Handsomejok:
Before marrying my wife, my business was moving well. I had an appliances big shop with full of things. I made a lots of money monthly and was able to pay all my bills and take care of my single mother and siblings without fail.

Bbut since we got married, just two months and 5 days after our marriage, my shop caught fire. I have lost almost everything only managed to save some few things, had to pay for all the damages to my landlord (the shop owner ) I’m still owning him money and I’m now renting a small shop but things are not working.

I have so much debts to pay to so many people including my previous shop landlord, can’t afford a 3 square meals, can’t afford to pay house rent, can’t afford to pay my shop rent and we have moved to my parents house.

My wife is pregnant and due in April, we haven’t bought anything for the baby. I wish never met her in my life cos she has completely destroyed my life and I have nothing left. She is evil. Haven’t confronted her cos of her condition, don’t want to add more stress to her and am waiting for her to put to bed then I will confront her and chase her away. I will keep the baby with me so she can go with her child she had before we met. I just hate her so much and I want nothing to do with her anymore.

Please what do you suggest I do?

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TELL ME WHY I SHOULD KEEP MY ATHEISM TO MYSELF WHEN THIS COUNTRY NEEDS MORE AND MORE OF MY PREACHINGS TO ERADICATE SUCH NONSENSICAL BELIEFS THAT KEEP AFFECTING US ALL-ROUND.

lNOW THE ACCUSED "WITCH" WOMAN WILL BE WISHING SHE MARRIED THAT ATHEIST SHE ALWAYS REBUKED ON THE INTERNET.

Martinez39s:
False beliefs can be devastating. Good examples are those children that died because their parents rejected medical help or, as related to this case, families, romantic relationships, etc. that were destroyed because of false beliefs or "prophecy" from a pastorpreneur. It's heartbreaking.

Fountainofyouth:
The reason why no one takes you atheists or whatever serious is because you try too hard to be noticed and taken seriously, there by ridicule yourselves in the process, speaks volumes, just because a guy, one guy believes his wife is the cause of his woes doesn't give you the audacity to condemn religious people, but then, the opportunity to gloat is high cos of the pleasure y'all derive so ride on,

I have met atheists and non conformists, they are the nicest and quiet people who mind their business, y'all wannabes here really need to change.

Fountainofyouth:
The reason why no one takes you atheists or whatever serious is because you try too hard to be noticed and taken seriously, there by ridicule yourselves in the process, speaks volumes, just because a guy, one guy, believes his wife is the cause of his woes doesn't give you the audacity to condemn religious people, but then, the opportunity to gloat is high cos of the pleasure y'all derive so ride on,

I have met atheists and non conformists, they are the nicest and quiet people who mind their business, y'all wannabes here really need to change.

scoundrel:
...and why did this deserve its own thread instead of getting posted in the original? Some of you children here need real life hobbies.

Martinez39s:
Where did I condemn religious people?

There is nothing like a wannabe atheist. Either you lack belief in god or not. Anyway, let's not derail this thread and make it about religion. My concern is that Handsomejok gets into the right perspective.

Blu03:



who mind their business? Don't you feel silly for this write up?
So he shouldn't advise a 'desperate extremist' who's blaming a witch his wife for his woes?
He shouldn't call out others like him?
Martinez39s's has written nothing but sense here. Don't diss that because of his belief.

Martinez39s:
Where did I condemn religious people?

There is nothing like a wannabe atheist. Either you lack belief in god or not. Anyway, let's not derail this thread and make it about religion. My concern is that Handsomejok gets into the right perspective.

Fountainofyouth:

Just seeing this, I wasn't even referring to you exactly cos you weren't the only one who commented here, and someone feels she needs to talk for you, is there like a twain solidarity here that I don't know about

Fountainofyouth:


Don't be silly and stupid, is it only Martinez that commented here? Did I quote any of his write up as true or untrue? Didn't you see where some comments were typed generally? What are you exactly? Martinez hail Mary and knight in shining armour? Or you like to speak on behalf of him cos what, he isn't capable? Read my comment and pass next time.

Blu03:
your comment reeked of stupidity. Pardon my language, but you used the word first...
This is a sensitive topic that you contributed sh.t to. You don't know the danger of religious fanatics?
Martinez can be an asshole but your claim that he's 'seeking attention' is baseless. He is one of the most popular monikers here who has earned the respect of several folks.
He created this thread out of nothing but goodwill.
Forget atheism or christianity. Focus on the mature advice rather

biGDhAp:
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girls fight..


lovely

Blu03:
your comment reeked of stupidity. Pardon my language, but you used the word first...
This is a sensitive topic that you contributed sh.t to. You don't know the danger of religious fanatics?
Martinez can be an asshole but your claim that he's 'seeking attention' is baseless. He is one of the most popular monikers here who has earned the respect of several folks.
He created this thread out of nothing but goodwill.
Forget atheism or christianity. Focus on the mature advice rather

Fountainofyouth:



Come, are you delusional, a blind bat or high on cheap drugs? Where the hell did I say Martinez is an attention seeker in any of my comment? How the hell is it my business if he is respected on a faceless forum? Why do you feel you have to be the one to explain who he is to me?

I'm beginning to suspect this moniker is also Martinez, becos I do not understand why this one is in pains, either this is also martinez or you have a futile crush on him, or this is asslicking on a whole new level,

Take several seats girl, cos this your rant is baseless, illogical, and sad.

Martinez39s:
I am responding to this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/5705389/think-wife-witch#down

First of all, it breaks my heart that nonsensical beliefs have, in their own way, needlessly contributed to conflicts among friends, relatives, and married couples and they continue to do such till this day. I would like to address the OP (Handsomejok) of that thread.

It's natural that our brain checks patterns and then attribute causes to explain happenings in our environment and lives however silly these conclusions are. Fortunately, that can't stop us from being realistic. Your wife is not a witch. Bad things and misfortune can happen to anyone at anytime and no one is immune to misfortune. Before blaming your wife, did you stop to think if your misfortune could have happened naturally without some supernatural influences? Haven't single men faced worse than this? Why rule out coincidence as though they don't happen? In fact, what evidence do you have to conclude that your wife is a witch?

What has happened to you has happened to many and it will happen to many because that's what life is. Life is full of ups and downs. Now that your business is down, don't destroy your marriage as well because of a false notion that your wife is a witch. As a man, you should pick yourself up instead attributing blames to your wife. Nobody is too special that life must be rosy and sweet all the time. We Nigerians so much like to think we have a bright future almost to the point of entitlement that if such future doesn't materializes, we think something supernatural is affected us. This is not so.

People have been in this situation and many have been in worse. It doesn't mean that some diabolic and malign supernatural forces were against them. These things are natural. Don't hate your wife because of a false belief. I will also warned that you shouldn't fall into the trap of huge desperation and run to one pastor for financial deliverance like many do. Success is hardwork not spiritual. These pastors are thieves and they will ruthlessly siphon money from you just to "help" you. They might even cause more divisions and feed on your solipsism by giving you some "prophecy" that makes your wife or any of you relatives the cause of your problem. What is happening to you is very hard and difficult but it's what many are facing.

Don't blame your wife or hate her, try look for the way forward.

Stop this. With this mindset, you will end up destroying your family and cause great pain with your own hands. Calm down and look for the way forward. Try your best and hope for the best. Things may improve or they may not as nothing in life is guaranteed but it will suffice that you do your best to move forward in life.

Do away with the foolish belief that your wife is a witch; stop hating on her for she is innocent; and start doing your best to move forward. Don't foolishly run to any pastor for relief, they will milk the little you have left and even cause more division in your family. You can still get back on your feet. Cheers.

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IN FRONT-PAGE THEY'RE ALL BASHING THE GUY FOR ACCUSING HIS WIFE, BUT IN THEIR HEARTS SOME THEM ALREADY SUSPECT SHE'S RESPONSIBLE, AND IF THEY WERE TO BE IN THE MAN'S POSITION, THEY'D PROBABLY BEHAVE IN THE SAME INSANE MANNER.

MR. Handsomejok YOU HAVE TO DO AWAY WITH ALL THE NONSENSE YOUR SUPERSTITIOUS MOTHER AND RELATIVES THOUGHT YOU TO BELIEVE. A WITCH CANNOT SET FIRE ON YOUR PROPERTY WITHOUT GOING THERE TO PHYSICALLY IGNITE A FIRE. THE SOONER YOU DO AWAY WITH YOUR NONSENSE BELIEFS THE BETTER IT'LL BE FOR YOU.

ORDINARY OWU THAT IS DOING YOU YOU'RE ACCUSING YOUR WIFE, DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY SHIPS CAPSIZE EVERY YEAR? HOW MANY PLANES AND VEHICLES CRASHING AND KILLING PEOPLE AND DAMAGING PROPERTIES WORTH MILLIONS?

MY FRIEND GO AND SIT DOWN. RUBBISH MAN.

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THE WORST THING IS THAT IT IS THESE SAME RELIGIOUS WOMEN THAT ARE AT THE RECEIVING END OF ALL OF THE MADNESS OF RELIGION.
SOME HOW, EVEN WOMEN THEMSELVES HAVE BEEN CONVINCED TO THEIR BONES THAT THEY ARE WITCHES, OWLS, CATS, MERMAIDS, SPIRIT WIVES, SPOUSES TO SPIRITUAL HUSBANDS, DESTINY SNATCHERS, AND ALL OTHER FORMS OF NONSENSE.

IN HISTORY MANY WOMEN HAS BEEN ACCUSED OF WITCHCRAFT AND BURNED BY CHRISTIANITY. IN INDIA THE BURNING AND STONING CONTINUES TILL TODAY.
IN THE ARABIAN WORLD UNDER THEIR RELIGION MEN ARE MORE PRIVILEGED FOR A LOT OF THINGS. IN FACT, FOR THINGS MEN WOULD BE APPLAUDED FOR, WOMEN WILL BE HUNG FOR, ALL BECAUSE OF RELIGION. IN NORTHERN NIGERIA THE MUSLIMS ARE SOMETHING ELSE.

THEN I'M EXPECTED BY THE SAME FOOLS TO "ALLOW EVERYBODY PRACTICE THEIR RELIGIONS" BECAUSE "BELIEFS ARE PERSONAL". WHY ARE WE EVEN CONDEMNING THIS MAN WHEN HE'S ONLY EXERCISING HIS PERSONAL BELIEFS THAT HIS WIFE IS A WITCH, AND RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS BURNT WAREHOUSE?
WHY ARE WE NOT CLAPPING FOR HIM AND HIS BELIEFS?

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THE WORST THING IS THAT IT IS THESE SAME RELIGIOUS WOMEN THAT ARE AT THE RECEIVING END OF ALL OF THE MADNESS OF RELIGION.
SOME HOW, EVEN WOMEN THEMSELVES HAVE BEEN CONVINCED TO THEIR BONES THAT THEY ARE WITCHES, OWLS, CATS, MERMAIDS, SPIRIT WIVES, SPOUSES TO SPIRITUAL HUSBANDS, DESTINY SNATCHERS, AND ALL OTHER FORMS OF NONSENSE.

IN HISTORY MANY WOMEN HAS BEEN ACCUSED OF WITCHCRAFT AND BURNED BY CHRISTIANITY. IN INDIA THE BURNING AND STONING CONTINUES TILL TODAY.
IN THE ARABIAN WORLD UNDER THEIR RELIGION MEN ARE MORE PRIVILEGED FOR A LOT OF THINGS. IN FACT, FOR THINGS MEN WOULD BE APPLAUDED FOR, WOMEN WILL BE HUNG FOR, ALL BECAUSE OF RELIGION. IN NORTHERN NIGERIA THE MUSLIMS ARE SOMETHING ELSE.

THEN I'M EXPECTED BY THE SAME FOOLS TO "ALLOW EVERYBODY PRACTICE THEIR RELIGIONS" BECAUSE "BELIEFS ARE PERSONAL". WHY ARE WE EVEN CONDEMNING THIS MAN WHEN HE'S ONLY EXERCISING HIS PERSONAL BELIEFS THAT HIS WIFE IS A WITCH, AND RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS BURNT WAREHOUSE?
WHY ARE WE NOT CLAPPING FOR HIM AND HIS BELIEFS?

Xavfra:



From the story I don't even know what links witchcraft with this.....

djon78:

His calling his wife a witch is bad, but you never offered any real solution.

His problem still has a spiritual undertone but doesn't involve his wife.
He needs to engage in spiritual warfare, be strong in prayers, drawn close to God.

And he will see turn around.

Some of you may not believe in the supernatural but it's real.
In fact for you to control wealth, power, etc in this part of the world, you must be engaged supernaturally either negative or positive or else you will be fried like a cold turkey.

And don't come and argue with me if you have not experienced wealth to a significant level. It's real.

In fact it's the major reason of backwardness in this part of the world.
I have lived in other parts of the world and can tell you that what we are battling here is very deep.

Martinez39s:
I thought you were speaking about me because I am an outspoken atheist on this forum.

djon78:




His calling his wife a witch is bad, but you never offered any real solution.
HOW CAN YOU SOLVE THE PROBLEM OF A MAN CALLING HIS WIFE A WITCH, OTHER THAN TRYING TO TALK SENSE INTO HIM?

His problem still has a spiritual undertone but doesn't involve his wife.
He needs to engage in spiritual warfare, be strong in prayers, drawn close to God.
THERE'S NOTHING SPIRITUAL ABOUT A MISFORTUNE. HIS SHOP ONLY GOT BURNT. THE WHOLE OF AUSTRALIA HAS BURNT MANY TIMES IN HISTORY, SO HE'S NOT THE FIRST, HE WON'T BE THE LAST.

And he will see turn around.
NO MATTER WHERE HE LIKES HE CAN TURN TO, BUT WE CAN NEVER COMPLETELY OUTRUN THESE PROBLEMS. THEY'RE PART OF OUR LIFE.

Some of you may not believe in the supernatural but it's real.
In fact for you to control wealth, power, etc in this part of the world, you must be engaged supernaturally either negative or positive or else you will be fried like a cold turkey.
THIS IS WHAT WE'RE TRYING TO ERADICATE. WE'RE BEING PULLED KILOMETERS BACKWARDS WHEN PEOPLE THAT ARE SUPPOSED TO BE THE MOST ENLIGHTENED, TALK LIKE THEY'RE MENTALLY INCAPABLE.

And don't come and argue with me if you have not experienced wealth to a significant level. It's real.
YOU MUST BE RICHER THAN JEFF BEZOS AND THE ENTIRE CHAINSMOKERS.

In fact it's the major reason of backwardness in this part of the world.
I have lived in other parts of the world and can tell you that what we are battling here is very deep.
NOT FOR PEOPLE WHO DON'T CARE.