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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by Ay04z(m): 5:01pm On Jan 08
SaintsSamurai:
Sorry my dear but you have been a side chick to him without you knowing.

The lady he got pregnant is his main chick and that was why he did her introduction.

His friends, the same friend that came to beg you to forgive him when he got the main chick pregnant, is the same friend that sent you his introduction photos because he don't want you to continue wasting your time.

I am going to be very honest with you.
My dear count your losses and move on with your Life, focus on yourself and your son for now.

I think Ladies should start uploading pictures of any guy they want to start a relationship with, on social media. Be it Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, 2go, nairaland, etc

So that any Lady that is in relationship with the men will come outside and claim him or any body that knows about him can start telling you about him.

This way, cheating will reduce, heartbreak will be no more and any man that is not claimed on social media for one month is indeed your man.

Saint samurai has spoken, court rise!!!!!!
dey will not upload the guy bkos they have their own side guy too.

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by donbachi(m): 5:01pm On Jan 08
SlimyJ:

Explain better
ill luck with men.
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by h20water(m): 5:18pm On Jan 08
SlimyJ:
Currently I'm in tears,my heart is disturbed...
I'm a single mother of one boy (4years old),my first relationship cracked based on family issues mainly the guy's mom,she claimed she can't allow me to marry his son cause I'm TOO EXPENSIVE,she married another girl for him,my baby was just 9months old then,after lot of patching up, everyday beating, cheating and violence,we decided to quit the marriage. He didn't bother to take care of the child at all,things became difficult for me but my mom has been there all through,I went back to learn hair making,beads making and cake making which I did my freedom and had my certificate,God has been so faithful to me and I'm flourishing,then I met a guy earlier last year...

Some people are heartless not just men. If I tell you what I experienced at the hands of my gf, you will agree with me that it goes both ways. The only problem is that in the end, good people get hurt. I pray you find true love and peace of mind.

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by SlimyJ: 5:19pm On Jan 08
lipsrsealed
donbachi:
ill luck with men.
cry
donbachi:
ill luck with men.
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by samtol4(m): 5:22pm On Jan 08
Go back to God in prayers and ask him to direct your path . You assumed the guy loved you without seeking the face of God in prayers . The moment he impregnated a lady that was a sign of irresponsible man .I pray you will not meet wrong dude again in Jesus name

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by funmisticqueen(f): 5:30pm On Jan 08
SlimyJ:
Currently I'm in tears,my heart is disturbed...
I'm a single mother of one boy (4years old),my first relationship cracked based on family issues mainly the guy's mom,she claimed she can't allow me to marry his son cause I'm TOO EXPENSIVE,she married another girl for him,my baby was just 9months old then,after lot of patching up, everyday beating, cheating and violence,we decided to quit the marriage. He didn't bother to take care of the child at all,things became difficult for me but my mom has been there all through,I went back to learn hair making,beads making and cake making which I did my freedom and had my certificate,God has been so faithful to me and I'm flourishing,then I met a guy earlier last year...
He is a graduate,he is loving and looks calm,he do carry me along in everything he does,he even loved my son and he do pay partly out all his bills, he is free with my family and friends,behold I thought I found love.....
July last year,I had to travel out of the country for a business trip,the trip should have lasted for 6months,but unfortunately I spent only a month there cause of some reasons,I had to call this guy that I will be coming home earlier than we planned,our plans was that after I'm back we will get married,I was shocked when he told me on phone that he did a mistake when I left for just a month and put another woman in a family way,I was very hurt,I wept and shouted,we were not on speaking terms when I entered the country,but he pleaded together with his friends and he suggested that the lady will abort the pregnancy,I told him I don't buy that idea that he should just let me be and he should face the girl,few days later he came back begging that the girl already aborted the pregnancy that can I see now that God wanted us to marry, he even told me to get pregnant and I replied I can't make another mistake until he walks me down the aisle,after a long talk in days we resolved the issue and we were back together,he even do pampered me than before. Lately I discovered that any little issues always result to arguments,I suddenly don't no how to do anything good anymore,he is one day cold and the second day harsh. At mid November,I decided to call him to attention that why is he just like that,and he said he is not happy cause he is broke,we started praying together for better days, he do call me close to 6 times in a day but suddenly changed to twice a day and later he switched to calling once in two days, though we do chat.
To cut my long story short,on the 30th of December,he just called me that he will be going to his town for the new year festival,I was like when have you been planning that and he said not long,on the cross over night he called to pray for me at exactly 12:02am and we were both happy,then he stopped calling for two days. On Saturday 4th of January,he called very early to greet me,then I discovered he had cattarh ,I told him to go to the clinic and treat himself he said he doesn't have any money on him,I sent him some cash to treat himself,he chatted me frequently ,he even called me more than 10 times that day,I wasn't even suspicious and we've been cool since then..
Last night he called me that he is back and will like to take me for breakfast this morning and get me some things from the store. We were at the pounded yam kitchen when some messages entered my WhatsApp inbox ,I managed to open with my left hand,to my greatest surprised they were images of this guy's introduction on that very Saturday with that same girl he told me had aborted the pregnancy,I was so shocked,I lost my appetite immediately and I bursted out into tears,he wasn't even remorseful,all he only said was that ....I've heard and I've heard be that....
I've been weeping since then, mummies in the house,are men really this wicked??
sweetie, I like you because you are a fast learner. What he is, is a classic fuckboy and a manipulative narcissist with nothing to offer you. You dodged a bullet sweetie. Not all men are bad/scum. The good ones of high value are very hard to spot.

No matter what, the breakup is not your fault. You are not to blame. Take time to cry, heal and seek counsel, maybe from an elderly lady or good friends. Stay away from dating and men for a while and get busy with you and your child. Keep a positive mindset that your man will locate you and he will.

It is best to block him on all social media and delete his contact. As from now on he is dead to you

You will come out stronger from this.

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by funmisticqueen(f): 5:31pm On Jan 08
h20water:


Some people are heartless not just men. If I tell you what I experienced at the hands of my gf, you will agree with me that it goes both ways. The only problem is that in the end, good people get hurt. I pray you find true love and peace of mind.
the thread is about op, not you
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by FreeMejoor1(m): 6:58pm On Jan 08
funmisticqueen:
the thread is about op, not you
let him voice his opinion too..you females cant always be feelinh like a saint in relationship and guys does the worst to you...both parties get hurt when involved with the wrong one...so matter her story she needs to heal up and wait for the good men out there...sometimes it not always about finding love in life...

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by zmpp(f): 7:07pm On Jan 08
funmisticqueen:
the thread is about op, not you

you are always quick to attack others and even accuse them of narcissism, but you are the most vile and narcissistic person i have known in this forum

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by funmisticqueen(f): 7:11pm On Jan 08
FreeMejoor1:
let him voice his opinion too..you females cant always be feelinh like a saint in relationship and guys does the worst to you...both parties get hurt when involved with the wrong one...so matter her story she needs to heal up and wait for the good men out there...sometimes it not always about finding love in life...
romanceland is full of threads by guys bashing women and talking about how women do guys dirty or break their hearts.

Now a woman has her own issue and he won't allow her share her story in peace. No one asked him about his ex. Let us focus on the op. Why must he rain on her parade?. Can't op have her time without someone trying to make it about him?

He should open his own thread if he wants to air his woes

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by funmisticqueen(f): 7:13pm On Jan 08
FreeMejoor1:
let him voice his opinion too..you females cant always be feelinh like a saint in relationship and guys does the worst to you...both parties get hurt when involved with the wrong one...so matter her story she needs to heal up and wait for the good men out there...sometimes it not always about finding love in life...
let him open his own thread, if his opinion is to cry about his woes, and not say anything about op's issue, then that is passive aggression.

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by funmisticqueen(f): 7:13pm On Jan 08
zmpp:


you are always quick to attack others and even accuse them of narcissism, but you are the most vile and narcissistic person i have known in this forum
who are you again?

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by jidamsel43(m): 7:28pm On Jan 08
Once a cheater is always a a cheater
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by Nobody: 7:32pm On Jan 08
Hmm...na now you know? Men are wiiiiikeeeed as in ...haaaaaatless.

That is why I don't trust them 100%. If they try to complain that I gat trust issues, I will remind them of one or two instances where their fellow have done something to give me cause to be insecured.

My dear, just travel out and make yourself happy. Na him lose. And cut him off completely.

Men matter tire person. If not that sometimes when I look at my twins' kids my ovaries start leaping for joy, I'll zero men. But I want to have my own bubu and kamkam grin.

Take heart dear

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by DanDeeBoss: 7:45pm On Jan 08
Jewessgratitude:
Hmm...na now you know? Men are wiiiiikeeeed as in ...haaaaaatless.

That is why I don't trust them 100%. If they try to complain that I gat trust issues, I will remind them of one or two instances where their fellow have done something to give me cause to be insecured.

My dear, just travel out and make yourself happy. Na him lose. And cut him off completely.

Men matter tire person. If not that sometimes when I look at my twins' kids my ovaries start leaping for joy, I'll zero men. But I want to have my own bubu and kamkam grin.

Take heart dear
Re you even supposed to trust a human 100 percent??

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by Zinny25(f): 7:51pm On Jan 08
Wicked men everywhere
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by Grayjoy: 8:18pm On Jan 08
Slimj, In as much as I sympathize with you, you should still blame yourself for being naive, what makes you think that a guy that keeps calling you 6 times a day is madly in love with you, you are so blind to descern between obscession and love, you need to work on yourself and stop blaming men, I don't want to be too harsh on you, you probably lack vital qualities and not until you work on yourself, you will neither be able to attract good and sensible guys nor keep them. Nobody wants to settle with emotional or psychological liability.

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by Ginaz(f): 8:43pm On Jan 08
I lack words to even put to how I feel but note i feel so sad about what has befallen you . Don’t worry, be happy . Fate will turn up right for you at the end that all the sorrows of yesterday would be forgotten. embarassed

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by gift2xl: 9:13pm On Jan 08
Sometimes this is a kind of price u have to pay to have the perfect and peaceful marriage. God has not given up on u.

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by Stillthebest: 9:20pm On Jan 08
kiss

And you actually thought he wanted you from the beginning? Have u met indecisive guys before? Have you met real players before? Well you just met one. You haven't just met a guy thats worth it.

He was enjoying the honey pot till it lasted. Now that he thought in his jelly fish-like brain that he had taken his own share he vamoose. Or were you not faithful to him?
He was actually taking you for the ride. He was keeping the lady even before you went to Dubai(sorry) travelled abroad

Why were you so expensive for your ex? They thought you were expensive or you were just expensive?

Well, you might need to cut down being expensive to meet a real man!

Such is life madam you will be alright las Las.

Real men I repeat, real men that will stay with you forever are not unnecessarily nice. Same with women. Any personality who portrays over nicety, tip toe in their presence.

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by h20water(m): 9:24pm On Jan 08
funmisticqueen:
the thread is about op, not you

Ok
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by futuregovernor: 9:35pm On Jan 08
How much did you send to me. Stop lying,say the truth....,how u wanted to control me. Aunty
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by Tajbol4splend(m): 9:36pm On Jan 08
SlimyJ:

yes we were already planning for our traditional marriage,he already came to my parents..



Too bad too sad, I'm sure the guy is confused about something, probably your single motherhood status
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by rosy1992(f): 9:38pm On Jan 08
Never trust a guy. I wish you the best but such is life. Brace yourself up, and focus on your child and yourself. If love comes next time, you should love with your mind not heart.
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by rosy1992(f): 9:40pm On Jan 08
God is your strength.
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by Newguyhere: 9:44pm On Jan 08
you sef dey suspect shey she be runs girl abi grin?
donbachi:
Sometimes...when she does not know what she is doing,but what is doing her knows her very well...abeg no vex,na Dubai u go?
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by RuggedArab: 9:45pm On Jan 08
Well, there are sides of a story. Dear Op, did you ask him why he did that?

I like to know the root cause of issues.
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by Nobody: 9:45pm On Jan 08
:-\ JUDGEMENT BASED ON ONE SIDE OF THE STORY. pathetic Nigerians. undecided
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by MannieA(f): 9:54pm On Jan 08
Shibaraba:
Even me wey get bad mouth dey touched

I can't advise you but I'll say this, to those out there supporting divorce upandan this is one of the results in the long run. No man, I repeat, no man is comfortable with a woman that was once married especially single mamas. If them dey na 1%. Those 1% will still cheat. We will tell you we don't care, we love you, blah blah blah, but na for the kpomo .After chawing it na to look for chassis tear rubber. Some will attack this reality here and I'll ignore in my shibaraba way but that's the truth. Protect and endure. Soon we always calm down.

May God grant you happiness. This love of a thing ehn. Make we just dey look.



So because no man wants to settle down with w divorcee means she should let the man humiliate,beat her and eventually kill her all in the name of marriage?
Gosh...some of y'all disgust me with your comments sometimes.

She will see a man that will love her and get married to her. Stop all these senseless talk please.

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Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by SlimyJ: 9:56pm On Jan 08
futuregovernor:
How much did you send to me. Stop lying,say the truth....,how u wanted to control me. Aunty
even if I sent him #1 ,I think it's still what I labored for,my own sweat right?
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by Nobody: 10:00pm On Jan 08
MannieA:




So because no man wants to settle down with w divorcee means she should let the man humiliate,beat her and eventually kill her all in the name of marriage?
Gosh...some of y'all disgust me with your comments sometimes.

She will see a man that will love her and get married to her. Stop all these senseless talk please.
undecided
Re: How I Learnt My Lessons In Hard Way,men Are Generally Wicked.. by SlimyJ: 10:02pm On Jan 08
RuggedArab:
Well, there are sides of a story. Dear Op, did you ask him why he did that?

I like to know the root cause of issues.
Yes I did but he doesn't gave me tangible reason,he only said since I've heard then I've heard that I shouldn't stress him..

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