I don't have a good advice

But every women will pass through this phase in life. There will pain and more pains. It's take maturity and understanding of the couples to survive it.

It's called midlife marriage crisis.

Shalom

Go and master your marriage

From your write up, you are trying to seek validation from us to either LovePeddler about, abort the innocent kid or leave your 11 year old marriage...


Stick dịa joor

Ok

Get yourself treated and be in optimal state of health. Get your hubby laid hardcore and he will run back to you

Just take care of yourself and baby!
You will be normal to have sex after delivery

Pls focus on your health and baby. Always try to vosit the hospital regularly to ensure you are not in a life threatening situation.

I have to ask why men don't just go for vasectomy when they know they are done with child bearing?
Wives should demand this because birth control methods for women are usually accompanied with lots of complications that are life threatening in some situations.
I guess in marriage one would have to be sexually disciplined with their spouse when they want children but can't at the moment because the birth control methods could be dangerous and the man can't get a vasectomy.

H

You are married - check
You have kids - check
You are pregnant - check
You still feel you should be fuccking your husband even though you are pregnant - madness
You still feel insecure even when the man is pitying your condition and pains and wants a side chic to satisfy his urges, so you can rest - madness.

You want my advise?

You have all that you need, the side chic will not take the dickk away, focus on your preggy and the home and the man will always come back to you after safe delivery.

Your husband will cheat, always understand that, but he will not abandon you.

Ure pregnant and worrying about ur husband getting distracted while u are unable to function as u used to, I think u just need to work on ur communication and having a safe delivery.

Also when u removed the implant why didn’t I use other forms of contraceptives to avoid getting pregnant? Anyways relax and take care of urself, ur husband shud also be mature and stick by ur side rather than chatting strange women up. Cheers.

This one pass my power. Op I hope you get clarity for your situation.

Hmmm

4 kids!

Kukuma just kill me.

As e don happen, just use your husband for money rituals and use proceeds to take care of the kids since he is no longer useful.

Vortex369:
You are married - check
You have kids - check
You are pregnant - check
You still feel you should be fuccking your husband even though you are pregnant - madness
You still feel insecure even when the man is pitying your condition and pains and wants a side chic to satisfy his urges, so you can rest - madness.

You want my advise?

You have all that you need, the side chic will not take the dickk away, focus on your preggy and the home and the man will always come back to you after safe delivery.

Your husband will cheat, always understand that, but he will not abandon you.

I can't believe someone typed this..chai.
Speak for ur self, not all men cheat ..

Is this occuring in Nigeria

Ok

OgThanos:


I can't believe someone typed this..chai.
Speak for ur self, not all men cheat ..

Sharrrap there, what's the difference between u and the husband we are taking about?
Men are polygamous in Nature

Bola146:
My dear sister, kindly take good care of yourself and the kids first, your life and the kids are more important than any side chicks. Call any of your relatives to come and help you.

Op pls take this simple and clear advice

Timson01:
Hello NL,

Before I got married my husband said he needed 2 children while I wanted twins but our second pregnancy was twins so we had 3 instead. Then I took implant so to avoid getting pregnant again but my system became messed up that my monthly flow would last for 2 to 3 weeks.
So after 3 years I decided to remove it so to get back myself only for me to get pregnant instead and I found out when I was already 3 months gone and the pregnancy is causing me to be in so much pain that I can’t move at times making my husband do everything at home cause i’m always in bed
Now I discovered my husband is chatting another lady calling her babe and the rest although he assured me that he accepts this baby but I feel we are getting apart by the day.what do you suggest i do?
I can’t even have proper sex with him because my heart rate increases and I can’t move afterwards. Yes he was the one who took me to the hospital for removal we have been together for 11+years now
Just before I got pregnant I was having a lot of guys wooing me that my husband became very active in his affections towards me and it made me feel like I’m being courted again then this happened
The worst part is that I’m in physical pain. I can’t satisfy his desires. He even made me watch porn movies with him but I’m just too tired to respond to him. I have never been like this but I don’t know what to do
He has no parents as they pass away his senior brother just got married and always asks for marriage tips from us so saying this to him now I just can’t bring myself to do so.
Should I still keep the baby although I can’t bring myself to do anything to my child i just feel all this wouldn’t have come up if I didn’t get pregnant.

Anonymous NL Member

I hardly comment, but madam. Personally, I do not even think it's a good option keeping that child for the sake of your own life. A woman must be strong to be able to give birth and so if you are unhealthy now, you should reconsider.

Please for the sake of your life and those if the kids already birthed, seek an experienced doctors counsel on if you should keep the child.

Please o

Clowns

Marriage is not do or die.....walk away

Timson01:
Hello NL,

Before I got married my husband said he needed 2 children while I wanted twins but our second pregnancy was twins so we had 3 instead. Then I took implant so to avoid getting pregnant again but my system became messed up that my monthly flow would last for 2 to 3 weeks.
So after 3 years I decided to remove it so to get back myself only for me to get pregnant instead and I found out when I was already 3 months gone and the pregnancy is causing me to be in so much pain that I can’t move at times making my husband do everything at home cause i’m always in bed
Now I discovered my husband is chatting another lady calling her babe and the rest although he assured me that he accepts this baby but I feel we are getting apart by the day.what do you suggest i do?
I can’t even have proper sex with him because my heart rate increases and I can’t move afterwards. Yes he was the one who took me to the hospital for removal we have been together for 11+years now
Just before I got pregnant I was having a lot of guys wooing me that my husband became very active in his affections towards me and it made me feel like I’m being courted again then this happened
The worst part is that I’m in physical pain. I can’t satisfy his desires. He even made me watch porn movies with him but I’m just too tired to respond to him. I have never been like this but I don’t know what to do
He has no parents as they pass away his senior brother just got married and always asks for marriage tips from us so saying this to him now I just can’t bring myself to do so.
Should I still keep the baby although I can’t bring myself to do anything to my child i just feel all this wouldn’t have come up if I didn’t get pregnant.

Anonymous NL Member

Just following!

Onyi22:

Sharrrap there, what's the difference between u and the husband we are taking about?
Men are polygamous in Nature

See somebody wife. Tomorrow u will come and tel us how ur husband did beat u to stupor. But u won't tel us u have a mouth issue

Hmm

A lot of people still don't understand this "for better or for worse" vow they go and swear to..

What happened to the initial agreement, I wonder. Its amazing how women think everything is about sex. Everything is not perfect cus am nt giving sex. I lie down all day, he works and dose everything in the house and he is very bored, going through emotional baggage cus sombody is sick and need caring. Let me ignore all that and think its all about sex. Before I continue why do married women come post things online self? Who heard d b4 I was pregnant thing. Anyways marriage is not a prison according to feminist let the man fly

Nigerian women are really suffering in marriages o.
Just imagine if a man fell sick and couldn't provide or sexually satisfy his wife and she decided to flirt around because she needs attention. Nobody will ever advice the man to ignore her and focus on his health instead

Irony is that adultery is forbidden to both men and women but men are hypocrites that think cheating is their birthright. Why the hell must he flirt with another woman when he has a wife? Instead of being there for her and helping to nurse her back to health he is looking for love elsewhere.

Focus on your health. If your Doctor recommends abortion because the pregnancy could cost your life, then go ahead. Let your husband truly know that you would like to satisfy him sexually but your health is not allowing you. Has he just picked up the porn habit or it's being there before this pregnancy? If it's a new habit, he could get addicted and cause more damage in the long run. Encourage him to stop and try to help his urge in some other ways aside intercourse which could aggravate your pain.

You're pregnant and sick and all that matters to you is your husband calling someone babe? Na wa for women sha

CHoccolaTE:
Nigerian women are really suffering in marriages o.
Just imagine if a man fell sick and couldn't provide or sexually satisfy his wife and she decided to flirt around because she needs attention. Nobody will ever advice the man to ignore her and focus on his health instead

Irony is that adultery is forbidden to both men and women but men are hypocrites that think cheating is their birthright. Why the hell must he flirt with another woman when he has a wife? Instead of being there for her and helping to nurse her back to health he is looking for love elsewhere.

Didn't you read where she said her husband does all the work at home? How else do you want him to be there for her?

Look at all the posts telling her it’s okay for her husband to mess with her feelings by flirting with someone else.

Your health should come first. Try to talk to your husband, let him know how his actions and in actions is affecting your marriage and health. All the best