deleSayo:
Our marriage has always had issues from the beginning (as you can see in my previous threads) but we passed it off as normal marital issues which we eventually resolved (or so i thought).

Just when i thought things had began to improve between us, i noticed my wife is no longer interested in sex with me and counting now, it's been 6 months since we had anything to do with each other intimately. I tried to joke around about it just to find out her reasons and she joked back with me saying that for the past 6 years she's known me, i haven't changed from these habits:

1. spending all night in front if the tv, sometimes till 3am in the morning and when i eventually come to bed, i snore so bad and this made her go buy earplugs to help her cope with it. when she said this, i felt so offended that i began to sleep in the guest room and she never apologised or begged me to come back to our matrimonial bed (for 3 weeks now)
2. she always complains that i eat too much and my weight has skyrocketed within the past couple of years. and that my late nights in front of tv means im snacking throughout the night . yes this is true to be fair but the truth is that ive ballooned so much in size that i now lack motivation to do anything about it .
3. she has also complained about my breath to the point that she purchased tongue brush for me which i refuse to use as i find it quite rude that she would say such to me.

The only time we spend together as a couple is when she comes to join me in front of the tv after work. Then by 9pm she's off to bathe our son and put him to bed, from there she's goes to sleep, leaving me alone to watch tv into late hours of the night/morning.

I know for a fact that my wife isnt cheating and apart from sex we have a good friendship. but my problem with her is that her overt and covert behaviour towards sex shows someone who is irritated by me and that makes me feel quite offended.

bukatyne:


Honestly, I don't know what you except from us.

You concurred with all your wife said yet are too 'egoistic' to make changes about them.

You also told us that your wife is faithful and loyal. Her telling you what is 'killing' sex quickly tells me she also misses it.

I fact, she should be the one opening this thread and not you.

You have the yam and the knife.

Do as you will.

deleSayo:


you're still going on?
madam please, i came here for advise. If you didn't care about NL you wouldn't still be ranting here.
i know the next thing you'll do is insult me based on my topics but i dont care. They've already exposed you as someone who's childish & unstable so im expecting the worst. Please take your grievances elsewhere and stop reporting comments up and down.

zukky79:
From your writeup, it is clear that you are married to your TV.

Your TV done replace your wife.

Divorce your TV and marry your wife and enjoy your marriage.

genq:



I don't joke with fitness - Fitness to a man is like beauty to a woman. It's an asset you must maintain at all costs! It determines how you are perceived and speaks volumes of your discipline and self-control.

Just read OP's previous threads, clearly someone who has no love for himself, allowed his family take advantage of him and ruin his marriage. Now he's outchea getting fatter and fatter! What a twaat!

Say no to effeminate men

Acidosis:



I pity you. There are better ways to correct a spouse than telling them they've got mouth or body odour. You're probably a kid with no form of relationship whatsoever.

Words are powerful. Saying one's mind unintelligently ultimately kills ego, self-esteem, and relationships.

bukatyne:


Honestly, I don't know what you except from us.

You concurred with all your wife said yet are too 'egoistic' to make changes about them.

You also told us that your wife is faithful and loyal. Her telling you what is 'killing' sex quickly tells me she also misses it.

I fact, she should be the one opening this thread and not you.

You have the yam and the knife.

Do as you will.

Updates on second thoughts, let me ask you:

1. You watch TV till three snacking: what time exactly do you want to have sex with your wife? You claim to live in Lagos so you are leaving your house max 6:30pm. To show affection, your wife watches TV with you till 9:00pm before she preps if the next day. When she is done prepping, I would expect you would go to the room to meet her if you want sex.

2. She complained that you are snoring and bought earplugs so she can till sleep with you in the same room. She saw the guest room and still decided to get earplugs rather than move. Yet, you did not decide to sleep earlier and stop snacking, do decided to move out of the room.

3. Ditto your weight

4. Ditto your breadth.

So my question is:

Why are YOU NOT interested in sex with your wife that you constantly decide to make yourself unattractive to her?

pocohantas:



If you didn’t care, you won’t be here. Direct this energy to your weight loss and mouth odour, Sir.

Sterope:
Wow..You are blaming your wife now

Richy4:
Where u a couch patato before marriage or was that a habit that u picked up recently?... if that was a new habit please drop it..

Bad breath.. That can put any reasonable individual off at any time. It's like a switch no matter how nice u are to your spouse...it doesn't work.. Try and brush your teeth after the late night snacks.

As for snoring, I don't think Nigeria hospital has the capacity to cure that or give guidance..it takes lot of therapy to contain... .

please Do not forsake or abandon yourself because u were married. It is not a crime to still look exactly the way she found u or even better.

I was trying my very best to find a valid reasons why she shouldn't do what she was doing . But I couldn't find any. Other than for better or worse. But she has been sticking to that at least u testified to it...so look into her concerns / grievances and do something about it.

Some guys assuming reverse was the case, they would have started dating their coworkers, their secretaries, ladies across the street etc. Especially those that can't put up with dirty habits

peacefulhome:




Poco!!!!!!!!! He Don do . Ha!!!!! What happen?

deleSayo:


im not blaming her. rather i support her a lot. we live in a 4 bed detached home with a lot of daily chores yet she refuses to take a maid. i always help her out with chores/ cooking what more does she want.

deleSayo:


ive always been a movie geek & football fan from childhood and it's unfair to ask me to change because of marriage. what other time do i have for my hobbies if not after work?

bukatyne:


Honestly, I don't know what you except from us.

You concurred with all your wife said yet are too 'egoistic' to make changes about them.

You also told us that your wife is faithful and loyal. Her telling you what is 'killing' sex quickly tells me she also misses it.

I fact, she should be the one opening this thread and not you.

You have the yam and the knife.

Do as you will.

Updates on second thoughts, let me ask you:

1. You watch TV till three snacking: what time exactly do you want to have sex with your wife? You claim to live in Lagos so you are leaving your house max 6:30pm. To show affection, your wife watches TV with you till 9:00pm before she preps if the next day. When she is done prepping, I would expect you would go to the room to meet her if you want sex.

2. She complained that you are snoring and bought earplugs so she can till sleep with you in the same room. She saw the guest room and still decided to get earplugs rather than move. Yet, you did not decide to sleep earlier and stop snacking, do decided to move out of the room.

3. Ditto your weight

4. Ditto your breadth.

So my question is:

Why are YOU NOT interested in sex with your wife that you constantly decide to make yourself unattractive to her?

Ishilove:
I think the OP is trolling.

pocohantas:


Yes he is. I knew someone smart would spot that, but then- good lesson for men on that table.

Acidosis:



I pity you. There are better ways to correct a spouse than telling them they've got mouth or body odour. You're probably a kid with no form of relationship whatsoever.

Words are powerful. Saying one's mind unintelligently ultimately kills ego, self-esteem, and relationships.

Sundrus:
Before a clean decent woman willingly & happily open punà for u, u suppose dey neat & attractive. Whether she be ur wife or not.

deleSayo:
Our marriage has always had issues from the beginning (as you can see in my previous threads) but we passed it off as normal marital issues which we eventually resolved (or so i thought).

Just when i thought things had began to improve between us, i noticed my wife is no longer interested in sex with me and counting now, it's been 6 months since we had anything to do with each other intimately. I tried to joke around about it just to find out her reasons and she joked back with me saying that for the past 6 years she's known me, i haven't changed from these habits:

1. spending all night in front if the tv, sometimes till 3am in the morning and when i eventually come to bed, i snore so bad and this made her go buy earplugs to help her cope with it. when she said this, i felt so offended that i began to sleep in the guest room and she never apologised or begged me to come back to our matrimonial bed (for 3 weeks now)
2. she always complains that i eat too much and my weight has skyrocketed within the past couple of years. and that my late nights in front of tv means im snacking throughout the night . yes this is true to be fair but the truth is that ive ballooned so much in size that i now lack motivation to do anything about it .
3. she has also complained about my breath to the point that she purchased tongue brush for me which i refuse to use as i find it quite rude that she would say such to me.

The only time we spend together as a couple is when she comes to join me in front of the tv after work. Then by 9pm she's off to bathe our son and put him to bed, from there she's goes to sleep, leaving me alone to watch tv into late hours of the night/morning.

I know for a fact that my wife isnt cheating and apart from sex we have a good friendship. but my problem with her is that her overt and covert behaviour towards sex shows someone who is irritated by me and that makes me feel quite offended.

deleSayo:


ive always been a movie geek & football fan from childhood and it's unfair to ask me to change because of marriage. what other time do i have for my hobbies if not after work?

Acidosis:



I pity you. There are better ways to correct a spouse than telling them they've got mouth or body odour. You're probably a kid with no form of relationship whatsoever.

Words are powerful. Saying one's mind unintelligently ultimately kills ego, self-esteem, and relationships.

deleSayo:
Our marriage has always had issues from the beginning (as you can see in my previous threads) but we passed it off as normal marital issues which we eventually resolved (or so i thought).

Just when i thought things had began to improve between us, i noticed my wife is no longer interested in sex with me and counting now, it's been 6 months since we had anything to do with each other intimately. I tried to joke around about it just to find out her reasons and she joked back with me saying that for the past 6 years she's known me, i haven't changed from these habits:

1. spending all night in front if the tv, sometimes till 3am in the morning and when i eventually come to bed, i snore so bad and this made her go buy earplugs to help her cope with it. when she said this, i felt so offended that i began to sleep in the guest room and she never apologised or begged me to come back to our matrimonial bed (for 3 weeks now)
2. she always complains that i eat too much and my weight has skyrocketed within the past couple of years. and that my late nights in front of tv means im snacking throughout the night . yes this is true to be fair but the truth is that ive ballooned so much in size that i now lack motivation to do anything about it .
3. she has also complained about my breath to the point that she purchased tongue brush for me which i refuse to use as i find it quite rude that she would say such to me.

The only time we spend together as a couple is when she comes to join me in front of the tv after work. Then by 9pm she's off to bathe our son and put him to bed, from there she's goes to sleep, leaving me alone to watch tv into late hours of the night/morning.

I know for a fact that my wife isnt cheating and apart from sex we have a good friendship. but my problem with her is that her overt and covert behaviour towards sex shows someone who is irritated by me and that makes me feel quite offended.

bukatyne:


Interesting.

How should a spouse (wife in this case) tell her husband these things?

deleSayo:


i work a very stressful IT job (which allows me provide the high standard of living my wife has always been used to from birth). so, when i come home by 6/7pm, i enjoy relaxing with my favourite TV shows and movies. whats the crime in that?
don't i deserve time for my own hobbies?

nickvanilla:


Oga Ade what's your problem?

How else can someone let you know that you have mouth and body odour if they don't tell you to your face .

Do you even think it is easy to live and sleep in the same bed with someone who snores, and stinks for good measure?

The poor woman has probably been enduring for years since she got married and has decided it's time she told the man those things before he suffocates her.

If you're the type to suffer in silence, continue. Let those who know how to speak up do do.