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Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Bennysam: 11:04pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
merieam16:You're devil, if you don't know what to say just shut up , evening news paper |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Nobody: 11:04pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
U see problem u wan embrace am, u av moved on, match forward |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Mrflyguy: 11:05pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Divanona: They already told him to come and beg you cos that's the genesis of his problem. Tell him to go back to his family and go find something to do of he want you guys to marry . Please tell him that you have forgiven and forgotten all that he did but he must bring something to the table if he wants to marry you . You can also follow your mind as regards this matter |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Jamean(f): 11:05pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Divanona: It's your life, better decide and decide well 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by franchasng: 11:06pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
pocohantas:it is not about men dear, I am a man, it is about this Op's boyfriend; he needs serious deliverance and prayer. Take it from me, the guy joined cult in school and couldn't graduate because of his cult activities, I know guys like him, and now they are living a regretful life after many years. Whatever future one enjoys in life is mostly built before one turns 30yrs. Any wrong step one takes between the age of 20 and 30yrs usually last for a lifetime unless God intervenes specially to glorify his name for a reason. The guy followed the wrong path of life, he need to free the lady instead of adding more burden on her already heavy burden. I only pity the innocent child in this whole thing. Ladies and gent, please always use a condom please. Sex is sweet even with condom, stop fvcking raw 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by toluleke(m): 11:06pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
I never read comment he travelled outside the country or just left u and was in the country cos na two different scenario . If e no travel out ha that one na very irresponsible man you give woman belle leave am |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Saintmary(f): 11:07pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
pocohantas:Oh my Gosh, you're so experienced. 2 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by franchasng: 11:08pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
1StopRudeness:wow, another angle 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Jamean(f): 11:08pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
E say na saviour complex It's Bob the builder syndrome oseoji: 2 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by tete7000(m): 11:09pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Why did he not graduate? What positive thing does he have to give his son now? Emotion doesn't solve problems, logic solve them. Be rational and think through. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by TinubuGoQuench(f): 11:09pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
abouzaid: WOULD YOU SAY THIS SAME THING IF IT WAS THE OTHER WAY ROUND? 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Fearlez: 11:10pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
When we tell una say falling in love with your course mate or class mate no dey get future una no dey hear. A boy in final year still has a long way to go in life , whereas a girl in year 2 is almost set. 2 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by pocohantas(f): 11:11pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
franchasng: Oh it is, because this scene keeps replaying in reality. That is why if you go to churches, it is always one preaching or the other, teaching women how to ENDURE. In fact, the ultimate test of a virtuous Nigerian woman is how much bullshit you can endure for the longevity of a marriage. No one encourages men to take such bullshit from women, I for one have never seen. There is a new name for men who try such endurance - SIMP. I don’t do religious hullabaloo, OP’s whatever he is, needs to fix his life. Nobody in the village is holding him. I don’t know your village, but no one is in mine currently. We only gather festive periods... Jamean: Many women are like that. That is why you see some with bad boys. It is not like they love bad boys, they are obsessed with being the woman who makes a bad boy good. Deluded creatures spending their youth and energy on the wrong man. Later they’ll start crying... 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Paultricenoni: 11:11pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Well no advice can really help this situation I will advice you follow your mind or your brain rather cos your heart ain't gonna pay the bills |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Warmaterial(m): 11:12pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
U sure say guy man never make money but want to confirm one or two things by pretending to be poor |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Thossiey(f): 11:13pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
You think its easy to suffer abi? Tell him to get a means to sustain him self first ooo and if you want to do the do with him as you are now Mummy to him go and do tests ooo to know if he doesn't have any STDs . And if they ave not use his destiny to pound soap. Are you sure their is no other lady somewhere with a child for him? Abeg too much questions. Where are his family self? You better think well if not you will just old and be looking after 2 children. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Jossiace: 11:14pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
You got pregnant for him and he asked you to keep it. And went away. Since then he hasn't come back untill now after eight years. He came back and returned with nothing. No certificate no job no money no properties. Honestly he has problems. And it seems even his own family can't help him. You are the one to help him. God knew why the two of you came together, He knew he would have problem. But the angel He sent to him was you, still Satan tried but he never miss you. I'll advise that you take him back. He only needs prayers and counseling now. But try and ask him about his family first. Maybe there were family issues and turbulences that affected him. From there you can have some idea of what actually happened to him. One thing that many women don't know is that, some women have been ordained to lift up their men and bring out the actual need from their men. It means what and that you need from you man may not be available when you meet him, you are the one to help him and bring out that from him. That's how God made the fortune of some women. It's only the few that will meet their men the way they want. Some will have to help their men achieve and bring out what they want from them. In this case, the guy needs help. But your family must ask him some questions before you accept him. But please don't push him away. And whatever that happens next, try to get back to us here on this platform and see what happened after we all offered our advices. 2 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by greggng: 11:14pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
LilMissFavvy: I like your words untill it get to frustrating him sexually ...you want konji to kill both of them .? The only area i am bothered about is that the young man has no means of livelihood otherwise she would 've accepted him and the sort out things together |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Benwallt(m): 11:16pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
If he could put another one through your legs, he is on the bounce again. Be careful n b sure how many of your kind he has out there. 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by holybizzy(m): 11:19pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Protect your mental health |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by fidtopade: 11:19pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Please be very careful on how you open up to him, that include accepting him back. You might be seeing the same Image you use to know but a different person entirely. He might just put up what he know you use to know about him:may still be that kind and gentle but you own yourself to protect yourelf from further trouble. Come to think of it, is he marrying you now just because of the child you had for him or because he finds you as a life line? How about if you have been married to another man? How can a man whom suppose to have graduated 6-7 years ago come to your house empty handed and still feel comfortable around you, and further telling you he want to marry you. I think you yourself need to check yourself. I think you have already accepted him back, all what you are asking for now isn't just advice is more of approval. I don't see anything too much of him giving you his school fees when it is obvious that you needed it more, you would have done the same for him. I felt you just said that to make people thread on same line with what you have already decided, accept him back. If things were well with him, would he have thought of you? The answer is 70per cent no. If things were well with him, won't he have been married to another woman? I understand what single mother go through, which include not getting right suitor on time, but that shouldnt make you fall for anything including your confused baby father. My final words to you is that use your brain, and use your tongue to count your teeth. |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by mindpresh: 11:21pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Divanona: You are already stressed and living with your family (since he is staying in your brother's room). if he wants to be a family with you and your son, he has to PROVIDE & CONTRIBUTE No matter the "love" you may feel, raising a family cost money, you don't sound like you have much to begin with. he has to find something doing, he has a family, father & mother, he should stay with them and build something to offer you and his son. Abi he wants to continue living in your brother's room?? |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Nobody: 11:22pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
this is my number one problem with Nigerian women, lack of a strong resolve. If na me I go send you commot from my house, if you like take me to court, I will make sure I disgrace your stupid head. What nonsense? Some idiot, leaves me with a child and comes back as empty as kom kom and is telling me to accept him, if to say I be your brother I for beat am throw am commot. 2 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Nobody: 11:24pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
TinubuGoQuench:Leave am. Misogynists dey fear this kind thread like mad. 2 Likes
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Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Jamean(f): 11:24pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
I'm literally rolling on the floor laughing There's even Oat meal swallow now I have relatives on this table pocohantas: 2 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by tunjijones(m): 11:26pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Divanona: Have you even asked yourself what if he gets you pregnant and abandon you again Think abt that. 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by mcdokwe(m): 11:27pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
My questions would be if he is truly aware of the pains he caused and deeply sorry for them? If his life had turned better, would he have remembered you or he has tried all he could but still failed and knowing you have a soft spot for him because of the child between you decided to exploit it and leach on you? Find out the above and make your own decisions because las las you alone know what you truly want and will be the one to reap whatever outcome. Good luck 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Expresswriter: 11:27pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Eight whole years! He abandoned you and now he's back? Why? Because things are not working well for him! My sister, eight whole years!!! What if you had married someone else Will he come back? See, never marry someone out of pity. My candid advice: avoid him. He'll do the same thing tomorrow. You don't deserve such a man. Forget about his school fees sacrifice back then in school. Don't see marriage as a way of helping him back. If you must help him, give him some money if you have. Look for relationship books on marriage and read. Nairaland is not the right place to seek relationship advice. Even me don't take all I say. Consult a relationship counselor also. Don't say you don't have money. This is your life! Your future. Do the right thing. God bless you. 2 Likes |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Nobody: 11:28pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
pocohantas:That's my problem with a lot of women, lack of strong resolve, once you hold those kind of women's mumu button, e don be. If I have a daughter we have some real training to go through. 1 Like |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Lastmankc(m): 11:28pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Zzor:Theme alpha male |
Re: Left Us. After Eight Years, He's Back And Had Nothing by Jamean(f): 11:29pm On Sep 28, 2020 |
Child aside, I'm shocked she still has the same taste in a man as of 8-10yrs ago. The lady has obviously not levelled up. Zzor: 2 Likes |
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