Boredasf:
So you want him to sacrifice his freedom by marrying you abi
Abeg shift!!!

That young man is wise for not wifeing you up.
Marriage benefits Women not men.

I sincerely hope more men adopt this philosophy.
You women don't deserve marriage.
Any man that decides to marry any woman in this 21st century should know that he is doing her a HUGE favor!

Goddys:
@OP your boyfriend position is well-founded. I have come across many girls that are seemingly angelic, calm, well-nurtured who turned out to be a torn in the life of the man years later after marriage.

I have already started rethinking and reorienting myself on the institution of marriage. It doesn't worth it for some guys. Women are unpredictable even to themselves.

My girlfriend said she would wait till I am ready which I know I may not be. She will be the one to advise herself to break up and move on at the right time. I won't do it myself.

Marriage is a favour to women which in most cases turn men to a working robot, not having time to advance themselves spiritually and otherwise.

Advise yourself and seek out men who consider marriage a priority in their list.

Any woman I may eventually go legal with must personally acknowledge I am doing her a favour if marriage is her priority

IyaTola:
Hi there! I am unable to access my ml mail so do well to drop your mail address. Thanks

Dicktion:
Naija men are now afraid of Naija ladies hence, the fear for marriage

Imagine someone unknowingly and unfortunately gets tied forever to a lady like millenniumlady or sweetcunt97
Even your village people will pray for your soul

shestrong:

844 likes for ds trash. lol

PoliteActivist:


Ovielistic, is it this person below? What happened?

Confusedgirl869:
You see no fcking partner, get behind me satan. You know nothing about me

funmisticqueen2:
Actually yes a relationship with no end goal in mindsuch as marriage and growing a family is a waste of time, i don't date like a scalar quantity, but like a vector quantity.

funmisticqueen2:
yes it will be hard,what breakup isn't. But it gets better with time. I can assure you

For me the best way to get over a breakup is to cry the first night and be angry from then on.

You wasted two years on this guy before he told you his real intentions. That's a whole master's degree dear. You used the equivalent of a master's degree to date that nigga. Time you can never get back.

May time wasters avoid you like the plague in Jesus name. Pls go in peace, you know what to do. If you are in Nigeria and need someone to talk to or someone to just listen. My number is in my siggy.

iyke926:

Just reassure him that you won't become a nuisance to him when you both get married.

Let's wait for the married elders.

shestrong:

844 likes for ds trash. lol

Confusedgirl869:
Thanks bro, I wouldn't say I have any problem, I am clean, we are compatible and all. Even all his friends loves, admire and praises me, they will sometimes ask when he is going to see my people, what are we waiting for but my guy always seem withdrawn or he changes the topic.

funmisticqueen2:
Actually yes a relationship with no end goal in mindsuch as marriage and growing a family is a waste of time, i don't date like a scalar quantity, but like a vector quantity.

Ishilove:

I have never watched a single episode of GOT

Tadeknkeepcalm:
Lose your good man?

In all honesty, he's not as good as you make him out to be.


No responsible person will opt in for babymamaism.


So paddle your boat elsewhere.



Current generation are so scared of commitment. They want all the goodies of a thing but not the baggage that comes with it

Ningen:
This is a man that doesn't want to marry you.
But you want to coerce him into it.

Are you that desperate for a ring?
A superficial deception to paddle a lie??

You talk about wanting a good home;
But here you are, ready to build one on a straw.

If you have to BEG and CONVINCE him to marry you, then surely he DOESN'T see your worth. It's all a facade; He will never be committed to you.

Your goals do not align. Find a new path.

Louder plssss!!!!!!!! Ladies needs to know the truth!
There are men out there that'll tick your box.

Mayng01:
Truth is bitter, if only you would accept and execute it. Request for some rooms to breathe from him , keep that for a while like that, & make sure sex too isn’t involved anymore during the task. If truly you’re meant to be together, he will come back for you & tell you he is ready, if he does not, God has not destined you for each other. Pray to God for your man and he will surely locate you. Unleash yourself from infatuation & face reality, the fact remains from his comment, you will be used and dumped................ a word!

Goddys:
@OP your boyfriend position is well-founded. I have come across many girls that are seemingly angelic, calm, well-nurtured who turned out to be a torn in the life of the man years later after marriage.

I have already started rethinking and reorienting myself on the institution of marriage. It doesn't worth it for some guys. Women are unpredictable even to themselves.

My girlfriend said she would wait till I am ready which I know I may not be. She will be the one to advise herself to break up and move on at the right time. I won't do it myself.

Marriage is a favour to women which in most cases turn men to a working robot, not having time to advance themselves spiritually and otherwise.

Advise yourself and seek out men who consider marriage a priority in their list.


Please, if you really love this girl and mean well for her' break up with her peacefully.

Any woman I may eventually go legal with must personally acknowledge I am doing her a favour if marriage is her priority

Confusedgirl869:
It's going to be hard. Thanks dear

Confusedgirl869:
My sister, I tire o. To think that he is the first man I fell hopelessly for. I have always been cautious of this love thing not getting to my head. It was just different with him and worst is I'm not sure I can move on with someone else.

Confusedgirl869:
Ha, see as you whip me. Thanks dear, truth is hard. I appreciate.

LordOfTheGame:
Different people with different problems. Men like us are seriously looking for a serious and sensible girl to marry and settle down with while some others are running away and looking for only baby mamas.
Life shaa....

Ade3131:
@Confusedgirl869

I hope you read the comment made by this wonderful man below. I'm recommending you take his advice wholeheartedly bcuz he somehow touched on my story without knowing me. Am currently living in regrets of my past mistake with my ex. If only I had done more, if only I had showed her kind of zeal for marriage at the time....if only I had known I will be the one who can't live without her.

My dear, just like am counting my losses, your Mr. Perfect guy will remember you when you're long gone in your God destined husband's house seeping tea with honey. He will most likely realize all this thought of "baby mama" thing as just being childish.

There comes a time in a man's life when all that matters to him is family....to see and have people around him that he can call his own. He thinks he will remain a youngman forever. Old age will teach him the lesson of his life but trust me it will be too late. And what makes it worse at that age is being in the company of those he detest but can't confront them to tell them of his dislike for them when he realizes he's married the wrong person.

Like I tell people, life is a bad teacher. You fail but never get the opportunity to right your wrongs. It's just one life. Get it right now or regret every moment of your life. Please go for someone who shares your values about life, particularly those of marriage and family. Peace

Jamesayo:
He can go get his babies from baby factories. If you love yourself and your future, it's better you RUN for your life. You are completely on your own. He loves his space, which yeye space? You should have learnt better from your own background. Many people never survived it. If you mean the world to him, then he'll do everything to bring you to his space.

If he's shying away, he has his heart somewhere else. Ensure to do the right thing.

God help you!!!

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.