Roysnickz:

My sister, you just described my person. I wonder how you are able to study me and know a lot about me, character-wse.

jadyclem:

Your description of a god-fearing man is very shallow. The fact that a man loves God doesn't mean that he's not romantic or he's got no game. We get many levels brothers in my church with styles and class that actually love God. The fact say person love God and chooses to live for God no mean say d person no sabi catch fun or do shits because your definition of fun and mine no fit be the same but that one no mean say you dey get more grove than me. Just saying!

blazepascal:
When it comes to relationships or picking a partner for marriage, most Nigerians have a long list of preferences and what they want their spouses to possess in order to make a perfect partner.

Men have want their women to be respectful, beautiful, caring, bold and hard-working before they can consider them as "wife materials". This ideology often make some men to be too selective and usually end up being single even in their forties.

What about the women? Nigerian girls are very complicated people and their idea of an "ideal" husband might depend on age.

A teenage girl or one in her early twenties would want a fun guy, the party type that would take her places to have fun on weekends. Any guy that behaves like a husband to a girl of these age bracket will surely be disappointed as her lifestyle and mentality might be too over-whelming for him. These kinds of ladies prefer play boys and fun lovers at the moment.

Since we're talking about ladies who are choosing the kind of men they want to spend the rest of their lives with, let's get down to the point.

What do ladies mean when they say they want a "God-fearing" man?

First let's describe who a God-fearing man is. A person who is God-fearing is an overly religious person who sees nothing more important than his relationship with God. These people are try to live as holy as they can and often times, treats all people with love and respect equally. These kind of people don't lay much emphasis on romance or being a "great husband" and treat their spouses equally with the way they treat other people outside.

Now, with the above description is there any Nigerian woman that would want that kind of man? Many would cringe at the mere idea of marrying a pastor so as not to appear wearing gowns that they wouldn't normally wear.

No Nigerian woman would want to share her husband's love and affection with anyone and clearly, intimacy is a vital ingredient in marriage that must be shown as often as possible so as to keep the bond strong.

Some Nigerian women would likely cheat or even loath on her "God-fearing" husband because well, that isn't what she had hoped for.

So in summary, what people actually mean when they tell you that they want a "God-fearing man" is actually "I want a Good man''.

"I don't want someone who's too religious".

So the question is, why do we say one thing and mean another?.

pansophist:
The term "God fearing" is just a final decoration, not the main thing. Women do not want to come off as superficial, saying that they find some traits such as being rich and handsome, tall and educated will seems like they care about materials and superficial things. A man has to be all that before he will accepted. If God fearing is really important, they would be rushing after pastors.

LMS1:
Op Answer This Ones First:
Why Did Mark Zuckerbeg Named It Facebook When Its Actually Not A Book Nor A Face?
Why Do We Call It Nairaland When Its Actually Not A Plot Of Land Or A Naira Note?
Why Did They Call It 'Change' When They Ment To Say 'Crippling The Economy' ?
Op Go Back And Study Your History Book.

Glory596:
Most senseless post I’ve read today

Tonymegabush1:
Everyone is a good depending on how you see them...

LMS1:

Thankyou Oga Teacher,
But Did You Read What The Op Asked? "why Do We Say Onething And Mean Another"

PurpleQ:




One word. HigherEd How Ogombo today


I hear say Ajah catch fire. Na wetin dey occur

PurpleQ:



Yes. From marketing my trade.


Wetin do Ajah. Home of my beloved?

LMS1:
Op Answer This Ones First:
Why Did Mark Zuckerbeg Named It Facebook When Its Actually Not A Book Nor A Face?
Why Do We Call It Nairaland When Its Actually Not A Plot Of Land Or A Naira Note?
Why Did They Call It 'Change' When They Ment To Say 'Crippling The Economy' ?
Op Go Back And Study Your History Book.

Calitoscassius:
Well... i am not a God fearing man, why da fucck would God be feared?. is God a murderer?










God doesn't even exist.

LMS1:

What A Wow!

blazepascal:
When it comes to relationships or picking a partner for marriage, most Nigerians have a long list of preferences and what they want their spouses to possess in order to make a perfect partner.

Men have want their women to be respectful, beautiful, caring, bold and hard-working before they can consider them as "wife materials". This ideology often make some men to be too selective and usually end up being single even in their forties.

What about the women? Nigerian girls are very complicated people and their idea of an "ideal" husband might depend on age.

A teenage girl or one in her early twenties would want a fun guy, the party type that would take her places to have fun on weekends. Any guy that behaves like a husband to a girl of these age bracket will surely be disappointed as her lifestyle and mentality might be too over-whelming for him. These kinds of ladies prefer play boys and fun lovers at the moment.

Since we're talking about ladies who are choosing the kind of men they want to spend the rest of their lives with, let's get down to the point.

What do ladies mean when they say they want a "God-fearing" man?

First let's describe who a God-fearing man is. A person who is God-fearing is an overly religious person who sees nothing more important than his relationship with God. These people are try to live as holy as they can and often times, treats all people with love and respect equally. These kind of people don't lay much emphasis on romance or being a "great husband" and treat their spouses equally with the way they treat other people outside.

Now, with the above description is there any Nigerian woman that would want that kind of man? Many would cringe at the mere idea of marrying a pastor so as not to appear wearing gowns that they wouldn't normally wear.

No Nigerian woman would want to share her husband's love and affection with anyone and clearly, intimacy is a vital ingredient in marriage that must be shown as often as possible so as to keep the bond strong.

Some Nigerian women would likely cheat or even loath on her "God-fearing" husband because well, that isn't what she had hoped for.

So in summary, what people actually mean when they tell you that they want a "God-fearing man" is actually "I want a Good man''.

"I don't want someone who's too religious".

So the question is, why do we say one thing and mean another?.

PrimadonnaO:
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A God-fearing man is not an overly-religious man! That makes it sound like something negative. You're the one who has got the meaning all skewed up! Either you don't know what it means to be God-fearing or you decided to exaggerate.

I can't speak for everyone. But I want a God-fearing man. When I say I want a God-fearing man, I want a man who's a Christian at heart and in deeds, not a mere church-goer.

- Someone who has healthy boundaries because he has a Godly conscience. There are some things people of the world will do, but a person who fears God will never do them.

- A God-fearing man is not necessarily perfect... far from it, but he consciously tries to be better. He has not resigned himself to bad habits or character traits, with no intention of changing.

- A God-fearing man has a high sense of responsibility. Even on the days when he may want to fall short, he calls himself back to order because he alludes to a higher authority.

- A God-fearing man is not necessarily coy. He is conscious of his sexuality... he can be sexy and naughty and romantic, too.

- A God-fearing man is firm, commands respect and admiration from his immediate family, friends and others.

- A God-fearing man will lead his family with love... he will love his wife as Christ loves the church... and he'll help in raising Godly children.

The idea of a "good" man is very subjective... anyone can claim to be good by whatsoever standards they believe to be good. The idea of a God-fearing man is less subjective and can be more easily metered.

And let me say this for free, a person cannot sustainably be good by themselves. To rely on their own ability for goodness is a ruse! They will fail/hurt you way too many times. It is the working of the Holy Spirit in a man that makes the difference.

1Sharon:


A god fearing man is also a Virgin! how many women male virgins?

1Sharon:


You can be an atheist man and still do those things

OpinionCounts:


An atheist can do some, not all.

An atheist does not fear God because infact, he does not believe their is anything like "God". He does not believe in the existence of deities.

cc beauty7

beauty7:


There is one book I read about a research on the life of atheists.

The research shows that when once someone stops believing in God, she or he tends to become more selfish and self centered.

That means a real atheist cannot be a husband material.

1Sharon:



I also read one book that said Nigerian Christians are brainwashed zombies.

So no, never trust a Christian doing good. They are only doing it for a heavenly reward and not from the goodness of their heart.