My wife is a born-again Christian, we have been married for 20years and I have absolute trust in her until recently when she found her ex-boyfriend 4 years ago when she lost her father, the ex got to know about it and sent her 50k to cover some burial expenses. Since then they have been having prolonged chatting on whatsapp every day, I have been reading the chats.
Initially it seemed like normal chats like "how was your day?", "good morning, how was your night?" these chats always lead to other small talks.
But recently the chats have taken another turn. Now we have chats like "I couldn't sleep last night, I kept thinking of you" to which my wife would reply "same here". Last night the chat went like this.
Wife: "now that we have found each other, what next?"
Ex: "I am here to reclaim what rightfully belongs to me but was taken away from me 20years ago".
Wife: "don't you think that would be difficult? I'd like to see how you would do that".
Physically I know they have not been seeing each other because we are living in Abeokuta and the ex-boyfriend is living in Kaduna. But these chats are giving me so much worry. I don't know where it's leading to. They might plan to kill me. I have not confronted my wife knowing that the chats will stop and they might go underground. Pls, I need advices of fellow nairalanders

You don't have to do anything.Just as you imagined the story,you can simply draw a favourable conclusion.

Old fire wood no dey quench! OK let me advice you what to do. Take her phone without her knowing. Delete the man's contact on her phone. Delete every form of social media contact she has with the said man. Just do it secretly. Thank me later

It's simple. Confront and tell her you know about the chats. And that since she has made her decision you understand and accept it and that you both can part wages peaceably. Do this and whatever her reaction is settle for it and act wisely in its aftermath.


Sorry but you've lost her already. Even if she's physically present with you, her loyalty will not be adequate if you find yourself. In troubled waters like needs that require medical attention

Better to let her go to go satisfy her unrealistic fantasies along with the list of that lustful other. Immediately she leaves shop for another and enjoy your peace of mind. When she returns after the other would. Have fvcked the living daylights out of her not knowing he was only trying to seduce and have a fvck companion, it would have been too late..



But if you want to keep her. Delete all her social media handles and throw away the phone

Surely you have to be trolling.

Egbon , you have lost her already!!
Follow this

healthserve:
It's simple. Confront and tell her you know about the chats. And that since she has made her decision you understand and accept it and that you both can part wages peaceably. Do this and whatever her reaction is settle for it and act wisely in its aftermath.

Or you might just try this first..
I wish you the very best

Tekzyflex post=85485738:
Old fire wood no dey quench! OK let me advice you what to do. Take her phone without her knowing. Delete the man's contact on her phone. Delete every form of social media contact she has with the said man. Just do it secretly. Thank me later

I've said it and will keep saying it.

Marrying a virgin lady is one of the blessings a man can get on earth. You'll have no fear or business with this kind of stories.

Oga, believe me when I say that there's absolutely nothing you can do to stop them from fvckin soon. What you should be worried about is your safety and life, not your wife's pussay.

Chaiii..

Inside this life, tins are really going On.....

Once debe, Always debe...

85% of Nigerian women never marry the man they loved whole hearted.....

Ex ex ex ex...everytime,there is nothing like ex as long as they are still seeing...afterall,na una say old firewood no dey quench...the simple truth is dat,d guy still dey fvck ur wife.

Confront her about it. By the way also realise that trust is gone. It can't be recovered without years of rebuilding. However confront her first. Deleting number and social media doesn't mean chin chin. He has her details already.

God will help you. But why read her chats in the first place. Now that u'v seen what you are looking for, what next?

He said his wife is a born again Christian

lilmax:
He said his wife is a born again Christian

I ignored that part. The behaviour doesn't show that hence I treated it as falsehood. Person can't be born again if they are unfaithful.

Wow! After 20yrs of marriage! Unbelievable!

Anyways, let's see how this pans out. Good luck.

stabillini:
My wife is a born-again Christian, we have been married for 20years and I have absolute trust in her until recently when she found her ex-boyfriend 4 years ago when she lost her father, the ex got to know about it and sent her 50k to cover some burial expenses. Since then they have been having prolonged chatting on whatsapp every day, I have been reading the chats.
Initially it seemed like normal chats like "how was your day?", "good morning, how was your night?" these chats always lead to other small talks.
But recently the chats have taken another turn. Now we have chats like "I couldn't sleep last night, I kept thinking of you" to which my wife would reply "same here". Last night the chat went like this.
Wife: "now that we have found each other, what next?"
Ex: "I am here to reclaim what rightfully belongs to me but was taken away from me 20years ago".
Wife: "don't you think that would be difficult? I'd like to see how you would do that".
Physically I know they have not been seeing each other because we are living in Abeokuta and the ex-boyfriend is living in Kaduna. But these chats are giving me so much worry. I don't know where it's leading to. They might plan to kill me. I have not confronted my wife knowing that the chats will stop and they might go underground. Pls, I need advices of fellow nairalanders

Are u saying after 20yrs the ex is still not married or doesn't have a reasonable thing doing?

For me keep all evidence , confront her, if she try not to be remorse, report the matter to her family with evidence and see how it hose.

And why are you afraid they will kill you? They should be the ones to be afraid and not you, get you wife phone block the man's line before you delete it

And for those telling you have lost your wife already, its not true, just that there are a lot of whom I called under age internet user over here. Their experience is only on B/G friends matter and does not understand that the issue of married couple is far different from B/G friends.

Note, any woman who choose to leave her family after 20 year of marriage becuase of mere issue does not worth to be married by a man, marriages even when there are challenges endure mostly when children are involved in the Union.

If she leave she would live to regret in the rest of her life because that flame that maybe burning on her ex mind is not forever, when it goes down what would be the faith of this woman, coming back to her matrimonial home? Hhmmm... Not possible you would not accept her again ( foundation of frustration for her if she does) and would be worse for when children grow up to know the shameful thing their mother did, can she erase the period at which she was a way while she missed her children and why? Trouble dey sleep yagan wan go wake am because of unnecessary risky and illegality

confront her , so that you will not leave fire on the roof while you are asleep.
The issue of ex. has sent many people to great beyond. Tell her to stop chatting him . if she refuses , then there is more to it than normal chatting

thorpido:
You don't have to do anything.Just as you imagined the story,you can simply draw a favourable conclusion.

Lol.

I think say na only me see am.

Money is the root of all evil, see watin 50k dey cause for this family.

stabillini:
My wife is a born-again Christian, we have been married for 20years and I have absolute trust in her until recently when she found her ex-boyfriend 4 years ago when she lost her father, the ex got to know about it and sent her 50k to cover some burial expenses. Since then they have been having prolonged chatting on whatsapp every day, I have been reading the chats.
Initially it seemed like normal chats like "how was your day?", "good morning, how was your night?" these chats always lead to other small talks.
But recently the chats have taken another turn. Now we have chats like "I couldn't sleep last night, I kept thinking of you" to which my wife would reply "same here". Last night the chat went like this.
Wife: "now that we have found each other, what next?"
Ex: "I am here to reclaim what rightfully belongs to me but was taken away from me 20years ago".
Wife: "don't you think that would be difficult? I'd like to see how you would do that".
Physically I know they have not been seeing each other because we are living in Abeokuta and the ex-boyfriend is living in Kaduna. But these chats are giving me so much worry. I don't know where it's leading to. They might plan to kill me. I have not confronted my wife knowing that the chats will stop and they might go underground. Pls, I need advices of fellow nairalanders

Screenshot those chats, send them to your phone, then delete them on your wife's phone, show them to her pastor, show them to your family when you have called a family meeting comprising of your family, her family, your pastor and hers. Don't be surprised if she opens your own can of worms too.
This is what happens when a couple refuses to undergo couples mentoring and remain teachable even after marriage.
Born again wife my foot

O blimey! Let me make some assumptions here... Your wife is 40 years plus and she still doesn't have sense? You know what they say about a fool at 40

Seize that phone from that puerile dumbhead you call a wife before she self-destructs

Old flames never quench... Even after 20 years... Maybe the guy deflowered her... It's always hard for a lady to forget that person.. If you're not comfortable with it.. Speak to her about it...

Oyindidi:
Money is the root of all evil, see watin 50k dey cause for this family.

I have missed you dear. How's your family?
Well I think the attraction remains because the guy is seeing a free chop without taking up any tedious responsibility?

Remove the roof over her head..... See the relationship crash.

That part "they might plan to kill me" got me laughing, OP oil dey ur head, u can reason fast.

Do something before something do you ooooooooo... na man wey no get power dey go house go pull cloth first before him run to go market go fight

Why I advise people to destroy their contacts with exes. Once u married, you should totally hang ur boots.

Op do something unless you wanna see how everything plays out. The devil is firing temptation into your home.

KevinDein:
Surely you have to be trolling.

I immediately thought so.

But just 14 posts on a profile registered since 2014... gave him a bit more credibility.

The obviously fake profiles i suspect the MODs create for traffic are usually super recent with 1 or 2 posts only with a ridiculously sensational story.

Please Op, Please do not force me to choose who will act this movie script you created here

This is serious. Op,do you have kids?

Born again woman acting like a slay queen.

Wetin musa no go see for gate?

stabillini:
My wife is a born-again Christian, we have been married for 20years and I have absolute trust in her until recently when she found her ex-boyfriend 4 years ago when she lost her father, the ex got to know about it and sent her 50k to cover some burial expenses. Since then they have been having prolonged chatting on whatsapp every day, I have been reading the chats.
Initially it seemed like normal chats like "how was your day?", "good morning, how was your night?" these chats always lead to other small talks.
But recently the chats have taken another turn. Now we have chats like "I couldn't sleep last night, I kept thinking of you" to which my wife would reply "same here". Last night the chat went like this.
Wife: "now that we have found each other, what next?"
Ex: "I am here to reclaim what rightfully belongs to me but was taken away from me 20years ago".
Wife: "don't you think that would be difficult? I'd like to see how you would do that".
Physically I know they have not been seeing each other because we are living in Abeokuta and the ex-boyfriend is living in Kaduna. But these chats are giving me so much worry. I don't know where it's leading to. They might plan to kill me. I have not confronted my wife knowing that the chats will stop and they might go underground. Pls, I need advices of fellow nairalanders

So you have been married for 20 years,meaning you are not a kid sir.What I find rather disturbing about your action is that you have chosen to bring your marital affairs to Nairaland for less experienced folks to chip in without even confronting your wife first.There is no wisdom in your approach and it's a shame to be honest.