taibat61:


Did u hear yourself? "A Namnny to breastfeed d baby"

Nuel4:
of course. How many modern women breastfeed their babies?

funshint:
The husband simply can't tolerate living like a pig. He has sensed you're lazy and dirty that's why he's taking it upon himself to do all the chores. Correct husband!

funshint:
The husband simply can't tolerate living like a pig. He has sensed you're lazy and dirty that's why he's taking it upon himself to do all the chores. Correct husband!

samwash:
You just dey find wahala when problem nor dey.
If only I can be like ur husband.
Most women are looking for a supportive husband.
What I will advice is not to let him stress himself out by doing some of the house chores before he picked it up to do or when he start it, just take it from him & tell him u will finish the job even if he insists.

Adasun:
Lols,what do humans really want?

youngestgrad:
Social experiment thread
OP is probably a single feminist (man-hater type) who created this thread as a twist on the usual complaint of women doing so many domestic chores while their husband sits on the couch and watches TV, she created this thread to see the reaction of nairalanders (men) when the tables are turned.

Adasun:
Lols,what do humans really want?

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

Iffffffy:
like seriously! op, you better come and ask what we experienced in marriage, you will give thanks to God for your hubby.

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

mygreenday:


you didn't type this. the devil and the village people power working in your brain typed this. what a blind f00l you are.

you never mentioned that you ever praised and thanked him for being such a life saver when you needed it the most. if he had dropped money and went off drinking beer with his guys you would have loved it more.

I just hate you so much right now because you remind me of many ungrateful cows like you.

Please go ahead and use this stupidity to fight the man and cause trouble and confusion. open the door wider for the devil and all your village people to come in. FOOOOOL.

Beautykate:


That's the problem, he will not allow me to do anything, and it really pains me seeing him stressed out.

Sixfeetbelle:


We don't want you to turn completely to housemaid. Do some chores, yes, but leave the rest for us.

funshint:
The husband simply can't tolerate living like a pig. He has sensed you're lazy and dirty that's why he's taking it upon himself to do all the chores. Correct husband!

Beautykate:


That's the problem, he will not allow me to do anything, and it really pains me seeing him stressed out.

sweetmelanin:

Hmmm

.. why do I have a strong feeling that this story is fake?

Adasun:
Lols,what do humans really want?

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

Beautykate:
I am writing to ask if you can help me to persuade my husband to do less around the house. I am worried that he is going to make himself ill from exhaustion. Also, and it is hard for me to say this to him without being hurtful, I married him for his fun personality not his work ethic and I fear I am losing him to domestic drudgery. I want an equal partner, not a slave.

We have a toddler and a baby, born few months ago. During the pregnancy, I was quite tired and run down and my darling, supportive husband started to do more and more around the house and with our son (and despite a full-time, responsible job, he has always done more than his fair share of housework). I am now breastfeeding the baby, which is tough because he barely stops feeding and won't really nap anywhere except in my arms.

So this leaves my husband doing the shopping, tidying, washing and cooking. He gets up at 6am every morning to get our toddler ready for nursery, with a packed lunch, and he drops him off before he can get himself off to work. Meanwhile, I just sit around feeding the baby!

I feel permanently guilty and as if the only way I will get my husband to do less is if I do more. The thing is that I can walk away from mess and he can't.

I hugely appreciate him helping, but, beyond the basics, would rather see him sleeping or even cuddling me on the sofa rather than trying to be on top of everything. I love my husband – he is truly the sweetest, most loving, most wonderful lover and father, but I find myself resenting the fact that I barely see his fun side these days because he is so tired that he is essentially ill – and I can't help thinking it is at least partly self-inflicted

gentlegenius:

You are lucky to have a supportive husband who is always willing to lend a helping hand to ensure his wife doesn't suffer. Men don't develop such attitude overnight. They grew up with it. so, obviously, you've already known him for this.
Why then, are you worried now?
As a psychologist, I think you are not actually worried because he work too much, rather, you are worried about the reason he worked too much... You are worried because you know you are the reason... You are worried because you don't know how he feels anytime he return to see lots of mess in the house. Most of those jobs he returns back to do is either created by you or your children. If you eliminate these chores, he won't see any work to do. Obviously, he can't be comfortable in a messed up house, but you can.
You don't need to talk to him to stop overworking himself, you need to ACT! If you are not lazy as some people are suspecting, you can work while your baby is sleeping on bed. Even when the baby is not sleeping, you can tie him/her on your back to do house chores. Everything you know he will like to do, do it yourself before he return back. By so doing, he will always have little or nothing to do. If you refuse to act, then get prepared because anytime his relatives visit and see how he overwork himself, they'll let the whole world know that you are the laziest person on earth.

kalufelix:
The cooking part really makes them feel insecure and uneasy.. You need to see how their eyes dey chooke when i enter market to buy stuffs to cook especially when its obvious i am going to prepare a soup.. My neighbours wife once said she pities the woman i will eventually marry because she will not only loose the "cook" bargaining chip she will also have to be on top of her game to. compete..