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Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by razible5384(m): 11:14pm On Nov 14, 2020 |
pansophist:i beg to differ... I don't think u should be preaching this... We all know in life shit happens, widows that lost their husbands to the cold hands of death, never prayed for such to happen, what about broken marriages an relationships? How will the dependent party survive in such scenario..... In as much as, a man should take care of his household(the holy book admonished that), no man should serve as a life insurance policy to a lady's well-being..... In life we make contingency plans 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by pansophist(m): 12:05am On Nov 15, 2020 |
razible5384: If Davido dies today, you truly believe his kids and baby mama will suffer? Lol. Might be hard for you to believe, but there are people that have risen above poverty, and not even death can bring it back. Different strokes for different folks. 1 Like |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by razible5384(m): 6:19am On Nov 15, 2020 |
pansophist:lol...see comparison... My brother this is Nigeria, we're poverty strives, we're lot of middle class well-to-do houses can't boast of 10m in their savings 2 Likes |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by gforce5: 12:53pm On Dec 02, 2020 |
That's because, whether one likes it or not, social class is a big issue in this country coupled with an extremely materialistic society. The concept of love in this part of the world is dead. Due to the high level of poverty in the country, most people see marriage as a means to escape it. The Government in the past 40 years has failed the youths. As materialistic as the west is, there is equal opportunities for both genders. Once you are 16 , you can start work as a summer job/part-time student. This installs youths with an independent mindset from an early age. Here, many people don't have any job experience until they are like 25. The culture of the man taking care of the woman doesn't help matters. jaxxy: 1 Like |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by gforce5: 1:25pm On Dec 02, 2020 |
OP, the problem is that women in this country believe that classism doesn't apply to them.They believe that only men can be "broke" and be subjected to "classism". As far as they are concerned, all they need is to be beautiful and open their kitty kat. That's why it's not shocking that they can use Uber/Bolt without paying because they feel that some guy will pay for it or they can use their feminine wiles to abscond from payment. They will always broke shame men and tell them to date someone "in their class". That's why in a way, i respect the way these Northern elites marry their children within their circle. You will NEVER see the son of a prominent Northern elite marry a poor girl. Impossible. I don't blame the women, it's the men that caused all this shit by placing their worth on how much money they can spend on a woman. |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by Nobody: 5:51pm On Dec 02, 2020 |
gforce5:You're on point! |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by Nobody: 5:57pm On Dec 02, 2020 |
pansophist:I love your stuff here and the wisdom in most of your comments about relationship issues, but this one no follow. It's a useless comparison. Do you think Chioma is broke and depends on Davido for everything including recharge card? I bet you haven't seen her family lol. Again, how many Nigerian men can be half as rich as Davido in their lifetime? Women need to independent enough to take care of themselves bro. Men are the natural providers in a home and no one is doubting that, but having a woman with no job, no skills and no financial dependence of any sort is plain stupid as a man. 1 Like |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by pansophist(m): 9:59am On Dec 03, 2020 |
Activist001: I do not think that you truly understand that post. I can see the line of your argument, and I've clarified it in the first paragraph, check it out again, but I'll clarify it here once more. My woman can work, but there is a difference between working just to make a living, and working for meaning, as a deep satisfaction, fulfilement and that your work is in alignment with your purpose. She works of course, but because she "want to", not because she "have to". Me conceding to the sustenance of my household is not naivety from my part, but a more of "you cant choose not to suffer, you can only choose which suffering you're willing to submit to". Accepting to be the sole sustenance of my household has its advantages and disadvantages, and two parents doing the same has its own advantages and disadvantages either. Its about choosing one, and we choose the former. The advantages are highlighted in my previous comment. Deep down, most women will like these arrangements, and it is the key to long term commitment. So bros, carry your cross well. If you want your wife to go hustle in this mad capitalistic world populated by envy, sexual predators, job insecurity, having few time to bond with kids and to radiate masculine energy to properly integrate into the workplace, then fine, your choice to make. I don't want it. Hope its cleared. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by angelfallz(m): 10:10am On Dec 03, 2020 |
pansophist: Wow. pansophist you and i share the same ideals about what we want from our future wives and their roles in our lives. My wife can work, but it has to be a non career work. A work where she is her own boss ie she can decide not to work for weeks or months, she sets her own time to be inline with her household duties. Her working is just like you said, 'because she wants to and not because she needs to' And like you rightly pointed out, it has its own advantages and disadvantages. So does having two parents that work. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by pansophist(m): 10:18am On Dec 03, 2020 |
angelfallz: Of course. All the truly masculine men I respect have this arrangement. Its even a biblical thing. Right from genesis, it has never being the duty of a woman to hustle, her job is in her household towards her husband, and kids. With infidelity rampant in our society today, people still don't want to go to the drawing board and see where we have gone wrong as a society. My parents had this arrangement, my mum is her own boss, not controlled by some other arrogant man and if she decides not to work, she is secured in my father's hustle. How else can a woman respect a man when she is not confident that he is her resting place ? Regina Nwoko is more happier than Linda Ikeji, I understand the female psychology really well, and I can tell you that. My regards 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by angelfallz(m): 10:28am On Dec 03, 2020 |
Palema007 It is unfortunate that too many men, are beginning to look at women only from the standpoint of what the woman can bring financially. Firstly, most guys these days go into relationships with the mindset of getting sex. And not the mindset of future marriage. When any man has such mindset he naturally attracts women who have the mindset of "urgent 2k" ie the women who are exchanging sex(relationship) for money. This is why i have always argued here that most relationships these days are transactional The reason why the complaints from men, both on NL, facebook and twitter have steadily risen over time is because, things in 9ja are tough, they can't afford to maintain their transactional relationships as they used to before. That is why they want their These same men are the ones that cry foul when their Palema007 you should have asked that you male friend, if he is blind to the working class women that are all over 9ja? The women that are too busy with office work or their own private businesses and don't necessarily need to ask him or men like him for "urgent 2k". Oh Linda Ikeji is looking for man oh! Maybe he didn't see her. https://www.pulse.ng/entertainment/celebrities/blogger-linda-ikeji-says-she-needs-a-husband/4cd0k9x Palema007: 1 Like |
Re: Do Ladies Consider Themselves "Being Too Broke" For A Relationship? by jornwhite: 12:24pm On Dec 03, 2020 |
angelfallz: As much as agree most of the things you say, i 'm not tew convince with the "working class ladies part" base on my experience & my friends, i have seen a lot & been with lots of working class ladies ... trust me when i say they make demands tew buh not the urgent 2k demand, its majorly i want to do these, i have so so amount cumma support me. Whether a woman has money or not, she craves n want her man's money more than a child, there was a time i mistakenly saw my Ex account balance, then i was like you have these you don't need help n she was like then what wil be ur impact in my life, oops! Linda ikeji is a billionaire buh she is bent on looking for a billionaire partner, apparently she does not need any man's money buh ofcus as a woman she want a man's money, every woman wants to be pampers by a man, a man richer than linda wil most likely fit into the babe support me naw! women are dependent in nature even a working gurlfriend will bill her man if she feel he is well to do. even deola smart dey bill mavelihood. 1 Like |
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