atiku4President:

Am not the one responsible for your problem. You may have inherited it

Sebastine1994:
Please schools should stop celebrating birthdays in school, please, biko. I use God beg you.

I sent my child to school to learn and not to celebrate birthdays, I came back from work one day and saw this play station 4 in a carton, I asked them who own. they said my daughter classmates celebrated her birthday and shared these gift to them.

I quickly ask them to reparkage the gift and take it back to the school, before I return from work the next day.

MY REASON IS THIS: all fingers are not equal, when it is my daughter's birthday they would be expecting a gift of equal amount.

The parent may be rich and I am not, they give my child what I can't afford for her which is a recipe for greed. she should be contented with what I can afford,

These her young mind should be moulded early to adapt to reality.

These private schools are encouraging these evil act, it may affect the child tommorow.

please push to front page to expose the dangers of school birthday.

sammirano:


So itsgift parent send kids to school to receive niwadays and not learning. Believe it or not, the school fostered the concept of gift exchange.

clefstone:
@op You may be suffering from Inferiority complex

teemotee:
Op can lie
Na so PS4 dey cheap ?
Suddenly you have a daughter of school age. You that was born in 1994 and created this topic asking how married people live
https://www.nairaland.com/5999028/love-couples-regret-after-marriage

Memberclub:
hustle ooo

Dizzyrascal:
it's obvious you have not experienced such before. A teacher teaching in one of those affluent kind of school brought a similar experience to me not quite long ago. She even had the honesty of heart to intimate me about the inherent dangers of it.

In her school, it became an obvious competition for parents to outdo one another to the detriment of the parents that don't have equal means. Even in the best private schools not all parents are of equal financial standing. All fingers are definitely not equal. Let me put it this way, when it is the turn of the father who asked his daughter to return the gift to reciprocate and he cannot, the daughter will feel like a failure at school. Psychologically, it is not good for both the father and daughter. He took an absolutely flawless decision if you ask me.

I do not surmise that there are no other ways of handling the situation but his methodology is not bad at all. Another method would have been to have a heart to heart talk with the daughter and explain the dangers of such practices to the school authorities. Might not necessarily change anything though.

Sebastine1994:
Please schools should stop celebrating birthdays in school, please, biko. I use God beg you.

I sent my child to school to learn and not to celebrate birthdays, I came back from work one day and saw this play station 4 in a carton, I asked them who own. they said my daughter classmates celebrated her birthday and shared these gift to them.

I quickly ask them to reparkage the gift and take it back to the school, before I return from work the next day.

MY REASON IS THIS: all fingers are not equal, when it is my daughter's birthday they would be expecting a gift of equal amount.

The parent may be rich and I am not, they give my child what I can't afford for her which is a recipe for greed. she should be contented with what I can afford,

These her young mind should be moulded early to adapt to reality.

These private schools are encouraging these evil act, it may affect the child tommorow.

please push to front page to expose the dangers of school birthday.

080bjaked:


You can see the real poverty mentality in those shouting "hustle ooo", "poverty", "why return gifts" blah blah blah. They are missing the real point (which is expected as most of them either aren't living comfortably or are not parents). The the real point of this post is contentment. If you are glad your child is receiving these gift and on your child's birthday you decided to share lunch boxes or less valuable parks, do you know that' enough to steer greed and inferiority into your kid's mind? These children compare gifts and if you don't repay in similar pattern, the other children will make jest of your baby and that could lead to serious emotional issues for the child. Teach your child contentment because the truth is you will never have all you want.
For godliness and contentment is great gain.

salford:
One of the best post of the year on Nairaland.

SexytorresE:
wanted asking why u did such thing , but u gave me a good reason .

NeoWanZaeed:
op.. you get sense.


when it's your daughter's turn and you don't turn up. you kid would be psychologically molested

Solsix:
Nothing is free

sylve11:
@ op, piken wey go wise, go wise....

AnonymousRebec:


I agree that gifts can make you indebted. This was a birthday, once in a year stuff. It's not like the person is giving you these kind of gifts every now and then. It is once in a whole year. Next year the children might not even be in the same class.
And it is not like that child or parent has demanded anything in return. If they begin to feel entitled because they gave your child a gift, that that is a good enough reason to return it.
This parent is just funny. He has denied his child an opportunity to have a PS4. Now if everyone in school is talking about their PS4 and the game, he will have absolutely nothing to say .

clefstone:
@op You may be suffering from Inferiority complex

Sebastine1994:
Please schools should stop celebrating birthdays in school, please, biko. I use God beg you.

I sent my child to school to learn and not to celebrate birthdays, I came back from work one day and saw this play station 4 in a carton, I asked them who own. they said my daughter classmates celebrated her birthday and shared these gift to them.

I quickly ask them to reparkage the gift and take it back to the school, before I return from work the next day.

MY REASON IS THIS: all fingers are not equal, when it is my daughter's birthday they would be expecting a gift of equal amount.

The parent may be rich and I am not, they give my child what I can't afford for her which is a recipe for greed. she should be contented with what I can afford,

These her young mind should be moulded early to adapt to reality.

These private schools are encouraging these evil act, it may affect the child tommorow.

please push to front page to expose the dangers of school birthday.

samnaija:


Wrong , a child that wants to be bad will be bad. So according to you the deprivation of things made you no my brother. Parenting is very complex. My parents will provide bountifully for me so that my eyes don't go astray to other kids things. And I am ok also. Even I make sure my kids also get the best so when they go outside things don't freak them to the point they doubt themselves.
If you are not capable or not that type of person don't feel superior and telling people it is right.
Every parenting style is different the goal is to have good kids.

AFvckingAlpha:
The fvck

Niggarr!!


Disgusting!

This is what a poverty stricken mind can cause!

The oppression just start!!

Hustle o! So you nor go perform this rubbish wey just
happen for here.
All this frivolous life is the reason the world cant be saved from desperate people.all these pressure from society,teaching children that its all about making money .do u knw the competition giving out ps4 in bd would cause?do u knw how little the receiver will feel if her turn doesn't come with equal measure of gift?
Carry on encourage your kids to feel money is everything....anyways by the time they realise they have to hammer at all cost, no be u them go use make money?

I got nothing else to say but hustle!!

miketayo:


Would he return d car or sell it? If u are given a gift above your standard, convert it to cash, win win.