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Re: . by LadySarah: 11:28pm On May 18, 2020 |
Oya Divorec ha nah cos her hymen is broken because it was you that installed it. Men with 100 body counts will invade this thread soon. She was celibate then. Deal with it. 1 Like |
Re: . by Fragility6: 11:47pm On May 18, 2020 |
LadyGCrueDKilaB:E neva reach quarrel na |
Re: . by Kobicove(m): 12:04am On May 19, 2020 |
ObaOfUyo: Return your mummy's phone to her, it's bed time! |
Re: . by SpecialAdviser(m): 12:12am On May 19, 2020 |
Op please ignore all these nonsense and love your wife dearly. What will her virginity add to your life? I am a married man and will advise you not to bother about what will crash your marriage. Your success and failure in life henceforth is beckoned on how you manage your home. Stop seeking advice from kids in nairaland. Love your wife so that she will bring the blessings you need to succeed. She has not cheated, she has not stopped cooking. Be warned, you need her now more than ever. 1 Like |
Re: . by uchman(m): 12:19am On May 19, 2020 |
50% of girls lied to their husband to be about their viginity whenever they observed that the man is serious about the marrying them... This is one lie you must let go without mentioning it, just because no one is perfect and body no be firewood... This should not stop you from getting married to her and dont take this particular lie serious because she love you and was desperate for the marriage... Abeg forgive her because to me, it's nothing... Pray she has good character... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: . by Prymestrr(m): 12:27am On May 19, 2020 |
flokii:Op never claimed to be a virgin from what you can read up there. He clearly asked for sex before marriage which was not out of place but was turned down with the virgin card. So what is your point exactly abi you just rush to comment anything? 2 Likes |
Re: . by Martinez39s(m): 12:36am On May 19, 2020 |
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Re: . by Nobody: 12:38am On May 19, 2020 |
Justice128: That too is a lie She was receiving it from different menz before she got married. Y'all niggas is dumb. Allowing these hoes play you like this |
Re: . by ekaF(f): 12:44am On May 19, 2020 |
uchman:Isn't that deception? You're saying 50% of girls decieve men into marriage. So you're saying he should stick with with a representative of 50% of the deceptive population when there is a 50% population of sincere women out there. 1 Like |
Re: . by uchman(m): 1:10am On May 19, 2020 |
ekaF: Brother, We should not pinpoint on every flaws we see in marriage... You must bear in mind that we are all humans and blood flows in our veins... Conji can hold anybody and the issue of virginity may be complicated when properly looked into... As a matured man, there are lies you will overlook in marriage, only when you noticed that the liar lied just to clear his or her head and not that the person does not love you( even you fit lie in a difficult situation to clear your head ) Bible accounted for people that lied just to clear their heads like the case of Abraham. You dont have to point a finger on a lady because she lied about her virginity when you are guilty of same offence... HE WITHOUT SIN SHOULD CAST THE FIRST STONE! What you expected from the lady is to hold herself before marriage even if conji dey hol am die? You yourself, are you a Virgin? Na the guyman Bleep up, he for done collect since come dey there dey dull because I know that if he had discovered this before marriage, e no go too pain am... But now... E pain am well well... |
Re: . by ekaF(f): 1:11am On May 19, 2020 |
Dear poster, Your anger and confusion are not misplaced. It is not uncommon for we ladies to decieve men in this way. A stunt like this makes a man question the relationship, her loyalty and even her psyche. The reason this trick works is because they know that most men are not ready to do what it takes to divorce the woman usually because of religious reasons or some "Africa induced' stigma. The way I see it there are two options 1. Remain in the marriage and HOPE she is the person you THINK she is even if your trust in her is and love for her has dropped significantly or.... 2. Annul the marriage, deal with the 'consequences' and move on as a wiser person. It's up to you. I hope your story is not real. Because this is not something I'd wish for any responsible guy 2 Likes |
Re: . by lilyheaven: 1:58am On May 19, 2020 |
She is not lying , she masturbates. She may not enjoy sex , that much |
Re: . by flyingdutchman(m): 2:01am On May 19, 2020 |
You all need to grow up. The OP is not talking about the value of the virginity. He is concerned about being lied to. She could simply have been honest with him, no big deal. If she can lie about something as fundamental as this, then what else is she capable of? Women with scores of body counts have confided in their boyfriends who later got married to them, what is difficult here? 5 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 2:18am On May 19, 2020 |
lefulefu:That kind of lie shows the wife has passed the status of secondary virgin, she can only pass for a university virgin. Bros don suffer no be small, I just hope he hadn't planned to use that virginity as collateral somewhere. |
Re: . by MummyIMadeIt: 2:54am On May 19, 2020 |
what if it's not really the status quo of the virginity the Op is worried about, but more about the width of that sensitive region of his spouse. : I am just trying to imagine the Husbands reaction on diving into such ocean he thought as a well. If this is the case then Ops anger can't be quantified at such betrayal of trust. As notable persons had said, he just need to let go of the whole situation but not without a strong frowning at his spouse for such betrayal. It's important you let her know your view on the matter once and for all. Please don't escalate nor bring up the issue again and move on with your union. Happy married life 1 Like |
Re: . by galadima77(m): 3:03am On May 19, 2020 |
Dobson43: Gbam!!! This here, is the reality. |
Re: . by emmaodet: 3:19am On May 19, 2020 |
flokii: The way some of you think, it's really a grate concern for the wellbeing of this nation.Someone deceives him with virginity and you are here saying if he is a virgin himself, whatever happens to coming clean and telling the guy from the beginning that am not a virgin.Why do you people like condoning deceits and manipulations. How will she feel if the same man deceived her into marriage with fake lives like a borrowed car, using uncle's apartment etc as his own while the girl later gets to know. I am sorry but with this mindset, i guess the future of nigeria is bleak. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: . by emmaodet: 3:21am On May 19, 2020 |
Kobicove: Must he use the virginity to get a loan before seeing the deceit in such relationship? of course, most people won't see it until it happens to them. |
Re: . by emmaodet: 3:28am On May 19, 2020 |
Cioccolata: A snake and manipulator of a lady who lies easily is far less worth a piece of skin called hymen. Such a woman shouldn't be dated not to talk of marrying. Today we think it is just hymen but such people are also the ones who deceives a partner by lying that they are single when they have a baby from a previous relationship with their mother in the village. Such person can easily engage in paternity fraud by giving you another man's kid. It is never about the hymen but the trait and character of most ladies and i guess that is why you didn't see anything wrong in what she did. A bird of same feather, flocks together 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 3:30am On May 19, 2020 |
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Re: . by emmaodet: 3:31am On May 19, 2020 |
donbachi: Love who? such a person? whatever happens to opening up if raped? WHy do we like having excuses for women for God sake? If the man had deceived her with fake lifestyle like borrowed car and apartment from uncle to deceive her and regularly borrowed clothes from friends, will you people be giving these ridiculous excuses? and tell the woman to look beyond the deceit and continue with such marriage all in the name of SCAM called LOVE? 4 Likes |
Re: . by emmaodet: 3:36am On May 19, 2020 |
emillysmigael: Nooo noo nooo, Quickly let it slide? as if nothing happened and it's okay? A big deceit like this? if the man had deceived her with a well furnished 3 bedroom flat with a toyota camry while staying in a 1 room face me i face you, would you have let it quickly slide? so that they can enjoy the stupid marriage aka scam? I don't think there is anything to enjoy in this useless marriage. The foundation is wrong, how much more should he expects? tomorrow maybe a paternity fraud from such woman? or a surprise baby kept with her mum in the village etc Divorce the useless bitch op. |
Re: . by emmaodet: 3:43am On May 19, 2020 |
Easybela: Which USELESS for better for worse? and when have women started adhering to such vows? both home and abroad, women initiates over 85% of divorce especially when the man loses his job, shouldn't they remember such vow then? @op, Divorce that useless woman because psychologically, you will never be the same with the woman again all your life. Talk is cheap, reality is real. He was deceived and outsmarted and to avoid such a thing occurring in future, such people should be used as a scapegoat for future Scammers |
Re: . by emmaodet: 3:48am On May 19, 2020 |
Dobson43: Exactly bro, Exactly. Check my replys on this thread, i really frowned against what the woman did a lot. The man should walk away. Today is hymen, tomorrow may be a stepson with her mother, next is paternity fraud from a useless pregnacy from a thug outside. 1 Like |
Re: . by emmaodet: 3:49am On May 19, 2020 |
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Re: . by emmaodet: 3:54am On May 19, 2020 |
LadySarah: Why the lie then? when she knows she is bleeping and deceiving the guy not to bleep her? @op, Divorce the Useless whoore |
Re: . by ATTemi: 4:15am On May 19, 2020 |
“She took it by herself”. Talk to yourself. |
Re: . by Arthur2021: 4:45am On May 19, 2020 |
flokii:you ladies can't stomach what you dish out on men,why insult him? Ladies will run their mouths of men threads,insult redpillers mothers and sisters unprovoked but if the reverse was the case you will say the men here bash women. His virginity isn't a concern here ,non virgins can marry virgins since rich men can marry broke ladies. You ladies insist on hypergamy, we men insist of chastity. This is depriving us of our choices If a man lies about working in Nnpc and its later discovered it's a lie,will you say the Lady has no right yo complain of the blue since she doesn't also have a high income job? 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: . by Nobody: 5:22am On May 19, 2020 |
Justice128:Why would she lie? Because that's what girls are good at. Look guy, forget about virginity and hope she will still got a good behavior over time and she doesn't sneak around to fvck the nigga The part she took her own virginity got me thinking. Did she used carrot or cucumber? 1 Like
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Re: . by karkinase(m): 5:48am On May 19, 2020 |
OP ur wife is a cheap liar...Anyway it depends on you..evaluate and watch her closely...But I wouldn't expect anything better from a liar.. 1 Like |
Re: . by Preferito(m): 6:12am On May 19, 2020 |
flokii:This is not a matter of being virgin or not. This is a matter of not saying the truth. If she had told him that she was not a virgin it still wouldn't change anything from the love he has for her. What sense does it make for her to say that she took her virginity by herself? 1 Like |
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