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Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Jeboy(m): 1:46am On Apr 04, 2020
One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is for you to marry your mate and if you are married already, make your spouse your mate! You see that statement of ‘ Am I your mate?’ does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. I will like to talk on seven dimensions you and the person you want to marry or you have married must be mate.

1. MARRY_YOUR_SPEAKING_MATE

Marry someone you can speak together and understand each other. Communication is very crucial in marriage. Don’t marry someone that, when you are saying ‘A’ he or she will be saying ‘ Z’ Once there is dichotomy in your speaking and understanding level, you can’t enjoy that marriage. So many men go to bar to hang out with friends and gist till 11pm because they know their wives can’t engage in any meaningful intellectual discussion. So many women too prefer to hang out with their friends, because they know their husbands mentality when it comes to vital issues and discussions is very low. Marry your speaking Mate.

2. MARRY_YOUR_SCHOOL_MATE By this I mean, marry someone you can learn together and improve together. Don’t marry ‘ Mr Know all’ or ‘Miss Know all’. Don’t marry someone who is rigid and not open to new ideas, new ways of doing things, or new innovations. Marriage is a great institution. From day one till death do you part, you will keep learning. Marry your ‘school’ mate; someone who is ready to learn with you.

3. MARRY_YOUR_SPIRITUAL_MATE

Marriage is not just a social union. It is also a spiritual union. Marry someone who knows the same God you know. Don’t marry someone who’s believe of God is different from yours. Two can’t work together except they be agreed ( Amos 3:3, Joshua 23: 11-15, 2 Corinthians 6:14-18). The spiritual controls the physical, even in marriage. Check for spiritual compatibility in that person you want to marry.

4. MARRY_YOUR_SPENDING_MATE

Don’t marry someone who is stingy. There are so many expenses to cater for in marriage. A stingy guy in courtship won’t suddenly become a generous husband in marriage. Don’t marry a lady that has the financial philosophy of ‘ My husband’s money is our money, but my money is my money’. Marry someone who believes in dignity of labour , who is ready to work, not a lazy fellow who just want to be a consumer and not a contributor. Marry someone who is ready to spend and be spent for the growth and success of the family.

5. MARRY_YOUR_SEX_MATE

Marry someone you have sexual feelings for. Sexual feeling is not a sin. It is an instinct God put in every person. Sex plays a major role in the success of any marriage. Any man you don’t have emotional feelings for, don’t marry the person. If you don’t have emotional feelings for that lady, leave her alone. A spiritual being is also a sexual being. No matter how spiritual you both may be in your marriage, you won’t be praying for 24 hours in a day. You won’t be reading the Bible or worshiping God 24/7. You will have sex! You will romance! You will flirt with each other! You will make babies. So, marry someone you can connect with sexually. It will help you to enjoy your marriage so much!

6. MARRY_YOUR_SOCIAL_MATE

Don’t marry someone you won’t be proud to go out with. Don’t marry someone you will be feeling shy to introduce to people with boldness. Marry someone you are comfortable to hang out with. Marry someone you are socially compatible with. Don’t marry an anti- social person. You might be wondering if you can find all the ‘mates’ in one person. Yes! The answer is YES! You don’t need to marry 6 guys/ladies to have all these mates. One person can be all that for you. If you also work on yourself and build your life, you can be all that for the guy/lady that will marry you. The promise of God for you is this : ‘Seek and read from the book of the LORD: Not one of these shall be missing; none shall be without her mate. For the mouth of the LORD has commanded, and his Spirit has gathered them.’ (Isaiah 34:16). Say it loud and clear ‘ I shall not lack a mate!’ I hope this blessed someone reading?

Source: http://www.ministryexploit.com/marry-your-mate-by-apostle-joshua-selman/

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Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Magnoliaa(f): 4:28am On Apr 04, 2020
Topics like this won't have contributions. :-( sighs

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Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Nobody: 5:44am On Apr 04, 2020
Nice writing but it is almost impossible to have it all in one person.

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Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Jeboy(m): 8:03am On Apr 04, 2020
Relationship is a lot of work than wishes, I think it is possible.

Lostz:
Nice writing but it is almost impossible to have it all in one person.
Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Nobody: 8:09am On Apr 04, 2020
Good points
Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Jeboy(m): 8:14am On Apr 04, 2020
if its not contradictory or socially appealling to their way of life they wont make contributions. We will do our best in promoting sensible thread.

Magnoliaa:
Topics like this won't have contributions. :-( sighs

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Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Newbielearner(m): 10:11am On Apr 04, 2020
This is a great piece.
Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Magnoliaa(f): 5:49pm On Apr 04, 2020
Lostz:
Nice writing but it is almost impossible to have it all in one person.


It's possible. Especially with someone concerned with self growth.
Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Nobody: 6:05pm On Apr 04, 2020
Magnoliaa:



It's possible. Especially with someone concerned with self growth.
there is nothing like a perfect package.
You have to compromise in some areas

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Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Magnoliaa(f): 10:31pm On Apr 04, 2020
Lostz:
there is nothing like a perfect package.
You have to compromise in some areas

And who said these qualities are perfection? See, you can and should go for the best there is. Getting a right partner is important and not some you ''settle'' down for.

These are no big deal. All the OP listed. There are great, refined people out there. No one should feel like they cannot get them. And it shouldn't be a thing of wonder when you meet a right person that treats you right.

I also used the word ''growing.'' Someone that changes everyday. For the better.

I have people like that as friends, that I'm not even considering a relationship with.
Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Nobody: 11:56am On Apr 05, 2020
Magnoliaa:


And who said these qualities are perfection? See, you can and should go for the best there is. Getting a right partner is important and not some you ''settle'' down for.

These are no big deal. All the OP listed. There are great, refined people out there. No one should feel like they cannot get them. And it shouldn't be a thing of wonder when you meet a right person that treats you right.

I also used the word ''growing.'' Someone that changes everyday. For the better.

I have people like that as friends, that I'm not even considering a relationship with.
very easy to write about these qualities.
With humans, you only know what is in there once you start a relationship.

You may even get married before really knowing what he is.

I love being realistic.

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Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Magnoliaa(f): 2:25pm On Apr 06, 2020
Lostz:
very easy to write about these qualities.
With humans, you only know what is in there once you start a relationship.

You may even get married before really knowing what he is.

I love being realistic.


We'll likely end up agreeing to disagree.

I am not writing about these things, nor fantasizing about them in my head.

There are different kinds of people. And I also believe in one having a discerning spirit. Learning from others' (experiences) and from those who've been there.

Thank God you said 'may.' So that means you can equally get married to someone who you know deeply. It's on a probability. And I tell you that the probability to know/of knowing whom you'll be marrying is higher than that of you not knowing. You can make decisions on just a few KEY things about a person. You don't have to study them for a year or more.

And we were on the topic - those qualities in the OP are not rare/perfect at all. They are basic. Some may not have all, but SOME have all.

Career? Finances? Education? All check.

Even, it wasn't so specific as mine as in the OP. It's not about the Ph.D/SSCE - can they learn or are they an ITK?

It's not about the religious affiliations - do they love God/walk with him? Is their service and love to Him reflected in their daily living?

It's not about the dollars or nairas - can they dress well, that you can take them out, be proud to show them off?

That's the point of the OP. You can have all those in ONE person. Especially in a person who becomes better each day.

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Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by Rapmoney(m): 2:34pm On Apr 06, 2020
OK
Re: Six Mates to Marry To Enjoy Marital Bliss by terrezo2002(m): 2:44pm On Apr 06, 2020
BIRTHDAY MATES.
The truth is that marriage will work if we involve the THIRD PERSON (GOD). He is the creator of marriage so He knows how best it will work.

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