CalmElder:
I'm a man, but this time, I support the woman.
She should not have mentioned it sha, its good to be discreet.

Canadianelenu:
Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion.

My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.

Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”.

Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................

Ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously?

CalliDora1:
It's not right for her to make such a statement. It just goes to show how shallow some peoples' brains can be.

Does She think rape is pleasurable? For all she knows, the lady would have still died from being raped by those hefty men or worst still gotten infected with a deadly disease or ended with an unwanted pregnancy that will torment her for life.

The lady died a hero. And her death didn't go unavenged. so why is your wife saying she died for nothing?? She's narrow minded and cheap. You're not overreacting. In fact, if you can, show her my comment, let her learn how to reason and talk in matters like this.

CalliDora1:
It's not right for her to make such a statement. It just goes to show how shallow some peoples' brains can be.

Does She think rape is pleasurable? For all she knows, the lady would have still died from being raped by those hefty men or worst still gotten infected with a deadly disease or ended with an unwanted pregnancy that will torment her for life.

The lady died a hero. And her death didn't go unavenged. so why is your wife saying she died for nothing?? She's narrow minded and cheap. You're not overreacting. In fact, if you can, show her my comment, let her learn how to reason and talk in matters like this.

nedekid:

The wife talks without sense. Certainly not smart.
While we agree it is survival instinct, there was no point in her mentioning what she will do faced with such situation.
Somethings best left silent.
Put yourself in the ops shoe, how will you feel if wife says such?
Its just like a man saying he will die to protect his wife, yet we know most men wount. But you do not go telling your wife to her face you wount die for her.

Fiscus105:



So many unguarded utterances are destroying marriages, even if she would do it, she shouldn't have said it expressly, not even when her husband doesn't ask her opinion about the issue.

Such wife will open leg for other man with any issues far far lesser than the scene they watched on film

abbiboy:


Very myopic way of thinking,u're not fit for marriage with such low perception abt d other gender. And what she said is refer to as survival instincts...Abeg wise up.

Sixfeetbelle:
It's funny how people seem okay with this rape topic cause a woman said it and cause it involves a woman and all that nonsense. Of course, if this involved a man, the response would have gone much differently. The hypocrisy will not elude me, this I know.

Only very few seems to see beyond the rape event. And it does not surprise me on why this is so. Many of you seem to think rape and sex are the same thing, after all, they both involving slotting a long pipe in a hole, but they are not and will never be the same. Rape is forceful, aggressive, demeaning, hurtful, and condescending. Any right thinking woman will choose death over such an experience, more so were she to be married.

Before we side with her or not, we must ask ourselves some critical questions first.

Will her life remain the same after the rape? Can it remain the same?
Will the husband look at her the same way after? If, peradventure, he was present to witness the horrendous event, can he 'overlook' it and forget?
Will the marriage remain the same after? Can it remain even with the presence of children?

It's like we're so complacent in this country that we take so many things for granted and a lot. A simple lipstick stain on his shirt or a love message from her ex and our marriages are already cracking, yet many of you seem so ignorant and naive on the impact a rape event can have on any marriage.

Any lady that agrees with the wife is stupid, no apologies. Any man that agrees with the wife is ignorant. Hands down.

backtalkG:
No! At the wrong place

nijaomegacode:

I love what you said. My ex once said she rather die than allow any man or men to rape her. Because of this guy's situation, I regret breaking up with her.

CalliDora1:
It's not right for her to make such a statement. It just goes to show how shallow some peoples' brains can be.

Does She think rape is pleasurable? For all she knows, the lady would have still died from being raped by those hefty men or worst still gotten infected with a deadly disease or ended with an unwanted pregnancy that will torment her for life.

The lady died a hero. And her death didn't go unavenged. so why is your wife saying she died for nothing?? She's narrow minded and cheap. You're not overreacting. In fact, if you can, show her my comment, let her learn how to reason and talk in matters like this.

Sixfeetbelle:
It's funny how people seem okay with this rape topic cause a woman said it and cause it involves a woman and all that nonsense. Of course, if this involved a man, the response would have gone much differently. The hypocrisy will not elude me, this I know.

Only very few seems to see beyond the rape event. And it does not surprise me on why this is so. Many of you seem to think rape and sex are the same thing, after all, they both involving slotting a long pipe in a hole, but they are not and will never be the same. Rape is forceful, aggressive, demeaning, hurtful, and condescending. Any right thinking woman will choose death over such an experience, more so were she to be married.

Before we side with her or not, we must ask ourselves some critical questions first.

Will her life remain the same after the rape? Can it remain the same?
Will the husband look at her the same way after? If, peradventure, he was present to witness the horrendous event, can he 'overlook' it and forget?
Will the marriage remain the same after? Can it remain even with the presence of children?

It's like we're so complacent in this country that we take so many things for granted and a lot. A simple lipstick stain on his shirt or a love message from her ex and our marriages are already cracking, yet many of you seem so ignorant and naive on the impact a rape event can have on any marriage.

Any lady that agrees with the wife is stupid, no apologies. Any man that agrees with 5the wife is ignorant. Hands down.

Lydiahandmade:
Madam deputy Jesus, Assistant angel Michael. Advocate for show her my comment. We can clearly see that you are shallow minded.

abbiboy:


Very myopic way of thinking thing,u're no fit for marriage with such low perception abt d other gender. And what she said is refer to as survival instincts...Abeg wise up.

Fiscus105:



Wen you will understand , make sure you do DNA test of ur kids, woman rapper association

bizhop01:
This remind me of a man that divorced his wife after arm robbery attack, he said the reason separating from his lovely wife is because she was moaning very loud with excitement instead of crying when the robber's were having sex with her.

Sixfeetbelle:


I'm appalled to even see women commenting that what the lady said was right. It's shameful that women don't have values for themselves any longer. You'll accept being raped by six guys so you can stay in a marriage that isn't set in stone? For children that their future isn't set in stone?

And what happens after the rape? Do they think they can continue happily in their marriage after that? Do they think their husband will love them even more? Men that send their wives packing for sleeping with one man will love you more for sleeping with six?! Do they think life can be the same after that?

And they're even banking on the support from the men here as if it is worth anything in real life. No man here will stay with the wife after a rape event. They can't endure it but they'll never say it until after the foolish wife takes this risk.

ubola:
You are myopic in your reasoning. You live to fight another day. A lady in my neighborhood was hacked to death for refusing to let go her iPhone in a robbery situation. She died and the phone was still taken, now how do you justify this.

nedekid:

The wife talks without sense. Certainly not smart.
While we agree it is survival instinct, there was no point in her mentioning what she will do faced with such situation.
Somethings best left silent.
Put yourself in the ops shoe, how will you feel if wife says such?
Its just like a man saying he will die to protect his wife, yet we know most men wount. But you do not go telling your wife to her face you wount die for her.

ubola:
You are myopic in your reasoning. You live to fight another day. A lady in my neighborhood was hacked to death for refusing to let go her iPhone in a robbery situation. She died and the phone was still taken, now how do you justify this.

Canadianelenu:
Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion.

My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.

Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”.

Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................

Ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously?

Hardgun:
She was right at the wrong time.