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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by ImaIma1(f): 9:45am On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kennedyiheme02: Men are also made honourable when they get married. A man that is single at 40 also raises eyebrows. I have a relative that is over 45 and still single and people are asking questions. It is not peculiar to women. No one did me a favour marrying me. I was in my father's house and a man came to ask me to marry him. We did ourselves favours. I really don't know where you get this mindset from. It is better for a woman to be single despite what whatever society says than marry a man who thinks he did her a favour and therefore treats her like trash. Women should know their rights as women and as a wife so that one man won't come and bully them or try to make them feel disadvantaged for being single or married. God created the male and female gender which makes them both unique. The fact that a man feels he is higher because he can reproduce at 100 years is funny. What of a man that is sterile? Is he still unique? What else makes him unique? No man has the right to maltreat his wife because he thinks he did her a favour marrying her. But I am glad it is only a few men that think this way from what I see in the real world. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kazim88: 9:49am On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kennedyiheme02:@ the bolded is the question of the century... Modern wife is only valuable to the company she works and completely useless to her home and family. |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kazim88: 9:55am On Aug 02, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Not a slave, perhaps a partner on the home front. Her priority is to manage our home... To manage me the husband, the children and the facility... But they are women that are career minded... Those ones are not marriageable because you can't serve two masters... You can't serve the company you work and your home together effectively, one must suffer. 1 Like |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by SirMichael1: 9:55am On Aug 02, 2020 |
If any man prefers to watch the tv while his wife does house chores that overwhelms her, then something is wrong with him. If a woman sits at home doing nothing while expecting that the husband shoulders all responsibility for the provision of the houshold, then she needs a head check. Of these all, if the couple have grown up kids but the husband doesn't want his kids to cook his meals but his wife alone, then something is definitely wrong with the husband. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kolabalogun(m): 10:06am On Aug 02, 2020 |
This kind of thread gotta be consider carefully. Why on earth will any man want to suffer his wife or vice versa? Life should be made easier for ourselves to coexist in peace and enjoy the family. |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kazim88: 10:06am On Aug 02, 2020 |
Farki: @bolded.... This gender war is most time very entertaining.. but sometimes very bloody. |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kennedyiheme02: 10:07am On Aug 02, 2020 |
ImaIma1:lol no one really cares about a 40 year old unmarried man... because people no men do not hit the wall.. as men age they look younger and stronger, so let me ask you a question.. a 30 year old and and a 30 year old woman..both unmarried, who do you think is more desperate?.. lol do you know how many women have tried to carjole me into marrying them?.. even lieing about being pregnant? Have you ever heard were men search for wives for 4 years?, see as a man i can marry next week if i wanted to, marriage is a thing i can get anytime i want... you know why?, because I'm a man who can get wifey duties by paying a maid to do them for me.... my money can actually get me a maid to take those wife responsibilities... But as a woman you cant buy a husband.. lol can you buy some one that will take care of you and provide for your family?.. can you buy a rich responsible man?... i dont think so.. So you see why women are single, and its a priviledge and gift you get a man who wants to make you his wife.... you know it but your ego is too big to admit the truth.. So how do you get to be priviledged to be married into a home as a wife and throw that opportunity away?.. do you know there are thousands of women standing in line ready to take your place... even wipe your hubbies ass everyday?... |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Jaqenhghar: 10:14am On Aug 02, 2020 |
Toks2008:Hehe. Dont mind them. They will never allow their daughter's and sisters be slaves to anyone. Na another person pickin go slave for them |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Faithful23(f): 10:21am On Aug 02, 2020 |
A wise man makes his own decisions ,an ignorant man follows the public opinion |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by ImaIma1(f): 10:52am On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kennedyiheme02: You are really getting it wrong. The over 45 unmarried man I talked about is raising eyebrows. But some of us are privy to the kind of person he is that might make ladies run. Women too have choices. I was at a birthday gathering on Friday and my friend met a lady and immediately checked her wedding finger. I asked if he was that desperate and he said he has been looking for a wife. So, No, a man is not eligible for marriage just because he is a man. He has to wait and search. When he meets a woman that agrees to be his wife, it is a privilege to him also. And at the bolded, it is not peculiar to men, don't get it twisted. Just two weeks back, my uni school mate that reconnected with me was hinted that we go on a trip to Dubai even though he knows I am married. I laughed and showed my husband the chat. That is just one scenario. When you find a wife, you can treat her as though you did her a favour. But the ones I know, my sisters, cousins, family friends are treated with love and consideration. So let's us agree to disagree because our views are different. When you get a wife, you will understand better but if you already married, then more grease to your wife's elbow to be able to live with a man like you. Enjoy your Sunday 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by ImaIma1(f): 11:08am On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kazim88: Being career minded should not be a problem. It is the attitude that matters. And a man should see what he wants first before jumping in. So that he won't start trying to change his wife. Some men can handle the career type while some can't. So pick your spec. As long as they can find a way that works for both of them, a couple can live happily. My big sis for instance has been a banker for over 20yrs and has grown in rank but that has not affected her family. When a couple love each other genuinely and are not threatened by the other's success and are ready to make life easier for each other, it's priceless. All I see on this forum is men always trying to proclaim their position and make everything about gender wars. If a man always has to remind people that he is the head, it means he isn't. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kennedyiheme02: 11:15am On Aug 02, 2020 |
ImaIma1:no this is a big lie.. dont twist reality to hide the truth everyone already knows.. marroage is too easy for men.. please don't try to hide what already know. |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kokaine(m): 11:23am On Aug 02, 2020 |
Dew04:as a bachelor I have no time for some kind of chores. I step them down as paid services. I pay for someone to come in periodically to do certain chores, cook and maintain the home. I am not planning to run a home with my wife's money. I could probably marry a lady who has no job and I find her something to do like a business. If my wife cannot do the chores too, then we get a house help. If she's not comfortable with that, then she will do it. I did chores when I was less busy. |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by ImaIma1(f): 11:25am On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kennedyiheme02: Guy are you married? Go out there and look for a wife and tell me if you will find one in 2 weeks. Don't let social media deceive you. I deal with real people. I see my husband's friends and mine that are looking for wives. We even tried to hook one up. My brother's friend was asking me to hook him up with my friends. I hooked up my brother's friend (same brother) with my roommate in school. He had been looking for a wife.They are married with 3 kids now. He keeps thanking me till today. You need to realize that women are not disadvantaged. Both men and women need each other. When you understand this, maybe your mindset will change. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kokaine(m): 11:25am On Aug 02, 2020 |
tunjilana:its almost as if I shouldn't marry a graduate. Let me marry a drop out and have peace of mind with this gender equality thing. 1 Like |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by MajesticD(m): 11:26am On Aug 02, 2020 |
YelloweWest: NO, a man MUSTN'T have SEVEN FIGURE INCOME before marriage. However, a man must have a consistent stream of income that can sustain a family before even thinking of marriage. |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kazim88: 11:42am On Aug 02, 2020 |
ImaIma1: You are right, everyone with his/her different specs.. The truth is 99% of men want their daughters to a be a successful career women but same really can't stand one maritally. So you see successful career ladies that are single, divorced or anti-marriage because marriage is a traditional institution that was built on women being domesticated and men being the fender... For a thousand years men, due to poverty have tried push off the fending tag, while women due to exposure and good education having being trying to change the domestic narrative... Both party wants to edit an institution as old as mankind... Like the guy you were quoting said... "Take out the traditional concept of marriage, then marriage would be useless for both parties" If I were to be a female, with career mindset... I had forget the idea of getting married... It always end in premium tears, messy divorce or lifetime of tolerating apparent bullshit for women that is not domesticated 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kazim88: 11:46am On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kokaine: It is not about graduate or not graduate... First, you be financially sufficient then marry someone that taking care of home and family is natural to them.. don't go and marry packaging... A lady wearing suite, with wig and make up, that works at May & Baker or Zenith bank... They have zero marital and economical value. They are only valuable to the companies they work. 1 Like |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by ImaIma1(f): 12:12pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kazim88: A career woman can be married. I for one am working. In fact I have my laptop on my laps as I am chatting with you...on a Sunday. But I have been married for almost 5 years without any complaints from my husband about work. As I said, it's the attitude that matters and not forgetting that family matters. I learnt from my sister to combine both. And I have a husband that makes my life easy, not one that always wants to prove a point. It is selfish for a man to pursue his career while he expects the woman to sit at home if that's not what she wants. I have friends that are house wives and some that are career wives. And they are doing well. The one I know that didn't work was majorly a family issue. 1 Like |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Toks2008(m): 12:18pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
zynzyn: At least she won't have the man on her to do list and that alone is a big burden off her neck. You have no idea how sex drains ladies after a hectic day... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Toks2008(m): 12:22pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kokaine: LOL! True though, many graduate ladies too like to dey prove levels. But drop outs or even a total illiterate wey no go school will practically worship you... At least in most cases. 1 Like |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kennedyiheme02: 12:48pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
ImaIma1:we dont see men disturbing us about how and when they'll marry... please we know the truth.. marriage is never hard for men.. we aren't just interested anymore.. that aside, can you tell us the advantages of having a modern/feminist wife? |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by bukatyne(f): 1:06pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
LadySarah: I like this perspective. Imagine your friend opens a thread on NL and we start saying 'her husband is wicked' Yada yada instead of looking for solutions/workaround (if any). Which is why I am ALWAYS Team 'how did they start'? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by bukatyne(f): 1:08pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
Karlifate: 100% 2 Likes |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kazim88: 1:09pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
ImaIma1: We are saying the same thing... You have perhaps a Bachelor's degree or even a Master's.. Have you wonder why it is not spinsters degree or Mrs Degree... Education was primarily designed to turn boys (nowadays girls) to bachelors, the bachelors to masters.. So you see women working in corporation and taking up jobs that were previously and traditionally done by men... And this women are doing very well.. corporately. But at home front... It feels like living with your fellow guyman mentally.. Yea, your husband sees you as a friend, fellow bachelors... It's normal... people can live with it for the rest of their good life Some men can't stand traditional women because of their over independence and their emotional instability... It's normal.. But just know that Feminism is as a result of women fighting to be treated same way like men but ironically "like poles repel, unlike poles attracts" A man would by default be attracted to feminity and be apprehensive of Feminism 2 Likes |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kokaine(m): 1:14pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
Toks2008:imagine. There will be peace. I won't opress them. I will help them rise to any level they possibly can. We will all be happy at last. Watin I wan come use my wife certificate do if na problem e go bring me. I am not equal to a woman whether she likes it or not. Just as a lion is not equal to a lioness. I have beards, muscles and penis. Why should I be equal? My responsibility is to protect and care for them while defending the territories. If I wanted an equal wife, then I will be looking for a rich soldier girl of my age mate, but because I want someone I can feel easy with, I prefer to get the one who God has placed me above so I can care for her. Let all these gender equal girls go and find and marry their own men of their mates. But no! They want a tall guy, richer, stronger, older but equal to them |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by ImaIma1(f): 1:18pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kennedyiheme02: That is because women are more expressive of their feelings than men. The fact that a man doesn't say it, doesn't mean he is not thinking or feeling it. You aren't just interested anymore. Speak for yourself. When the time comes, it will be clearer. These things cannot be explained to someone who doesn't understand. Right now you are still using girlfriend eyes and sense to gauge marriage. It will be better you visit the people you know; modern and traditional marriages and get the advantages and disadvantages. Because from what I see you won't value anything I say that doesn't align with your preconceived ideas. |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by bukatyne(f): 1:21pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
goshen26: What does headship mean to you? |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kennedyiheme02: 1:21pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
ImaIma1:lol maybe you don't have the answer... if you did you'll list them since you've been very chatty .. women are very expressive, lol its not the case here... the problem here is there aren't many men ready or interested in marriage.. i wish you female folks good luck.. these times are gonna be tough.. hubby search is gonna get harder... good luck y'all will need it |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kokaine(m): 1:21pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kazim88:this is the perfect solution. But then reality here in Nigeria is this: It takes a long time for a man to become financially stable. We are victims of a dead economy. Great dimensions of corruption and ignorance of the youths is our bane. See the issue of akpabio and "off your mic. Issokay" did you see any youth ask questions? No! They are watching bbnaija. They are worshiping wizkid and davido. While the future has been jeopardised and bastardized. How does a young man rise? Knowing no one, and having the insufficient skills to weather the Nigerian storm. Do you know what it takes to grow a business here? At what average age does a guy with no assistant graduate, get a job, save money from salaries and then kick start a dream, if he's not lucky he will be on his way to fourth years. And then put the societal pressure into perspective. You will see why he urgently needs to settle down Her now cones the issue of getting the type of woman who can mirror what his dream partner should be even in the least. Should he marry a career woman and face all these power struggles and unsubmissive behavior in his home? He won't grow if his hone is a war front. Should he marry a lady who is less financially buoyant but will slassure him of her support, fellowship and patience while he steers the wheels of the financial vehicle alone? Should he wait till he is close to his dreams? Register his company, grow it all alone? It takes a long time. These are the realities and complexes that accompany living in a corrupt ridden economy. And then remember how love appears and disappears with the coming or going of success. Who should a man marry? |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kennedyiheme02: 1:28pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kokaine:dont mind them, imagine dangote marries today, what kinda wife do you think dangote would marry... a zenith bank manager?.. lol naah he is definitely marrying a trad wife, as he isn't going to get any benefits marrying a career woman |
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Kazim88: 1:29pm On Aug 02, 2020 |
Kokaine: .... You are absolutely correct. With enormous support from my different mentors, after leaving school, it still took me 6 years of strenous learning, adapting, failing, hunger, reading to find my feet... Hmmm.... Only God can help us. 2 Likes |
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