czarr:
should a man spend his money on a woman who is not his fully married wife?

YES OR NO?

Damianwest19:
I am currently trying to date a girl , but I just hope she is not too materialistic, she asked me to buy phone for her, I have asked her to visit me at home so that we can discuss about it but the day she promised to visit ; she didn't come , although she normally visits me in my place of work with her friend...I don't know if she truly is interested in me or she is more interested in the material things. I really want to marry her but she is yet to prove her love.

Zzor:
im good too Mr sharpwriter

Damianwest19:
I am currently trying to date a girl , but I just hope she is not too materialistic, she asked me to buy phone for her, I have asked her to visit me at home so that we can discuss about it but the day she promised to visit ; she didn't come , although she normally visits me in my place of work with her friend...I don't know if she truly is interested in me or she is more interested in the material things. I really want to marry her but she is yet to prove her love.

Escabado:



This shows you girls are not ashamed of your selves. A human being with able hands and legs will derive joy in beging a man for money ? God forbid me coming across your type of woman. Mark my word by the time you get to 35 no man will spend dim on you again even for sex or anything. Your sexual value must have depreciated .since is sex you came to life to do

Zzor:
It is not byforce to spend on be with a man, as a woman,but also learn to keep your money body and be single for the rest of your life if you are stingy.So it is a YES since a woman can't keep to herself

MrBrownJay1:


Yet women like you expect a man to date a broke stingy woman below his class, abi? If a babe wants a fancy date, let her go Dutch or go home!

Damianwest19:
I am currently trying to date a girl , but I just hope she is not too materialistic, she asked me to buy phone for her, I have asked her to visit me at home so that we can discuss about it but the day she promised to visit ; she didn't come , although she normally visits me in my place of work with her friend...I don't know if she truly is interested in me or she is more interested in the material things. I really want to marry her but she is yet to prove her love.

Chrisbella24:



Unfortunately, I'm getting married soon.

So, gather your broke peeps and continue wailing together.

Escabado:


This shows how worthless you are. Who told you getting married will make you escape from financial responsibility. I give you 3 years in that marriage and your husband will begin to nag ,beat you and maltrate you .if you didn't contribute anything financially to the marriage and that lead to divorce . Lazy bone

Chrisbella24:

No one said you shouldn't date above your class.
One thing is, even if you date below or Above your class You will still spend money voluntary or Involuntary

MrBrownJay1:


fixed

Men need women just as much as women need men in life... The minute anyone believes otherwise is the moment you would have failed in life.

Escabado:


This shows how worthless you are. Who told you getting married will make you escape from financial responsibility. I give you 3 years in that marriage and your husband will begin to nag ,beat you and maltrate you .if you didn't contribute anything financially to the marriage and that lead to divorce or even beat you till you die. Lazy bone . You people think everything is joke. I will advice to go and learn work or good business to aurgment your marriage otherwise na die you dey go so

Zzor:
A man must spend on his woman in a normal setting, this is the bitter truth but if a woman decide to be spending on a boyfriend then she should manage whatever outcome it brings because I know it doesn't always end well for the woman,as for me I will never spend a dime on any man other than the lucky person I eventually end up with.Women spending on men,i hail them sha

MrBrownJay1:


You are entitled to your own desires in life but claiming that it's wrong for a woman to spend on her man (even when she has the means to do so) yet claim it is a necessity for a man to spend on his woman, is the reason why many men look at women and can't possibly value you. It shows such a selfish narrow minded character, I wonder what man in his right mind would want such a woman for a future wife,

Zzor:
remember there's a clear difference between husband and boyfriend and my emphasis has been on boyfriend.No problem if a woman spends on her husband but you see this days ehn,this men will take every opportunity to leech on a lady if the opportunity present itself,so women should be wise not to spend their money on boyfriends

Escabado:
Why does this Nigerian girls think that when a man says I love you or can we date means he want to be giving you money . Where on earth have you seen any body begging to have or Loving expenses. True Love doesn't cost a thing . This same thing apply to marriage ceremony. You said you love me and I love you too but when a man goes to meet the girls parents they will start asking him for money for this or that . Then my question remains where is the Love if I'm paying you to be in relationship with you or if I'm paying your parents to have you as a wife thats means this is pure business transaction because there is nothing wey concern Love in it. So when your husband or boyfriend cheats on you , he is 100% right because he paid to have you or paying to be sleeping with you indirectly.

Guys add yours . These things Tire person

n1ky:
Well on this topic.
Men like to shift responsibilities and want a total submission from the woman....... Men are commanded to be responsible by providing for the family so is not a big deal if you spend money on your wife.

As for the marriage items, it is biblical so is not a big deal and if you think you can not marry from a tribe that demand a high price, there are many tribes that you can marry from that doesn't demand a huge price.

As for relationship , women brought this on themselves by looking up to the men to give them money.....ladies abeg work for your money........ although I hate a stingy person not because of the money he will give me but I believe most of them are irresponsible in marriage. A guy that can't be caring and helpful is not useful.
They will be looking for a wife material by cooking , washing their clothes and mopping their floor in a girl friend and if she ask for money na gold digger..........so what is your usefulness when we are not married and you expect me to do house.

Well what I believe , Ladies close your laps, no nonsense cooking, washing of stupid clothes before marriage and pleased work for your money.....we all went to the wall of school so you deserve better.

Zzor:
Please how do you want your chicken,fried or roasted? God bless you for this

n1ky:
Well on this topic.
Men like to shift responsibilities and want a total submission from the woman....... Men are commanded to be responsible by providing for the family so is not a big deal if you spend money on your wife.

As for the marriage items, it is biblical so is not a big deal and if you think you can not marry from a tribe that demand a high price, there are many tribes that you can marry from that doesn't demand a huge price.

As for relationship , women brought this on themselves by looking up to the men to give them money.....ladies abeg work for your money........ although I hate a stingy person not because of the money he will give me but I believe most of them are irresponsible in marriage. A guy that can't be caring and helpful is not useful.
They will be looking for a wife material by cooking , washing their clothes and mopping their floor in a girl friend and if she ask for money na gold digger..........so what is your usefulness when we are not married and you expect me to do house.

Well what I believe , Ladies close your laps, no nonsense cooking, washing of stupid clothes before marriage and pleased work for your money.....we all went to the wall of school so you deserve better.

n1ky:
Well on this topic.
Men like to shift responsibilities and want a total submission from the woman....... Men are commanded to be responsible by providing for the family so is not a big deal if you spend money on your wife.

As for the marriage items, it is biblical so is not a big deal and if you think you can not marry from a tribe that demand a high price, there are many tribes that you can marry from that doesn't demand a huge price.

As for relationship , women brought this on themselves by looking up to the men to give them money.....ladies abeg work for your money........ although I hate a stingy person not because of the money he will give me but I believe most of them are irresponsible in marriage. A guy that can't be caring and helpful is not useful.
They will be looking for a wife material by cooking , washing their clothes and mopping their floor in a girl friend and if she ask for money na gold digger..........so what is your usefulness when we are not married and you expect me to do house.

Well what I believe , Ladies close your laps, no nonsense cooking, washing of stupid clothes before marriage and pleased work for your money.....we all went to the wall of school so you deserve better.

MrBrownJay1:


Sista....A stingy man is a man that is CAREFUL WITH HIS MONEY, and certainly not the wasteful type. Such traits are qualities in marriage. The same stinginess that some women will use to keep their own money and expect their boyfriend to take care of their needs.

n1ky:
I have answered your question.
I don't support men taking the whole responsibility on your girl friend, but is not a big deal if I am in need of money and you can help......I will do otherwise if you're in need too.

That's why I said, if men think they are wasting money...... everyone should maintain their level of their responsibility........ Women should work for their money, because there's no money that you have that we can't make if we work hard.....is only a lazy woman that look up to men for money.

And you men too should stop looking for house help in a girlfriend if you can't waste money........... you hold your money, we close our laps, stupid cooking and washing of cloth all in the name of girlfriend.

MrBrownJay1:


You see, the above is the main issue... If a woman can help to pay the restaurant bill or any other fun things you guys do together but decide NOT to (because in her mind it is not her duty), then how can a man value such failed mindset? Same when a woman expect a man to ALWAYS pay up for everything.thats the failed character that no man would desire in a wife, nor child.



Dating a woman who believes that "your" money is our money but "her" money is HER money...is a waste of life. Nobody wants such selfish woman as a future wife.



You see, the above is what I am fully against... Thinking that what you do as a couple (sex) in order for both of you to get closer, should now be something that you use as blackmail (aka sex/cooking and cleaning against paying for everything).

Sex shouldn't even be mentioned here, as this is something that you BOTH enjoy (unless you don't enjoy making love to your man).
If you want to cook and clean then do so regardless of whether your man takes care of your needs or not. That's not the point. So long as a man does not demand that you cook and clean as a requirement for dating him, then that's the main issue... It doesn't mean you shouldn't do it, it just means that whether you do it or not is irrelevant to the r/ship you guys have.....Same with sex.

Zzor:
learn not to be stingy to your woman,all men should learn that as well

n1ky:
I only mention sex for unmarried couple........An average woman wants a man to spend on them although it does not apply to me while an average man too love a woman to cook and do house chores... so is vice versa

Zzor:
It is not byforce to spend on a woman as a man,but also learn to keep your money and stay away from women if you are stingy.So it is a YES since the man can't keep to himself

czarr:
So you are saying a man needs a woman more than a woman needs a man?....and that women have more to offer and so should be compensated with money if men are to want them?

Stephenmoka4:

Are you not aware that it is a taboo for the so called alpha Nairaland guys to be generous to women (Nigerians especially). Sometimes when I read posts here, I do wonder what are the roles of the males.
Even showing emotions to a girl is also bad. Never ever, follow the advice of all this fake Alpha males, the internet is their strength.

Truth is bitter, most of them hate it. Next thing is simp calling, watch and see how they start quoting posts with a tone that match their current life situations.