nwaezeemmanuel:
You're one of those very 'factual' people that will confuse themselves with either too much logic or anything that fuels their ego.

I hope you know the difference between something that works and something that people do not allow to work.

There are blissful marriages. You cant cancel that because some people get divorced. Think!

emkz:
I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity. We were not married but things had been done towards that like introduction and trad before kasala burst. I was happy kasala burst before we went farther.

For anyone who wants to get married, by all means do so...but marry for the right reasons. You first need to understand yourself and your own limitations. If your aim is to have children, perhaps a contractual arrangement suffices. Unfortunately, many marriages today are not different from service contracts: I will provide shelter, food and security while you provide pussy when I want it and how I want it, and you must not provide it to someone else. Or I am marrying you because society expects and would respect me to be married as it shows I am responsible.

The Dutch Prime Minister is single.

Or I'd marry you only because I love you. These are wrong reasons to be married. For a potential spouse, look at compatibility, companionship, communication, character and charisma. Exude these qualities yourself and you shall find it in your potential partner. Love will fade, the butterflies in your stomach shall die, your partner shall irritate you, what then would hold your marriage?

The stories of wayward men and women are told everyday on this forum. Don't let them deter you. There are very good men and women from very good homes who are responsible to be wifed or husbanded. I know this because all my sisters have been married for years and no one has come to report that they have issues with them.

Don't go looking for a wife. Develop yourself and have the values of someone husbandable, creation will link you to your spouse.

In closing, my question to you is:

Why exactly do you want to get married? Are you truly convinced of the answer you give yourself?

pronto543:


Abi o, and let other men too 'put their dick in her and let her born for them too...'

Let them take turns to enjoy their lives with her in the nice apartment you used your money to rent for her, while she enjoys the sweetness of her life and your sweat.

And let the daughters you have with her grow up to be just like her, so she and her stepbrothers and sister can make you proud and give you everlasting peace of mind.

And at end, let her give you STD from other men that sleeps with her. At least she is not under any contractual agreement to not f**k other men since you 'cared' so much about her 'happiness' and her 'freedom'.

And when you are 70 and you cook and wash for yourself lonely and hopeless, please don't blame anybody for your fate o.

macfish101:
that your white lady, does she have single friends?

nniero11:


Good choice bro!

I pray i get hooked with either a Mexican or Columbian for life! they value family and they r shw black too!

berrystunn:


Killing of time
Waiting for divorce.

Even when you are too perfect.

I did from 2003 to 2009 .

Yamiriflathead:


Men don't give a bleep about unmarried women in reality. But married women segregate and discriminate on single woen.. they see marriage as some sort of elevation that makes them superior to their unmarried friends.
Worry about this

Kuns84:


Did you know white people generally take a bath or shower only once or twice a week?
Forget how pale their skin looks, they are dirty asf.

Plut01:

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See you oo
Why you no settle for a Nigerian lady make we count scores after 3 years nah



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onlinestaff2020:
Hello Nairalanders,

This post is actually coming at the right time. Marriage has really been a pain in the ass for me.

My madam has been giving me headache for more than 13 years and even up till now.

Can you believe that because of my work and cost of transport which I spend close to N1500, I have decided to stay at my working place for sometime and go back home during the weekends.

Last week when I was around, my wife has been brooding and she told me nothing is the matter with her after I tried to prompt her.

Fast forward to today, after some days, she called me and started calling me names that I have not changed that I have a wife and daughter outside. This is totally unfounded.

Me that have not slept and have been sleeping in the ICT room on bare floor, just because of transport matter, is being accused wrongly.

I felt seriously bad.

Marriage is indeed a scam.

It's better to remain single, have a child/children from a baby mamma and move on freely without a baggage called a wife.

A woman is a man's worst nightmare.
Y
They can kill joy.

Fussion1000:



[s]Half truth. So many married people give their experiences on how marriages open to them,Bliss or Toxic, meanwhile one may not marry and still gives comprehensive opinion/counsel much more than married one. It all depends on how one understands philosophy of life not necessary you are fully into it, after all she or he has been into relationships before. Or you want to tell me boyfriend n girlfriend relationship experiences don't usually count/help in marriages[/s].

kingreign:



It's a very terrible speech you gave up there. And oh yes, I emphatically state it, 'Boyfriend girlfriend relationship Is VERY VERY VERY different from marriage because its not marriage'. When you understand the spiritual concept and reasons for marriage and apply it, then you can talk about marriage.

Fussion1000:



[s]Abeg enough of all these spiritual concepts, its God or holy spirit that will tell you to overlook minor offences and give peace a chance,

Even if God wants to intervene and the couple don't give him a chance, do u think he force himself into that marriage?
We humans quickly rush call God or blame Satan, even when we don't fulfill our own part and its obvious that we are the architect of our misfortune.

If bf/gf relationship didn't have impact in ur marriage, for me soooooooo many experiences I had with different ladies I dated in the past, helped me to choose my dearest wife and am still counting on the experience years after my marriage[/s].

BigDawsNet:


Bro divorce to an average white is like filling a job application.... Its normal


But I'm willing to make it last and work for my sake and my kids

kingreign:


. Your idea of marriage and mine are two opposing ideas. I respect you and your idea but I don't buy it. I still insist on my stand that marriage is a spiritual institution instituted by God himself, if you're not okay with it, that's your business, go deal with it. This is my last comment to you don't bother quoting me

Cheers!

Gamesmart:


AAAAAHHHH!

Una dey see how women bring unnecessary arguments into ones life?

So it has moved from "anything" to "barely a sentence"?

God dey!

Gamesmart:


Millions ko, Gazillions ni!

More like millions of marriages fail.

Just another woman fighting for marriage because she is panicking.

https://www.nairaland.com/6298872/ever-regretted-being-married-partner/10#96794209

Yamiriflathead:
One useless pained female mod abi simp done delete comments from page 1... Thunder fire you, useless mod

Marriage is still an overated piece of shit

KossyKiss97:


God forbid! Because your marriage is a FAILURE does not mean other people's marriage are. E-warrior, stop fighting on social media, go home and fight for your marriage.

Oluwaseun2020:

if you are godly yourself. .you will find a godly girl..learn from marriage that work..like oyedepo and adeboye. ..
get this book.. making marriage work by faith oyedepo. .thank me later
Get the free pdf file on Google.

emkz:
I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity. We were not married but things had been done towards that like introduction and trad before kasala burst. I was happy kasala burst before we went farther.

For anyone who wants to get married, by all means do so...but marry for the right reasons. You first need to understand yourself and your own limitations. If your aim is to have children, perhaps a contractual arrangement suffices. Unfortunately, many marriages today are not different from service contracts: I will provide shelter, food and security while you provide pussy when I want it and how I want it, and you must not provide it to someone else. Or I am marrying you because society expects and would respect me to be married as it shows I am responsible.

The Dutch Prime Minister is single.

Or I'd marry you only because I love you. These are wrong reasons to be married. For a potential spouse, look at compatibility, companionship, communication, character and charisma. Exude these qualities yourself and you shall find it in your potential partner. Love will fade, the butterflies in your stomach shall die, your partner shall irritate you, what then would hold your marriage?

The stories of wayward men and women are told everyday on this forum. Don't let them deter you. There are very good men and women from very good homes who are responsible to be wifed or husbanded. I know this because all my sisters have been married for years and no one has come to report that they have issues with them.

Don't go looking for a wife. Develop yourself and have the values of someone husbandable, creation will link you to your spouse.

In closing, my question to you is:

Why exactly do you want to get married? Are you truly convinced of the answer you give yourself?

blinking001:
Most married men feel deep regrets after getting married. It's an Esoteric truth actually. Most women are full of shit.

Gamesmart:


Do you know how many congregation females/males or olosho/ashawo that Oyedepo or Adeboye bangs behind their wives' backs?

You think milking the congregation for private jets will be their only scams?

Jodha:
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Gamesmart:


The reality is that when a girl is hot and sexy, most likely she does not have a good personality because she has never found the need to develop her personality when her looks gets her all she wants (from good jobs to attention to relationships to free stuff to gifts to social events invitation etc.).

Such girls tend to take their men for granted because they are confident there is another one on the queue to replace him.

So many men will not good interactions/personality needs from such girls on the long term. The only men that will, will be the alpha males who are at the top of the social ladder and the girl feels lucky to have. Ones she will struggle to replace without downgrading.

But these men too do not develop their personalities when hundreds of young fine girls with different bodies are rady to f**k them at the snap of a finger.

Marriages are failed arrangements and doomed institutions. The only way for most to succeed is to compromise on their desires, needs and happiness just to be married.

Jodha:


Yhure wrong in all ramifications and I don't know where to start from..

Gamesmart:


Madam, stop panicking, face reality and stop telling lies.

Marriage na failed arrangement.

Don't go into it because you are terrified of not being wanted and ending up alone as you grow old.

KossyKiss97:


For your information OGA, I have been married for 7 years, and I make bold to say that my marriage is successful by the grace of God. That you have a failed marriage does not mean that the whole universe will also have failed marriages. You don't have to discourage people who are planning to get married either, simply because your marriage is a disaster.