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|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by luminouz(m): 11:40am On Jul 20, 2020|
Are you a Gemini too?
Sorry about that but its their nature. The push-pull,ying-yang and flip-flop interaction of their dual nature make them unpredictable emotionally.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by flyingpig: 11:42am On Jul 20, 2020|
Yup I am Gemini too
I'll tell you my own story
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by luminouz(m): 11:43am On Jul 20, 2020|
I'm all ears bro/sis
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by Wendybrown(f): 11:49am On Jul 20, 2020|
God bless you for this. A sensible woman knows what she's getting herself into before agreeing to date a man that is a work in progress, how can a man know out of the blue say he wants to let her go because he feels she deserves better isn't that calling her a fool for accepting to date you in the first place? Or they haven't seen couples that built together and remain together till date, some guys are jus very confusing.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by flyingpig: 12:06pm On Jul 20, 2020|
luminouz:I'm sort of a final year student in a professional health course, my gf too but she's directly a class lower.
She's really beautiful, chocolate skin, lovely ass, loves me as much as the OP's girlfriend loves him. Always texts me goodnight before she sleeps and good morning once she wakes for the past 10months we dated. We have our disagreements but she is very obedient. Gave me her phone password and I check it everytime, nothing incriminating. I know stories of everybody who's toasted her. She's even lied to her family far away that she had infection just to get money and give me when i was having family issues. She's very optimistic about life. Infact she's never repeated a class or written a resit in our professional course. She's the type who would tell you jobs dey Nigeria and jobs no dey, but it depends on your approach to it. While I'm the type who would say jobs no dey Nigeria and quickly point you to thousands of graduates driving keke, selling wigs and make up on instagram, and leaving the country through traffickers in the name of Greener pastures. She defends me a lot against those who try to intimidate me because I had a rough start in my medical course.
Here lays the problem. I'm the first son in family of 8, and have 5 siblings below me, three young boys below me too. My Elder ones are not doing good jobs, dad and mom are retired so they're just waiting for me to finish school and assist in running my junior ones where the last two still in sec school. So I'm painting I have huge responsibilities in my family and won't be ready for marriage soon after graduation because after lifting my family who stood by me through difficult times, I still have to build and establish to myself before stepping into marriage, so it can be a smooth journey. All these take years, it's not easy making money in this Nigeria of today. My gf on the other hand would love to marry soon after graduation and wants it to be me. She's said she can wait for me to settle and all of that but here is the problem. While she's waiting for me to settle my family and establish myself in order not to be overwhelmed inside marriage, I fear I may succeed, but then have an upgraded taste in a wife. And it is even starting now. Since my primary school days all my crush at school were light skin girls, those pretty kind of instagram girls. Now I'm over 24, it has changed to girls who are hippy. I Am strongly strongly dawn to hippy girls. My gf sadly has found out and she jokingly teases me about it. Mind you I said hips and not ass (she has this one), the summary is I am gradually losing sexual attraction for my gf and I find her less sexually appealing. If you ask me why I went for her in first place if she did not meet my appeal, truth is I didn't know it would lead to marriage or she would hope it leads to marriage. I thought its something that we date while in school and after school we part ways but she's innocently making advanced plans. Whereas I find hippy girls extremely beautiful, I wouldn't want to end up with a wife that few years into the marriage, I starve her of sex due to lack of sexual appeal, not to mention start cheating on her. Also don't say it's just the grass being greener on the other side thing because I've dated a hippy girl before and through the 2years of on and off relationship I always found her sexually appealing. I don't want to lose sexual appeal to a wife in a union supposed to be eternity. In the same vein, I can never advise her to go under surgical enhancement for my sake, never. Besides that she ticks all the morals I would love in a wife and I would have loved a woman who had those morals, love me that much then have that looks I want. I would Queen her for eternity. Please don't insult me for being shallow minded and saying beauty is temporary and that the hips will fade. If I'm already losing sexual appeal for her these days how much marriage that will be ahead. At the same time i don't want to hurt her now by dumping her while we're still in medical school cause people are already telling us it'll end in tears people don't date while in medical school. If it is to end it that will be after she has graduated and left that place to avoid mocks since I'll be out a year before her. But i am very afraid of settling family and establishing myself only to find the girl who meets the physical looks but not the moral quality of my gf. Note my gf is not bad at all, I won't brag but she's desperately wanted by even the Senate President of the SUG, thick over all. If you want to understand the body I've been talking about and want in a wife I can marry for eternity, pic is attached below. Please read my post twice to understand my worries and fears
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by luminouz(m): 1:11pm On Jul 20, 2020|
I will give you a detailed post later but if that's the kind of body she has, dont worry, it will get hippier with time and love.
She is not looking bad at all(if thats her body type sha)
First of all, its not all the time you have he-goatish sexual appeal strength for the babe you love. So many things are on your mind so that was why. As a Gemini, you have a dual, unpredictable nature, always switching and inconsistent. But I always advise people with that star sign that whenever they feel like that with their partner, they should always go back to the basic questions....
1.. Does she love you?
2... Is she still loyal?
3... What has she done wrong that needs amendment on your part?
If she passes all these, then give yourself space and time, you will reconnect back to her, faster if she understands your kind of person.
On the marriage and future plan stuff, you will need to discuss your plans with her. All your inhibitions can be surmounted so long she understands and agrees with your plan. As medical personnel, chances of getting jobs are high, so being able to cater for your siblings and being the man of the house,won't be a problem,so long your wife understand and supports your vision. Don't chase that geh away on the altar of not being sure about the future bro. The thing is,no one is sure about the future. Since she has the morals you desire and a big ASS, why not give her time, her hips will come out too (I'm a big ass lover so I get your point).
As a Gemini, you might be passing through a ZIT stage, where your sexual attraction indexes fluctuates and its best to get such stuff out of your system. Find a hippy geh and date her for a while,to satisfy this phase. Trust me, in no time, you will get tired of her and go back to your gf. Geminis may be become bored of the normal routine as they need change and excitement often in their life. You can introduce these exciting phases or plan routine breaks(hiking, sightseeing, mountain climbing, zoo trips or nature reserve excursions).
The baseline to your issue are those questions I told you to ask yourself. What you have in hand is more than what some of us ever had, a good woman.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by Maicraze20: 1:59pm On Jul 20, 2020|
I had a similar case when I was serving,I was free spirited corper then,which I called almost all the lady corpers my bae but I noticed one lady then she dey fall for the word,as a sharp guy and I dey play along,one faithful day I told her I will come m sleep in her place ,she was smiling cheaply in which I later did,we lamba ourselves since then she dey do like na me disvirgin her she always call me,and after I left service,she will call and call and I told her earlier before anything happened then,that I had girlfriend at home..she was sick for two months and some days all because of breakup
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by Zeuslord(m): 2:51pm On Jul 20, 2020|
akinade28:it ain't the way ladies see it, and it ain't as easy as you see it.
every guy has the dream of taking good care of his woman. In a situation where the resource to do so is deficit, he will never be contented.
And in a situation where he deeply loved the lady ...,I believe you know the rest.
nice contribution though, and you look cute too
can we talk?
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by Zeuslord(m): 5:35pm On Jul 20, 2020|
it's a problem of its own.
battling for consistency
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by dietola01(m): 5:57pm On Jul 20, 2020|
catwalq:. Lol but Na the truth of the matter be this Now
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by luminouz(m): 6:00pm On Jul 20, 2020|
Ehyaaaaa... I have dated two Geminis and I'm telling you,they were a handful. The key to understanding them is just never to obsess over them. Be neutral emotionally when they are hot or cold. They love mystery and get bored with the norm. Just let them know they have your support and even when they behave like ogbanje, be cool.
They are not bad and could be great partners especially when they love you and want to make the relationship work. Their tendency to explore new sexual opportunities,regardless of wherever tends to make other star signs wary of them.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by Nobody: 7:16pm On Jul 20, 2020|
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by Razzman1: 7:56pm On Jul 20, 2020|
StubbornGENIUS:Who asked you to asked me
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by Preshieben(f): 8:08pm On Jul 20, 2020|
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by Hdanny(m): 9:55pm On Jul 20, 2020|
Preshieben:I don't understand, do you think the girl was too emotional and caring in that relationship
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by ModestGal(f): 10:17pm On Jul 20, 2020|
flyingpig:But the girl in the picture looks very hippy now
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by flyingpig: 7:44am On Jul 21, 2020|
ModestGal:you didn't read it very well. The girl in the pic is the body i have huge sexual appeal for but my gf is more of thick, round ass, thick thighs, flat tummy but no hips, but I'm more for hippy and slim girls like the girl in that yellow gown. Please see the image again, that's what I can enjoy for eternity, for my gf I sometimes lose sexual appeal.
But gf has impeccable mad character for the past ten months. Can t fault her actions or ac intentions behind them. Loyal in my presence and absence. She's really attractive cause I know big wigs gunning for her, but in the end one man's food is another man's poison. You'd ask why I asked her out in the first place. But i asked her out for relationship and not marriage which she has boldly told me she don't mind waiting for me till I'm ready even if it takes next 6 years after i do my swearing-in which should happen soon.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by Justkatty(f): 8:20am On Jul 21, 2020|
When I had a breakup,in 2017 I thought I would die but here I am today waxing stronger.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by ModestGal(f): 9:58am On Jul 21, 2020|
flyingpig:Those shapes are only common among celebrities, an average Nigerian doesn't look like that. I think you are crazy, you are fantasizing dating a celebrity, for anyone to look like that, the individual needs to tone, or use some belt. I come from a family of hippy people, and why I understand that its uncommon to be hippy that way. What you need is simple, break up with her, you have found her to be too cheap that is why you are feeling that way. Once you did, you would value her and afterwards, you would regret you left her but you will eventually heal up and be fine. But it would always be a regret in your life
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by flyingpig: 10:05am On Jul 21, 2020|
ModestGal:I stopped reading at this point. I don't converse with people who can't make their point sound decent and devoid of insultive words. Thanks for your comment but I'm not reading all.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by ModestGal(f): 10:50am On Jul 21, 2020|
flyingpig:I thought you said you were a medical student, well, you being crazy doesn't mean you have psychosis, and I'm not trying to insult you. I only told you what I diagnosed your problem to be, it's a mental problem.
By the way, you are too young for me to converse with if you are still an undergraduate. Have a great day
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by flyingpig: 11:02am On Jul 21, 2020|
Listen here b1tch, that is not the way to go about mental evaluation. You certainly are not even a psychiatric nor a neurological surgeon. So I won't buy your unprofessional evaluation.
Secondly, I am a medical student, and just an induction away.
Thirdly, your communication skills are unbelievably poor if calling someone crazy are your standard means of communication. You had better work on that. I shudder to think everyone but yourself is not crazy just because they grudge a different opinion from you.
Fourthly Cvnt, there are girls who've got natural hips. They may use what you just called belt to burn triglyceride or fat cells in their stomach in order to make the hip more pronounced. A hippy girl simply has more ossicles or hip bones aligned in the right places along her pelvis. So don't attempt to misinform me on what I'm well knowledgeable about.
Fifthly, nobody asked about the morphology of females in your family, I don't care. Even if I were single I don't do bullish, lousy and mannerless wh¤res. I love peace in my family.
Sixthly (if there's anything that goes by that). Take your mentality of judging people by their societal status, and go ahead to stick it up your old labia where sun rays don't penetrate. If you've had any sense of maturity in you, you'd know some undergraduates are more sensible than those who look down on them.
Thanks for your goodbye and I hope you don't reply after you had expressed farewell.
Take absolute care.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by luminouz(m): 11:43am On Jul 21, 2020|
So you're HIPPY?
I want to see...upload pic jor!!!
Why are you and that guy fighting?
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by luminouz(m): 11:44am On Jul 21, 2020|
A simple OK to her would have done more justice that this epistle. Its your story,whatever she says doesn't matter or shouldn't matter to you, to tick you off like this.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by flyingpig: 11:50am On Jul 21, 2020|
luminouz:Thanks bro. I'm highly grateful for your earlier comment. I didnt see it earlier. I had 36 mentions and I thought it was trolling people so i didn't bother to read all. I just saw your comment now. Highly grateful for the time taken out to pass across your wise advise. I've jotted down some highly important points I took note of. Will surely try them out and may God bless us all. I appreciate.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by ModestGal(f): 11:51am On Jul 21, 2020|
luminouz:2008 monicker, I'm sure you are over 30years of age. Most people with monicker below 2013 are over 30s
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by luminouz(m): 12:01pm On Jul 21, 2020|
You have to factor in my exact age when I registered. 2008 is just 12 years ago naaa... Kids as young as 12 have accounts here!!!
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by luminouz(m): 12:03pm On Jul 21, 2020|
Its ok bro...
Dont get so ticked off by comments here, you own your world.
I wish you well hommie
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by ModestGal(f): 12:05pm On Jul 21, 2020|
luminouz:I can bet my life on it that you are over 30years of age.
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by luminouz(m): 12:07pm On Jul 21, 2020|
Your life is too precious to me darling so dont bet it.
You can put up your picture dou. Now,thats what I wanna see
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by ModestGal(f): 12:15pm On Jul 21, 2020|
luminouz:My picture for what?
|Re: Guys Or Ladies: Who Moves On Easily After Breakup? by luminouz(m): 12:42pm On Jul 21, 2020|
Forget it. Seems you just woke up if you didn't see why I asked you.
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