don't let anyone make you feel guilty you can get an annulment in court and if that is refused divorce him
it is totally the man fault for not telling you the truth before you married him.

& if you have strong religious belief against divorce, then you need to start praying and fasting to your Lord

seun just got the restless more confused with his idea of null and void. what does null and void mean? what is divorce? isnt it less stressful to get a divorce than packing a team of legal practitioners to battle full throttle on war field of 'null and void'. sweating profusely over more confusion

it cant happen to me cos i wudnt imagine myself marrying what i dont know. _{i must do atleast twice}

@topic if a man really loves a girl,he should tell her that he is impotent before marrying her,then the choice would be left for the girl.if a man hides something like this from me,and later tells me after wedding,i would ofkus seek for annulment not for the fact that there is no other way of making babies but for the deciet .lies and deciet are what i personally hate and abhor

impo***** impotent? what were they doing when during their courtship days?

why was there no litmus-tests during their courtship days , even carbon 20- testing sef!

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@topic if a man really loves a girl,he should tell her that he is impotent before marrying her,then the choice would be left for the girl.if a man hides something like this from me,and later tells me after wedding,i would ofkus seek for annulment not for the fact that there is no other way of making babies but for the deciet .lies and deciet are what i personally hate and abhor

i agree jare ify

impotence is defined in different ways, if he was a 'good boy' and did not 'enter other jerusalems' he might not actually know he is impotent.

impotence could be inability to maintain erection, low sperm count and a number of things, its not as easily discernible as you may think

secondly if dem be good Christians and didn't 'test run' each other, how would he know?

@ Ika why you no subscribe to the 'i must do twice' part of Ify's post?

debosky:


@ Ika why you no subscribe to the 'i must do twice' part of Ify's post?

but i did did you read this ?

ikamefa:



why was there no litmus-tests during their courtship days , even carbon 20- testing sef!

omo wake up! jare wetin you take yah CHM 101 do?

ikamefa:

but i did did you read this ?

omo wake up! jare wetin you take yah CHM 101 do?

I don use am chop eba jare nor blame me!

Say NO to test driving! If he is impotent, then un-impotent him

well, for me i do not think it would be normal for the guy not to inform the laddy before marriage, but if it now happens, the lady should let the guy know he has done a wrong thing but should not go out of the house but accept her fate , and conclude on adoption.

Too bad, for better for worse.

The only way out is a big, fat Divorce.

"State irreconcilable Differences", as the reason.

MOUTAIN OF FIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The thing that really hurts me is that there are people who have just taken this Christianity to another level.

I absolutely cannot stand the fact that a man would know that he couldnt get his 'dingaling' up and he would wanna marry someone. If it was a woman that couldnt give birth, he would leave her at the drop of a hat.

She cannot stay like that - she is already sinning in her heart cause am sure she longs after a man that could satisfy her. The bible says God doesnt like divorces but he loves divorcees.
We always say as Christians this and that but wouldnt u rather leave him, and marry someone that can actually satisfy you because when u are lusting, u have already sinned.

Am a Christian by the grace of God, however, there are issues that God allows for Paul that He wouldnt for Peter.
You are a child of God, He isnt that wicked to see u in distress and does nothing.
Address this issue with Him and i am certain that He would come through for u.

People can be so wicked - I am a Christian by His grace and i have suffered a divorce but how could i stay with a guy that married me after he was married to another in Nigeria?

No way and take note when u invite ur pastor into this; he will tell u that 'divorce isnt part of God's plan.

You know whats best for u so talk to God.

If God could allow Solomon who was born from controversy to be king of Isreal - his mother had an affair with the king - and he ended up on the throne - then He is a merciful God, let him have all ur worries and the solution will surface.

IF BOTH OF THEM STRONGLY BELIEVE THAT IT IS THE WILL OF GOD FOR THEM
THERE WON`T BE ANY PROBLEM BECOS WITH GOD NOTHING SHALL BE
IMPOSSIBLE. KEEP ON PRAYING FOR MIRACLE.

hi great peter iam a born again Christian and i follow the scriptures. i read this discussion.
Iam in this condition today.I found out that my Newlywed Husband is Impotent only after marriage.I told his parents(mom and dad).I told my parents(Mom and Dad) regarding this because we got married in church with the blessing of our parents.

My parents asked him to go for treatment.He wudn't do it.I asked him.he never listens.He doesn't have a sexual arousal at all.What shall i do??

Impotency can be approached from two perspectives: total or temporary. These are also of different categories. Total could be from birth or developed. Same with temporary, which could be emotionally induced or physiological. The lady would need to do a through analysis of the guy's situation before concluding and making a fuss about it as this could worse the situation.
Some issues are better resolved calmly.
Divorce or annulment should be the last recourse.

Impotent does not mean the man is sterile, impotent means he is unable to get aroused and that could be for a number of reasons he could be a diabetic, heart condition, high blood pressure, , medications can also effect a mans erection, Simple remedy here in the states and probably worldwide, viagara, sex strips that you place on your tongue, they have creams that you can rub on that can last for hours, I can work with impotentence being sterile I don't know,

@OP
O' boy, dis one hard o!
The poor lady was hoping for 'bamboo', only to discover (to her great disappointment) say na coco yam leaf.

Make the guy go buy viagra for that nite or use be-fit capsules

FELLOW NAIRALANDERS DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I MADE!
I MARRIED A BRASHY BASTARD CALLED MRCRACKLES BUT I DID NOT KNOW THAT HE IS IMPOTENT!!!!!!!!
NOW I'M ALL ALONE WITH NO ONE TO SATISFY ME!!!!!!
I THINK I'LL GO TO COURT FOR ANNULMENT OF OUR WEDDING SO I CAN MARRY A MAN!!!!!

boy oh boy

MrsCrackle:

FELLOW NAIRALANDERS DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I MADE!
I MARRIED A BRASHY BASTARD CALLED MRCRACKLES BUT I DID NOT KNOW THAT HE IS IMPOTENT!!!!!!!!
NOW I'M ALL ALONE WITH NO ONE TO SATISFY ME!!!!!!
I THINK I'LL GO TO COURT FOR ANNULMENT OF OUR WEDDING SO I CAN MARRY A MAN!!!!!

This is serious matters--------

MrsCrackle:

FELLOW NAIRALANDERS DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I MADE!
I MARRIED A BRASHY BASTARD CALLED MRCRACKLES BUT I DID NOT KNOW THAT HE IS IMPOTENT!!!!!!!!
NOW I'M ALL ALONE WITH NO ONE TO SATISFY ME!!!!!!
I THINK I'LL GO TO COURT FOR ANNULMENT OF OUR WEDDING SO I CAN MARRY A MAN!!!!!

Chei dis wan get as e be ooo .

This thread is old so i'll pardon the poster. Ladies have moved on since then.
Ok let me break it down for you.
NO LADY. . .
Absolutely NO LADY. . .
Marries these days without a 'test drive'.
You have to have sex (call it pre-marital sex at your own peril) with the guy, or he should be able to present to you a perfect and absolute rock-breaking hard-on!
That way we would smoke out cheats

~Borat~:

This thread is old so i'll pardon the poster. Ladies have moved on since then.
Ok let me break it down for you.
NO LADY. . .
Absolutely NO LADY. . .
Marries these days without a 'test drive'.
You have to have sex (call it pre-marital sex at your own peril) with the guy, or he should be able to present to you a perfect and absolute rock-breaking hard-on!
That way we would smoke out cheats

dont be too sure, the SU people still do oh