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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 11:51pm On Feb 19
[2/19, 12:34 PM] ~sprout�: This has nothing to do with your statement ''I don't have any intention''
(for you/this relationship).

Uncle mbok shift.

[2/19, 12:35 PM] Ima: Ok

[2/19, 12:35 PM] Ima: Suit urself

[2/19, 12:35 PM] Ima: Please stop dropping me message

[2/19, 12:35 PM] Ima: Am curving out time to attend to ur chat

[2/19, 12:36 PM] Ima: Am cooking

[2/19, 12:36 PM] Ima: Am so tired and I don't need this right now

[2/19, 12:36 PM] Ima: Thanks for making my day

[2/19, 12:36 PM] Ima: I really appreciate

[2/19, 12:36 PM] Ima: Good bless u so good

[2/19, 12:37 PM] ~sprout�: And bless you more for thinking asking what your future plan with me is, is an unnecessary question.

[2/19, 12:37 PM] Ima: I never heard before that singlehood kills

[2/19, 12:38 PM] Ima: God will be gracious unto me

[2/19, 12:38 PM] Ima: Remain bless

[2/19, 12:38 PM] Ima: Cheers

[2/19, 12:38 PM] ~sprout�: Yes he will hun

[2/19, 12:41 PM] Ima: Everything I said always comes from my heart but urs always comes because of anger

[2/19, 12:41 PM] Ima: Thanks so much

[2/19, 12:41 PM] ~sprout�: Thanks for making me understand

[2/19, 12:41 PM] Ima: U started getting me angry in the morning and I ended it very well

[2/19, 12:42 PM] Ima: Never mind

[2/19, 12:42 PM] ~sprout�: For the rest of your life hun

[2/19, 12:42 PM] Ima: U said before that u don't love me and it was because u were angry

[2/19, 12:43 PM] Ima: U last tell me that u feel that I don't love u again simply because I was harsh with u but u never ask me why I was harsh

[2/19, 12:44 PM] Ima: Everything u do seems right and mind worst

[2/19, 12:44 PM] Ima: Is ok

[2/19, 12:44 PM] Ima: This save me right

[2/19, 12:44 PM] Ima: Maybe I will learn from us

[2/19, 12:44 PM] ~sprout�: Cause you throwed me out of your house like one that doesn't have a home, got your house keys from me all for nothing.

[2/19, 12:45 PM] Ima: Is ok

[2/19, 12:45 PM] Ima: Ur always good narrating to make one looks bad

[2/19, 12:45 PM] Ima: Good for u

[2/19, 12:46 PM] Ima: U can even keep blaming me for everything

[2/19, 12:46 PM] Ima: Good almighty will judge us one day

[2/19, 12:46 PM] ~sprout�: Sure he will hun

[2/19, 12:47 PM] ~sprout�: Such a great man you are

[2/19, 12:47 PM] ~sprout�: God bless you for everything you've done for me

[2/19, 12:47 PM] Ima: Please if u know that ur no longer seeing me as ur boyfriend please we should not keep communicating

[2/19, 12:48 PM] Ima: Our communication should end now

[2/19, 12:48 PM] Ima: Thanks

[2/19, 12:48 PM] Ima: I wish u well

[2/19, 12:48 PM] ~sprout�: Make you Excel in life

[2/19, 12:49 PM] ~sprout�: Favor you in all your endeavours

[2/19, 12:49 PM] Ima: I don't need ur prayers

[2/19, 12:49 PM] Ima: Just leave me alone

[2/19, 12:49 PM] ~sprout�: Guild you not to go the wrong part

[2/19, 12:50 PM] ~sprout�: His grace shall speak for you

[2/19, 12:50 PM] Ima: Thanks for making me feel that I don't love u enough and for not seeing my love for u simply because ur blind

[2/19, 12:50 PM] ~sprout�: Where men say there is a casting down, you shall say there is a lifting up

[2/19, 12:51 PM] Ima: To be frank u should not do this because is not necessary

[2/19, 12:52 PM] ~sprout�: Guild you not to declare ur intention to the wrong person

[2/19, 12:52 PM] Ima: U have gotten what u wanted and I believe u should be happy with it

[2/19, 12:52 PM] Ima: Same with u

[2/19, 12:54 PM] ~sprout�: What ever wouldn't make you go forward will go backward

[2/19, 12:55 PM] ~sprout�: What ever wouldn't let you go up will go downward

[2/19, 12:56 PM] ~sprout�: Anything seeking your downfall will end in the grave

[2/19, 12:58 PM] ~sprout�: Your life time shall be stories of advancement for you

[2/19, 12:58 PM] ~sprout�: Every day of your life shall be a day of forward movement

[2/19, 12:59 PM] ~sprout�: No day will meet you where the previous day left you

[2/19, 1:01 PM] Ima: So u know all this prayers and u never pray for me before

[2/19, 1:01 PM] ~sprout�: I pray all your great and hight expectations be met and beyond

[2/19, 1:01 PM] Ima: Y now

[2/19, 1:01 PM] Ima: Please stop

[2/19, 1:01 PM] Ima: I don't need this right now

[2/19, 1:02 PM] ~sprout�: Everyone looking for you will find you up there

[2/19, 1:03 PM] Ima: Thanks but is enough

[2/19, 1:03 PM] Ima: If u don't have what else to say please just stop chatting me

[2/19, 1:03 PM] Ima: Read those chatting again from start to know who is at fault today

[2/19, 1:08 PM] ~sprout�: So shall it be, in Jesus name I pray. Amen �

Please, in your next relationship, try and make your intention known to the gal.

Remain blessed

[2/19, 1:10 PM] ~sprout�: Don't call me cause, you will make me hate myself.

Please just do that for me.

[2/19, 1:11 PM] Ima: Lol

[2/19, 1:11 PM] Ima: I won't even do that

[2/19, 1:11 PM] Ima: U Left me first time and now second time and u expect me to call u

[2/19, 1:11 PM] Ima: Never

[2/19, 1:12 PM] Ima: I hate u like never before

[2/19, 1:14 PM] ~sprout�: Always making it look like I left you when you threwme out of your house

That's not even the point

[2/19, 1:15 PM] Ima: I knew that u can never change, anytime we have a fight u end the relationship

[2/19, 1:15 PM] Ima: Suit urself mbok

[2/19, 1:16 PM] Ima: Ur asking me unnecessary questions and I answered u according to the mode that I am

[2/19, 1:16 PM] Ima: U believe asking me that kind of questions on phone is the right thing

[2/19, 1:16 PM] Ima: Madam is ok

[2/19, 1:16 PM] ~sprout�: I don't hate you but I wish you well.

Seriously, I don't have a place in my heart to hate, no matter what.

[2/19, 1:17 PM] Ima: I believe u wanted something I will use to relieve me

[2/19, 1:17 PM] Ima: I wonder y u came back at firi

[2/19, 1:17 PM] Ima: First

[2/19, 1:19 PM] Ima: How I wish I saw the handwriting on time I won't have waste my time and effort receiving u back into my life

[2/19, 1:19 PM] Ima: Thanks for hurting me once again

[2/19, 1:19 PM] Ima: Am grateful

[2/19, 1:21 PM] ~sprout�: Bless you

[2/19, 1:22 PM] ~sprout�: Please you said I have few of my clothes at your place, is it true?

[2/19, 1:25 PM] Ima: Don't worry I think there is any point for that

[2/19, 1:25 PM] Ima: I don't want to see u again

[2/19, 1:29 PM] ~sprout�: See who?

Wanted to send someone to come get it if truly I have any of my cloth there

[2/19, 1:30 PM] Ima: Don't worry

[2/19, 1:30 PM] Ima: No need for that

[2/19, 1:30 PM] Ima: Have a nice day

[2/19, 1:31 PM] ~sprout�: There is, I wanna make sure non of my property is in your place, like my cloth or pant

[2/19, 1:31 PM] Ima: Madam are u deaf

[2/19, 1:31 PM] ~sprout�: Very important

[2/19, 1:32 PM] Ima: I said I should not bother

[2/19, 1:32 PM] Ima: U have anything left in my house

[2/19, 1:32 PM] Ima: Enjoy ur life

[2/19, 1:32 PM] Ima: Please don't bother my life again

[2/19, 1:33 PM] Ima: Thanks for making my look confuse

[2/19, 1:33 PM] Ima: Me

[2/19, 1:33 PM] ~sprout�: These shall never be my portion.

[2/19, 1:33 PM] Ima: Sure

[2/19, 1:33 PM] Ima: But please leave me alone

[2/19, 1:34 PM] Ima: Please

[2/19, 1:34 PM] Ima: U can use this time to chat with the person that had made u to change ur mind from me to him

[2/19, 1:34 PM] Ima: Please just let me be

[2/19, 1:34 PM] Ima: Ur not making me to think now

[2/19, 1:35 PM] ~sprout�: If you come across any of my thing at your place, just let me know. Will send someone to come get it.

Thank you

[2/19, 1:35 PM] Ima: I can never chat u again after today

[2/19, 1:36 PM] Ima: Ur my ex now so u will remain my ex for the rest of my life

[2/19, 1:36 PM] Ima: After today we're done

[2/19, 1:38 PM] ~sprout�: Not a love chat dear but

Hello,
I came across your cloth/pant at my wardrobe. Send someone to come get it.

That will do

[2/19, 1:39 PM] Ima: It won't work out

[2/19, 1:39 PM] Ima: Ur history in my life after today

[2/19, 1:40 PM] ~sprout�: It's not a predicament

[2/19, 1:40 PM] Ima: Sure
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Yusufisraelj(m): 12:12am On Feb 20
Neweramify:


Thanks for your advice sir.

Gonna post everything so ladies can learn.
I know how I'm feeling and I don't wish this on anyone.



You are hurting, I don't expect a candid response now but believe me in two weeks time you will come to edit this trend.

Just keep calm and cry if need be, but get up with the resolution of never repeating same mistake, update yourself on relationships and take some time being alone and single to better prepare yourself for the next person and see them for who they are before you jump in. Cheers
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Nobody: 12:13am On Feb 20
Leave the time waster. But you sef, How can you date someone for 7yrs and you're just asking what the relationship holds for you after such a long time?
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 12:14am On Feb 20
chinchonglee:

Lemme ask u girl
Do u have a job?

I'm schooling, I'm in my final year now.
Sponsored by my parents

Have a small Business
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 12:18am On Feb 20
thorpido:
You didn't write his response. undecided
I've done that now
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 12:35am On Feb 20
Yusufisraelj:



Pls walk out of this relationship, someone is enduring you and you are staying, telling you you can leave and you are staying.

It's obvious he doesn't fancy you, he thinks you are needy and clingy, and you've shown him by coming back to him after three months of being away.

To really heal from this guy bkos 7 years no be beans, you need to stay off relationship for over 6months never to do anything with him and more to work on yourself.

Kai mehn, if you marry this guy you will suffer. Read this https://www.nairaland.com/6359885/balanced-living-system-making-life


Thanks for your advice sir.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 1:06am On Feb 20
StacyO:
@neweramify

First,I have to say the guy might be 31 but, he's way way immature.


Secondly,you're trying so hard to make him accept you. He'll surely use that against you,please stop forcing yourself on those who don't love you.

However,Ima from the look of things will most likely black mail you with the sex issue between you both.

Cause seriously,from the chat that guy looks like an ardent fan of Okafor's law.

Sorry to say.


It seems you are the one investing so much into the relationship sef.





Lastly,cut every forms of communication with him. Forget about him totally,it might not be easy but trust me,within few weeks or months, you'll be fine.
Block him on every social media handle. You're still pretty young for all his wrinkle gents at this early stage.




Forget the whole infatuation.



It's better late than never.






Anyway,follow this link on nairaland. I'll update it cause of you.


https://www.nairaland.com/6366975/hidden-truth-need-know-lady

Thanks Ma.
I appreciate your advice and encouragement.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 1:31am On Feb 20
iRepNaija1:


OP, I read the first exchange but not the next one. You need to move on. The only reasons you have not done so are because of your feelings for him and the seven years you invested in the relationship. If a man wanted to move forward with you, he would've done so already. Period. My advice? Stop talking to him. In fact, don't even announce it. Just stop sending messages right now. If he reaches out, don't respond. Just even block him. I'm very serious.

Focus on yourself. Get into hobbies, reconnect with friends and family, focus on your job. Just start becoming the best version of yourself without ever considering reaching out to this man. This distance is for your benefit, not his, because, going forward, you need to relearn how to live your life without him in it. He's already shown you through his speech and conduct that he doesn't want you. He's even gone so far as to blame you when you ask him about the state of your relationship. He's even goading you to be the one to end it.

I know it's going to be difficult but you need to do this. There are so many other people you could be meeting right now who will know your worth and show their love. Good luck.

Thanks for your advice, but it's not that easy for me here. Can't even think right

I'm losing my mine
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Angelacruz: 1:59am On Feb 20
Abort mission...guy man is seriously tired
Neweramify:
~sprout�: my love, remember the questions I asked you last time I left your house?

Your response to me that day..... Does it show any sign of commitment or seriousness with me?

~sprout�: How do you want us/me to be in a relationship I don't know what the future holds?

When ever I ask you your intention toward us, you will tell me you don't have anything to say?

Like how?
~sprout�: Let be realistic here

[2/19, 9:13 AM] Ima: Ok

[2/19, 9:15 AM] Ima: Beb I keep telling you that if u know that am not right for u u should serve me the stress and do the right thing at the right time

[2/19, 9:21 AM] ~sprout�: This is what you keep saying

We are both matured here.

[2/19, 9:25 AM] ~sprout�: We have been together for 7 yeas now and this is all you can say

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want me to do

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: I will do this u will complain that am not doing it well

[2/19, 9:26 AM] Ima: How do u even want me to love u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: Is as if my love is not enough for u

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself

[2/19, 9:27 AM] Ima: If am no more good for u please let do the needful

[2/19, 9:28 AM] Ima: Because am tired of all this were ur feeling everytime

[2/19, 9:28 AM] ~sprout�: asking your intention toward our relationship now mean your love is not enough for me?

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: U left me for three months and u still return back to me and I still keep ur place for u in my life

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: Yet ur still complaining

[2/19, 9:29 AM] Ima: What exactly do u want from me

[2/19, 9:30 AM] Ima: And I can't kill myself then

[2/19, 9:50 AM] Ima: If u feel I don't love u enough please just go to someone that will be able to love u the way u want
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Angelacruz: 2:06am On Feb 20
Move on dear...tym will heal
Neweramify:
[2/19, 11:00 AM] Ima: I stayed all my days and year in Abuja only for u to be thinking that I came to Abuja to be mazing around

[2/19, 11:01 AM] Ima: Mind u I only squated with someone at Abuja till I return back to uyo

[2/19, 11:02 AM] Ima: I only dated blessing because I started doing my Pgd at nasarawa start university which we usually see once

[2/19, 11:02 AM] ~sprout�: Vicky nko?

[2/19, 11:03 AM] Ima: Am not saying this to make u happy,but am only telling u to be sincere if ur to judge who between the two of us that went wrong

[2/19, 11:04 AM] Ima: I dated Vicky for two years but she never see me in person except on video call

[2/19, 11:04 AM] Ima: U have are number

[2/19, 11:04 AM] Ima: I never Bleep her ever since we dated

[2/19, 11:04 AM] Ima: U have her number u can ask her

[2/19, 11:05 AM] Ima: But u entered into relationship with Ime and u got Bleep for complete 2 years

[2/19, 11:06 AM] Ima: Simply because u think that I was doing same when I was at Abuja

[2/19, 11:06 AM] ~sprout�: Lol so you stayed 2015 - 2018 November without fucking since your were not in a relationship?
�����

OK why did you stopped calling me?

Why did you stop picking my calls?

Why wouldn't you return my missed calls?

Isoorit

[2/19, 11:06 AM] Ima: Beb please leave me alone mbok

[2/19, 11:06 AM] Ima: I don't blame u

[2/19, 11:07 AM] Ima: I didn't go to Abuja to be in relationship

[2/19, 11:07 AM] Ima: I went there with the intention to make it in life

[2/19, 11:07 AM] ~sprout�: �‍♀️�‍♀️�‍♀️�‍♀️�‍♀️
My love, I am not 10years old oooh

[2/19, 11:08 AM] Ima: It was only victory that makes me feel that I was in a relationship because she was there only person that call me as at that time to check up on me

[2/19, 11:08 AM] Ima: Please leave me alone

[2/19, 11:09 AM] ~sprout�: But you just said we broke up, didn't you want me to enter into a relationship after breaking up with me?

[2/19, 11:10 AM] Ima: Instead u were busy fucking ime for two years day and night

[2/19, 11:11 AM] ~sprout�: But what happened when I called you?

[2/19, 11:11 AM] ~sprout�: I see

[2/19, 11:14 AM] ~sprout�: Fucking fucking fucking

Is that your pains?
Is it about the Bleep?

You that was not fucking, uncle, I salute

[2/19, 11:14 AM] Ima: I dated blessing for 3 months and I Bleep her only once simply because I didn't have time

[2/19, 11:14 AM] Ima: But u got for for 2years

[2/19, 11:14 AM] ~sprout�: �������������������������������������������������

[2/19, 11:14 AM] Ima: Please leave me alone

[2/19, 11:14 AM] Ima: Am done

[2/19, 11:15 AM] ~sprout�: You that I know������

[2/19, 11:15 AM] Ima: Bye

[2/19, 11:15 AM] ~sprout�: Ima that's by that way

[2/19, 11:16 AM] ~sprout�: I didn't bring up this topic for us to fight

[2/19, 11:17 AM] ~sprout�: I was only asking what's your intentions towards this relationship?

[2/19, 11:17 AM] Ima: I don't want to do this again

[2/19, 11:17 AM] ~sprout�: Do what exactly?
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 2:18am On Feb 20
Angelacruz:
Move on dear...tym will heal
Thanks dear. I'm really trying to
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Angelacruz: 2:23am On Feb 20
Uwc
Neweramify:

Thanks dear. I'm really trying to
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by zexy2030(m): 5:04am On Feb 20
It hurts but be silent. No calls no text but no girl can bear this if he is their first love.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Lalami3232(m): 5:35am On Feb 20
You're just 25 like you said and you're already in a 7yrs relationship. From the look things, no be that guy even disvirgin you, he inherit ur puna from someone else.
Let me advise you like I would advise my sister if only I had one. See eeh, that guy no go ever marry u cus he no trust you 1%. He dey look u like cheerful giver. Besides, he no respect you, maybe because u no dey add value to E life. But let me tell u something, he would always come back to have a taste of the puna be once inherited, na so such guys dey be. Focus on ur school and add value to ur life, good guys like us would definitely come knocking if u have something good to offer aside beauty and puna. Forgive me if I'm been too blunt here but u need a brain resetting advise for u to seat up. Cry all u want, starve yourself for all u care but make sure that no guy puts u in such a situation anymore. Close ur puna workshop from henceforth and add more goods to ur brain workshop. U would smile at the end if u follow my advise. But if u don't, then I see ***********************

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Ekpeitut: 6:03am On Feb 20
Nne, they say time wounds all heels grin .I meant to say heals all wounds.(me trying to crack a joke at a funeral)

Matters of the heart are delicate and in as much I don't fancy your bare it all approach to total strangers I 'd like for you to be more discreet with the information you throw out here. Find your happy place by looking inwards and draw closer to your creator.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Olatundeawo(m): 1:59pm On Feb 20
CalliDora1:
Leave the time waster. But you sef, How can you date someone for 7yrs and you're just asking what the relationship holds for you after such a long time?

i dont see d guy has time waster rather z d lady. I think d lady has done something 2 lose d trust d guy has 4 her.d guy only went 2 d relationship without commitment thinking he cant trust her again.my take thou.

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Nobody: 2:03pm On Feb 20
Olatundeawo:
i dont see d guy has time waster rather z d lady. I think d lady has done something 2 lose d trust d guy has 4 her.d guy only went 2 d relationship without commitment thinking he cant trust her again.my take thou.

O yeah?? Where did she say that in the post?

It's the guys fault. In fact, both of them are at fault.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 4:28pm On Feb 20
zexy2030:
It hurts but be silent. No calls no text but no girl can bear this if he is their first love.

Thanks. Gonna try
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 4:33pm On Feb 20
Lalami3232:
You're just 25 like you said and you're already in a 7yrs relationship. From the look things, no be that guy even disvirgin you, he inherit ur puna from someone else.
Let me advise you like I would advise my sister if only I had one. See eeh, that guy no go ever marry u cus he no trust you 1%. He dey look u like cheerful giver. Besides, he no respect you, maybe because u no dey add value to E life. But let me tell u something, he would always come back to have a taste of the puna be once inherited, na so such guys dey be. Focus on ur school and add value to ur life, good guys like us would definitely come knocking if u have something good to offer aside beauty and puna. Forgive me if I'm been too blunt here but u need a brain resetting advise for u to seat up. Cry all u want, starve yourself for all u care but make sure that no guy puts u in such a situation anymore. Close ur puna workshop from henceforth and add more goods to ur brain workshop. U would smile at the end if u follow my advise. But if u don't, then I see ***********************

I appreciate your advice
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 4:37pm On Feb 20
Ekpeitut:
Nne, they say time wounds all heels grin .I meant to say heals all wounds.(me trying to crack a joke at a funeral)

Matters of the heart are delicate and in as much I don't fancy your bare it all approach to total strangers I 'd like for you to be more discreet with the information you throw out here. Find your happy place by looking inwards and draw closer to your creator.

Thanks sir
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by franktech(m): 10:21am On Feb 21
From your conversations it shows that this boy doesn't want you again. Can I tell whose fault it is? No. It is really sad whenever I see a girl passing through this kind of situation� Our girls are supposed to be happy and having the best of life but unfortunately the economy is bad. Therefore as a lady if you want to get married or have countless suitors, you must have a good job or be an entrepreneur

One thing I can sense is that you do not have any value apart from maybe breast and toto. Probably no job even. Secondly this makes you to be too demanding. This boy on the other hand may be rich or poor but honesty if I am him I will not get married to a useless woman.

In Abroad you will see women that are web programmers, Uber drivers, owning all manner establishment that they started from scratch. Surely I say to you, as a lady in Nigeria, if you can at least be earning 40k as a youtuber,blogger,programmer,event planner,Uber driver, architect,contractor, business infact any job apart from restaurant,masonry,hotel and mortuary this is because African men are yet to accept that as a job for a decent lady.

Do you think for example Linda Ikeji will be looking for a husband? Impossible right?. Well you may not be Linda Ikeji bit if you can have a blog and be earning 40k monthly revenue I assure you that every year you will be counting your suitors. Sampling breast and nyash does not only make you look senseless, it also shows that you are not a wife material and only good to Bleep and go especially when you are demanding join am.

I am yet to get married and I will be looking for a girl that has a join and actively earning. If she is an entrepreneur, perfect. Not hairstylist type of entrepreneur though. Also I will check if she is showing nyash and bobi on Facebook for sale. I am not looking for a woman that will help my business or depend on her for finance but I would want to have less burden to carry incase my business fail and also security for my kids incase I am not there for them again.

If you have the qualities that I mentioned above you will not have to be kneeling now to beg him for whatever. Infact he will be forced to quickly get married to you because he will see all manner of suitors coming.
You will not asking what his plans are. Instead you will be telling him that you are under pressure by your parents to get married to one of the suitors.

Women of value are like wine, the older the better. Ask Okonjo Iweala
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by sammirano: 10:42am On Feb 21
You guys relationship is crazy. There are types of men. Your guy cannot stand the idea of you with someone elee. However, he believes he can. So he will always capitalize on that. No, advise here

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Lovelyperson(m): 11:14am On Feb 21
Neweramify:
Greetings

Please I need your advice

I've dated this guy for 7 years now, asked him his intention for the relationship and here is his response.

Am I asking for too much?
Please am I overreacting?
Does it worth breaking up?

If I'm your sister, what will be your advice to me?

Please help cause I'm losing my mine


How old are you?
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by fineboynl(m): 4:29pm On Feb 21
there is always a reason why he will never marry you. and there is no reason why he will marry you.

watch it he will come back and sweet talk you because he already has the magic stick. but the truth is the truth and even if he eventually marries you. both of you will continue to have problem like this and he seems not to even trust you for one bit.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Evolutionlove: 4:47pm On Feb 21
franktech:
From your conversations it shows that this boy doesn't want you again. Can I tell whose fault it is? No. It is really sad whenever I see a girl passing through this kind of situation� Our girls are supposed to be happy and having the best of life but unfortunately the economy is bad. Therefore as a lady if you want to get married or have countless suitors, you must have a good job or be an entrepreneur

One thing I can sense is that you do not have any value apart from maybe breast and toto. Probably no job even. Secondly this makes you to be too demanding. This boy on the other hand may be rich or poor but honesty if I am him I will not get married to a useless woman.

In Abroad you will see women that are web programmers, Uber drivers, owning all manner establishment that they started from scratch. Surely I say to you, as a lady in Nigeria, if you can at least be earning 40k as a youtuber,blogger,programmer,event planner,Uber driver, architect,contractor, business infact any job apart from restaurant,masonry,hotel and mortuary this is because African men are yet to accept that as a job for a decent lady.

Do you think for example Linda Ikeji will be looking for a husband? Impossible right?. Well you may not be Linda Ikeji bit if you can have a blog and be earning 40k monthly revenue I assure you that every year you will be counting your suitors. Sampling breast and nyash does not only make you look senseless, it also shows that you are not a wife material and only good to Bleep and go especially when you are demanding join am.

I am yet to get married and I will be looking for a girl that has a join and actively earning. If she is an entrepreneur, perfect. Not hairstylist type of entrepreneur though. Also I will check if she is showing nyash and bobi on Facebook for sale. I am not looking for a woman that will help my business or depend on her for finance but I would want to have less burden to carry incase my business fail and also security for my kids incase I am not there for them again.

If you have the qualities that I mentioned above you will not have to be kneeling now to beg him for whatever. Infact he will be forced to quickly get married to you because he will see all manner of suitors coming.
You will not asking what his plans are. Instead you will be telling him that you are under pressure by your parents to get married to one of the suitors.

Women of value are like wine, the older the better. Ask Okonjo Iweala

Apt and Affirmative.......

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by mosdii(m): 5:27pm On Feb 21
The Brother Dodged A Bullet Because Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 12:47am On Feb 22
franktech:
From your conversations it shows that this boy doesn't want you again. Can I tell whose fault it is? No.

It is really sad whenever I see a girl passing through this kind of situation� Our girls are supposed to be happy and having the best of life but unfortunately the economy is bad. Therefore as a lady if you want to get married or have countless suitors, you must have a good job or be an entrepreneur

One thing I can sense is that you do not have any value apart from maybe breast and toto. Probably no job even. Secondly this makes you to be too demanding. This boy on the other hand may be rich or poor but honesty if I am him I will not get married to a useless woman.

In Abroad you will see women that are web programmers, Uber drivers, owning all manner establishment that they started from scratch. Surely I say to you, as a lady in Nigeria, if you can at least be earning 40k as a youtuber,blogger,programmer,event planner,Uber driver, architect,contractor, business infact any job apart from restaurant,masonry,hotel and mortuary this is because African men are yet to accept that as a job for a decent lady.

Do you think for example Linda Ikeji will be looking for a husband? Impossible right?. Well you may not be Linda Ikeji bit if you can have a blog and be earning 40k monthly revenue I assure you that every year you will be counting your suitors. Sampling breast and nyash does not only make you look senseless, it also shows that you are not a wife material and only good to Bleep and go especially when you are demanding join am.

I am yet to get married and I will be looking for a girl that has a join and actively earning. If she is an entrepreneur, perfect. Not hairstylist type of entrepreneur though. Also I will check if she is showing nyash and bobi on Facebook for sale. I am not looking for a woman that will help my business or depend on her for finance but I would want to have less burden to carry incase my business fail and also security for my kids incase I am not there for them again.

If you have the qualities that I mentioned above you will not have to be kneeling now to beg him for whatever. Infact he will be forced to quickly get married to you because he will see all manner of suitors coming.
You will not asking what his plans are. Instead you will be telling him that you are under pressure by your parents to get married to one of the suitors.

Women of value are like wine, the older the better. Ask Okonjo Iweala

I know you gonna say it's my fault

I do have value and I've been supportive to him & his business in my little way.

De way you view me is so wrong cause I'm not a demanding type. Don't even know how to ask a man money.

I love my career & I'm working very hard to get it.

Thanks for your advice
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Neweramify(f): 12:55am On Feb 22
fineboynl:
there is always a reason why he will never marry you. and there is no reason why he will marry you.

watch it he will come back and sweet talk you because he already has the magic stick. but the truth is the truth and even if he eventually marries you. both of you will continue to have problem like this and he seems not to even trust you for one bit.

That's your view sir.

what would you advice your sister?
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by aroundtheearth: 3:15am On Feb 22
Move on.
Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Carlmax(m): 5:58am On Feb 22
You start dating a guy in 200 level, he graduated after 4 years, did his service and maybe just got a job the last 1 year. All this while he has been loyal to you but when you narrate your story, you scream 7 years!!! Like he has been ready to settle down since day 1.

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by Carlmax(m): 6:00am On Feb 22
Ladies if you want a guy that will marry you within a year, go for guys in their 30s, don't start dating a 20 year old guy and at 25 you are already screaming 5 Years!!!!

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Re: Lady Needs Advice, He Dated Her For 7 Yrs Without Having Future Plans With Her by fineboynl(m): 7:31am On Feb 22
Neweramify:


That's your view sir.

what would you advice your sister?
I know it's hard. but leave him. I do not see any reason why you should continue.

he hasn't made up his mind yet reasons he is dodging the question you asked him. he still believe it's 50/50 and that he might be with someone else.

the advice for you. never ask a man what his plan for you is. we men don't like that question neither we like to answer it. its best you find out by yourself from our behavior.

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