Ifyjos:
He doesn’t have his own place yet but soon. How can I go and live with him when he hasn’t paid my pride price yet ?

ikennaiteogu:
You are a wicked soul. Your sister doesn't deserve what you did. Better confess and change your ways.

Ifyjos:
My story is long but I will cut short. I’m 20 years old and I have a 5 years old daughter , I’m still with her father but we are not living together. I’m still at home with my parents.

My elder sister is a banker she is engaged and her fiancé is a doctor, they were supposed to get married this February 2020. My elder sister Hates my guy a lot just because he is not educated, has no money, he drinks and Smokes but he is a good guy, he doesn’t beat or cheat on me , he gives money for our daughter upkeeps and she goes to school he is paying her school fees but sometime when he doesn’t have my sister will be paying but she will insult the hell out of me that I ruined my life by giving birth at a young age , I should have closed my legs she just says many things that really hurting me sometimes I cried and Whenever she sees my guy she will insulting him threatening to pour him hot water.

So it happened in July , our parents traveled to the village because my dad was very sick so my guy visited me at home and she came and saw him , she got angry and started raining insult at him as usual and I got angry and slapped her which lead to a very serious fight and she arrested me and my fiancé and we came out after 3 days my guy had to sign undertaken that he should not step his foot in our house again.

So he promised to deal with her in a way she will regret and I supported him, so we have decided to destroyed her relationship with her fiancé by arranging lots of boys and girls who are my guys friends to start calling her fiancé and threatening him to leave their girlfriends alone or they will kill him, so we had 7 boys and 2 girls also called him claiming that my sister is dating their husbands so he should warned her or they will do worse. Everything went according to our plans and we have succeed in destroying her relationship that her fiancé dumped her and cancelled the marriage in October.

She hasn’t been well since, she lost her job , she is totally depressed and all she does is crying and she lost so much weigh. I was so happy seeing her like that because she deserved it but I pretend like I care when I didn’t but now I just feel so bad because her condition is getting worsened.

Seeing her going to the hospital today really broke my heart and made me regretting what I and my guy did to her but I don’t know how to help her again. I wish I could talk to her and tell her everything we did and beg for her forgiveness but I’m scared because everybody in the family will hate me, they will disown me and throw me out of the house and I have nowhere else to go with my child. My guy stays with friends in a one room house.

I’m Feeling helpless

Ifyjos:
I did it out of anger which I regret, that’s why I came here seeking advice

Ifyjos:
He can never dump me because If he wanted to leave me , he would have done it long time ago when I was still pregnant. He never denied me and my pictures is everywhere on his Facebook and WhatsApp profile and our future will be greater. Not I’m not responsible for her loosing her job , she lost her job because at the time her fiancé dumped her , she was suicidal and missed work for almost a month and lost her job.

ireneidiva:

You said your guy is a good guy. This is what good guys do? Good guys impregnate 15 year olds? Good guys frame people up?

Ifyjos:
Thanks I wish I could tell him that everything was a lie but am afraid to do it because by telling him , my family will come to knows too. my family will hate me forever.

quote author=ojun50 post=85586614]what you did is very bad but if you want to make amends you should start with yr sister fiance, by opening up every tin to him and what lead to yr action..

seriously you wen too far

sholay2011:
You slapped your own sister because of your 'boyfriend/husband'?

Then, went further to scatter her relationship/marriage?

After all she did for your child (school fees when your husband can't perform his duty to provide etc.)?

Sister, you are wickedness wrapped in human form. Isaiah 48:22 is for you: "There is NO peace, says the Lord, for the wicked". You'd better repent and find a way to confess your sins because you will surely reap in multiples the seeds you've sown.

Fear human beings...! 'You were happy seeing your sister like that- lose her man, her job, depressed because she insulted "your guy".
Ode, oponu...mumu of the highest order...God will visit judgment on you and that guy that plugged straw on your brain to sip out all the grey matter.

The story even sounds too bad to be true.

eki2000:
It's not good to be mean on people. Why did the sister take them as nobody. It is always painful when one is given no regards.

Ifyjos:
Yes my guy is a good guy because he didn't abandoned me when I was pregnant until now he still here with me, he respect me and take care of me and our daughter. He didnt had any bad intention towards my sister but the insults were too much for him to bear . As human we sometimes makes mistakes which we later regret.
quote author=ireneidiva post=85587264]
You said your guy is a good guy. This is what good guys do? Good guys impregnate 15 year olds? Good guys frame people up?

Ifyjos:
She doesn't care about me because if she did want the best for me , she would would support me and my guy to be together and establish a business for us instead she wanted me to break up with him to become a single mom as if she would have marry me or even take care of my child the way her father does. That's something she cannot do because theres nobody that will take care of my child like her father. He has better plans but things are just difficult for him. He is a good man he can never ask me to kill any of my relatives because If that was the case then it would have kill my sister long time ago and I'm not stupid to do such things. Yes I know what we did was wrong but we only wanted revenge for her to feel the pain that she has been causing us but I just realised that it was the wrong path to take , which I'm regretting but that doesn't make us bad people please
quote author=Wetlink post=85595381]You have a very cold heart Op. I fear who no fear you.
Any reasonable person in your sisters shoes will be mad at your boyfriend or were you expecting her to pat him on the back for putting her 15year old little sister In a family way?

Your sister genuinely cares about you and that's why she'll still opt to pay your baby's school fees yet you and your, 'good' boyfriend paid her back this way[code]

If this story is anything to go by then I'm really worried about YOU.
this boyfriend of yours Is a terrible influence. I fear that one day, he may suggest you kill anyone who is against your relationship and you will gladly oblige because to you, he has your interest at heart.

My heart bleeds for you, my heart indeed bleeds.

Ladycewhy:
let me list them,

You are

Entitled
An ingrate
A wh0re
A witch
A scheming demon
A useless bitch.

People like you irk me . i hope the universe pays you in your own coin. Now that there is no hope of her even helping your child again, i hope you are happy. Whether this is fiction or not ,i have sure met people like this in real life, and i must say ,may good things be far away from you for the rest of your miserable life

CAPSLOCKED:


MADAM YOU HAVE MADE NO SENSE. YOU'RE JUST A DUMB EMPTY-HEAD FOR USING THOSE WORDS ON A YOUNG PERSON OVER SIMPLE CORRECTABLE MISTAKE WHICH SHE IS ALREADY REMORSEFUL ABOUT.

ONCE YOU ZOMBIES SEE A TOPIC YOU ZOOM IN WITH THE FRUSTRATION YOU'VE CARRIED FROM YOUR VILLAGE SINCE CHILDHOOD TO RAIN ABUSES WITHOUT HELPING ISSUES OR PROVIDING THE REQUIRED SOLUTIONS. IDĮOTS. ALL OF YOU.

eki2000:
It's not good to be mean on people. Why did the sister take them as nobody. It is always painful when one is given no regards.

Ifyjos:
Ok

Ladycewhy:
have you settled with your mother? This is a new year o.

CAPSLOCKED:


TO BULLY ME USING MY FAMILY? THIS IS THE MOST YOU CAN DO AS I PREDICTED. YOU CAN'T DO BETTER THAN YOUR LEVEL. UPGRADE WOMAN WE'VE PASSED THE AGE OF WITCHCRAFT!

Ifyjos:
Please you are not God and you have no right to say that he has no future because God is able to change his life in a minute and makes him rich

sholay2011:
You slapped your own sister because of your 'boyfriend/husband'?

Then, went further to scatter her relationship/marriage?

After all she did for your child (school fees when your husband can't perform his duty to provide etc.)?

Sister, you are wickedness wrapped in human form. Isaiah 48:22 is for you: "There is NO peace, says the Lord, for the wicked". You'd better repent and find a way to confess your sins because you will surely reap in multiples the seeds you've sown.

Fear human beings...! 'You were happy seeing your sister like that- lose her man, her job, depressed because she insulted "your guy".
Ode, oponu...mumu of the highest order...God will visit judgment on you and that guy that plugged straw on your brain to sip out all the grey matter.

The story even sounds too bad to be true.

SlimBrawnie:

I understand how you feel. What you did was born out of long term anger which you've admitted was wronged. I'm concerned that your boyfriend still thinks she deserves what she's going through, and you say he's a nice guy? Well, he should also forgive and let go.
Looking at the history of things in your family, I won't advice you to confess to your sister directly, because I don't want you to be in a situation where you'd regret confessing as the outcome won't be pleasant at all.... But please by all means, make sure the fiancee and your sister know that this was a set up by someone who she wronged. You can get those guys that made those calls to call the fiancee again and tell him it was a set up by them all cos your sister wronged one of them. The most important thing is for your sister to put herself back together again cos if she had moved on with her life, everyone would have forgotten about what happened and you wouldn't have felt the need to confess again... I'm sure if you had furthered your education, you won't still be with your baby Dada, but because of the low self esteem you now have, you think the sun rises at his feet. There's more to life than getting married and you deserve more. Don't carry this burden in 2020,make sure they all know it was a set up. Go and sin no more. Cheers

SmellingAnus:
Then you are responsible for her losing her job ... It's your actions that made her lose her job... Honestly, you don't know how you have complicated your already complicated life...

Meliann:


Let these sentimental fools get on with their nonsense yapping. A vulnerable teenage girl gets pregnant, she feels terrible, insecure and shameful about her situation already, then her family adds salt to injury. That her sister must be very vengeful and childish. That child was given birth to 5 years ago. Isn't that enough time to forgive and move forward? Does seeing the child not bring happiness? Na wa o.

The energy she expended in making life miserable for her kid sister, should have been channelled into saving her own relationship. Those years she spent hating and cussing at her sister's lover should have been used to build a solid foundation of trust in her own relationship, but no she squandered it all on vengeance. How her fiance succumbed easily to those lies says a lot about their relationship.

Even funnier is how she cusses, abuses and rages but a man leaves her, she gets depressed so much so that she stopped going to work. I scoff. That's not how to be a strong woman. Not by cussing, not by raging. It's by something else.