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Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Sammmyyyy(m): 4:51pm On Feb 17, 2021
AmazingELixir:

Papi the bolded no match there oo misandrist will suffice
Thank you, boss. I just checked both words up.
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Sammmyyyy(m): 4:52pm On Feb 17, 2021
AmazingELixir:

Papi the bolded no match there oo misandrist will suffice
Thank you, boss. I just checked both words up.
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Sammmyyyy(m): 4:57pm On Feb 17, 2021
Judybash93:

It isn't a bad idea as far as the person is good. Marrying someone who isn't Virgin is not a bad idea either. Being godly isn't a thing i understand, maybe you can break it down a little.

Sir, I just read through again and you are right. May we all just marry who will go well with our destiny.

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Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Sammmyyyy(m): 5:00pm On Feb 17, 2021
SpicyMimi:

Lol my mum used to visit me in school, right from my primary school to higher institution. Any small nonsense like this, I don chop like 5 fast slaps in front of my friends and passerby. To the Glory of God, the fear of my mum embarrassing me and beating nonsense out of my body was what kept me away from sex and joining bad gangs.
Though later I gave my life truly to Christ, when the fear for my mum subsided.


When next you see that mum, your mum, please give her a lengthy hug and kiss her forehead. You do not know how much of destruction her slaps have saved you from.

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Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by SpicyMimi(f): 5:26pm On Feb 17, 2021
Sammmyyyy:



When next you see that mum, your mum, please give her a lengthy hug and kiss her forehead. You do not know how much of destruction her slaps have saved you from.
Lol You are right o! I had plans to be wayward then as a teenager, plans of having Sex once I gained admission to school, plans of wearing revealing dresses, plans of partying etc God saw those plans, and made my mum threaten me so much ehn! She’d threaten to cut my body with new blade, then rub pepper on it, if she found out I got pregnant as a teen or sleeping with a boy! She’d slap and beat I and my bro right in front of our peers even in Higher institution. Kai we get sense by force! Now I’m happy, she did all those things, else I for don turn slay queen.

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Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Nobody: 7:11pm On Feb 17, 2021
Sammmyyyy:

But sir, what events changed your mindset? Do you mind sharing with me, Sir ZIINI?
When I was still a Virgin I use to say to myself I will definitely marry a Virgin too .
But when I start to lash other babes the mindset changed why? I was like those girls i lash I can't marry all of them it's one guy that will marry them .
So why then will I still want to wife a Virgin when I'm definitely not a Virgin myself...
When I say that mindset changed this what I mean .....

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Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Sammmyyyy(m): 9:23pm On Feb 17, 2021
SpicyMimi:

Lol You are right o! I had plans to be wayward then as a teenager, plans of having Sex once I gained admission to school, plans of wearing revealing dresses, plans of partying etc God saw those plans, and made my mum threaten me so much ehn! She’d threaten to cut my body with new blade, then rub pepper on it, if she found out I got pregnant as a teen or sleeping with a boy! She’d slap and beat I and my bro right in front of our peers even in Higher institution. Kai we get sense by force! Now I’m happy, she did all those things, else I for don turn slay queen.


Super mom. Same as mine.
So happy for you. ❤❤

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Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Sammmyyyy(m): 9:26pm On Feb 17, 2021
ZIINI:

When I was still a Virgin I use to say to myself I will definitely marry a Virgin too .
But when I start to lash other babes the mindset changed why? I was like those girls i lash I can't marry all of them it's one guy that will marry them .
So why then will I still want to wife a Virgin when I'm definitely not a Virgin myself...
When I say that mindset changed this what I mean .....

Hmn... Now I get. And I think the best move is just to marry the right partner. May the almighty make it easy for us.
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by LagBae(f): 10:27pm On Feb 17, 2021
What of those that are virgins and not married and conji wants to kill?
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by LikeAking: 10:41pm On Feb 17, 2021
Sammmyyyy:


I'm telling you sir. But I'm trying anyway. I am better than I was 3 years ago.

Correct guy.

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Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by luminouz(m): 10:56pm On Feb 17, 2021
Judybash93:


Nope!! I'll only accept the results of this claim if you have evidence to support it.

I don't care what you accept bro.

Open your eyes and you will see
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Judybash93(m): 2:41am On Feb 18, 2021
luminouz:


I don't care what you accept bro.

Open your eyes and you will see

Ok
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Sammmyyyy(m): 5:22am On Feb 18, 2021
LagBae:
What of those that are virgins and not married and conji wants to kill?

"Wants to kill." But has it killed us?
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by blackboy(m): 9:49am On Feb 18, 2021
Tomorrow the dude or babe will wonder why their life is screwed. They wont sha. They will try to forget it ever happened and live a mother life but the truth is what happened will scar their soul and destiny maybe forever.

Youths destroy their future with such acts.

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Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Sammmyyyy(m): 12:26pm On Feb 18, 2021
blackboy:
Tomorrow the dude or babe will wonder why their life is screwed. They wont sha. They will try to forget it ever happened and live a mother life but the truth is what happened will scar their soul and destiny maybe forever.

Youths destroy their future with such acts.
.

.

.
May God bless you for this. As much as possible, sexually culpable folks try to self-aggrandize themselves, thinking the past doesn't matter to the present but it's all faux. There's a part of them that doesn't settle and holds on to the verity of their past acts.
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by LagBae(f): 11:09pm On Feb 18, 2021
Sammmyyyy:


"Wants to kill." But has it killed us?

So you're saying you're a virgin??
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Sammmyyyy(m): 5:19pm On Feb 19, 2021
LagBae:

So you're saying you're a virgin??


YES

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Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Sammmyyyy(m): 7:15pm On Mar 27, 2021
Omoh, I didn't expect this thread to blow this way ooo. I hope you readers have learnt a thing or two, anyway.

Thank you for stopping by.



*Takes a bow and leaves the stage quietly*
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Macdelley: 9:10am On Jun 30, 2021
Sammmyyyy:
I write this, sequel to a thread I read here a few days ago (precisely on Valentine's Day), on why people should preserve themselves and remain virgins till marriage.
After seeing the thread, my mind swayed right directly to the sayings of some men on this forum, on the opinion that marriage only favours the woman and not the man; then I tried connecting the dots.

That same day, my mind led me back to around a year ago while I was still serving. I rented a self-con, next to a young bar attendant of around 28 years, let's call him Kay. It was a twin flat, so we shared the same veranda and our rooms were very close.
This guy had a very young, charming, moderately rich, perfectly shaped, extremely slender, dark girl staying with him. Let's call her Joy. I'd later discover she was in 200L studying nursing but couldn't go home during the Corona, so, lied to her parents she was held in the school hostel instead.

In all honesty, I do not know her age, but my instinct told me she couldn't be more than 19. I even tried spying on her facebook account but couldn't get her exact age.

Guys, not to bore you, Kay and this girl, Joy, have sex more than they talk to each other. There is no day, no single day, I will not hear her whimpers in my room. It is not exaggeration if I say that no day passed without them having sex. They copulate so much that, at a time, the girl's walking posture changed. Her legs were not as free and slender as they used to.

Not just the sex. This girl spends anyhow for Kay. I got to later discover that she's the only child of her rich parents, so they never allow her lack anything.

In fact, I also learnt that the iPhone this guy, Kay, uses was bought by Joy as a birthday gift for him.
This guy would copulate roughly with the girl before leaving for work in the morning and roughly again when he comes back at night. Even midnights weren't left out as I occasionally would need to put up my speaker's volume just to distract me. And surprisingly again, this girl must cook for him before he comes back, from her own money.

Another shocking thing about this was, I have witnessed on more than 4 occasions, whenever we sit outside to gist, especially on weekends, this guy would say it openly that he cannot marry her, and that she should go and cook the rubbish she was making for him in her husband's house. That only her future husband deserves salty rice, hard beef, blah blah blah and not him. The girl too would just sit there, laughing sheepily.

I have also witnessed on one or two occasions, where this guy would throw this girl out at night on frivolous grounds. On one night after he had thrown her out and I had begged that he please allow her in, I heard their faint chatters on how that he wasn't enjoying her again, and that he needed something tighter, hence suggested sodomy. (I lie you not.)

At a time, I couldn't stand the excruciating agony Kay was putting this girl through that I wanted to sit her down and talk some sense into her, but it'd have been a waste. This girl is completely in love, or shall I say, foolishly in love, with him.

This act continued so long, until I finished my service there, packed my things and left the state.

My good people of nairaland, I can categorically say that this guy, Kay, milked this girl financially and sexually. Trust me, that girl has no sexual sweetness anymore. I just feel sorry for whoever her future husband will be. You know after you bite into a sugar cane and then spit it out after squeezing and enjoying its sweetness? That's what Kay has done to that girl.

....

Now, where's the connection?

Imagine if a girl like that who, at her tender age, has wasted her sexual prowess gets picked by a God fearing virgin man of God and is given an exorbitant bride price to pay?

Back in school, I have witnessed girls get laid with as low as Sharwarma and Vanilla ice cream.
Imagine a lady loses her virginity for ordinary meat pie and Bigi Chapman, and when the time for marriage comes, the prospective suitor is given over 200, 000 to pay as bride price.

Well, as for me. I have never messed anyone's child up.

And God is my witness, if she isn't a virgin, I will never drop a naira as pride price. Even a kobo like this, I will not pay.
The only reason I will marry a non virgin is if she'll pay my bride price, then I can reconsider.

In all honestly, I can say that marriage favours only the woman and not the man.

You will wait for 600 yrs
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Kipaji: 12:55pm On Jan 24, 2023
Sammmyyyy:
I write this, sequel to a thread I read here a few days ago (precisely on Valentine's Day), on why people should preserve themselves and remain virgins till marriage.
After seeing the thread, my mind swayed right directly to the sayings of some men on this forum, on the opinion that marriage only favours the woman and not the man; then I tried connecting the dots.

That same day, my mind led me back to around a year ago while I was still serving. I rented a self-con, next to a young bar attendant of around 28 years, let's call him Kay. It was a twin flat, so we shared the same veranda and our rooms were very close.
This guy had a very young, charming, moderately rich, perfectly shaped, extremely slender, dark girl staying with him. Let's call her Joy. I'd later discover she was in 200L studying nursing but couldn't go home during the Corona, so, lied to her parents she was held in the school hostel instead.

In all honesty, I do not know her age, but my instinct told me she couldn't be more than 19. I even tried spying on her facebook account but couldn't get her exact age.

Guys, not to bore you, Kay and this girl, Joy, have sex more than they talk to each other. There is no day, no single day, I will not hear her whimpers in my room. It is not exaggeration if I say that no day passed without them having sex. They copulate so much that, at a time, the girl's walking posture changed. Her legs were not as free and slender as they used to.

Not just the sex. This girl spends anyhow for Kay. I got to later discover that she's the only child of her rich parents, so they never allow her lack anything.

In fact, I also learnt that the iPhone this guy, Kay, uses was bought by Joy as a birthday gift for him.
This guy would copulate roughly with the girl before leaving for work in the morning and roughly again when he comes back at night. Even midnights weren't left out as I occasionally would need to put up my speaker's volume just to distract me. And surprisingly again, this girl must cook for him before he comes back, from her own money.

Another shocking thing about this was, I have witnessed on more than 4 occasions, whenever we sit outside to gist, especially on weekends, this guy would say it openly that he cannot marry her, and that she should go and cook the rubbish she was making for him in her husband's house. That only her future husband deserves salty rice, hard beef, blah blah blah and not him. The girl too would just sit there, laughing sheepily.

I have also witnessed on one or two occasions, where this guy would throw this girl out at night on frivolous grounds. On one night after he had thrown her out and I had begged that he please allow her in, I heard their faint chatters on how that he wasn't enjoying her again, and that he needed something tighter, hence suggested sodomy. (I lie you not.)

At a time, I couldn't stand the excruciating agony Kay was putting this girl through that I wanted to sit her down and talk some sense into her, but it'd have been a waste. This girl is completely in love, or shall I say, foolishly in love, with him.

This act continued so long, until I finished my service there, packed my things and left the state.

My good people of nairaland, I can categorically say that this guy, Kay, milked this girl financially and sexually. Trust me, that girl has no sexual sweetness anymore. I just feel sorry for whoever her future husband will be. You know after you bite into a sugar cane and then spit it out after squeezing and enjoying its sweetness? That's what Kay has done to that girl.

....

Now, where's the connection?

Imagine if a girl like that who, at her tender age, has wasted her sexual prowess gets picked by a God fearing virgin man of God and is given an exorbitant bride price to pay?

Back in school, I have witnessed girls get laid with as low as Sharwarma and Vanilla ice cream.
Imagine a lady loses her virginity for ordinary meat pie and Bigi Chapman, and when the time for marriage comes, the prospective suitor is given over 200, 000 to pay as bride price.

Well, as for me. I have never messed anyone's child up.

And God is my witness, if she isn't a virgin, I will never drop a naira as pride price. Even a kobo like this, I will not pay.
The only reason I will marry a non virgin is if she'll pay my bride price, then I can reconsider.

In all honestly, I can say that marriage favours only the woman and not the man.

Great post. Stories like this are enlightening and instructive.
Who will marry that used up woman?

By the way, this shows that being used up is not only a matter of number of body count. A woman can have a body count of 2 and these two guys may have thoroughly and mercilessly damaged her physically, emotionally, and sexually beyond repair.
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Kipaji: 12:56pm On Jan 24, 2023
Yusufisraelj:
OP

Permit me to say you have a skewed view on why some people remain virgins and why some are not.

Let me tell you a story, there was a lady I was told whom her dad deflowered at the age of ten and did so for close to 15 years, this event left her sexually scared, and ready to go down with the guy she's in a relationship with, she couldn't even take good decisions on who to settle down with.

You see sometimes you don't throw stones without finding out the underlaying cause, I use to hold your view but that changed when I interacted with some very wounded ladies and guys alike. There is more to life that being a virgin or not, however we must not and never condone careless living.

Well said. It's like these women doing porn or prostitution. The vast majority of them have had irregular upbringing and particularly damaging experiences. Someone may be quick to call these sex workers names but there is typically a story behind their situation.
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Kipaji: 1:03pm On Jan 24, 2023
SpicyMimi:

Lol You are right o! I had plans to be wayward then as a teenager, plans of having Sex once I gained admission to school, plans of wearing revealing dresses, plans of partying etc God saw those plans, and made my mum threaten me so much ehn! She’d threaten to cut my body with new blade, then rub pepper on it, if she found out I got pregnant as a teen or sleeping with a boy! She’d slap and beat I and my bro right in front of our peers even in Higher institution. Kai we get sense by force! Now I’m happy, she did all those things, else I for don turn slay queen.
Nice.
Re: Marriage, Virginity And Sex: My Experience During Youth Service by Yusufisraelj(m): 6:21pm On Jan 24, 2023
Kipaji:


Well said. It's like these women doing porn or prostitution. The vast majority of them have had irregular upbringing and particularly damaging experiences. Someone may be quick to call these sex workers names but there is typically a story behind their situation.

Absolutely.

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