Nigerian Filmmaker, Chioma Ifemeludike has cautioned men to resist the urge of sleeping with a woman before or after helping her.

According to her, she opined that guys can always help a lady without having a sexual affair with her.

SHE WROTE:

Dear men,

“you must not see the pant� of every woman to help�… stop taking advantage of girls who need your support or push… stop demanding for sex from a girl because you’re in a position to help … Some girls can be good company without sex, some can be good friends without sex , you can make some super stars without sex, you can be their mentors and guardian without sex.”

“you can be their brothers and fathers without SEX!!! You have a daughter(s) yet you want to sleep with every girl that comes your way because you find yourself in a position to help… !!! How will you feel if your daughter(s) is subjected to such inhumane treatment Please treat people’s daughters like you want others to treat yours…. Repent today or God will paralyze the muscles in your manhood �.

adajoe555:
Will they ever hear?
I've lost jobs because of this. They will always want to sexually harass a lady before giving them work. Some ladies are so useless to agree to this stupid terms



Paralyze there manhood ..... Amen. Lol

Tango123:
My response to the post is this

Dear ladies, work hard for your self. Dont expect a man to pay your bills

Tango123:
My response to the post is this

Dear ladies, work hard for your self. Dont expect a man to pay your bills

lucky999:
that's true Sha
but na that the same helping man wan help woman na why the woman see him as mumu.
naso one girl I like wey I follow dey talk for chat, we use to see in the campus.
one day I open up to her to tell her my feelings say I wan be in a relationship with her, she said she have a boyfriend, I say okay but we can still be friends na. I use style still dey run her to see if she go give me fvck, she understand where I'm going to and cleared me that it's not gonna work. I respect myself, after some days she see me dey fresh everyday. a week to our school exam she texted on WhatsApp to help her with 5k urgently. haba I ask her if she no get boyfriend, she say I pass the 5k. I tell am say make she give me sex before I give her 5k because we no get anything in common. i don't take shiit from nobody.

JONNYSPUTE:
.....And how many of you ladies have helped a man?

There's this lady I helped when she begged to do her I T in our firm.I honestly told her there's no vancancy and she accepted.

One day she met me and requested I help her sign and stamp her log book since the place she was doing her IT is in a bar.

I agreed asked her to meet my secretary,she did and everything went well.

I came to the bar to hangout one day and when she served us our order,she was looking a kind of sick so I asked her what the problem is and she said she is not feeling fine. I said sorry and left.

Do you know that this stupid girl was expecting me to give her money for treatment and when I didn't,she told her friends that I didn't give her money because I asked her to sleep with me and she refused but when she was doing that,she didn't realize that her Supervisor overheard her and being my friend,he asked the girl to come and repeat what she told her colleagues about me in my presence.

She started crying Nd pleading.

Atimes is better you don't help at all.

adajoe555:




it's not all about paying bills... what about sexual harassment while seeking for job. . I created a thread on that here.

sherylbakky:
Lol, one of the problems with u guys. Her intention might be to "borrow" the money from u which she will return in a while, we all have cause to do this sometimes ( things we do for friends).

Wen a girl ask u for monetary assistant, clear the doubt by asking wen she'll refund it, instead of assuming she wants it as a gift, if possible have an agreement with her on the particular date for refund.

It's nothing, even couples sometimes lend themselves money and refund it.

sherylbakky:
We do help men on several occasions, you wud hardly see a landlady demanding for sex or any other favour wen a man (tenant) meets her to plead for dalayed payment. If she's helping she helps, n if she's not, she wud make it clear.

U wud hardly see a female lecturer demanding for sex or other favour in return wen a male student explains to her that he's gonna spill just cos of her course.

U wud hardly see a female friend requesting for sex wen u ask her for financial help (not talking of the stingy ones, stinginess can happen in both genders), if she's capable she does and if she's not she tells u.

U guys overlook many things women do for you because you natural think emotion and empathy are things of women and u all "UNCONCIOUSLY" think it's natural for women to help but reverse is the case.

As for that babe u talked about, she's just who she is. She lacks conscience. Many (large percentage of women) are not like that. Don't let that stop u from doing good.

Murjem:
You haven't state anywhere in your post the help women do for men

Some of the statements you made are true tho but hadn't meant that they helped anybody...

A female lecturer not asking for sex is only doing her job and not help...

sherylbakky:
Wen ur landlady suppose to send you packing but sympathize with ur broke situation is not help?

Wen u fail and u are supposed to spill but a lecturer pity u that it's not worth staying back in school for extra year just 4 only one course is not help?

Wen u are stranded and a female friend borrow or give u money is not help?

If u think all these are not help, then something is missing/wrong somewhere.

Murjem:
Do you have to end your statement like someone with a missing nut ?

Maybe it's just me as I haven't seen any landlady or a female lecturer waiving for her student when money hadn't exchanged hands...

sherylbakky:
U are not getting it, this is different from bill payment. U can as well need a woman's help.