Ariza:
I wonder why it affects most Men when women earn higher. If you create geninue bond , respect, friendship and love between you and your woman, little material things like 'earnings' shouldn't create insecurity in you or gaps in your relationship/marriage. A woman who loves you will never disregard you. Work towards creating unbreakable bond with your partner then you will not have to worry about them earning more.


I'm directing this to men because most of you do not know how to create lasting impression but will wail, cry, throw trantrums when replaced.

saasala:


Aunty, wait, why are you looking away in your do. Lemme see your face na

Ariza:
I wonder why it affects most Men when women earn higher. If you create geninue bond , respect, friendship and love between you and your woman, little material things like 'earnings' shouldn't create insecurity in you or gaps in your relationship/marriage. A woman who loves you will never disregard you. Work towards creating unbreakable bond with your partner then you will not have to worry about them earning more.


I'm directing this to men because most of you do not know how to create lasting impression but will wail, cry, throw trantrums when replaced.

Bola146:
Where there is genuine love and trust, a woman would be submissive to her husband, they do not own anything than the children

Alexaonfleek:

NL is a faceless forum na

Jsaviour:


You earn less than a woman and still get mind to cheat? When your whole time should be spent on building yourself to upgrade your income?

I don't even know what some Nigerian men want Sha.

Anyway, na to just kick the man comot for my house asap.

You can't be double useless at the same time.

The moment you dishonour your wife or marriage by cheating, you lose all respect due to you.

The worst are those who are been fed by their wives and still cheat or beat the woman.

Them no born you well walai!!

Respect is reciprocal. The amount of respect you accord me is what I will give back.

Gone are the days women endure trash just to be called virtuous or submissive.

If you as a man throw your authority to the dogs through irresponsibility, the woman will help you match it to pieces.

Ariza:
This is telling women not to work at all because if only everyone is destined to make it at the same time same place, same way and equal measures will your suggestion be achievable. Some things aren't set in stones and SUCCESS is one of it. Even if a woman search for a man who "wants" to go further how sure is she that he will go further or do that that before her.

And , There is a difference between a submissive woman and coherced submissive Woman. If a woman is submissive for a reason, it is a disaster waiting to happen because the day that 'reason' is found wanting the submission disappears. Unfortunately that's what is happening these days. Most women like you suggest only submit because their husbands have more materially. That's why people with Op's mentality exist .

I believe women should be encouraged to stand and live on their own, pay their bills and aquire whatever properties and Men should go for such Women. Only when two are equal or at least equal in their own eyes can there be genuine love. But in a society where Men would rather look for substandard women to refine and love , where Women will rather paint face and look beautiful expecting their Lords , there may never be True Love or Submission.

larj:
Normally i overlook most topic, but let me comment for the sake of someone.
What women need is enveloped in two things :
1) Resources
2) Attention.
The resources as we all know , mostly money and security
The attention on the other hand is not just the attention, but what comes off it , like love and romance, sweet words, great sex, helping at home, respect, care and all.
The two are quite important, many men substitute one for the other, give her resources and some women can manage with little attention, but God epp you when she has little need of your resources or earns more and you can't provide the attention. That's where wahala starts to happen. She can't earn as much or more than you and you still won't give her attention even in little things as helping with the kids or chores at home. Most men's ego can't take it. Even if a woman wants to run wild at this time she can be reasoned with if the right attention is given and there's communication. It's a man's God given role to draw his wife to agreement with him through communication. But what do I know. They just give marriage certificate to any one without training. It is not love that determines a good marriage or any goal in life. Principles determine the outcome of anything. You actions has to be grounded from principles to get a desired outcome like a blissful home. It's not too late to change and align your actions to true principles. Okay bye

Ariza:
I wonder why it affects most Men when women earn higher. If you create geninue bond , respect, friendship and love between you and your woman, little material things like 'earnings' shouldn't create insecurity in you or gaps in your relationship/marriage. A woman who loves you will never disregard you. Work towards creating unbreakable bond with your partner then you will not have to worry about them earning more.


I'm directing this to men because most of you do not know how to create lasting impression but will wail, cry, throw trantrums when replaced.

trustperky:
Hmmmmm

bdchange:
Money is power and power intoxicate no matter the gender that wields it. In this part of the world the woman already has a mindset that the man must be the provider when it comes to union between couples. So when the reverse is the case she finds it tough not to use it against the man. If she earns more than the man then she will provide higher and have more money to spend. There are few ladies out there who won't mind but majority of them will definitely use it against the man. This is the society we live in and there is nothing you can do about it.

placeofallure:


It can't be an issue. Especially when that didn't form the basis of your marriage. When you marry for love, friendship, companionship, I don't see money causing a war just because....at a point, I earned more than him, we did not die.


Please, check my signature.

fortune1968:
Whatever make people still think too much about women , I wouldn't know . The earlier menfolk realize that there is hardly any good one among women the better . Just know how to plan your life . You MAY get married but NEVER expect any good thing from your wife or you will be disappointed . Look at Aso Rock today and look well , you will find out that even The President wife is giving him a lot of problems . The man is just being silent . Today , many people who no longer attach themselves to women are having peace of mind . You will never know until you experience it . Young men , be warned ! Women are insatiable until they kill you !

chiddyok:
Dear woman, you will never be submissive enough for a man you earn more than. You will either resent his headship on empty pocket or he will resent you and make life hell for you. Even if you submit your salary on both knees he will wonder why you got paid on time if you aren’t sleeping with your boss. To avoid stories that touch, until the day men can carry pregnancy, please let them till the ground and be the head. If you want to go far, marry a man who wants to go further. If you want to earn millions, look for a man who wants to earn double. Don’t let them fool you, there’s nothing like a submissive husband.

AfroKnight:



I saw this on FP just now and I knew I’d find you here. You didn’t disappoint. As usual, you are throwing jabs at innocent men. Continue.

It is a known fact that wives are anything but gracious when they earn more than their husbands. It should not be so.

spiritedtete:


I was just being realistic... expect everything and anything from a man... we might say he will be faithful and boom... he bleeps up and we might say he will mess up and he will stand by his spirit...

I am man... i have mingle and gist with all and sundry.. you see that thing called faithfulness it is with Grace.. Age and time. It is not principles, discipline nor vows no!

chiddyok:
Dear woman, you will never be submissive enough for a man you earn more than. You will either resent his headship on empty pocket or he will resent you and make life hell for you. Even if you submit your salary on both knees he will wonder why you got paid on time if you aren’t sleeping with your boss. To avoid stories that touch, until the day men can carry pregnancy, please let them till the ground and be the head. If you want to go far, marry a man who wants to go further. If you want to earn millions, look for a man who wants to earn double. Don’t let them fool you, there’s nothing like a submissive husband.

LordKO:


You're one closet chauvinist; you always use every little opportunity to disparage men subtly.

LordKO:


You're one closet chauvinist; you always use every little opportunity to disparage men subtly.

sunnysmile80:


Thank you for this contribution. Please I have a question, and I will be grateful if my question is answered.

From your submission, you said that women need:
1. Resources, eg: (a).money. (b).security.
2. Attention.

Question:
Please can you throw more light on SECURITY?
I want to have a perfect understanding of what it means. Thank you.

sunnysmile80:


Thank you for this contribution. Please I have a question, and I will be grateful if my question is answered.

From your submission, you said that women need:
1. Resources, eg: (a).money. (b).security.
2. Attention.

Question:
Please can you throw more light on SECURITY?
I want to have a perfect understanding of what it means. Thank you.

letitrainnow:


Love this. Please are you a marriage counselor? Because you speak volumes in few words.