TheGenius001:


She is working. She has handworks too. In essence she has quite a multiple source of income.

Her Dad disowned her after marrying another woman. But her mom is sick. And her mom loves her the more

Ok. Understood.

TheGenius001:
Pls it's not too long to get you bored. Just read it to the last line.

Pls how can I deal with this predicament. This girl had a crush on me. She told me and suggested we date each other. I simply didn't want to hurt her cos of some sad stories she's told me about her family issues and so many other things. So I felt like I shouldn't break her heart the more by telling her no.

So I agreed to date her. The problem here is that;

Any offence by me can make her cry and become so sad for the rest of the day. She will call me crying. Like I may be online and she is also online and maybe I don't chat her up, she will get sad easily by posting different things on her status. She is just 18years. Still a kid and too emotional with me. She will always tell me how much she loves me and all that. So I make sure I am online every minute to reply her messages.

The worst of all is that she will always tell me about taking her life anytime I hurt her (This scares the shit out of me). Cos the funny thing is that I don't even know when I hurt her


Take a look at our recent Chats and please profer a solution to me on how to handle her. I see her as a younger sister to me. I have not had intimacy with her. But I know she would be willing to. But that's not my problem. Mentioning her life scares the shit out of me. Suicide keeps ringing in my head whenever she says that.

pls how do I handle this situation. I would like her to just be a friend to me. Cos I don't see a future between the both of us.

Be careful with such person, especially that taken of life. Baba i have had such experience she did something close to taken her life and posted it on her whatsapp status. The whole world called me that midnight and I was f*cking scared.

Fragile heart in a careless hand

Riele:
Do people still love this way ?

Because i know i can't o .

You never see fine handsome bobo wey go sweep u off ur feet

DenreleDave:



Don't find my trouble oo,do u want him to pretend? Haba, he said he doesn't want her, he doesn't truly love her.. So bcox she is doing those things now, he shud love her Abi...

Men do more than dat for a lady and d lady doesn't love them, so Pls dont play any victim card here plsssss

Seems like you're pained. One girl has scattered your heart this festive season

djoe21:


This is the same thing I saw from the chats.

Op ladies can be very cunning in stuff like this. Don't overestimate your position.

It mostly common Teenagers ..

Sounds like emotional blackmail to me. Op be wise.

Nefort:

I saw you work at Andela. I am still going through the interview process. I was asked about salary expectation and didn't know what exactly to say. Can you shed light on the salary aspect?

Just how much you are willing to be paid, usually I calculate my precious pay slips, bonus and all let them know this is what I was paid in my former org, so if they can match or surpass that will serve as basis. No point going to a company being paid lower than your previous.

pcguru1:


Just how much you are willing to be paid, usually I calculate my precious pay slips, bonus and all let them know this is what I was paid in my former org, so if they can match or surpass that will serve as basis. No point going to a company being paid lower than your previous.

But I thought they have a pay scale? Does it mean you will get paid whatever you mention? Like even if you mention 20k that's what you will be paid and if someone else mentions 200k that's what he gets paid?

Nefort:

But I thought they have a pay scale? Does it mean you will get paid whatever you mention? Like even if you mention 20k that's what you will be paid and if someone else mentions 200k that's what he gets paid?

They already know your grade and what you will be paid, but it's still process to ask yo put in your document, so it has to be somewhat reasonable else someone reasonable could be picked esp if you both have the same talent and all. I dont know your grade and level of experience. So it's hard generating a figure without a metric.

pcguru1:


They already know your grade and what you will be paid, but it's still process to ask yo put in your document, so it has to be somewhat reasonable else someone reasonable could be picked esp if you both have the same talent and all. I dont know your grade and level of experience. So it's hard generating a figure without a metric.

Alright bro. Understood.

Na them " Red flag"

Guerin:
This is similar to my present "outfit" but the difference is that: I had kept on encouraging her in all facets of life; I lets her know at all time how uncommon her uniqueness is in existence; I keep on celebrating her all time; whenever I must keep away from her I talk her into acceptance( she is also 18 and yields to guided persuasion)

OP pls let that girl grow with you, you already accepted to dategrow with her.
Don't loose her or let her perish
You will be very happy you did
Stop your fake ego, you are not any special, trust me. But you are still unique I know
When she is old enough, you guys can know whether you are compartible or not
She will be glad you held her hand to grow even if you don't partner for life.
I don't know how to write or proof to you you must not disappoint that girl but pls be a good gentleman

Best advice

pcguru1:

They already know your grade and what you will be paid, but it's still process to ask yo put in your document, so it has to be somewhat reasonable else someone reasonable could be picked esp if you both have the same talent and all. I dont know your grade and level of experience. So it's hard generating a figure without a metric.

I thought about your response again and it sounds like I will be in a disadvantaged position if my salary expectation is above what they pay senior engineers because I am being a screened for a senior role. So I would like to know from you the exact figure they pay senior engineers so I can figure out what to negotiate for.

Nefort:

I thought about your response again and it sounds like I will be in a disadvantaged position if my salary expectation is above what they pay senior engineers because I am being a screened for a senior role. So I would like to know from you the exact figure they pay senior engineers so I can figure out what to negotiate for.

Shoot me a mail, but if you are senior you are looking at 500 - 1m depending on your role.

pcguru1:


Shoot me a mail, but if you are senior you are looking at 500 - 1m depending on your role.

You may drop a message on WhatsApp ......

Make she enter uni first. Na you go dey check up on her dey wonder if she dey alive

Karma is a bitch
U will find that love some day n u will find it elusive man

I pity that babe
Wasted love
SMH

OP how far the girl?

I was once like the girl who loved like my life depend on the guy but am done with those feelings.

Lemme enjoy my peace of mind in peace

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TheGenius001:
Pls it's not too long to get you bored. Just read it to the last line.

Pls how can I deal with this predicament. This girl had a crush on me. She told me and suggested we date each other. I simply didn't want to hurt her cos of some sad stories she's told me about her family issues and so many other things. So I felt like I shouldn't break her heart the more by telling her no.

So I agreed to date her. The problem here is that;

Any offence by me can make her cry and become so sad for the rest of the day. She will call me crying. Like I may be online and she is also online and maybe I don't chat her up, she will get sad easily by posting different things on her status. She is just 18years. Still a kid and too emotional with me. She will always tell me how much she loves me and all that. So I make sure I am online every minute to reply her messages.

The worst of all is that she will always tell me about taking her life anytime I hurt her (This scares the shit out of me). Cos the funny thing is that I don't even know when I hurt her


Take a look at our recent Chats and please profer a solution to me on how to handle her. I see her as a younger sister to me. I have not had intimacy with her. But I know she would be willing to. But that's not my problem. Mentioning her life scares the shit out of me. Suicide keeps ringing in my head whenever she says that.

pls how do I handle this situation. I would like her to just be a friend to me. Cos I don't see a future between the both of us.

It's funny how time flies. I am reading this thread of mine and it looks totally strange to me.

Anyways, we later had intimacy and all that. We were best of friends... we flowed well until she got caught up in some illegal stuffs (scamming) that would have likely derogated or debased my name if I still sticked with her. So I left at a very crucial time and made her understand why I can't be a friend to someone who is into scam. She felt betrayed though but she eventually got over everything.

But till today, each time I chat her up, she will always make me feel guilty and tell me to my face that all I did was to use and dump her, that I never loved her. I still have her contact but it's been a long time I spoke to her. And I am so sure she will likely turn out to be a feminist due to the heartbreak. At some point she threatened my life. She told me she would visit a Babalawo for what I did to her. Live goes on Sha. That's all I can say. She was a sweet girl who really loved me. That's what I remember about her.

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qtguru:


I got rent to face here, remind me next week

Good morning sir,how is the family sir. And happy new month
Pls sir hope you didn't forget me. God bless you immensely

Ladies fall easily for bad boys!