PrimadonnaO:
Someone I dated sent me his baby's pictures once... and pretended it was a mistake. LOL. But baby boy's so fine! I really was happy seeing the child. Once you genuinely care for someone, you'll be happy with whatever good thing that's happening in their lives...


But you, dear OP, are gloating. Plus you have no right to expect her to react in a certain kind of way. Not everyone takes things the same way. So, move on with your life, and stop throwing your dealings in her face.

Plus... you think she's single. You have no idea what she'll become... or the kind of man she'll marry tomorrow. So, biko, leave her alone, inuru?

Young lady, you don't know me, If she marries Dangote' son, I will be more than happy for her, I don't beef exes, there was first friendship before relationship. If relationship failed it doesn't mean there should be enemity. If am in the position to help her out and she seeks my assistance, I will help out. We are not competing, so forget the talk of marrying somebody better than me or so. You ladies can be damn emotional unnecessarily.

I didn't see anything wrong in what you did.

Move on op

Randy100:
I didn't see anything wrong in what you did.

Thank you jaree.. after now, them go se them sabi oyibo type of life. Couples de divorce and still live in thesame house, talk well like nothing happened in civilized world.

Nyeks:
Young lady, you don't know me, If she marries Dangote' son, I will be more than happy for her, I don't beef exes, there was first friendship before relationship. If relationship failed it doesn't mean there should be enemity. If am in the position to help her out and she seeks my assistance, I will help out. We are not competing, so forget the talk of marrying somebody better than me or so. You ladies can be damn emotional unnecessarily.

You seem to be the one getting emotional. You break a news to her the first time, she didn't congratulate you, yet you keep giving her similar updates. Don't you see that she doesn't care to know?

An ex is an ex no matter how friendly y'all get. So there will always be grey areas.

Bro, it is worth being confuse about. Choosing whom to spend the rest of your life with is a very critical decision to take.

If you get it wrong,you will spend the rest of your life in regrets.

You were trying to get a particular response from the said lady and since you didn't get it, you're whining. If she had said congratulation, maybe you'd still say it didn't come genuinely. You've tried several ways to get her "react" to the news and she's not taking the bait. Focus on your new family and free her oh?

Nyeks:
I had a funny experience some time last year. I dated a lady who suggested we break up as she felt we were not compatible as lovers.
The relationship started in 2009, but it was off and on due to distance and some other factors. We became serious in 2016/2017 and everything was going on smoothly till she went for National Youth Service (NYSC) and things became sour again. We had a fight which was all her fault, she couldn't apologize for more than two months. I kept my cool and decided I let her be since she is full of pride. The third month after the fight, she sent me a long SMS admitting she caused me pains bla bla and that she has decided we call it quit since we are not compatible but we can be friends instead of lovers. I didnt reply the message as it was not necessary since I had already moved on from my ends too.
Fast forward to 2018, she found her way back again through chats, we remained friends like she suggested and we were going on smoothly to the point that i started helping her search for jobs, she got one via me but something happened along the line and she lost the job. She was coming around once in a while, I saw that she has seen how difficult job hunting is and the struggle for survival is not an easy task like she thought while in school. She became loyal yet the pride of a woman never let her ignite a new fire in us. I guessed she wanted us back, but since she was the one that initiated the break up, I told myself that I will never start up a discussion on relationship. Within that period, I found another lady who was willing to start on a humble ground with me. I never let her know about my new found love, there was no sign of me dating on social media or so. I broke the news to her few days before I posted my pre wedding photos on Facebook and WhatsApp and she pretended she was cool.
The wedding came and gone, my so called friend didnt send a congratulatory message, no comment on my Facebook page, she avoided all my wedding photos like a plague. Few days ago, my first child came, I sent her SMS, my so called friend still couldn't say ordinary congrats. I kept wondering if she never meant the break message she sent to me back then, cos why is she this bitter?.

If I may ask, do you get the second girl now your wife,via online stuff?

She can only marry you as a spare not as a real deal!

She doesnt want you perhaps she thinks you are not 'ok' for her in all means.

She didn't leave you!
She's not happy you left(being a spare) keeping you while looking for a better!

In fact she is confused and not sure yet what she wants. So many humans are that way even some men!

Avoid her!

Nyeks:
Where in the post is help mentioned?

soooo, wat is the importance of this your post. To tell us wat exactly

kingofthemall:

If I may ask, do you get the second girl now your wife,via online stuff?

NO

Nyeks:
I had a funny experience some time last year. I dated a lady who suggested we break up as she felt we were not compatible as lovers.
The relationship started in 2009, but it was off and on due to distance and some other factors. We became serious in 2016/2017 and everything was going on smoothly till she went for National Youth Service (NYSC) and things became sour again. We had a fight which was all her fault, she couldn't apologize for more than two months. I kept my cool and decided I let her be since she is full of pride. The third month after the fight, she sent me a long SMS admitting she caused me pains bla bla and that she has decided we call it quit since we are not compatible but we can be friends instead of lovers. I didnt reply the message as it was not necessary since I had already moved on from my ends too.
Fast forward to 2018, she found her way back again through chats, we remained friends like she suggested and we were going on smoothly to the point that i started helping her search for jobs, she got one via me but something happened along the line and she lost the job. She was coming around once in a while, I saw that she has seen how difficult job hunting is and the struggle for survival is not an easy task like she thought while in school. She became loyal yet the pride of a woman never let her ignite a new fire in us. I guessed she wanted us back, but since she was the one that initiated the break up, I told myself that I will never start up a discussion on relationship. Within that period, I found another lady who was willing to start on a humble ground with me. I never let her know about my new found love, there was no sign of me dating on social media or so. I broke the news to her few days before I posted my pre wedding photos on Facebook and WhatsApp and she pretended she was cool.
The wedding came and gone, my so called friend didnt send a congratulatory message, no comment on my Facebook page, she avoided all my wedding photos like a plague. Few days ago, my first child came, I sent her SMS, my so called friend still couldn't say ordinary congrats. I kept wondering if she never meant the break message she sent to me back then, cos why is she this bitter?.

it seems like you are the confused one here, u claimed to have moved on but u are still monitoring her

oh shit .....the devil's work.... trust me av been in similar shoes .. U don't expect her to be jealous ? it's normal nothing new as long as she's still alive ...you would have just ignored letting her know about how far you have moved

Nyeks:
See your life. Madam, rejoice with those who are rejoicing, mourn with those who are mourning. I never mentioned anywhere in the post that she ain't checking my pictures or so. We all congratulates friends on our contact on social media when they celebrate, so there is no big deal there, whether ex or not. And for my wify, her ex called to congratulate her and there was no issue about that.

Abeg you're not making sense better focus on your family and leave your ex alone.

pocohantas:


Uncle, focus on your wife and kids. Leave her bitterness for her next/current bf.

I don't know why some Naija guys are obsessed with the relationship status of their EXes. Especially when they marry first. Face your wife!

Don't mind the Okpolo-eyed goat . He claims to have moved on, yet he is busy troubling the poor ex, who is probably too busy with her life.

makydebbie:


Abeg you're not making sense better focus on your family and leave your ex alone.

Such a petty punk . I pity e wife. Na so so grudge this wan go Sabi carry.

Yuneehk:
You were trying to get a particular response from the said lady and since you didn't get it, you're whining. If she had said congratulation, maybe you'd still say it didn't come genuinely. You've tried several ways to get her "react" to the news and she's not taking the bait. Focus on your new family and free her oh?

Don't mind the ekpa. I've never seen such goatishness spilled in this quantity in a thread.

I'm sure OP was expecting a different reaction to his post

Nairalanders shocked him.

Pele