Kizzygentle:

Dosent matter if am married or not. State your point.

EzzyCarter:



See someone's reasoning .
Those days when you get home from work and you ain't in the mood for sex I guess you wouldn't have an issue if your madam goes to the guy next door to "get it". Afterall, it's not on your wife, It's on you! And it's not cheating!
Keep that same energy bruv!

exposition:
Sometimes when my wife is asleep I go take style suck breast suck breast sotay she go still behave like she dey sleep and I go now take style shift pant! She go now behave like say she know no but she know!
Pls is that one rape?

Joycekkh:
Some ladies actually dont have a single atom of shame left in them, Victoria should have at least protect the little image her husband has.

supremenews:
Marital rape exists, I have experienced it- Victoria Inyama counters Anita Joseph (video)

Nollywood actress, Victoria Inyama, has countered the opinion of her colleague, Anita Joseph, who over the weekend faulted statement made by some married women that their husbands raped them when they weren't in the mood for sex.

Anita in a video made with her husband argued that a woman cannot claim her husband raped her if he had sex with her when she wasn't in the mood. She opined that the body of a woman is the food of her husband and should be made available whenever he needs to feed on it.

Reacting to Anita's video, Victoria said there indeed is a thing called Marital rape and that many married women have experienced and are still experiencing it. She said sex even in marriage should be with consent. She argued that forcefully having sex with a spouse is another act of domestic violence.

She said she has experienced marital rape and that it leaves so many women damaged.

Can a husband rape? Yes a husband can rape his spouse. It depends. Let me define it. Marital rape or spousal rape is the act of sexual intercourse with ones spouse without the spouse's consent. The lack of consent is essential here because it does not need to involve physical violence. Marital rape is a form of domestic violence and sexual abuse.

Husbands can rape wife. I do not know about wife raping a husband. The most important thing is consent is needed. A lot of women constantly raped in their marriage. They are so ashamed to even talk about it. I have experienced it and I am learning about it. The trauma and the damage it causes is beyond your understanding'' she said


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FJ-M6n6t_a4



https://www.instagram.com/tv/CBbLFb0AYyM/?igshid=11mxt0zzhj0km

HITsquad:
Men, Don't rape your wife, if she denies you sex, go outside and get it... Its not on you, it's on her! And it's not cheating!

mindtricks:


That is what a typical untrained Nigerian police will do. But those well informed know the possibilities and will do better than that.

EzzyCarter:



See someone's reasoning .
Those days when you get home from work and you ain't in the mood for sex I guess you wouldn't have an issue if your madam goes to the guy next door to "get it". Afterall, it's not on your wife, It's on you! And it's not cheating!
Keep that same energy bruv!

Deoboss:


A man raping a female or vice versa is very bad.

This is my own opinion on marital rape:
It’s an exaggeration from wives as her husband has carnal knowledge of his wife from onset.

Men surfer more in marriages.

Is marriage really worth it? Answer is a capital NO.

All African wives will stop letting their husband sleep with them within time (sure or ask married men this fact).

So if a husband feels like making love to his wife & if she says no and he still goes on to make love to her then it’s called marital rape?

What are the actual conjugal rights of a man in marriage?

Marriage is for companionship, love, procreation & sex. Men don’t enjoy much from marriage at the many rules on lean rights of a husband over his wife.

So why then do men marry? Just to work hard & provide, even the children he trained only remembers & assist their mother (his wife) when they are older & fend for themselves while the man (her husband) who now becomes a retiree enjoys nothing & one day soon he then dies or what else do men enjoy in marriages?

nisco18ng:
A wife has given all the consent in the world the day she exchanged vows 'with my body,I'll worship you'.
Besides, after marriage, the two has become one flesh, which makes it impossible to rape yourself. Its like saying I raped myself by masturbating or i need my own consent to masturbate.
Even in the greatest misunderstanding, my wife can't deny me that and vice versa. We can lay like log of wood and act like she isn't feeling anything, but never denial.

Fountainofyouth:



Don't be stupid with your yeye sarcasm, marital rape is real, do you know what rape is? Forcibly having sex with anyone or your wife, that means she won't be wet but dry, forcing it in will cause bruises in that area which can also result to bleading in some cases, if the woman then goes to the hospital or police to report him immediately after the evil act, it will be treated as assault which is also a crime, and the evil nonentity will be charged for it,

If you like cheat on your wife because she said no, that's your business.

placeofallure:
We're all humans and blood flows in our veins. Everything boils to understanding your partner, being friends and enjoying companionship.

If her boss, colleague or client bullies her at work OR in the instance of the loss of a beloved OR when down physically, a woman won't be in the mood. But, when your husband is the first person you tell when any of these happens, he won't even ask to get down with you. He'd know that's not a good time. He's not mad, he won't rape you.

When the excuses become incessant, that's when a man becomes a monster and your kinda 'rape' (which I strongly disapprove) can happen.

Under no guise must a man forcefully get down with a woman, whether married to her or not. It's emotionally demoralising. As enjoyable as sex is, when it is forced, it loses all the flavour.

For your woman to consistently refuse you, there's an underlying problem which the couple should work on and if it's not working, go your separate ways so you can have sex with another person in peace.

blessed2share:
Rape is often associated with physical violence, but can rape still occur if there was no physical violence or any form of struggle between the parties? Can’t the perpetrator use psychological manipulation, power and position among other things to subdue the victim? Examples?

A minor cannot give consent. It doesn’t matter if she didn’t shout or if she came back for more. It is rape. Period.

You may end up having consensual sex with your student (or subordinate in the office) that travelled kilometres or even drove herself all the way to meet you in the hotel room, but you may have coerced the consent. It is rape.

Your house-help or ward sees no other place to turn when you asked for sex. She stands the risk of losing her shelter and maybe more. So, she gives in and even moaned rather than cry or shout for help during the session. It is rape.

She sees you as a man of God and couldn’t believe what you were up to when she knew what you were up to. She was mesmerized by the power you wield around you. She gave in didn’t want to “offend God” and kept quiet because she didn’t want to “ruin your ministry”. It is rape.

Now let’s talk about marriage. It can be safely assumed that sex is expected to occur in marriage between 2 consenting adults. The lines between negotiation, coercion, consent, rough play and role-playing may even get blurry. If the woman is having sex with her husband because the man may withhold monthly allowances, is it rape? If the woman is having sex with her husband because she’s afraid the man may go out for sex, is it rape? If the woman is having sex with her husband because the man is a mafia Don that can do and undo, is it rape? We may debate on the scenarios above. However, one clearly unambiguous case of rape in marriage may be when there is physical assault or violence before or during sexual intercourse. Unfortunately, some folks also swing this way and it becomes difficult to prove that the two parties did not plan for the drama.

Rape in marriage is extremely sensitive and delicate. It is a coin with two sides but with “tails” on both sides for the victim (male or female). On one hand, the responsibility is on the victim to report the first occurrence of rape in marriage, so that subsequent occasions of rape may not be misconstrued by the perpetrator or the system as a normal husband and wife matter. On the other hand, who will believe him/her the first time? They will tell the victim not to allow the devil to use them to scatter their own home.

My conclusion is that "the fact that you have not experienced it does not mean that the people that said they have experienced it are lying".

Johnsghana:
This lady spews a lot of anti-family and anti-marriage advise and comments on social media. If she failed at her own marriage, it doesnt mean others will. She should look inwards and heal from whatever hurt she is amplifying to the rest of the world. I send light and peace her way.