I av being courting my fiancee for 7 yrs now & we stil approach other like we jus met last two months cos d love and respect is stil there. I treat her wit care & love, wich has given her d confidence dat nobody xpect me. So matters on how u want ur relationship 2 be like cos love & understanding really matters alot even in marriages u can easily get tired of each other within 6-12 months of marriage but if u 'r meant 4 each other, either courtship/marriage pple wil hardly knw u difference!

Too much of exposure encourages over satisfaction.

Some of dese long term relationship,met even lead 2 marriage,den immediately after marriage,dey breakup,simply bcus,after marriage dey see d true selves dey been hiding over time,dat dey can't condole now.Dey just simply breakup.

@ idmoore.7yrs is lng enough.bt it depends on aw much intimacy u share, if i keep makin luv wit d same gal 4 7yrs,then wat wud do i stand 2 enjoy wen we get married.as we as know dat SEX is an important part of marriage,
I tink dat pattern wud only work out if u r d LETS WAIT TILL WE GET MARRIED guy, if not,i dnt know o.

both partners get too intimate dat dey tend to overlook certain basic aspects needed 2 kip d fire burning. In other words, they take for granted certain important things & soon dey pay d price

, because the human race has a short term memory.

am also in a long term relationship of almost 7 years. we've had issues in past but we always resolve them. but recently he has been messing up bigtime Cos of a youth corper he met in Abuja. He spends most of his time with d girl cos he recently moved to Abuja. wen i asked him abt d girl he sed they re just friends he waved the whole thing off. buh i saw pics of the girl on his fone. do you take pics of ur friends sleeping on ur bed ? i told him i wasn't interested again buh he sed wat he has for the d girl can not be compared wiv wat we've built for seven years. The girl has just completed her nysc prog and has been retained at her ppa. meanwhile he lied to me dat d girl was going back to edo after er nysc and shes abt to get married.
i think d reason why ltr break up is d partners feel theres more fun out there for them so why SHLD THEY STAY WITH  one person(boredom). But this happens in marriages too. The way u react to these situations determine whether d relationship will last or not

If the relationship was long only because you didn't have other options,
then of course it will end once one of you finds a more suitable mate!

Incredible discussion which has really answered question regards my 9yrs relationship. Johnny and X-factoria answered some of the questions. I came to realize its better to rectify any issue or lapses which is likely to make the marriage collapse before going to the Altar. My LTR is near perfect except for 1 issue which is SEX. We do have it but i hardly enjoy it cos i must have begged before having my way in or may not even get it @all, it should have been a 2-way thing bt mine has always been a 1way thing until I met a lady during my NYSC programme which gave me a new dimension of S??. S?? is an important factor in marriages and the only way i can resolve this is to blend my partner to my taste sex-wise before taking her to the altar. The lady i met during my NYSC programme lacks other attributes of a good wife {domestic work/behavior} but Sex-wise she is 90%. So there is no perfect relationship but if partners are meant for each other,irrespective of any circumstances,they will still be together.

@ deema, NYSC Programme really affects so many relationships and most LTR collapse due to NYSC Programme. Mine almost collapse but i know what i need in a partner. So i either use the new catch to corrects the error in my LTR than starting all over again with a new catch. An devil you know is better than an angel you don't understand. If he is for you,he will surely regrets his actions and come back to you. I'm a guy and have done almost everything out there but i know what is good for me but some guys lost in the race.

1) when relationship too long, see finish go enter and the next thing is break up.

2) People get older, change levels and views. When u date some1 for like 5 yrs, u must hav left d level u were when u started wt d person. This will change your taste. if your partner does not fit into this new taste, then it is over.

3) The long time gives room for non committed pple to find better partners

4) If you are nt married, then u r not married. It is the vow and children that keep some marriages 2geda. That marriage commitment is not present in a relationship. Relationship no matter hw long is not marriage. Wht pple wil ordinarily endure in a marriage, pple won't take it in a long relationship cos there is no formal bond.

melodytoda, o kuu lakaye

1) too much of everything is bad
2) familiarity breeds contempt

really?? ve been dating my fiancee for 9 years now! and we love each other like crazy. we are getting married in October

Re:  Why Do Long Term Relationships Break Up?

I don't know!

One main reason why long term relationship breakes up is
1)you are tired of fucking and you need 2 try another person
2)you are tired of being responsible if she is not good in bed
3)you are tired of her if she is very fat.You now need a slim person.
4)you are tired of sucking.You need sum one who will suck yours.
Hi i hope iam right?

One main reason why long term relationship breakes up is
1)you are tired of fucking and you need 2 try another person
2)you are tired of being responsible if she is not good in bed
3)you are tired of her if she is very fat.You now need a slim person.
4)you are tired of sucking.You need sum one who will suck yours.
Hi i hope iam right?

One main reason why long term relationship breakes up is
1)you are tired of fucking and you need 2 try another person
2)you are tired of being responsible if she is not good in bed
3)you are tired of her if she is very fat.You now need a slim person.
4)you are tired of sucking.You need sum one who will suck yours.
Hi i hope iam right?

One main reason why long term relationship breakes up is
1)you are tired of fucking and you need 2 try another person
2)you are tired of being responsible if she is not good in bed
3)you are tired of her if she is very fat.You now need a slim person.
4)you are tired of sucking.You need sum one who will suck yours.
Hi i hope iam right?

^^By posting one stuff 4 times, You are more than WRONG!!

melodytoda:

1) [size=18pt]when relationship too long, see finish go enter and the next thing is break up.[/size]

2) People get older, change levels  and views. When u date some1 for like 5 yrs, u must hav left d level u were when u started wt d person. This will change your taste. if your partner does not fit into this new taste, then it is over.

3) The long time gives room for non committed pple to find better partners

4) If you are nt married, then u r not married. It is the vow and children that keep some marriages 2geda. That marriage commitment is not present in a relationship. Relationship no matter hw long is not marriage. Wht pple wil ordinarily endure in a marriage, pple won't take it in a long relationship cos there is no formal bond.

Exactly the same thing my momma used to tell me

@ Vincent. Option 1 and 2 ONLY are part of it.

The more poeple stay in relationship the more they know each other. Pretentions at first will open way to realities at long run.Could  be a wrong choice or failed expectations.

idmoore:

I av being courting my fiancee for 7 yrs now & we stil approach other like we jus met last two months cos d love and respect is stil there. I treat her wit care & love, wich has given her d confidence dat nobody xpect me. So matters on how u want your relationship 2 be like cos love & understanding really matters alot even in marriages u can easily get tired of each other within 6-12 months of marriage but if u 'r meant 4 each other, either courtship/marriage pple wil hardly knw u difference!

Couldn't have said it any better. I agree

IMO, i wouldnt advice a LTR the reason being that after a while the things you do could seem repetitive and lack spontaenity (if thats the correct spelling) and could be very bad besides why wait for sooooo long to know the next step either you move ahead or you end it.

i really don't know

The same thing just happened to me and it happened for these reasons:

1: We started dating in Naija and came to the US, She works in California and i'm in school in Idaho. The distance has been very frustrating and we both get very lonely even in the midst of people and friends.

2: She cant leave California and i cant leave Idaho cause we'll lose our Visa's and if we get married she'll lose her HI Visa status and cant work, meanwhile as a student i am not allowed to work more than 20 hours a week when the semester is in session and 40 hours in my breaks. With a terrible economy its very hard to even get a job.

It was a hard decision but it was best for us to just break up. We had been dating for almost 6 years in Naija before we came here and i've been here for a little over 2 years.

America changes everything for everyone. Sometimes guys almost go mad trying to fight the system. Its either U live with it or get out.

waoooo

One of the instrument and vehicle of love and lasting relationship is Commitment. If that is missing, is either you av a broken relatnship, or a broken Home. Dats all

1.Familiarity {Over familiarity}
2.Boredom
3.which leads to Adventure
4Knowing d person to much

1. because d babe don c guy wey cerious.
2.because d babe is maner lex.
3. because d guy family refuse to accept d gurl. vis a vis
4. because d guy is nt man enof.

I stil don't know