chinchonglee:
How old is she please

Ishilove:

Have you asked her why she fell out of love with you?

Martinez39s:
Don't be silly and disingenuous. You know the answer to your question. He is no longer as rich as he used to be. No money, no honey. You are just deliberately playing games here.

PhonesGadgets:
38years of age

Ishilove:

Have you asked her why she fell out of love with you?

PhonesGadgets:
Yes....she said she has needs I can't meet right now... Am enable to supply the family needs. But I try ...Heaven knows I try to make the family happy

Charleys:
Guys marry virgins so that you won't have all these issues in your marriage

Martinez39s:
Oga, go and swallow the red pill. Your pot of gold (money) has reduced. By the way, why can't you divorce her?

PhonesGadgets:
Yes....she said she has needs I can't meet right now... Am enable to supply the family needs. But I try ...Heaven knows I try to make the family happy

Ishilove:

Pele o. Internet psychologist, you have already diagnosed the problem from the Op's vague concise and precise statement.

Ishilove:
What does she do for a living?

PhonesGadgets:
38years of age

PhonesGadgets:
She has a Unisex Saloon

UDUJ:


How do you want us to help you?

She has openly admitted she is in love with someone else.

I guess you feel it's because you are no more as financially buoyant as you used to be? That means you are indirectly saying your wealth was what attracted her in the first place to you? You might be wrong you know. Try seating her down and tou guys have a heart to heart serious talk if you still want the marriage to work.

From your post, I see you still want the marriage to work. I strongly suggest you guys see a marriage counselor and also get your parents involved (if they are still alive). I wish you well.

Tunagee:


Am sorry, I disagree with your advice. She specifically told him she is in love with someone else, so what the Bleep is he discussing with her. The only thing he needs to do is put the conversation in a phone recorder for reference purpose. A woman will always be foolish at one point or the other in her life. Let her go bro! Try take care of your kids. The idiot deceiving her gullible brain will soon be done with her cos no man ever respects any woman who leaves her matrimonial home. She go cry come back to you, but I beg you, NEVER ACCEPT HER BACK!!!!!!

Tunagee:


Am sorry, I disagree with your advice. She specifically told him she is in love with someone else, so what the Bleep is he discussing with her. The only thing he needs to do is put the conversation in a phone recorder for reference purpose. A woman will always be foolish at one point or the other in her life. Let her go bro! Try take care of your kids. The idiot deceiving her gullible brain will soon be done with her cos no man ever respects any woman who leaves her matrimonial home. She go cry come back to you, but I beg you, NEVER ACCEPT HER BACK!!!!!!

Tunagee:


Am sorry, I disagree with your advice. She specifically told him she is in love with someone else, so what the Bleep is he discussing with her. The only thing he needs to do is put the conversation in a phone recorder for reference purpose. A woman will always be foolish at one point or the other in her life. Let her go bro! Try take care of your kids. The idiot deceiving her gullible brain will soon be done with her cos no man ever respects any woman who leaves her matrimonial home. She go cry come back to you, but I beg you, NEVER ACCEPT HER BACK!!!!!!

Martinez39s:
I don't know what most modern men have turned into. An overwhelming majority of them lack common sense when it comes to women and family life. How the OP can be confused on what to do baffles me. How can someone say a man should sit down with a bold cheating wife and talk things out? What sort of nonsense and arrant stùpidity is that? How can someone be stupid enough to think he can negotiate genuine desires? Why stoop so low and present yourself like a big fool to your wife?

A woman has no respect for you, she doesn't desire you anymore (that's if she ever desired you), her utter disrespect was manifested in her boldness in cheating, your wealth has declined and OP doesn't know what to do? Gosh! What the fùck men! Did it not occur no the op that a divorce is the appropriate thing here?

I rest my case. This matter weak me gan.

PhonesGadgets:
I really don't know how to stop her as she no longer hide it away from me . She told me she's in love with someone else after 4 kids...please help me as am no longer rich as I used to be.

please let her continue abeg, ah ah

PhonesGadgets:
Yes....she said she has needs I can't meet right now... Am enable to supply the family needs. But I try ...Heaven knows I try to make the family happy

PhonesGadgets:
You have good point despite the fact that some of your words are so rude. But yeah I need all the scolding I can get to make me take the giant step.

Am not a fool.I only have the future and wellbeing of my children at heart. I love my children a whole lot and just don't want to deprive them of motherly love for life because of my selfish interest. I wanted the children to grow a little more older before sending her away. But we stopped sleeping in same room and also stopped relating like husband and wife. She just there in her room and am in seperate home in the same flat and also the children in seperate room.

PhonesGadgets:
She has a Unisex Saloon

davidhobo:
Go and do DNA for those kids first. Then come back

davidhobo:
Go and do DNA for those kids first. Then come back

Dreyton36:
In this life there are two things involved according to basketmouth

You haven't told us the whole story
There must be something you've always done to her that have her such confidence to tell you she's in love with someone else after 4 kids
Until you narrate both the good and ugly side of the story and how you're also faulty then you can come for a deep advise and also a helping hand
Thank you
May God restore your home Ameen

Martinez39s:
I hope you take the giant step. Marriage is not an excuse to be miserable, you only have one life to live. Don't let an undeserving woman rob you of your peace of mind and happiness.

Oga, it is enough that the children already know their mother. If possible, when you divorce her, keep the children and allow her free visitation. Do not be responsible for her needs and wants anymore. Let her fend for herself and handle her issues.

I remember when I visited a neuropsychiatric clinic some years back as a student. During the orientation (which happens before people start their treatment and see the doctor), a staff was giving mental health tips and advice on things to avoid and how ensure a healthy and sound mind and have peace during treatment. As he exhorted people to stay away from hard drugs, alcohol, and other psychoactive addictive substances, he said something that will forever remain in my memory. He said and I quote, "if you are married and your wife is giving you problems and torturing you mentally, dump her. It's better to have your peace of mind and mental health than to endure a toxic woman." He said this firmly and repeated himself over and over even though the women and simps in attendance screamed "AH!" Are you telling me that the expert doesn't know what he is saying and hasn't seen many cases to make this his point? The emotional and mental abuse and heartache that many men are facing from their wives can just be solved by a divorce. Men need to learn how to put themselves first. YOLO. Do fall for the scam that marriage is a point of return or a do-or-die thing. Learn to walk away. Peace.

jimmychang:


Unisex saloon ..is this guy confirming the redpill theories I have read

PhonesGadgets:
Who need your helping hand? ....you sound like you can help or you're experienced and have the right advice. Someone like you just want to hear my story and mock me. You really make me laugh

UDUJ:


How do you want us to help you?

She has openly admitted she is in love with someone else.

I guess you feel it's because you are no more as financially buoyant as you used to be? That means you are indirectly saying your wealth was what attracted her in the first place to you? You might be wrong you know. Try seating her down and tou guys have a heart to heart serious talk if you still want the marriage to work.

From your post, I see you still want the marriage to work. I strongly suggest you guys see a marriage counselor and also get your parents involved (if they are still alive). I wish you well.