adamsrib:

I'm a grown woman, if I'm wrong a simple I'm sorry and it won't happen again should do the trick. Nothing I do will EVER warrant me being abused as punishment.

Just know this sweety, THE VERY WOMEN AND MEN THAT CONDONING THE MAN BEATING HIS WIFE would not accept the very action upon them.  You just have to take the logical with the illogical.  

According to their JUSTIFICATION, because the woman IS MARRIED that give the husband the right to beat her.  Please remember who you commenting with because NOT EVERYBODY WRAPPED TOO TIGHT both men and women.   That is SAD.  

Just remember that.  It is easy said then done.   GOOD LUCK WITH THEM.  I have better things to do than waste time with people who will not allow the same thing to happen to them.  That is pathetic.

Shy-One:

He didn't confront the man because he didn't marry the man - and his own wife allowed it and encouraged additional behavior by chasing the man around.  So he did just what he should have done - he confronted "Who owed him" - his wife owed him "proper behavior" - that is cut and dried.

He didn't wait to get home - because she didn't wait to do what she did behind closed doors - she did it publically for ALL TO SEE - he shouldn't have hit her - but he definitely should have disciplined her publically - more so verbally not physically.

I just don't agree with that.  The men have already displayed lack of respect for her, you then take it a step further and slap her in public? Two wrongs don't make a right. Now the men at work will feel they can do whatever they want to her with no repercussions from her or her husband.  She is in deep poo!

Shy-One:

That wouldn't happen to me - and I will "ask hell to swallow them whole if it does,"  - another woman better not have the audacity to touch his backside and if she did - his response better include a mental picture of me standing beside him if that occurs.  That response better NOT include a smile on his face or him chasing her around with laughter.  [shy-one breathing hard and getting very upset just thinking about it]

The woman prolly said the same thing.  "That wouldn't happen to me and I will ask hell to swallow them whole if it does".  

Look at her now, she is busted and swollen.

adamsrib:

I just don't agree with that.  The men have already displayed lack of respect for her, you then take it a step further and slap her in public? Two wrongs don't make a right. Now the men at work will feel they can do whatever they want to her with no repercussions from her or her husband.  She is in deep poo!

This go to show you what happened when you rushed into a RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE.  I CAN PROMISE YOU there are women on THIS SITE and anywhere else will experience the same thing the women have experienced.  It is sad.  Good luck and keep your chin up girl.  You are spitting sense and knowledge. 

It is a sensitive topic for the women who are victim of abuse and are going through the abuse so we have to keep that in mind.   Every five seconds, a woman is dead in the hand of an illogical man.

I have a job to go to.

Mrs.Chima:

Just know this sweety, THE VERY WOMEN AND MEN THAT CONDONING THE MAN BEATING HIS WIFE would not accept the very action upon them.  You just have to take the logical with the illogical.  

According to their JUSTIFICATION, because the woman IS MARRIED that give the husband the right to beat her.  Please remember who you commenting with because NOT EVERYBODY WRAPPED TOO TIGHT both men and women.   That is SAD.  

Must remember that.  It is easy said then done.   GOOD LUCK WITH THEM.  I have better things to do than waste time with people who will not allow the same thing to happen to them.  That is pathetic.  

I feel you Mrs Chima. If there is anything I've learned on NL, it is know when to leave lol. I'm right behind you.

adamsrib:

I just don't agree with that.  The men have already displayed lack of respect for her, you then take it a step further and slap her in public? Two wrongs don't make a right. Now the men at work will feel they can do whatever they want to her with no repercussions from her or her husband.  She is in deep poo!

You don't get it!

The Husband has no grounds whatsoever to confront the other dude when his wife is in fact enjoying the act!. . .The wife disrespected her husband by not showing signs that she wouldn't tolerate such acts, and that's what made the dude furious.

Mrs.Chima:

This go to show you what happened when you rushed into a RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE. I CAN PROMISE YOU there are women on THIS SITE and anywhere else will experience the same thing the women have experienced. It is sad.

Yes, I agree with you because there are also men on this site who think they have married wives but unfortunately they have married irresposible women who allow men hit their buttocks without saying a word. It is really sad.

violent:

You don't get it!

The Husband has no grounds whatsoever to confront the other dude when his wife is in fact enjoying the act!. . .The wife disrespected her husband by not showing signs that she wouldn't tolerate such acts, and that's what made the dude furious.

As simple as ABC.

Atreides:

@kc,who said anything bout Mrs.C? I havent even replied to this thread properly. Look closely at the reply you quoted and compare it with the reply you posted just before that. Notice anything similar? I said the same thing you did-just tweaked it around a bit to mess with you.
And in any case,have you seen me today?

[s]You knw what I was talking about dont ya? Mimicking me just to suit una feminism?[/s]

BTW, I should be asking if u seen me today since u quoted me I was here before ya.

if a man culd touch a woman's bums and she as much as chase d guy abt with laughter all over her, then d guy is as gud as having 85.65% chance to bleep her. That woman is a dumb azz, A numscor.

violent:

You don't get it!

The Husband has no grounds whatsoever to confront the other dude when his wife is in fact enjoying the act!. . .The wife disrespected her husband by not showing signs that she wouldn't tolerate such acts, and that's what made the dude furious.

YOU ARE COMPLETELY AND TOTALLY CORRECT!!!!!!

why can't people even see this?  I don't understand.

violent:

You don't get it!

The Husband has no grounds whatsoever to confront the other dude when his wife is in fact enjoying the act!. . .The wife disrespected her husband by not showing signs that she wouldn't tolerate such acts, and that's what made the dude furious.

Not a rocket science my guy, but then again, I forgot who we are talking with. Women Feminists!

adamsrib:

I just don't agree with that.  The men have already displayed lack of respect for her, you then take it a step further and slap her in public? Two wrongs don't make a right. Now the men at work will feel they can do whatever they want to her with no repercussions from her or her husband.  She is in deep poo!

SHE is the one who is disrespected?  HOW SO?  Explain that to me because I don't see it.

If she felt disrespected by the men at work - why was she laughing and chasing him in return to him touching her butt?  EXPLAIN THAT ONE SINCE YOU SEEM to have all the answers - explain that to me.  She didn't correct him or shut him down when he did that - which tells me that there is something between the two of them previous to this incident.  

violent:

You don't get it!

The Husband has no grounds whatsoever to confront the other dude when his wife is in fact enjoying the act!. . .The wife disrespected her husband by not showing signs that she wouldn't tolerate such acts, and that's what made the dude furious.

YOU ARE 100% CORRECT

Mrs.Chima:

The woman prolly said the same thing.  "That wouldn't happen to me and I will ask hell to swallow them whole if it does".  

Look at her now, she is busted and swollen.  

You seem to only highlight and focus on what "the husband did to the wife" - you are not seeing the unethical/immoral behavior that influenced his decision to do what he did to her.

If the wife has a busted and swollen exterior - she influenced that behavior and brought it on herself. I am in no way condoning violence - but all humans definitely have breaking points and that was husband's - if you recall it was Valentine's Day and he might have been there to surprise her and got a horribly embarrassing surprise himself and it was horrific for him to observe so I'm sure that he didn't choose his response to that situation because had he chosen his response he wouldn't have hit her because it makes him look bad as well which makes the situation even worse. Who do you know that enjoys being involved in such? The husband was HER VICTIM. And that my dear is truth.

@kc,but i'm not a feminist naa. . My own is hitting a woman is wrong. Period.
Btw-K'abo. How is life treating you?

Atreides:

@kc,but i'm not a feminist naa. . My own is hitting a woman is wrong. Period.
Btw-K'abo. How is life treating you?

Swerry Koyo, I didn't say you were a Feminist, just that I'm worried bout your position on certain issues lately.

Anyhow, me fine wella 4 here. Howdy?

Okaiee. . E ma te gui(bet you have no idea what that means ). Issues like what?

Me fine too. How's our 'yawo? Havent been seeing her much.

Atreides:

Okaiee. . E ma te gui(bet you have no idea what that means ). Issues like what?

Me fine too. How's our 'yawo? Havent been seeing her much.

Yup 'yawo' is fine, though wont be on here today.

BTW, What's the meaning of the highlighted words or abi na curse be that?

No be curse but i no go translate.
Now you know how it feels when you're writing igbo up and down and refusing to translate.

Atreides:

No be curse but i no go translate.
Now you know how it feels when you're writing igbo up and down and refusing to translate.

Why na? Besides, my friend sitting here says it's bad.

@OP

The woman was prolly enjoying the whole ' B[i]ut[/i]t tappings' hence the complimentary smile on her face then. Mtcheww!

Poor Husband. . .

na wa o, a responsible single lady should not even take such crap from her male colleague, not to talk of a married woman. i wonder how long they must have been doing this for her to have found it funny . I believe for a guy to have tried this crap with a lady, he must have lost all respect for her. I understand how hurt the husband would have been, but beating is not justifiable, he slapped her in public and continued at home till she got a black eye?now thats wicked, There are matured and better ways of handling matters without being physical, BOTH, at fault,but when things get physical, the doer of the physical gets more blame!

That is some BS val surprise!!

The woman F-ed up big time. No self respecting woman talkless a married one for that matter should allow a man she's got no feelings for to be tapping her bum and be smiling about it.

If I was the husband I will come out of the car and call out her name. I will let her get into the car before I turn to the other man and ask him if he is aware that she is married. I will tell him that if he has an modicum of respect for himself he will henceforth keep his hands to himself and off my wife. I don't need any further story from him and I don't care if he is the boss or supervisor.

As for the wife. Please if you want to marry another husband please let me know because I can not share my wife with another man so let this be the last time I will hear or see this foolishness again.

Val's day is ruined for me already so we go home and sleep. I no fit for wahala jor.

@Reed,but would you hit her? And in public,no less?

OP.
Candid speaking,The husband acted so wrongly,He could have held his temper atleast till they get home which i'm sure by then he would be cool and wouldn't bother to do what he did . . .How would you brutalize your wife cause some1 ''her malefriend'' hit her buttocks while joking . . . . .EXtra jealousy!!!hmmm
I think i wouldn't act in a such way . , I'm better off the joke, so i would take it easy . . , But would definitely feel strange and jealous.

Atreides:

@Reed,but would you hit her? And in public,no less?

It's the man I'll feel like pummeling! As for the wife I would want to yell at her on the top of my voice. But I won't do any of that. I'll react just as I have outlined.

D-sense:

OP.
Candid speaking,The husband acted so wrongly,He could have held his temper atleast till they get home which i'm sure by then he would be cool and wouldn't bother to do what he did . . .How would you brutalize your wife cause some1 [b]''her malefriend'' [/b]hit her buttocks while joking . . . . .EXtra jealousy!!!hmmm
I think i wouldn't act in a such way . , I'm better off the joke, so i would take it easy . . , But would definitely feel strange and jealous.

Male friend Are you kidding I as I said I don't care who you are no man (except maybe her brother or father even that one get as e bi ) will tap my wife's bum and I'll say o he's just a friend/colleague!

D-sense:

OP.
Candid speaking,The husband acted so wrongly,He could have held his temper atleast till they get home which i'm sure by then he would be cool and wouldn't bother to do what he did . . .How would you brutalize your wife cause some1 ''her malefriend'' hit her buttocks while joking . . . . .EXtra jealousy!!!hmmm
I think i wouldn't act in a such way . , I'm better off the joke, so i would take it easy . . , But would definitely feel strange and jealous.

yes the hitting was wrong but what would you think if your wife work mates hit her bum out in the open ?  what happens behind closed door? what of those hours she comes late from work, will she be really working or smacking each others bum in office in wils sex

all those are questions which pops up in your mind

^^^^^ he already told us what he would do,you even quoted it, so wat else do you want to hear You want him to tell you he would have hit her?

bhusayor:

^^^^^ he already told us what he would do,you even quoted it, so wat else do you want to hear You want him to tell you he would have hit her?

read carefully i mentioned specific things in order to make him think further meaning i want him to respond according to the specific things i mentioned

and besides i condone hitting and i said it before my thoughts

ZIM DRILL:

yes the hitting was wrong but what would you think if your wife work mates hit her bum out in the open ?  what happens behind closed door? what of those hours she comes late from work, will she be really working or smacking each others bum in office in wils sex

all those are questions which pops up in your mind

Now that's some mind boggling thoughts.

koolchicco:

Now that's some worrying thoughts.

those are thoughts that might have gone through the guy's mind and it might have drove him to hit her though i aint defending his actions

ZIM DRILL:

read carefully i mentioned specific things in order to make him think further meaning i want him to respond according to the specific things i mentioned

and besides [b]i condone hitting [/b]and i said it before my thoughts

Oh,now i understand you,case closed!

bhusayor:

Oh,now i understand you,case closed!

dont read between two lines

my 1st respond was on hitting, then i went to give my thoughts on what might have gone through the guy's mind