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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by spiceadole: 1:13am On Jun 25, 2020
Dididrumz:


What do You mean by age mate is not possible for my type
Don't just say things because you feel like saying things.

what if you meet a guy and you guys started talking, He was so mature, talks with respect and all that. But through this period the age talk did not just come up until feelings started building up only for you to find out that You are 2years older than him. what will You do??



It's still dsame thing: Intelligence Quotient/Intelligence Level. it's the same thing.
age has nothing to do with IQ ok.

I will detach and treat him as one of my younger brothers.

I can't be with a man I'm older than.
I am a first child..I have younger brothers who respect me & take instructions from me.
I cannot "open legs" or "bow" for a man in their age group.

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Mbitiouz69: 1:24am On Jun 25, 2020
spiceadole:


I will detach and treat him as one of my younger brothers.

I can't be with a man I'm older than.
I am a first child..I have younger brothers who respect me & take instructions from me.
I cannot "open legs" or "bow" for a man in their age group.


Your younger siblings just have to respect him as your husband not by the age, the fact that you are the first child shouldn’t hinder your happiness cause the man you want us younger

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Billygee2u: 2:05am On Jun 25, 2020
Biglittlelois:
It happens yeah, but age doesnt guarantee a blissful happy marriage, just go for compatibility.

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by AreaFada2: 2:47am On Jun 25, 2020
Oyinlomobambam:


90% of ladies out now are feminines come join am with your age mate or circle. How e go be?

Seriously, I was advised not to date my age circle but I insist I love mature ladies.

She might love you so much o but after one or 2kids, them go show you true colour

The unknown is a big factor here. People do change.

But if you were classmates and true soulmates, it might work out.

Fact is poor economy and difficulty of men succeeding early enough means women will move on to marry already established (often older) men. Justifying it with biological clock and economic security.

In my experience, age mates love is very strong. But sometimes around age 40 and above, the man is tempted to seek a younger model. The side chic may get pregnant and before you know it she's the second wife/baby mama. Some stick together till the end though.

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Futuragetty: 3:03am On Jun 25, 2020
AreaFada2:


The unknown is a big factor here. People do change.

But if you were classmates and true soulmates, it might work out.

The fact is poor economy and difficulty of men succeeding early enough means women will move on to marry already established (often older) men. Justifying it with the biological clock and economic security.

In my experience, age mates love is very strong. But sometimes around age 40 and above, the man is tempted to seek a younger model. The side chic may get pregnant and before you know it she's the second wife/baby mama. Some stick together till the end though.
Akiko ifo. Men married to younger women cheat as well.
My Wife -to-be now is just 8 months younger than I am. I knew her from age 4. at least I'm sure of her age.When she walks in walks, I'm awe-struck by her every time.

Assuming I just met her, She may be tempted like most girls to LIE about her actual age. but She can't.

This thread is the reason why most Ladies lie about their AGE. Don't say shit about biological counts in women. Are you planning on raising 10 Kids? Mr.man, 1 or 2 kids is ok.

If you really want a blissful marriage, Forget about this myth
Look for a lady that compliments you. I'd advise that if what you seek is a beautiful face, go for younger ladies. they are everywhere these days.

but if you want stability, everlasting marriage., marry your BEST FRIEND! My wife-to-be, Believes in me more than I believe in myself.


Look for this qualities.

She gets along with your family and friend.
She shares your belief
she makes you a better man
She has ambition- she should have plans too, a career of some sort.

In your eyes, She should be beautiful. Inside and out.
and above all, Shes a follower of Christ Jesus.


Apologies to AreaFada, I shouldn't have quoted you.

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Nobody: 3:22am On Jun 25, 2020
BabaRamota1980:

Shutt UP!! angry angry
Lol...as u kuku no get any sensible thing to say nah
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Limitless72(m): 3:45am On Jun 25, 2020
spiceadole:


I will detach and treat him as one of my younger brothers.

I can't be with a man I'm older than.
I am a first child..I have younger brothers who respect me & take instructions from me.
I cannot "open legs" or "bow" for a man in their age group.

You talk like a kid..
In tradition the woman is not older than the man. So keep your age one side because in the scheme of things those your younger brothers would be chosen to preside over matters that you can't, they can talk where you can't.

They are more powerful in societal things than you not to talk of your husband.

See you mouth like "they take instructions from me. I can't open leg for someone that I'm older than"..

You're a woman and you should know your place in tradition. You can't be more than your husband, nah em go come pay your dowry, nah em you go kneel down give palm wine, nah em name you go answer. So woman of age or toxic femininity, keep your age in the gutter and face reality

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by cooooooks(m): 4:12am On Jun 25, 2020
Maybe balance your problem English first.

#Justbants.

Have a nice day.

Rozz:
I don't subscribe to marrying your age mate as a lady,there will be a balance problems.
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by paddyofboss(m): 4:36am On Jun 25, 2020
addictiv:
Very likely... Men re making money at a younger age now unlike in the past
Through yahoo abi
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Juliusmomoh: 4:42am On Jun 25, 2020
evanso6226:
Hmmmm
Why do u say "hmmm" ?. U mess.
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Juliusmomoh: 4:49am On Jun 25, 2020
Evaberry:
Not possible
We don't understand u
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by aprilwise(m): 4:56am On Jun 25, 2020
[quote author=lilmax post=91023949]Sometimes the higher her age, the higher her body count

Again a 30 year old woman have many disadvantages

So age mate marriage ain't for me. Does body count matter?
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by olowo1930: 5:25am On Jun 25, 2020
age is very important in marital aspect but one should go for someone he or she believes he can survive and plan with for future prospects
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Pelxmiye(m): 5:33am On Jun 25, 2020
Why would anyone let a good man or woman go because of age, I'm not saying they should be 15 years or 20 years older and I'm not suggesting that anyone should marry their age mates or people older than them,my point is this; find a balance between marrying within the ideal age bracket and also marrying to be truly happy cos in the end it won't matter whether you married a 28 years old or 35 years old ,what would matter is "did you married the right person for you" besides I really don't buy the age thing in marriage, I'd take a woman who has the youthfulness of Genevieve, I'm sure most men here would gladly accept her if she's was interested in them even with her old age,the only reason some women are citing age as an excuse is because they're lazy and want a soft landing, however they're strong willed women who are not tied to age but to maturity which I believe is the most Important thing in a relationship,while the men who are screaming they'll marry young women also are doing so because of better sex , pleasure of seeing their woman looking younger and still fit in her 40s and above,all these are excuses that the white men have transitioned beyond and Africa too should grow beyond that conditioning, people should marry whoever they want, whether younger or older,but it shouldn't be for selfish ,narrow minded reasons,it should be for love ,all these talk of not marrying older women because they'll look older,my brother when both partners work hand in hand and take care of themselves , they'll look young and agile even in old age,look at Genevieve, just pray God blesses you with a good partner and also the financial abundance to take care of yourself and your woman and for women too stop looking for soft landing,I have met young women who have been disappointed more often by older men in the name of "I can't marry my mate",just find someone who loves you and be ready to make it work and support each other and love each other

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by basupedia: 5:50am On Jun 25, 2020
Meaning of odds
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Smile4mee01: 5:54am On Jun 25, 2020
Guys,

We need to understand female/male nature more.

A man brings leadership, structure, safety, and security, while a woman brings compassion, feelings, and nurturing instinct. Knowing that women generally mature and develop faster than men. It's easy for a woman to question your authority when you are just mates, she will find it hard to submit to such man while the we know there is nothing like a submissive husband.

Though it worked out for a few, like the French president, don't get it twisted. A woman gets her value from her sexual market value, E get why.
Have you wondered why men like Oshimole, okoya, Ned Nwoko went for younger women? Do you think there are no good women of their age mate who will be a better wife?

In a nutshell, women need to look up to you in something, wealth, maturity, fame , something sha. once she is better off than you she sees herself marrying down which is opposite female hypergamy nature. Have a look at the lion pride, the females only mate with the ones they look up to. E get why.

One guy said online, why should i marry her in her decline, while i am in my prime. It's harsh but it's true.

On the flip side, we would continue to see an increase in these as women continue to outnumber men as the world comes to end. Its must be hard to be a woman in this world, Many have even given up on marriage. Its hard for men as well, as the world population increases, so does world resources thin out.

whatever rocks your boat.

#Kunuboy

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Roon9(m): 6:05am On Jun 25, 2020
Zombiekiller010:
My wife is a year older than me, she has never disrespected me or call me by my name even during courtship. (e ) in yoruba is always attached to my name.

My wife too
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Sunrise258: 6:08am On Jun 25, 2020
Rozz:
I don't subscribe to marrying your age mate as a lady,there will be a balance problems.


This only apply to proud/arrogant ladies. My wife is a year older than me and has never been, in anyway, disrespectful. Arrogant ladies, even if they marry Methuselah, would disrespect him. Read about P square Peter n Tayo, Dare art Alade.

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by goodshepherd123(m): 6:17am On Jun 25, 2020
Capsule
Of
Liberty
Daily devotional

*Date : Thursday ,25-06-2020*.

*Theme : The Impossibility specialist*.

*Read : Luke 1 vs 34-37*.

*Luke 1:34 Then said Mary unto the angel, How shall this be, seeing I know not a man* ?

*1:35 And the angel answered and said unto her, The Holy Ghost shall come upon thee, and the power of the Highest shall overshadow thee: therefore also that holy thing which shall be born of thee shall be called the Son of God*.

*1:36 And, behold, thy cousin Elisabeth, she hath also conceived a son in her old age: and this is the sixth month with her, who was called barren*.

*1:37 For with God nothing shall be impossible*.

*Memory verse* :
" _For with God nothing shall be impossible_"- Luke 1 vs 37

*Meditate on this* : *The word Impossibility is missing from the dictionary of God*.

God is a specialist in handling situations that are impossible,hence i call him the impossible specialist.

Therefore he often wait for doctors, or men to pronounce your case as impossible before he will come to your rescue.

In our Bible reading of today, an angel was sent to Mary, that she will concieve and give birth to a child, and she asked how shall this thing be,as she was still a virgin,but the angel answered her,that the power of the highest will overshadow her and the impossible will now become possible.

Therefore i pray for you that the impossible, shall become possible in your life too in Jesus name.

Maybe you are still doubting,i will share my own testimony so as to rouse your faith.

I met my wife in July 2016 at the redemption camp, even though we have known each other while we were students in the university. When we met i proposed to her,that was during the amen convention.

However as we got talking ,i discovered that she was two years old than i was. So i told her to keep on praying ,that i believe that God will reduce her age.

At the holy ghost service of *September 2016, i believe that holy ghost was made for me and my wife, because the theme was " *No more fruitless efforts* " because i had made efforts to get married at least three times and i failed.

But as Daddy G.o was worshipping God the first word that came him was " *the Lord said I should tell someone here ,i have reduced your age* " .

And my wife jumped and shouted for joy, because she knew God was speaking to her.

And later after the program ,she finally agreed to marry me and that particular Friday was also my birthday. So my wife was a birthday gift to me. Till today when people see my wife she still looks like she still in her twenties. Glory be to God!!!

Are you passing through situations that looks impossible, the Lord will arise on your behalf and make the impossible to become possible in Jesus name.

The verses below is my witness.

*Jeremiah 32:27* : _Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh: is there any thing too hard for me_?

*Genesis 18:14*: _Is any thing too hard for the LORD? At the time appointed I will return unto thee, according to the time of life, and Sarah shall have a son_.

In conclusion, just believe in him,and you will soon share your testimony.


*Assignment* :
1) Don't give up ,but keep praying.

*Prayer point*.
1) Father come and do the impossible in my life today in Jesus name.

*© Oluwaleye Akinboyewa*.
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Deltatoto: 6:26am On Jun 25, 2020
gentleibraheem:


A virgin at 30.
Well. . . . . what do I know
no be joke.d funny thg she dresses rugged low waist and all.she said she made a vow that only her husband will open her me no want spoil persin vow.also me too was spiritually advised never to dis virgin anybody.
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by gentleibraheem(m): 6:32am On Jun 25, 2020
Limitless72:



See you mouth like "they take instructions from me. I can't open leg for someone that I'm older than"..

Laughs. . I love nairaland. This scolding is real.
However, one thing I observed so far about most negative comments is this stress on 'RESPECT'. And that is the major problem with Nigerian marriages and Nigeria's sociocultural environment at large.
We interpreted respect as total submissiveness which I interpret as fear. (And that is what most people want in thier marriage relationship really;!).
However, respecting your opinion and suggesting something better which you might disagree with and end up discussing with your partner, makes you see things from each others perspective and that is respect. That is love. That is what make marriages work.

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Ikennamurphy: 6:32am On Jun 25, 2020
Sososo:
that's we're exercise and self discipline comes in on the part of the lady
That's true...are you still single ma'am? cool
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Kelvin1019: 7:22am On Jun 25, 2020
Quote me anywhere, matured lady are usually sweeter .... Like male 23 female 27
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Kennitrust(m): 7:32am On Jun 25, 2020
molybdenum0012:


Fallacy. A cheat will remain a cheat whether he marries an older or younger women. Now ask yourself, why do men with very beautiful women still Cheat with even ugly girls.. You have your answer.

You people should use your brain small before you come here to spew nonsense.
was asking for advice. A pecies of my knowledge was been shared. Don't insult me. Be responsible.
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by ModestGal(f): 7:37am On Jun 25, 2020
Dididrumz:


What do You mean by age mate is not possible for my type
Don't just say things because you feel like saying things.

what if you meet a guy and you guys started talking, He was so mature, talks with respect and all that. But through this period the age talk did not just come up until feelings started building up only for you to find out that You are 2years older than him. what will You do??



It's still dsame thing: Intelligence Quotient/Intelligence Level. it's the same thing.
age has nothing to do with IQ ok.
I'm saying the truth, when I was 15, 16,17,18,19 it was hard to come by people of that age with thesame intelligence like myself, it has nothing to do with maturity, for instance, we are talking, they would be saying things differently in a baby way.

Most of the times, I don't get to meet people in my age range with thesame intelligence level, not that they do not exist, just that I was not lucky enough. And usually people are matured generally after age 20, and if we are talking and someone is talking..... Sorry, I'm tired of typing, because I'm not sure you will ever understand.
But I just said the truth about my own life and people that I have met.

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Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by mattfeuter(m): 7:37am On Jun 25, 2020
DominusPrime:
If you intend to get married as early as 25 and below the odds are very slim cos you might not have 'blown' by then and girls at that age tend to prefer more stable men mentally and financially. Not necessarily for marriage though but just to have around to tend to their sexual and financial needs in the name of 'my boyfriend'. But once you as a man hit 30 to 35 and all things being equal you are ok financially it's easier to marry a girl your age.

Highly doubt most 35 years old male would want to get married to a 35 years old female.
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Samiah33(m): 7:41am On Jun 25, 2020
ambient:

And you think the man have low body count the older he gets? Sometimes una just dey type nonsense.
You can’t compare a woman’s body count to that of a man
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Samiah33(m): 7:44am On Jun 25, 2020
spiceadole:


I will detach and treat him as one of my younger brothers.

I can't be with a man I'm older than.
I am a first child..I have younger brothers who respect me & take instructions from me.
I cannot "open legs" or "bow" for a man in their age group.
Love never slap you before. When real love comes my dear you would call him master,
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Nobody: 7:46am On Jun 25, 2020
mattfeuter:


Highly doubt most 35 years old male would want to get married to a 35 years old female.

I'm not saying he should. I'm simply answering his question on the possibility of it happening. Of course most men would go for someone younger
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by Nobody: 7:49am On Jun 25, 2020
ModestGal:

I'm saying the truth, when I was 15, 16,17,18,19 it was hard to come by people of that age with thesame intelligence like myself, it has nothing to do with maturity, for instance, we are talking, they would be saying things differently in a baby way.

Most of the times, I don't get to meet people in my age range with thesame intelligence level, not that they do not exist, just that I was not lucky enough. And usually people are matured generally after age 20, and if we are talking and someone is talking..... Sorry, I'm tired of typing, because I'm not sure you will ever understand.
But I just said the truth about my own life and people that I have met.

You spoke the truth. The way an older man will relate to a boy and girl of 19 would be very different. If he has eyes on the girl she will call him by name while the boy will call him bros. By nature that allows the girl experience some level of maturity from the guy which the boy will not get.
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by molybdenum0012: 7:49am On Jun 25, 2020
Kennitrust:
was asking for advice. A pecies of my knowledge was been shared. Don't insult me. Be responsible.

Your knowledge is limited and not universal. What you said is so misleading and untrue. Next time do more research before you come here .
Re: What Are The Odds Of Marrying Your Age Mate? by ambient: 7:55am On Jun 25, 2020
seanwilliam:
na u dey type nonsense.. it is what it is.. there are high chances a woman with many body counts will have problem compared to man

List the problems a lasy with high body count would have as compared to a man's own pls?

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