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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Biafranguy1(m): 4:49pm On Apr 29, 2020
Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?


You are a big idiot

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Skyscrapper11(m): 4:49pm On Apr 29, 2020
Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?


what's the difference between 27 and 33 óga abeg marry your marry ooo
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by wifeesnatcher(m): 4:49pm On Apr 29, 2020
you did the right thing, stand firm to your decision


a lady that betrayed you with what she's not will never be loyal to you, are you sure you owned the baby boy she gave birth to

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by akeemsaheed: 4:50pm On Apr 29, 2020
Ur story did not make meaning
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Noel19: 4:50pm On Apr 29, 2020
SecretSpy666:
I have heard of this case.... A pastor who knew the husband used it to preach last sunday on facebook live streaming.

I am a woman but I want to tell the husband to divorce the woman. I wonder why some ladies lie so heavily and believes that people will pressure the man to forgive them.

I was told the husband is a young professor and the wicked lady want to be his wife without even a WAEC certificate. That is very bad.

And the young professor was fooled by a Waec holder and forced him to get married to her?

So marriage is about educational status abi?

No wahala!

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by InvertedHammer: 4:51pm On Apr 29, 2020
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You did everything in reverse.

Get to know someone, then marry her.

But not you...

You married someone and then try to know her.

It always ends in regret for those who think they know it all.

By the way, how did someone you met pressure you to marry her in about 2 weeks?

You are very indecisive in life..therein is your problem.

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Gbengazzee(m): 4:51pm On Apr 29, 2020
To have her back is a decision you have to take. You are the one to live with her not we nairalanders.

If the whole thing you said is true, your decision to quit the Marriage is justified since trust is damaged. Marriage shouldnt be built on pretence and falsehood.

You should expect some sort of attack, at this time you need to be very prayerful to overcome this moment.

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Nobody: 4:52pm On Apr 29, 2020
Is she related to Lai Mohammed??

Brother, please end that marriage now!!!

I have my reasons but I won't tell you!!!
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by humblemikel(f): 4:52pm On Apr 29, 2020
Stories we read daily
No wonder the world is coming to an end
Nawaoooo
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Emperor4tune(m): 4:52pm On Apr 29, 2020
just a single man having all these problems,my broda systematically speaking u are half dead,forgive me if am rude but the truth is that u are dying gradually
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by memnon37(m): 4:52pm On Apr 29, 2020
Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?



As much as I hate typing so much mr man you have problems with unforgiveness it was bad she lied to you and you now know, let it go and move on with your lives. She had fibroid she has operated it and it's out and now you have a boy, she isn't educated but she has written waec with 9 credits wHich shows prospects that she is intelligent and all this rumble about you sending her out just shows you can't forgive which is tantamount for STAYING MARRIED oga if I had cane I'll flog you. Go and get your wife back forgive her and move on with your life have you not read where it's writhen. ..forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by simplyOJ(m): 4:52pm On Apr 29, 2020
This is a ONE chance case. What manner of lies are these
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Nharncygrace(f): 4:53pm On Apr 29, 2020
My dear she has manipulated you spiritually...just be distancing yourself from her and pray hard coz she’ll want to Attack you spiritually.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Ajixegun: 4:53pm On Apr 29, 2020
There was never a marriage between two of you, because of deceits prior to joining both you has made it invalid union.

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Nobody: 4:54pm On Apr 29, 2020
psucc:
Except you have never committed sin, I will advice you go on with the divorce. But if you have, even for once, try and forgive her. She must have played that game to quit single.

Again, if you can accomidate her, yöu can as well build her into her own dream. Millions are married to illitrates and still build great homes.

Remember, you swore to an oath to love her till the end.
Op should forgive her and then divorce her!!
That is my advice!!!

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Nobody: 4:54pm On Apr 29, 2020
okey4reel:

I am experiencing such at the moment now, as soon as I told her that I can't get married to her cos of all the things I discovered which are similar to it's all hell went loose, she started insulting me and my family, presently she has refused to leave my house and I am forced to go n stay with a friend till after the Lockdown

Hmmmmmmmm your case is a tough one but you need to be very careful. Jilted women can be very deadly, trust me I know what I am saying.

Pretend as if you have gotten a change of heart, call her and apologise for the things you said. Go back to your house and act all lovey dovey to her. During this time start getting your important documents like passport, certificates out of the house to a safe place, you can forget about the electronics because you can always buy those back once you have your life. Once you have gotten all your important stuff away from the house - take off to a safe location even if it means going to rent another house. Let her eat the apartment. Your life is more important.

From a concerned brother cool

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by babakb: 4:55pm On Apr 29, 2020
hephedollarpoh:
pardon me but wanna ask you? how come you took your time to write all those things about her?

are you a saint yourself?

I have come to understand that people do things for some reasons. did you ever love her? or was it lust?

you see my brother, true love doesn't see weaknesses nor has time to roll on people's mistake. if truly you want her, send her to school. erase d lies from you head and live a beautiful life


yes It is not easy, I understand. it's not easy at all. but please, for the sake of your child.

I think you should take your child to a trusted relative, den you and wifey should stay at home together and talk it out.

agree and disagree.
fight and reconnect.

but don't go for divorce, it's not d best solution.


my piece here is... the devil you know, is better than the one coming.

So because he is not a Saint he should accept any thrash.

OP I really pity you, you even have the time to seek for Advice, kick her lying asss out, I am very sure there are lot of lies you are yet to discover, she doesn't love you, she only want to be addressed as a Lecturer Wife and she is also punishing you for misdeeds of one of her exes...

Kick the biiitch out now, your mom can take care of your son and there are many honest Angels out there.

Don't allow one frustrated broke lying woman imprison your happiness in a fake marriage.

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Samabu07(m): 4:55pm On Apr 29, 2020
Under the canonical laws, marriage didn't hold. If you knew what you know now you wouldn't have gotten yourself married to her in the first case.
Bros, rethink and end it. You were tricked into her.
But you should have done some background checks! Marriage isn't bf/gf relationship.

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by newazuka: 4:55pm On Apr 29, 2020
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Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?


Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by highflyer012020: 4:55pm On Apr 29, 2020
Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?



my brother i reason with you and i see what you are passing through. initially you loved and respected her being a prophetess in her church and most of her prophecies comes to pass, so you believed every thing she told you. but there was a mistake at the 2 weeks courtship. 1. you did not prepared for marriage i.e you did not ask yourself some hard truth if she is the right person for you with personal conviction 2. you succumb to pressure of hurry to tie the nuptial knot with her. i will advise since both of you are already married with a kid and she is out of your house now , use this period to itemize those things you hate such as being party freak, always calling her elder brother in case of little quarrels ( hope you not a woman beater), show off in church and always going for meetings. Give her a second chance by engaging elders of your family and talk to them so that your family members can go and talk to their family on peace talk, while on peace talk with her family let them know where the shoe is pinching you and if they reconciles both of you, take your wife home and enjoy with her. but do not expect her to change overnight you have to know you need to build up your desired woman. i will conclude with 1st peter 4 :1-5. deal with your wife as a weaker vessel so that your prayers will not be hindered. this is the scripture that helped to manage my own wife. brother calm down, you will succeed in your marriage in Jesus name

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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by cpmconsultingltd: 4:55pm On Apr 29, 2020
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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by kemii7367: 4:55pm On Apr 29, 2020
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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by HIbreed(m): 4:55pm On Apr 29, 2020
benedima1990:
I can feel ur pain brother, needless to say you're too young to kill yourself now

I tried so much to b fair with my judgement on her but the betrayal, illiteracy and extreme extrovert is something me too cannot withstand ,hence I feel your pain

if u are well to do , get another apartment for her and her child, feed and take care of their expenses, get yourself another suitable wife that will match your standard . if not , one of u will develop hypertension soon .
i hate overtly social women, facing same with my wife. Am an introvert, its saddening!
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Jaqenhghar: 4:56pm On Apr 29, 2020
ollypass:
If they X ray your story very well..you are also a decietful man, when you dey knack her just 2 weeks into relationships..your dick no tell u to stop u be introvert she be extrovert..when she was giving prophesy that was coming true and you ma latch onto her hoping she will give you prophesy to change your financial condition you didn't know she likes lace and Hollandia and belonged to many society in church..now your done with the pussy to the extent of bearing you a child you want divorce so you can be free to peruse another young pussy may be from your school..go and repent from your decietful ways instead of looking for advice here
See man when dey reason. Abeg barman give am one big stout!
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by MrNipplesLover(m): 4:56pm On Apr 29, 2020
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Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by livebyday(m): 4:56pm On Apr 29, 2020
gamapoy539:
Fakè story

As fake as buhari's integrity
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by Daboomb: 4:57pm On Apr 29, 2020
gamapoy539:
Fakè story

Stupidly Fake!
- She got Nine Credits in one seating........... yet she hates studying/Book! Are you the one that wrote the Exam for her? grin grin
- She is a Prophetess that speaks in 'fake' tongues but she does not like going to Church. shocked shocked

Anyway, take Smiper and drink, to get rid of her. tongue tongue
Shebi you want advice, right? undecided grin grin
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by pasol4real(m): 4:58pm On Apr 29, 2020
MrSly:
This is outright deceit and cheating of highest order. In fact the lady in question suppose to be handed over to EFCC for fraud charges. In my church (Catholic) this marriage never existed between th both of you because it was built on lies and deceit. That is to say that you are not even married to her in first place.
Oga am also a Catholic but I can assure you that these things are regarded as “frivolous” meaning not enough to annul a marriage. I acknowledge that the Catholic Church can declare your marriage null n void if they discover “deceit” but falsification of age , academic qualification etc don’t count. There are some very hidden secrets that the church counts as worthy enough to annul a union. For example a woman that knew she was barren but dint inform her husband before marriage.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by duchaB(m): 4:58pm On Apr 29, 2020
Lordsonn:
Greetings to you all. I want to go straight to the point. I opened this account because of my marital problems.

From the day I met my wife, she was after marriage. In less than two weeks of meeting her, she started pressurizing me to meet her family members which I succumbed to.

These are what she told me at the beginning of the relationship:

1) She had HND from Kaduna Polytechnics
2) She has Diploma in Computer Science
3) She is a professional cake baker
4) She was three months pregnant
5) That she was 27 years

My discoveries after marriage:

1) She doesn’t have any HND, infact no good WAEC result
2) She cannot even connect laptop to printer and print. She don’t know much about computer at all.
3) She doesn’t know how to bake cake. I discovered that the cake I asked her to bake for me, she gave the contract to her friend.
4) She was never pregnant. She had fibroid and that made her tummy big
5) She was 33 years.

NOTE: the reasons why I believed all she told me at the beginning was because she was a prophetess in her church. She speaks in tongues and prophesy many times and most of the prophecies came to pass.

I was even surprised that in less than two weeks of our relationship, she made move for sex and we started having sex. I did not even think of pre-marital sex because I thought she was a holy woman.

The problems after marriage: several people began to beg me to forgive her and continue with the marriage. I find it difficult but she was still living in my house. I was just being forced my her family and her family members persuaded some of my family members to beg me too. I tried to love her but hatred for her was just building in my heart.

The fibroid surgery was successfully done and she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby boy. I thought the coming of the child may make me to forgive her but I could not recover from her betrayal. I even hate her more.

She wrote WAEC last session and got nine credits but the memory of her betrayal is giving me a lot of psychological trauma. I love an educated woman and cannot see myself glued to an illiterate woman in the name of marriage.

Major problems that made me sent her out:

1) She refused to go to my church. She always want to go to her church and even want me to join her there which I refused.
2) She doesn’t like education at all. She hate going to school and will never carry book to read.
3) Anytime I have disagreement with her, she will call her elder brother. And they will come and talk to me, sometimes in a very condescending manner
4) She is not submissive, very arrogant and talks with anger, authoritatively.
5) She is a societal woman, she loves joining several associations of women and be going to meetings every sunday which I don't like.
6) She value clothes more than human being. She can use any money from the family purse to buy Hollandis, lase, George etc just to dress to her church for show off. I am introvert but she is extremely extrovert.

I sent her out of my house three weeks ago. She is trying to come back in the disguise that she doesn’t want her child to be only one, that it will make the child suffer in the future but I told her I cannot allow her to my house again. I love my little child and I cannot live with such a woman who is full of lies and pretense. I just have hatred for such kind of people.

What do you think I should do?



Other reasons dont seem that bad to me, But No 4, is very serious o.. besides lying like a pathological liar.
These are viperine qualities.
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by livebyday(m): 4:58pm On Apr 29, 2020
gamapoy539:

Someone who is desperately in need of sound advice wouldn't have the time to look for not just one picture but multiple pictures to add to his concocted story.

Exactly

This is such a fake story written by a mod for traffic

See the bolden letters grin

He even spelt every word correctly for someone so traumatized ;FAKE STORY

NAIRALAND STOP SEEKING TRAFFIC THIS WAY, EVERYONE NOW KNOWS THIS GIMIC
Re: I Am Ending My Marriage Because Of These (see Reasons And Give Advise) by NiCurious: 4:59pm On Apr 29, 2020
It took two of you to rush into marriage. If you already knew what you like and don't like in a woman, and she never carried a book to read, and was very social, and you never discussed who was going to attend whose church, etc. etc. etc., you must have been as desperate to marry anything in a skirt, as she was desperate to marry anything in trousers, without taking time to really get to know each other, properly. At this point there is nothing she can do that you won't see in a negative light. Get your divorce, cater for your child, and take your lessons, before even thinking of marriage again. undecided

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