can you claim to be a father of a woman living with another man without doing a DNA test. You should go for the DNA first before any other thing. You are an adult for goodness sake. Abi pussy no dey let you get sense?

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by lollybizzu(m): 10:41am On Dec 15, 2019
Jewessgratitude:


So long a story. Couldn't even finish it. Got bored half way and stopped.

Men!!!... When will you ever learn? With all the news of STDs flying around, youll meet a girl and still go in raw...

To marry now gan tire me. "Baba God abeg no vex" I'm tired...
No strong willed men in this generation again
.

Same goes for you guys too.
But yours is emotions and discipline. grin
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by MartinsD12(m): 10:48am On Dec 15, 2019
Henvest:
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. One day I came to buy things as usual, the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me she is his sister. After that day I stopped seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop.

One day I traveled, while on the travel someone called, introduced herself and explained who she is. Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me. She pretended to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then. Of course I apologized but she demanded I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged.

I came back kept to my promise but made it in an open place, National theater precisely.
But then she booked another date next week but insisted it won't be open place anymore.. The rest is history.

One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better. She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally opened up.....

Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years.
But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people.
The reason why both of them chose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today....

I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship did not last up to 2 months but obviously it was a bit late already.

Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belongs to Ossy.
She went further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claiming her pregnancy is 1 month.

To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy.

I gave up, dust my self and moved on.
Nine months later she put to bed to a girl..
Months later I move out of that area.
One day my phone rang it was her, she demanded that she need to see me, that she has an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address.

Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working.
She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy. That the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process.

I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two months later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace. I keep asking my self what if pregnancy and the girl truly belong to me?

One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support ..

What I saw when I reached there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change.
But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c

After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she doesn't have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills.

I bought the idea and asked the lady to go look for shop ...
While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids.

Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids...

That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them.

Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account.

I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter.

Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me.

She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family.

Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table ..

But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option.

The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business.

She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted. Finally she agreed, but with a condition that she (the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her.

I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much.

Since then I still pay their school fees nd medical bills...
Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me.

The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old.
This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage
I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids.

What she answered me is " let the will of God be done"

I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids.

I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me.

My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely .

I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her.

I feel so bad for putting her in that position.
That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar.

But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway.


Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there.

For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ...

I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now.
My another worry now if those kids are mine is,
When it comes to Education we are at opposite end.

She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it.
I can't trust her with the education of those kids.
Please I need advise on how to handle things.


Can people be these foolish and unwise, taking care of what's not urs because of foolishness
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Skmoda(m): 10:49am On Dec 15, 2019
This is a long boring epistle. Go and do dna ogbeni...pvssyass nigga.
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Vado(m): 10:51am On Dec 15, 2019
OP you dey craze. A very slow man na hin you be.
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Isaa17: 11:30am On Dec 15, 2019
My brother the only option and best option is DNA test and stop been in emotional abt it. ThankGod for ur girl that is supportive but pls, i think she have done her part don't provoke her o else u loss her. Be a man d mistake have been done.
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by chukwuibuipob: 11:32am On Dec 15, 2019
dheilaw1:
where den dey sell 2007 Camry Muzzle for 900k. Bros u no fit see that car sell for 600k. Better EOD sef na 500-550
go buy beta" HOD"..Nah free dey ship am..Lif am make i nor sell am grin undecided cheesy grin
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by realestate19: 11:36am On Dec 15, 2019
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by seancombs617: 11:50am On Dec 15, 2019
Henvest:
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. One day I came to buy things as usual, the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me she is his sister. After that day I stopped seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop.

One day I traveled, while on the travel someone called, introduced herself and explained who she is. Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me. She pretended to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then. Of course I apologized but she demanded I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged.

I came back kept to my promise but made it in an open place, National theater precisely.
But then she booked another date next week but insisted it won't be open place anymore.. The rest is history.

One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better. She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally opened up.....

Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years.
But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people.
The reason why both of them chose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today....

I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship did not last up to 2 months but obviously it was a bit late already.

Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belongs to Ossy.
She went further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claiming her pregnancy is 1 month.

To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy.

I gave up, dust my self and moved on.
Nine months later she put to bed to a girl..
Months later I move out of that area.
One day my phone rang it was her, she demanded that she need to see me, that she has an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address.

Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working.
She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy. That the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process.

I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two months later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace. I keep asking my self what if pregnancy and the girl truly belong to me?

One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support ..

What I saw when I reached there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change.
But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c

After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she doesn't have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills.

I bought the idea and asked the lady to go look for shop ...
While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids.

Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids...

That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them.

Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account.

I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter.

Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me.

She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family.

Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table ..

But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option.

The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business.

She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted. Finally she agreed, but with a condition that she (the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her.

I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much.

Since then I still pay their school fees nd medical bills...
Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me.

The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old.
This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage
I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids.

What she answered me is " let the will of God be done"

I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids.

I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me.

My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely .

I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her.

I feel so bad for putting her in that position.
That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar.

But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway.


Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there.

For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ...

I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now.
My another worry now if those kids are mine is,
When it comes to Education we are at opposite end.

She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it.
I can't trust her with the education of those kids.
Please I need advise on how to handle things.



Be like money dey your hand well..take the kids for dna na abi kini gbogbo palapala yii

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by jacobjamie(m): 12:02pm On Dec 15, 2019
chukwuibuipob:
wink Mr distributor of baby.We greet u wink..For sale Honda baby boy @600k.Nothing to fix
See u Wai want sale baby boy for 600 k....smh...how much be HOD sef or Camry big light ?
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Homeboiy: 12:03pm On Dec 15, 2019
SmellingAnus:
Even your woman no be better person .... See how she manipulate you with the following statement... " on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change"...


It will take a genius to know that the above statement was a high level manipulation... A simple DNA would have saved you lots of stress but your woman was scared that if it comes out that you are their father, you will give your kids more attention than her and her potential kids for you... My brother, you are just in the midst of two manipulative women... I pity for you ...

Bros 2020 God will bless you more

You too get sense, I just de read comments since and no one fit detect say na his fiance be the deceiver her. Forming caring while luring him to his death.

He's a weak man, he don't have a say in life

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by armadeo(m): 12:03pm On Dec 15, 2019
Martinez39:
What a very stupid and indisciplined fellow. If you can't figure out the right thing to do in this situation as an adult male then rot in your situation. I have no sympathy for you. At this rate, you can't be helped.

This guy. I've come to the conclusion that your logical reasoning is very good. I decided to read the first page to see who will mirror my opinion and you nailed it perfectly.

The op is a buffoon.
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by mechanics(m): 12:03pm On Dec 15, 2019
The mistake you did was to make love with her, since you won't marry her in future and you have known initially that she's the loose type, you should have kept a far distance from her, my advice for you is to put pressure on her so you can take them for DNA test, that's the only way you can know if truly they are your children and your mind will be rest, you shouldn't be taking care of children who are not yours, and if they are yours, you have to be taking care of them.
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by armadeo(m): 12:15pm On Dec 15, 2019
FlutterDollar99:
if you were my brother and you come home to tell me all these, I would have suggested a paternity test to be done on you
1. By now you should have learnt not to fall for female shenanigans. Don't ever form Mr nice guy to whoever that stole your contact. Psychologically, it means you are weak and can be easily manipulated if you make them feel wanted

2. She can only demand you take her out if the two of you have been on talking terms... If not, it means you are thirsty and she's hungry



Many wont see what you did there, but I did
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Amah001(f): 12:19pm On Dec 15, 2019
Why do I feel this story is fake? cry like you're taking care of kids that you aren't yet sure if they are your blood? This story dey one kain abeg undecided
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Femeto: 12:44pm On Dec 15, 2019
Henvest:
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. One day I came to buy things as usual, the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me she is his sister. After that day I stopped seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop.

One day I traveled, while on the travel someone called, introduced herself and explained who she is. Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me. She pretended to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then. Of course I apologized but she demanded I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged.

I came back kept to my promise but made it in an open place, National theater precisely.
But then she booked another date next week but insisted it won't be open place anymore.. The rest is history.

One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better. She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally opened up.....

Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years.
But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people.
The reason why both of them chose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today....

I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship did not last up to 2 months but obviously it was a bit late already.

Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belongs to Ossy.
She went further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claiming her pregnancy is 1 month.

To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy.

I gave up, dust my self and moved on.
Nine months later she put to bed to a girl..
Months later I move out of that area.
One day my phone rang it was her, she demanded that she need to see me, that she has an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address.

Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working.
She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy. That the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process.

I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two months later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace. I keep asking my self what if pregnancy and the girl truly belong to me?

One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support ..

What I saw when I reached there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change.
But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c

After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she doesn't have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills.

I bought the idea and asked the lady to go look for shop ...
While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids.

Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids...

That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them.

Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account.

I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter.

Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me.

She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family.

Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table ..

But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option.

The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business.

She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted. Finally she agreed, but with a condition that she (the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her.

I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much.

Since then I still pay their school fees nd medical bills...
Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me.

The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old.
This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage
I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids.

What she answered me is " let the will of God be done"

I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids.

I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me.

My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely .

I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her.

I feel so bad for putting her in that position.
That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar.

But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway.


Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there.

For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ...

I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now.
My another worry now if those kids are mine is,
When it comes to Education we are at opposite end.

She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it.
I can't trust her with the education of those kids.
Please I need advise on how to handle things.


DNA was d first thing to have been done. Women are tricky by nature.
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by chukwuibuipob: 12:49pm On Dec 15, 2019
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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Daguccizgreat(m): 12:49pm On Dec 15, 2019
SmellingAnus:
Even your woman no be better person .... See how she manipulate you with the following statement... " on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change"...


It will take a genius to know that the above statement was a high level manipulation... A simple DNA would have saved you lots of stress but your woman was scared that if it comes out that you are their father, you will give your kids more attention than her and her potential kids for you... My brother, you are just in the midst of two manipulative women... I pity for you ...
You're an intelligent fellow
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by officialfestus(m): 12:52pm On Dec 15, 2019
ceeroh:


A man who has disciplined himself over women has solved half of his problems on earth.
Go for a DNA test, know the truth and be free.

gbam
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by newmoney133: 1:30pm On Dec 15, 2019
I feel like slapping you.you have zero control over your organs.nonsense
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by obinna58(m): 1:32pm On Dec 15, 2019
Octopusssy:
This story is full of shit_.You nack once, she born, e no do you. You come nack another one. You sef be he-goat.
Just imagine, even octopusssy is weak

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