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Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 10:36pm On Feb 19
Greetings

Please I need your advice

I've dated this guy for 7 years now, asked him his intention for the relationship and here is his response.

Am I asking for too much?
Please am I overreacting?
Does it worth breaking up?

If I'm your sister, what will be your advice to me?

Please help cause I'm losing my mine
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by iRepNaija1: 10:39pm On Feb 19
OP, what was his response? I don't see anything written out in your original post.

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by thorpido(m): 10:42pm On Feb 19
You didn't write his response. undecided
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 10:42pm On Feb 19
I'm trying to send screenshots of our chat but it's not uploading. maybe I'm not doing the right way
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by franktech(m): 10:45pm On Feb 19
Do you have a job? Or are you one of those that say babe this, babe that. African women need to rethink if they want to easily get married. I live abroad and i can tell you that their ladies work harder than their men. So then they do not need to look up to man for money or showing off useless boobs and nyash like prostitutes just to attract a rich man.

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by fineboynl(m): 10:46pm On Feb 19
most guys don't like it when you ask them what are their plans.

instead you find it out from his behaviors and his thoughts. you should know especially if he doesn't have a plan then you back out if you can't continue. for 7 years you shouldn't be asking him what is the future plans. you should know by instinct.

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Nazgul: 10:48pm On Feb 19
What was his response?

Just screenshot it and click on the reply button, click on choose file and locate it on your gallery and you're good to go.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Yusufisraelj(m): 10:49pm On Feb 19
Why will you date someone for 6 months without knowing where the relationship is headed, don't you people talk? Haba

This lady you short yourself on the leg, when you enter a relationship there must be a definite deadline to when what you are doing will get into the next phase. A true relationship for graduate should not even be more than two years for those in uni or poly it can be longer, but after they graduate a deadline must be fixed with both of you working towards it, in prayer and deeds.

To me your guy does not understand responsibility, knows where he's going in life or if he does you are not in the picture, he is not fair to you to keep you that long in limbo.

In relationship women tend to lose more when time passes or break-up happens.

Lastly talk things out, and if he doesn't think you are a big deal, walk out.

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Casemiro(m): 10:49pm On Feb 19
Some Nigerian girls are useless, all of them grin
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Yusufisraelj(m): 10:51pm On Feb 19
fineboynl:
most guys don't like it when you ask them what are their plans.

instead you find it out from his behaviors and his thoughts. you should know especially if he doesn't have a plan then you back out if you can't continue. for 7 years you shouldn't be asking him what is the future plans. you should know by instinct.

God bless you
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by HopeVictor(m): 10:51pm On Feb 19
7 years...person wey enter js1 don finish enter University and nothing still come out for the relationship.. nawa oh.. abi he's still studying you?

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Olatundeawo(m): 10:53pm On Feb 19
Wow!! 7yrs enough to have m.sc.actually waiting 4 d screenshot b4 i reply.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by chatinent(m): 10:53pm On Feb 19
I wonder how people expect people to value them when they've lost it.

Just like opening a gift before it's been given to you.





Anybody calling seven years dating should be arrested. There is a difference between adult abuse and dating.


It's funny people don't know how to use the nearest exit when they see the people they mingle with are filled with blanks.





Most Nigerian girls don't have a fifth-hand value.


In a hundred, ninety-one are a product of reckless abandonment.


I wish this indomie generation emulated our mothers who knew the pride of motherhood, not these lots who clearly define the irony in Buchi Emecheta's Joy of Motherhood.


“If you were my sister?”

After the guy must have ransacked you?

I'll disown you. Common sense in relationships works well after a year into it. Beauty should come with brains.

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by ojun50(m): 10:56pm On Feb 19
How Old is he and how old are you?
Are both families awear?


I no even spend 8month or date 8month wey I take marry my wife.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 11:01pm On Feb 19
~sprout�: my love, remember the questions I asked you last time I left your house?

Your response to me that day..... Does it show any sign of commitment or seriousness with me?

~sprout�: How do you want us/me to be in a relationship I don't know what the future holds?

When ever I ask you your intention toward us, you will tell me you don't have anything to say?

Like how?
~sprout�: Let be realistic here

[2/19, 9:13 AM] Ima: Ok

[2/19, 9:15 AM] Ima: Beb I keep telling you that if u know that am not right for u u should serve me the stress and do the right thing at the right time

[2/19, 9:21 AM] ~sprout�: This is what you keep saying

We are both matured here.

[2/19, 9:25 AM] ~sprout�: We have been together for 7 yeas now and this is all you can say

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want me to do

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: I will do this u will complain that am not doing it well

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: How do u even want me to love u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: Is as if my love is not enough for u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: If am no more good for u please let do the needful

[2/19, 9:28 AM] Ima: Because am tired of all this were ur feeling everytime

[2/19, 9:28 AM] ~sprout�: asking your intention toward our relationship now mean your love is not enough for me?

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: U left me for three months and u still return back to me and I still keep ur place for u in my life

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: Yet ur still complaining

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want from me

[2/19, 9:30 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself then

[2/19, 9:50 AM] Ima: If u feel I don't love u enough please just go to someone that will be able to love u the way u want
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Valkan(m): 11:02pm On Feb 19
IF YOU ARE MY SISTER I WILL SLAP YOU IN YEAR 5
HOW MANY YEARS DO YOU SPEND IN VARSITIES SEF
AND YOU COME SPEND 7 THAT IS TO SAY PERSON WEY DEY JSS1 WHEN YOU NA BEGIN GO DEY YEAR 1

Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by chinchonglee(m): 11:05pm On Feb 19
Neweramify:
~sprout�: my love, remember the questions I asked you last time I left your house?

Your response to me that day..... Does it show any sign of commitment or seriousness with me?

~sprout�: How do you want us/me to be in a relationship I don't know what the future holds?

When ever I ask you your intention toward us, you will tell me you don't have anything to say?

Like how?
~sprout�: Let be realistic here

[2/19, 9:13 AM] Ima: Ok

[2/19, 9:15 AM] Ima: Beb I keep telling you that if u know that am not right for u u should serve me the stress and do the right thing at the right time

[2/19, 9:21 AM] ~sprout�: This is what you keep saying

We are both matured here.

[2/19, 9:25 AM] ~sprout�: We have been together for 7 yeas now and this is all you can say

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want me to do

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: I will do this u will complain that am not doing it well

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: How do u even want me to love u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: Is as if my love is not enough for u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: If am no more good for u please let do the needful

[2/19, 9:28 AM] Ima: Because am tired of all this were ur feeling everytime

[2/19, 9:28 AM] ~sprout�: Seeing you your intention toward our relationship now mean your love is not enough for me?

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: U left me for three months and u still return back to me and I still keep ur place for u in my life

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: Yet ur still complaining

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want from me

[2/19, 9:30 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself then

[2/19, 9:50 AM] Ima: If u feel I don't love u enough please just go to someone that will be able to love u the way u want
Lemme ask u girl
Do u have a job?
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by ojun50(m): 11:05pm On Feb 19
Neweramify:
~sprout�: my love, remember the questions I asked you last time I left your house?

Your response to me that day..... Does it show any sign of commitment or seriousness with me?

~sprout�: How do you want us/me to be in a relationship I don't know what the future holds?

When ever I ask you your intention toward us, you will tell me you don't have anything to say?

Like how?
~sprout�: Let be realistic here

[2/19, 9:13 AM] Ima: Ok

[2/19, 9:15 AM] Ima: Beb I keep telling you that if u know that am not right for u u should serve me the stress and do the right thing at the right time

[2/19, 9:21 AM] ~sprout�: This is what you keep saying

We are both matured here.

[2/19, 9:25 AM] ~sprout�: We have been together for 7 yeas now and this is all you can say

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want me to do

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: I will do this u will complain that am not doing it well

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: How do u even want me to love u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: Is as if my love is not enough for u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: If am no more good for u please let do the needful

[2/19, 9:28 AM] Ima: Because am tired of all this were ur feeling everytime

[2/19, 9:28 AM] ~sprout�: Seeing you your intention toward our relationship now mean your love is not enough for me?

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: U left me for three months and u still return back to me and I still keep ur place for u in my life

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: Yet ur still complaining

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want from me

[2/19, 9:30 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself then

[2/19, 9:50 AM] Ima: If u feel I don't love u enough please just go to someone that will be able to love u the way u want
You better move on
If you want to settle down on time
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 11:06pm On Feb 19
[2/19, 9:51 AM] Ima: Am a busy person right now

[2/19, 10:01 AM] ~sprout�: I didn't leave you, you sent me out. Bringing all my things I left at your place to my parents house made me feel you needed breakup.
You got your house keys from me for no reason, now you are always making it look as if I left you.

You sent me out you know that.

After taking that move, did you look for me?

No, instead you wer always apologizing on phone as if my you brought my things through phone, nor got your keys through phone.

Besides, this happened last year and we reconcile. what has it got to do with me asking you your intention toward us.

Why do you like bringing up our our past (fight) when ever I ask important question like this?

I will be 25 this year and I wanna know your intention toward this relationship.

Am I asking for too much?

I know this is not de right way to ask but whenever I'm with you and I ask you your intention toward us, all you say is ''I don't have what to say''

Beb, can you come out plain!

Whatever your responsed will be, I'm gonna take it as God's will. No to ways about it. Cause what will be will always be.

Just answer my question for 7yrs or love sake?

We are matured here,

No one gonna die.

Please answer so it will not look as of I'm putting pressure on you.

[2/19, 10:05 AM] Ima: I can't answer that question

[2/19, 10:06 AM] Ima: I only tell u that if u know that am not good for u then u can choose to wake away

[2/19, 10:07 AM] Ima: I actually know that u have ur reason of doing what ur doing now, maybe u have been seeing someone u believe might be better than me and u feel that u need to be with him

[2/19, 10:08 AM] Ima: That is y ur behaving this confused

[2/19, 10:08 AM] Ima: But do whatever will make u happy

[2/19, 10:08 AM] Ima: As for me I will be ok with ur decision

[2/19, 10:19 AM] ~sprout�: Asking my boyfriend for his intention toward our 7years relationship means I'm confused.

Funny and sad.

This your response, does it show any sign of commitment or seriousness with me.

Do you also want me to be committed after seeing dis your responsed

[2/19, 10:19 AM] Ima: Is optional dear

[2/19, 10:20 AM] ~sprout�: I know why you feel I'm confused, lol
Believe me I know what's going on

[2/19, 10:20 AM] Ima: I keep saying that u have every thing in ur own hands so choose the one that will suit u

[2/19, 10:21 AM] Ima: Mind u, my relationship with u is not 7years

[2/19, 10:21 AM] Ima: Is 3years plus

[2/19, 10:22 AM] ~sprout�: 2014 - 2021

[2/19, 10:24 AM] Ima: September 2014- November 2015 which we broke up.
We continue again December 2018 till now

[2/19, 10:24 AM] Ima: So calculate

[2/19, 10:33 AM] ~sprout�: But you used to say we never broke up, that you only went for service/ work, that we never pronouns breakup to me.

That's why you came back to me after staying years at Abuja.

Said you don't believe in long distance relationship bla bla bla.

[2/19, 10:35 AM] ~sprout�: OK now since you are saying its 3years, what's your intentions towards this relationship. 3 years self no be moi moi.

[2/19, 10:36 AM] Ima: So when I left for my service did u wait for me

[2/19, 10:37 AM] Ima: U never instead u entered into numerous relationship

[2/19, 10:45 AM] ~sprout�: Lol
You went for service, stopped calling me in the name of I don't believe in long distance relationship.

When ever I call you, you wouldn't pick neither will you return the calls.

You made me depressed.

We're you expecting me to wait since 2014 -2018 with those your behaviour.

I'm not surprise you are blame me of not waiting, even when you stopped only mist of communication.

[2/19, 10:48 AM] ~sprout�: Thanks God for my roommate cause I don't know what would have happened to me if she was not there to encourage me.

[2/19, 10:49 AM] Ima: My dear all those are not excuse

[2/19, 10:49 AM] Ima: Reason this urself

[2/19, 10:49 AM] Ima: Are u being sincere

[2/19, 10:52 AM] Ima: So stop saying that we were in 7years relationship, calculate it very well before u tell someone

[2/19, 10:53 AM] ~sprout�: I don't even wanna talk about this, cause people that knows me, know I don't double date. I don't Bleep around.

I don't want anyone to harass me in future in the name of that your wife, I don Bleep am.
Not doing it's because I wanna be faithful but because I value my body. It's the right thing to do. For myself respect too.

[2/19, 10:57 AM] Ima: I don't blame u sha

[2/19, 10:57 AM] Ima: U got Bleep by Ime for too years

[2/19, 10:59 AM] Ima: But through out my staying in at Abuja I only enter in relationship with Blessing March 2018 which we later broke up after 3 months
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by thorpido(m): 11:07pm On Feb 19
Neweramify:
~sprout�: my love, remember the questions I asked you last time I left your house?

Your response to me that day..... Does it show any sign of commitment or seriousness with me?

~sprout�: How do you want us/me to be in a relationship I don't know what the future holds?

When ever I ask you your intention toward us, you will tell me you don't have anything to say?

Like how?
~sprout�: Let be realistic here

[2/19, 9:13 AM] Ima: Ok

[2/19, 9:15 AM] Ima: Beb I keep telling you that if u know that am not right for u u should serve me the stress and do the right thing at the right time

[2/19, 9:21 AM] ~sprout�: This is what you keep saying

We are both matured here.

[2/19, 9:25 AM] ~sprout�: We have been together for 7 yeas now and this is all you can say

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want me to do

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: I will do this u will complain that am not doing it well

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: How do u even want me to love u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: Is as if my love is not enough for u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: If am no more good for u please let do the needful

[2/19, 9:28 AM] Ima: Because am tired of all this were ur feeling everytime

[2/19, 9:28 AM] ~sprout�: Seeing you your intention toward our relationship now mean your love is not enough for me?

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: U left me for three months and u still return back to me and I still keep ur place for u in my life

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: Yet ur still complaining

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want from me

[2/19, 9:30 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself then

[2/19, 9:50 AM] Ima: If u feel I don't love u enough please just go to someone that will be able to love u the way u want
How old is this guy and what does he do for a living?
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Yusufisraelj(m): 11:10pm On Feb 19
Neweramify:
~sprout�: my love, remember the questions I asked you last time I left your house?

Your response to me that day..... Does it show any sign of commitment or seriousness with me?

~sprout�: How do you want us/me to be in a relationship I don't know what the future holds?

When ever I ask you your intention toward us, you will tell me you don't have anything to say?

Like how?
~sprout�: Let be realistic here

[2/19, 9:13 AM] Ima: Ok

[2/19, 9:15 AM] Ima: Beb I keep telling you that if u know that am not right for u u should serve me the stress and do the right thing at the right time

[2/19, 9:21 AM] ~sprout�: This is what you keep saying

We are both matured here.

[2/19, 9:25 AM] ~sprout�: We have been together for 7 yeas now and this is all you can say

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want me to do

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: I will do this u will complain that am not doing it well

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: How do u even want me to love u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: Is as if my love is not enough for u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: If am no more good for u please let do the needful

[2/19, 9:28 AM] Ima: Because am tired of all this were ur feeling everytime

[2/19, 9:28 AM] ~sprout�: Seeing you your intention toward our relationship now mean your love is not enough for me?

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: U left me for three months and u still return back to me and I still keep ur place for u in my life

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: Yet ur still complaining

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want from me

[2/19, 9:30 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself then

[2/19, 9:50 AM] Ima: If u feel I don't love u enough please just go to someone that will be able to love u the way u want


Pls walk out of this relationship, someone is enduring you and you are staying, telling you you can leave and you are staying.

It's obvious he doesn't fancy you, he thinks you are needy and clingy, and you've shown him by coming back to him after three months of being away.

To really heal from this guy bkos 7 years no be beans, you need to stay off relationship for over 6months never to do anything with him and more to work on yourself.

Kai mehn, if you marry this guy you will suffer. Read this https://www.nairaland.com/6359885/balanced-living-system-making-life
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 11:20pm On Feb 19
ojun50:
How Old is he and how old are you? Are both families awear?

I no even spend 8month or date 8month wey I take marry my wife.
will be 25 and he will be 31
yes, his family knows me except his mum. my family knows him too
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 11:21pm On Feb 19
thorpido:
How old is this guy and what does he do for a living?

31
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Yusufisraelj(m): 11:22pm On Feb 19
Neweramify:
[2/19, 9:51 AM] Ima: Am a busy person right now

[2/19, 10:01 AM] ~sprout�: I didn't leave you, you sent me out. Bringing all my things I left at your place to my parents house made me feel you needed breakup.
You got your house keys from me for no reason, now you are always making it look as if I left you.

You sent me out you know that.

After taking that move, did you look for me?

No, instead you wer always apologizing on phone as if my you brought my things through phone, nor got your keys through phone.

Besides, this happened last year and we reconcile. what has it got to do with me asking you your intention toward us.

Why do you like bringing up our our past (fight) when ever I ask important question like this?

I will be 25 this year and I wanna know your intention toward this relationship.

Am I asking for too much?

I know this is not de right way to ask but whenever I'm with you and I ask you your intention toward us, all you say is ''I don't have what to say''

Beb, can you come out plain!

Whatever your responsed will be, I'm gonna take it as God's will. No to ways about it. Cause what will be will always be.

Just answer my question for 7yrs or love sake?

We are matured here,

No one gonna die.

Please answer so it will not look as of I'm putting pressure on you.

[2/19, 10:05 AM] Ima: I can't answer that question

[2/19, 10:06 AM] Ima: I only tell u that if u know that am not good for u then u can choose to wake away

[2/19, 10:07 AM] Ima: I actually know that u have ur reason of doing what ur doing now, maybe u have been seeing someone u believe might be better than me and u feel that u need to be with him

[2/19, 10:08 AM] Ima: That is y ur behaving this confused

[2/19, 10:08 AM] Ima: But do whatever will make u happy

[2/19, 10:08 AM] Ima: As for me I will be ok with ur decision

[2/19, 10:19 AM] ~sprout�: Asking my boyfriend for his intention toward our 7years relationship means I'm confused.

Funny and sad.

This your response, does it show any sign of commitment or seriousness with me.

Do you also want me to be committed after seeing dis your responsed

[2/19, 10:19 AM] Ima: Is optional dear

[2/19, 10:20 AM] ~sprout�: I know why you feel I'm confused, lol
Believe me I know what's going on

[2/19, 10:20 AM] Ima: I keep saying that u have every thing in ur own hands so choose the one that will suit u

[2/19, 10:21 AM] Ima: Mind u, my relationship with u is not 7years

[2/19, 10:21 AM] Ima: Is 3years plus

[2/19, 10:22 AM] ~sprout�: 2014 - 2021

[2/19, 10:24 AM] Ima: September 2014- November 2015 which we broke up.
We continue again December 2018 till now

[2/19, 10:24 AM] Ima: So calculate

[2/19, 10:33 AM] ~sprout�: But you used to say we never broke up, that you only went for service/ work, that we never pronouns breakup to me.

That's why you came back to me after staying years at Abuja.

Said you don't believe in long distance relationship bla bla bla.

[2/19, 10:35 AM] ~sprout�: OK now since you are saying its 3years, what's your intentions towards this relationship. 3 years self no be moi moi.

[2/19, 10:36 AM] Ima: So when I left for my service did u wait for me

[2/19, 10:37 AM] Ima: U never instead u entered into numerous relationship

[2/19, 10:45 AM] ~sprout�: Lol
You went for service, stopped calling me in the name of I don't believe in long distance relationship.

When ever I call you, you wouldn't pick neither will you return the calls.

You made me depressed.

We're you expecting me to wait since 2014 -2018 with those your behaviour.

I'm not surprise you are blame me of not waiting, even when you stopped only mist of communication.

[2/19, 10:48 AM] ~sprout�: Thanks God for my roommate cause I don't know what would have happened to me if she was not there to encourage me.

[2/19, 10:49 AM] Ima: My dear all those are not excuse

[2/19, 10:49 AM] Ima: Reason this urself

[2/19, 10:49 AM] Ima: Are u being sincere

[2/19, 10:52 AM] Ima: So stop saying that we were in 7years relationship, calculate it very well before u tell someone

[2/19, 10:53 AM] ~sprout�: I don't even wanna talk about this, cause people that knows me, know I don't double date. I don't Bleep around.

I don't want anyone to harass me in future in the name of that your wife, I don Bleep am.
Not doing it's because I wanna be faithful but because I value my body. It's the right thing to do. For myself respect too.

[2/19, 10:57 AM] Ima: I don't blame u sha

[2/19, 10:57 AM] Ima: U got Bleep by Ime for too years

[2/19, 10:59 AM] Ima: But through out my staying in at Abuja I only enter in relationship with Blessing March 2018 which we later broke up after 3 months


Neweramify:
I'm trying to send screenshots of our chat but it's not uploading. maybe I'm not doing the right way

Does your life depends on this guy? You are 25, you start again but heal first.

Stay away from this guy else you mess yourself up.

Enough of the private conversation, you are beginning to reveal too much, is do.

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by ojun50(m): 11:22pm On Feb 19
Neweramify:


will be 25 and he will be 31

yes, his family knows me except his mum. my family knows him too
Ok
Are both of you working?
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 11:24pm On Feb 19
[2/19, 11:00 AM] Ima: I stayed all my days and year in Abuja only for u to be thinking that I came to Abuja to be mazing around

[2/19, 11:01 AM] Ima: Mind u I only squated with someone at Abuja till I return back to uyo

[2/19, 11:02 AM] Ima: I only dated blessing because I started doing my Pgd at nasarawa start university which we usually see once

[2/19, 11:02 AM] ~sprout�: Vicky nko?

[2/19, 11:03 AM] Ima: Am not saying this to make u happy,but am only telling u to be sincere if ur to judge who between the two of us that went wrong

[2/19, 11:04 AM] Ima: I dated Vicky for two years but she never see me in person except on video call

[2/19, 11:04 AM] Ima: U have are number

[2/19, 11:04 AM] Ima: I never Bleep her ever since we dated

[2/19, 11:04 AM] Ima: U have her number u can ask her

[2/19, 11:05 AM] Ima: But u entered into relationship with Ime and u got Bleep for complete 2 years

[2/19, 11:06 AM] Ima: Simply because u think that I was doing same when I was at Abuja

[2/19, 11:06 AM] ~sprout�: Lol so you stayed 2015 - 2018 November without fucking since your were not in a relationship?
�����

OK why did you stopped calling me?

Why did you stop picking my calls?

Why wouldn't you return my missed calls?

Isoorit

[2/19, 11:06 AM] Ima: Beb please leave me alone mbok

[2/19, 11:06 AM] Ima: I don't blame u

[2/19, 11:07 AM] Ima: I didn't go to Abuja to be in relationship

[2/19, 11:07 AM] Ima: I went there with the intention to make it in life

[2/19, 11:07 AM] ~sprout�: �‍♀️�‍♀️�‍♀️�‍♀️�‍♀️
My love, I am not 10years old oooh

[2/19, 11:08 AM] Ima: It was only victory that makes me feel that I was in a relationship because she was there only person that call me as at that time to check up on me

[2/19, 11:08 AM] Ima: Please leave me alone

[2/19, 11:09 AM] ~sprout�: But you just said we broke up, didn't you want me to enter into a relationship after breaking up with me?

[2/19, 11:10 AM] Ima: Instead u were busy fucking ime for two years day and night

[2/19, 11:11 AM] ~sprout�: But what happened when I called you?

[2/19, 11:11 AM] ~sprout�: I see

[2/19, 11:14 AM] ~sprout�: Fucking fucking fucking

Is that your pains?
Is it about the Bleep?

You that was not fucking, uncle, I salute

[2/19, 11:14 AM] Ima: I dated blessing for 3 months and I Bleep her only once simply because I didn't have time

[2/19, 11:14 AM] Ima: But u got for for 2years

[2/19, 11:14 AM] ~sprout�: �������������������������������������������������

[2/19, 11:14 AM] Ima: Please leave me alone

[2/19, 11:14 AM] Ima: Am done

[2/19, 11:15 AM] ~sprout�: You that I know������

[2/19, 11:15 AM] Ima: Bye

[2/19, 11:15 AM] ~sprout�: Ima that's by that way

[2/19, 11:16 AM] ~sprout�: I didn't bring up this topic for us to fight

[2/19, 11:17 AM] ~sprout�: I was only asking what's your intentions towards this relationship?

[2/19, 11:17 AM] Ima: I don't want to do this again

[2/19, 11:17 AM] ~sprout�: Do what exactly?
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Nobody: 11:24pm On Feb 19
Seven yrs is enough to even get ur MBBS in nigeria and become a practicing doctor if u didn't repeat any class
If ur man is gainfully employed and his salary is ok or what he earns from his business is enuf and he hasn't talked to u about marriage then he ain't interested in u
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 11:32pm On Feb 19
Yusufisraelj:





Does your life depends on this guy? You are 25, you start again but heal first.

Stay away from this guy else you mess yourself up.

Enough of the private conversation, you are beginning to reveal too much, is do.

Thanks for your advice sir.

Gonna post everything so ladies can learn.
I know how I'm feeling and I don't wish this on anyone.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by StacyO(f): 11:37pm On Feb 19
@neweramify

First,I have to say the guy might be 31 but, he's way way immature.


Secondly,you're trying so hard to make him accept you. He'll surely use that against you,please stop forcing yourself on those who don't love you.

However,Ima from the look of things will most likely black mail you with the sex issue between you both.

Cause seriously,from the chat that guy looks like an ardent fan of Okafor's law.

Sorry to say.


It seems you are the one investing so much into the relationship sef.





Lastly,cut every forms of communication with him. Forget about him totally,it might not be easy but trust me,within few weeks or months, you'll be fine.
Block him on every social media handle. You're still pretty young for all his wrinkle gents at this early stage.




Forget the whole infatuation.



It's better late than never.






Anyway,follow this link on nairaland. I'll update it cause of you.


https://www.nairaland.com/6366975/hidden-truth-need-know-lady

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 11:38pm On Feb 19
[2/19, 11:17 AM] Ima: I only keep that as my secret for that long

[2/19, 11:18 AM] Ima: God almighty knows that I wasn't in any relationship at Abuja except talking with victory on phone everytime

[2/19, 11:18 AM] Ima: I stayed all my life simply because I choose to stay

[2/19, 11:19 AM] Ima: I only engaged with sex with blessings because my friend offered me a place in his house to see her that faithful day

[2/19, 11:20 AM] Ima: I stayed celibate till I return 2018

[2/19, 11:22 AM] Ima: I stayed with a family member with her family so I couldn't engaged in dating girls or taking girls to her husband house

[2/19, 11:22 AM] Ima: I respect that

[2/19, 11:22 AM] Ima: I think am done here

[2/19, 11:22 AM] Ima: Have a nice day

[2/19, 11:23 AM] ~sprout�: Through out your stay in Abuja (3years) you had sex with just Blessing and it happened once.

Uncle, fear God naaaa
At least when you wanna lie, lie with conscience

[2/19, 11:24 AM] ~sprout�: You even lived with her (family) and that thing happened just once����

[2/19, 11:25 AM] Ima: Are u drunk

[2/19, 11:26 AM] ~sprout�: Do I look drunk?

[2/19, 11:26 AM] Ima: Didn't u hear me saying that I squated with one woman her family

[2/19, 11:27 AM] Ima: Please I don't want this conversation to continue please

[2/19, 11:27 AM] Ima: Let just end this here thanks

[2/19, 11:28 AM] Ima: If u don't feel like doing anything with me again u can wake away

[2/19, 11:28 AM] ~sprout�: You told me a family friend, never mention to me that it was your girlfriend's family �

[2/19, 11:29 AM] Ima: Thanks

[2/19, 11:30 AM] Ima: I don't strength for u

[2/19, 11:30 AM] ~sprout�: See eeeh all this talk talk no even answer my question.

What is your intention toward our relationship?

[2/19, 11:30 AM] Ima: Please I beg u with God name

[2/19, 11:30 AM] Ima: I don't have intention

[2/19, 11:30 AM] Ima: Just let me be

[2/19, 11:30 AM] Ima: I want to be focused please

[2/19, 11:33 AM] ~sprout�: You don't have an intention toward de relationship, meaning you just with me without a future plan?

[2/19, 11:36 AM] Ima: Ur putting pressure on me and I don't like it

[2/19, 11:36 AM] ~sprout�: Why then do you remove people numbers from my phone to call them when you don't have good plan for us?

[2/19, 11:36 AM] Ima: Asking me unnecessary question

[2/19, 11:36 AM] Ima: Y should u ask a man that kind of questions

[2/19, 11:36 AM] Ima: I stayed with u for this long and ur asking me this now

[2/19, 11:37 AM] ~sprout�: What is wrong with they questioned?

[2/19, 11:37 AM] Ima: If u think ur tired of staying with me please just leave

[2/19, 11:37 AM] Ima: Maybe u have seen someone that promise u marriage

[2/19, 11:37 AM] Ima: I don't do that when am not financially stable

[2/19, 11:37 AM] ~sprout�: Did you see this ☝?

[2/19, 11:39 AM] Ima: I have been seeing ladies that struggling with a man for a better future of the both of them instead ur asking me stupid questions

[2/19, 11:39 AM] Ima: Go and marry who is ready

[2/19, 11:39 AM] Ima: As for me am not ready for marriage now mbok

[2/19, 11:39 AM] Ima: If that is what u wanted to hear

[2/19, 11:42 AM] ~sprout�: Who is talking about marriage here?

Asking you your intention toward our relationship is not a marriage proposal ni

Telling me your intention has nothing to do with you having money to marry or not.

[2/19, 11:45 AM] Ima: What intention are u talking about then

[2/19, 11:45 AM] Ima: Please tell me

[2/19, 11:45 AM] Ima: Ur just confusing urself

[2/19, 11:46 AM] Ima: If u have seen another guy u can date him,stop using pressure on me

[2/19, 11:46 AM] Ima: I have a lot of things that is disturbing me right now, don't be part of my problem instead try to be part of the solution mbok

[2/19, 12:08 PM] ~sprout�: You don't have any intention.

That's OK

I know it's coming out from the bottom of your heart

But why was it so hard for you to say?

Why did it take so long?

I have loved you so so much that I refused to see all those things you did to me 2015-2018.

I'm not gonna die

This only gonna make me adjust.

See eeeh.... What God cannot do does not exist.

I'm sorry, I can't continue in a 3yrs (7yrs) relationship with a man that has no future plan with me.

This will hurt me most but it's necessary.

When ever you are OK, do well to untrack my phone.
Yes, what you used in monitoring my message, chats etc �

I wonder what gives you the confidence to feel, I don't know this.

Thank you
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 11:42pm On Feb 19
[2/19, 12:09 PM] Ima: Lol

[2/19, 12:09 PM] Ima: So u feel that this is break up

[2/19, 12:10 PM] Ima: Is ok if u feel so

[2/19, 12:10 PM] Ima: But I strongly believe that this is want u wanted

[2/19, 12:10 PM] Ima: I wanted ur freedom so that u can get rich like other ladies does

[2/19, 12:11 PM] Ima: But trust me a time will come that I will look for me again

[2/19, 12:11 PM] Ima: Thanks so much for seeing this as a break up

[2/19, 12:12 PM] Ima: For ur information I didn't track ur phone and I don't even know how u think I can stood so low to do that

[2/19, 12:13 PM] Ima: I don't blame u, I blame nature of ladies that after some years there will end up saying had I know

[2/19, 12:13 PM] Ima: Is what ladies us to do so I don't blame u for being among

[2/19, 12:14 PM] ~sprout�: I wish you well dear. I pray you Excel in all your endeavours

[2/19, 12:14 PM] Ima: This is not necessary

[2/19, 12:14 PM] Ima: Ur free

[2/19, 12:14 PM] Ima: I guess I was gaging u

[2/19, 12:15 PM] Ima: And u have gotten the answer to ur questions u always wanted

[2/19, 12:16 PM] Ima: Remember that there is another 3years of sex from another man

[2/19, 12:16 PM] Ima: Maybe more than that

[2/19, 12:16 PM] ~sprout�: Believe me I'm never gonna regret this.

[2/19, 12:16 PM] Ima: Learn to stay where you are

[2/19, 12:16 PM] Ima: There is no perfect place

[2/19, 12:17 PM] Ima: I know

[2/19, 12:19 PM] ~sprout�: Staying single is better that being in a relationship with a man for 3yrs/7yrs without planning or having any good intention with you.

[2/19, 12:20 PM] Ima: Believe what ever u believe

[2/19, 12:20 PM] Ima: Learn not to ask unnecessary question

[2/19, 12:21 PM] Ima: Ur asking a man that is in a relationship with u for that number of years and u believe he doesn't have plans for u

[2/19, 12:21 PM] ~sprout�: It's my body hun... Know this and have peace

[2/19, 12:21 PM] Ima: I didn't have plans for us and I eventually accepted u back in my life after u left for three months

[2/19, 12:21 PM] Ima: Hmmmmm

[2/19, 12:21 PM] Ima: This is so pathetic of ur thought

[2/19, 12:22 PM] Ima: But am not surprised because out of ur desire u got a wrong impression

[2/19, 12:22 PM] Ima: Enjoy the rest of ur day

[2/19, 12:23 PM] ~sprout�: Stay in a place you are not valued or what exactly?

[2/19, 12:23 PM] Ima: Beb don't worry

[2/19, 12:24 PM] Ima: Do what is good for you

[2/19, 12:24 PM] ~sprout�: Bobo juice

[2/19, 12:24 PM] Ima: I new that this is exactly what ur up to since morning that I made mistake to chat u up

[2/19, 12:25 PM] Ima: U can call me what ever u want

[2/19, 12:26 PM] Ima: Sorry I can survive without a woman in my life

[2/19, 12:30 PM] ~sprout�: God shall bless you for keeping me for 3/7 yrs without having any good intention/future plan with me.

[2/19, 12:30 PM] Ima: I won't blame u, I blame myself for engaging in this kind of business that my girlfriend think that I don't have time for her or feels that I don't love her simply because am stress out or tired anytime she needs me

[2/19, 12:31 PM] Ima: Am bless u for asking me unnecessary question just because u had other options to follow

[2/19, 12:32 PM] Ima: But trust me that those options will one day disappoint u
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by iRepNaija1: 11:45pm On Feb 19
Neweramify:
Greetings

Please I need your advice

I've dated this guy for 7 years now, asked him his intention for the relationship and here is his response.

Am I asking for too much?
Please am I overreacting?
Does it worth breaking up?

If I'm your sister, what will be your advice to me?


Please help cause I'm losing my mine



OP, I read the first exchange but not the next one. You need to move on. The only reasons you have not done so are because of your feelings for him and the seven years you invested in the relationship. If a man wanted to move forward with you, he would've done so already. Period. My advice? Stop talking to him. In fact, don't even announce it. Just stop sending messages right now. If he reaches out, don't respond. Just even block him. I'm very serious.

Focus on yourself. Get into hobbies, reconnect with friends and family, focus on your job. Just start becoming the best version of yourself without ever considering reaching out to this man. This distance is for your benefit, not his, because, going forward, you need to relearn how to live your life without him in it. He's already shown you through his speech and conduct that he doesn't want you. He's even gone so far as to blame you when you ask him about the state of your relationship. He's even goading you to be the one to end it.

I know it's going to be difficult but you need to do this. There are so many other people you could be meeting right now who will know your worth and show their love. Good luck.

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