Brb

Add faithfulness to it.

He’s doing everything because she’s sick. It’s for better for worse.
He can still do everything and still be faithful to her. It’s not rocket science

ezugegere:


Didn't you read where she said her husband does all the work at home? How else do you want him to be there for her?

But he can bring aids and co home

I’m guessing being married is a price and such disrespect is nothing as long as she’s married.
Disgusting

Vortex369:
You are married - check
You have kids - check
You are pregnant - check
You still feel you should be fuccking your husband even though you are pregnant - madness
You still feel insecure even when the man is pitying your condition and pains and wants a side chic to satisfy his urges, so you can rest - madness.

You want my advise?

You have all that you need, the side chic will not take the dickk away, focus on your preggy and the home and the man will always come back to you after safe delivery.

Your husband will cheat, always understand that, but he will not abandon you.

cococandy:
Add faithfulness to it.

He’s doing everything because she’s sick. It’s for better for worse.
He can still do everything and still be faithful to her. It’s not rocket science

You can help her get a divorce lawyer

Pls don't trade your happiness for mere fairs, stop making assumptions already.

Your only worry is the fact that he's been chatting another lady, it's normal to be concerned about the safety of your home but don't let that concern enslave you.

What you may want to try doing is:
Talk to him playfully about your situation and how this very pregnancy is making you weak and not strong enough to attend to his needs. Plead with him to pls bear with you as it's just for a while.

Your marriage is safe!
You have strength henceforth!
Pray without ceasing!
I wish you safe delivery when the time is right

That’s why I don’t pity Nigerian men who get cheated on. In one way or another many of them support cheating when it’s a man.

CHoccolaTE:
Nigerian women are really suffering in marriages o.
Just imagine if a man fell sick and couldn't provide or sexually satisfy his wife and she decided to flirt around because she needs attention. Nobody will ever advice the man to ignore her and focus on his health instead

Irony is that adultery is forbidden to both men and women but men are hypocrites that think cheating is their birthright. Why the hell must he flirt with another woman when he has a wife? Instead of being there for her and helping to nurse her back to health he is looking for love elsewhere.

Or he can zip up and keep his vows.
See how easy that is?

ezugegere:

You can help her get a divorce lawyer

cococandy:
That’s why I don’t pity Nigerian men who get cheated on. In one way or another many of them support cheating when it’s a man.

A typical Nigerian man has PhD in hypocrisy

If it was the man who was sick he would have been the one saying she should do all the work at home and support and pray for her sick husband like a good wife

You are right, her husband is doing well by helping at home but that has not qualified him to flirt with another woman if truly he's doing that.

ezugegere:


Didn't you read where she said her husband does all the work at home? How else do you want him to be there for her?

CHoccolaTE:
Nigerian women are really suffering in marriages o.
Just imagine if a man fell sick and couldn't provide or sexually satisfy his wife and she decided to flirt around because she needs attention. Nobody will ever advice the man to ignore her and focus on his health instead

Irony is that adultery is forbidden to both men and women but men are hypocrites that think cheating is their birthright. Why the hell must he flirt with another woman when he has a wife? Instead of being there for her and helping to nurse her back to health he is looking for love elsewhere.

Shut up ma! Men are born free!

cococandy:
But he can bring aids and co home

I’m guessing being married is a price and such disrespect is nothing as long as she’s married.
Disgusting

Actually cheating and sleeping around starts from flirting and that's where the husband is likely headed but people want her to keep quiet and bear crap until he infects her with an incurable STD.

Why implant? Why not injection or drug? Or withdrawals?

cococandy:
But he can bring aids and co home

I’m guessing being married is a price and such disrespect is nothing as long as she’s married.
Disgusting

Marriage is a prize.

MusaChukwudi:


Shut up ma! Men are born free!

I guess this is why men fear feminism

They don't want equality because they don't want to be recipients of the shitty treatment they dish to women.

Timson01:
What do u people suggest

Do you guys have the financial capacity to take care of an additional child?

If not I would suggest you terminate the pregnancy if it's not far gone

Timson01:
Hello NL,

Before I got married my husband said he needed 2 children while I wanted twins but our second pregnancy was twins so we had 3 instead. Then I took implant so to avoid getting pregnant again but my system became messed up that my monthly flow would last for 2 to 3 weeks.
So after 3 years I decided to remove it so to get back myself only for me to get pregnant instead and I found out when I was already 3 months gone and the pregnancy is causing me to be in so much pain that I can’t move at times making my husband do everything at home cause i’m always in bed
Now I discovered my husband is chatting another lady calling her babe and the rest although he assured me that he accepts this baby but I feel we are getting apart by the day.what do you suggest i do?
I can’t even have proper sex with him because my heart rate increases and I can’t move afterwards. Yes he was the one who took me to the hospital for removal we have been together for 11+years now
Just before I got pregnant I was having a lot of guys wooing me that my husband became very active in his affections towards me and it made me feel like I’m being courted again then this happened
The worst part is that I’m in physical pain. I can’t satisfy his desires. He even made me watch porn movies with him but I’m just too tired to respond to him. I have never been like this but I don’t know what to do
He has no parents as they pass away his senior brother just got married and always asks for marriage tips from us so saying this to him now I just can’t bring myself to do so.
Should I still keep the baby although I can’t bring myself to do anything to my child i just feel all this wouldn’t have come up if I didn’t get pregnant.

Anonymous NL Member

Insecure female sex addict

Japa

Japa,this things are taking a toll on your health, fight for life, your man is gone already.

MusaChukwudi:


Shut up ma! Men are born free!

and women are born slaves. Understood

Timson01:
Hello NL,

Before I got married my husband said he needed 2 children while I wanted twins but our second pregnancy was twins so we had 3 instead. Then I took implant so to avoid getting pregnant again but my system became messed up that my monthly flow would last for 2 to 3 weeks.
So after 3 years I decided to remove it so to get back myself only for me to get pregnant instead and I found out when I was already 3 months gone and the pregnancy is causing me to be in so much pain that I can’t move at times making my husband do everything at home cause i’m always in bed
Now I discovered my husband is chatting another lady calling her babe and the rest although he assured me that he accepts this baby but I feel we are getting apart by the day.what do you suggest i do?
I can’t even have proper sex with him because my heart rate increases and I can’t move afterwards. Yes he was the one who took me to the hospital for removal we have been together for 11+years now
Just before I got pregnant I was having a lot of guys wooing me that my husband became very active in his affections towards me and it made me feel like I’m being courted again then this happened
The worst part is that I’m in physical pain. I can’t satisfy his desires. He even made me watch porn movies with him but I’m just too tired to respond to him. I have never been like this but I don’t know what to do
He has no parents as they pass away his senior brother just got married and always asks for marriage tips from us so saying this to him now I just can’t bring myself to do so.
Should I still keep the baby although I can’t bring myself to do anything to my child i just feel all this wouldn’t have come up if I didn’t get pregnant.

Anonymous NL Member

Relax your mind, this too shall pass, just do what you can, pray for him often and always tell him you appreciate his effort, he should bear with you and you will make it up to him. Once again relax your mind, enjoy yourselve.

Lol

Sorry for this and I'll advise you meet a medical professional on pregnancies for advice.
Take good care of yourself first, you're important.

What's the big deal in a man being faithful for a few months of pregnancy and supporting his wife? Will she be pregnant for eternity? So while a woman is pregnant and in pains, the husband is simply thinking of sex. Why should men complain when a woman is the one that bears 99percent of pregnancy stress? She carries the pregnancy for nine good months, her body changes, goes for ante-natal, she may need to adjust or change her menu, she delivers the baby, caters and nurtures her body back to normal, caters and nurtures baby. Men are indeed ungrateful.

KISSMEAGAIN:


If only you know what men go through when ever their wives become pregnant and making love to her becomes so scarce because of her pregnancy. It's a great challenge. I never knew the kind of challenge at stake until I got married too.

Naah. It's not falling apart. A man seeking solace in the arms of another woman when his wife defaults does not necessarily mean that he will abandon her. He will probably have his first affair, and when he has tasted it, will continue to have other affairs. But your marriage will probably not break up unless one of the women he has affairs with plots to steal him away; and which woman wants to marry a man with 4 kids? Anyway, if he is a good father, he will probably stay for the kids.Take heart.

You are sexually retired, you wish to retire him too?

Timson01:
Hello NL,

Before I got married my husband said he needed 2 children while I wanted twins but our second pregnancy was twins so we had 3 instead. Then I took implant so to avoid getting pregnant again but my system became messed up that my monthly flow would last for 2 to 3 weeks.
So after 3 years I decided to remove it so to get back myself only for me to get pregnant instead and I found out when I was already 3 months gone and the pregnancy is causing me to be in so much pain that I can’t move at times making my husband do everything at home cause i’m always in bed
Now I discovered my husband is chatting another lady calling her babe and the rest although he assured me that he accepts this baby but I feel we are getting apart by the day.what do you suggest i do?
I can’t even have proper sex with him because my heart rate increases and I can’t move afterwards. Yes he was the one who took me to the hospital for removal we have been together for 11+years now
Just before I got pregnant I was having a lot of guys wooing me that my husband became very active in his affections towards me and it made me feel like I’m being courted again then this happened
The worst part is that I’m in physical pain. I can’t satisfy his desires. He even made me watch porn movies with him but I’m just too tired to respond to him. I have never been like this but I don’t know what to do
He has no parents as they pass away his senior brother just got married and always asks for marriage tips from us so saying this to him now I just can’t bring myself to do so.
Should I still keep the baby although I can’t bring myself to do anything to my child i just feel all this wouldn’t have come up if I didn’t get pregnant.

Anonymous NL Member

It doesnt seem like you have any problem. Stop creating problems in your head where there is none.

Your husband still loves and cherish you.

Your only problem is the pain you are having due to the pregnancy which has led to loss of sexual appetite. And this will wane off soon. With time, everything will thaw back to normal and you will be fine.

You have no problem.

otokx:
Is this occuring in Nigeria

no oo.its happening in Indonesia... slowpoke

Really. You guys are so worldly and morally bankrupt that I don't know where to start advising you from. And to think that you are 11years in marriage.

Timson01:
Hello NL,

Before I got married my husband said he needed 2 children while I wanted twins but our second pregnancy was twins so we had 3 instead. Then I took implant so to avoid getting pregnant again but my system became messed up that my monthly flow would last for 2 to 3 weeks.
So after 3 years I decided to remove it so to get back myself only for me to get pregnant instead and I found out when I was already 3 months gone and the pregnancy is causing me to be in so much pain that I can’t move at times making my husband do everything at home cause i’m always in bed
Now I discovered my husband is chatting another lady calling her babe and the rest although he assured me that he accepts this baby but I feel we are getting apart by the day.what do you suggest i do?
I can’t even have proper sex with him because my heart rate increases and I can’t move afterwards. Yes he was the one who took me to the hospital for removal we have been together for 11+years now
Just before I got pregnant I was having a lot of guys wooing me that my husband became very active in his affections towards me and it made me feel like I’m being courted again then this happened
The worst part is that I’m in physical pain. I can’t satisfy his desires. He even made me watch porn movies with him but I’m just too tired to respond to him. I have never been like this but I don’t know what to do
He has no parents as they pass away his senior brother just got married and always asks for marriage tips from us so saying this to him now I just can’t bring myself to do so.
Should I still keep the baby although I can’t bring myself to do anything to my child i just feel all this wouldn’t have come up if I didn’t get pregnant.

Anonymous NL Member

Are you gay? Coz your monicker say you are male, and only gay men marry men like themselves. If your answer is yes, then how the heck did you get pregnant?
Anyways your story looks like you copied it from somewhere and pasted it here.

Don't think about anything now just concentrate on the baby growing in you, and be a nice wife to your husband forget him cheating , I know is not easy just act like you don't care , if he didn't change after u must have put to birth I have my gun is all URS am sure u can use it thank you.

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Timson01:
Hello NL,

Before I got married my husband said he needed 2 children while I wanted twins but our second pregnancy was twins so we had 3 instead. Then I took implant so to avoid getting pregnant again but my system became messed up that my monthly flow would last for 2 to 3 weeks.
So after 3 years I decided to remove it so to get back myself only for me to get pregnant instead and I found out when I was already 3 months gone and the pregnancy is causing me to be in so much pain that I can’t move at times making my husband do everything at home cause i’m always in bed
Now I discovered my husband is chatting another lady calling her babe and the rest although he assured me that he accepts this baby but I feel we are getting apart by the day.what do you suggest i do?
I can’t even have proper sex with him because my heart rate increases and I can’t move afterwards. Yes he was the one who took me to the hospital for removal we have been together for 11+years now
Just before I got pregnant I was having a lot of guys wooing me that my husband became very active in his affections towards me and it made me feel like I’m being courted again then this happened
The worst part is that I’m in physical pain. I can’t satisfy his desires. He even made me watch porn movies with him but I’m just too tired to respond to him. I have never been like this but I don’t know what to do
He has no parents as they pass away his senior brother just got married and always asks for marriage tips from us so saying this to him now I just can’t bring myself to do so.
Should I still keep the baby although I can’t bring myself to do anything to my child i just feel all this wouldn’t have come up if I didn’t get pregnant.

Anonymous NL Member

Eiyaaah, sorry oh.

All i can say is . . . Focus on your health and pregnancy, have the baby, get your groove back, and then find some guy to flirt with too and who Will call you babe. Petty right? That's what I'd do.

Men don't really appreciate the harm they cause until the exact same thing is done to them.

Your selfish husband needs to realize that you are you are making a huge sacrifice by housing his offspring in your body. It's not okay that he's so obsessed with sex that he's making you watch porn, trying to seduce you into sex, knowing its effect on you.

It's not okay that he's chatting up some random babe because he can.

And it's certainly not okay that he's no longer all over you because he thinks you're now pregnant and other men no longer desire you. So his love is only active when he has competitors bah? And this person is a father of 3 oh, almost 4. Disgusting!

And you are even considering harming the baby because of such a person. You are lucky you're pregnant. I would have said some not so nice things to you.

Forget about how many children he said he needs. Did you impregnate yourself? If he really needed 2 children he should have gotten a vasectomy after you had 3. Or abstained from sex. With the way you guys are obsessing over sex you will still have more after this sef. He is responsible for the pregnancy as much as you so don't let him make you feel like you did something wrong.