James4358:
i was present at university of calabar teaching hospital where test where carried out on his son, he was nt compatible. The other son is diabetic and was nt fit medically for a transplant. People donate kidneys even for free, u need to be exposed to knw this facts.

James4358:
Its not an issue of being poor. She needed a job like all of us do. She never died of kidney complication. Its nearly 2yrs since the transplant was carried out in germany.

Righteousness2:
It is Painful and Unfortunate that the young lady lost her life.
If all you stated here is the truth, then I Admonish you to Reject and Refuse the threats of getting married to her Dead body.

Do not do it under any guise. The Living and the Dead have nothing in common.
Marriage is a Covenant. Doing that is Covenanting yourself with the Dead. It is a Dangerous Move.
Do not do any Marriage right under any guise.
As long as your hands are clean you have nothing to fear.

Take note! You will need to be Strong, Fortified and Confindent in GOD before you embark on the Journey to the Village.

I Repeat! Do not succumb to any threat or Pressure to Marry the Dead..

Lastly you and her boss should prepare a Good Compensation for the family of the late young girl.

James4358:
My nairaland family, i jst want to bare my mind here.

Matured responses will be sincerely appreciated. I'll try to be brief & straight to the points.

Precisely in 2019, I helped my then boss who was transfered to Abuja to get a maid from the south south part of the country, calabar to be precise. She was 18yrs at that time. Later that year, my boss who was nursing a kidney ailment needed transplant urgently. Out of love, this girl opted to help donate one of her kidneys. Personaly I kicked against the idea when she told me, but she was strong-willed. I took the matter to her parents and they threatened to hold me responsible if anything happened to their daughter. After much persuasion from her, her parents gave in reluctantly. We carried out series of tests & she was certified fit to donate. My boss contacted a German hospital that later did the transplant. I work for a para-millitary agency as a cadet A.S.P & i call him My boss because he was heading the command i was first posted to. More details below...

James4358:
The transplant was successful. They both came back to nigeria last year when travel restrictions was lifted. Since last year she has been sound & living a healthy lifestyle, i pay her visits regurlarly at my boss's house in abuja. In january this year, my boss traveled for a course abroad, left her & the new maid he got at his residence. My boss lost his wife 6yrs ago to an accident and his two sons are based in the south east. He practically lived alone. Last week i got a call from her that she was ill and has been rushed to a general hospital. I left makurdi where am based to pay her a visit. I was at the hospital when her mum called to inform me i'll marry her corpse if anything happens to their daughter. I was scared though because this is a practice common to the efik & ibibio part of the south. Well, i lost her yesterday at a hospital i transfered her to in lagos. Now my issues now are as follows...

Cutie09:
I don't want to judge here, but officer your story is too good to be true. You've painted a picture as if you are saints here but you are not. Because of poverty you guys use this girl for exchange.

1) your boss have family extended family why can they not offer their own kidney why this young girl.

2) how much were you paid be honest.... why didn't you give your boss your own kidney since You've known him longer.

3) your boss probably killed his wife, now his secret cult need another head he used this ibiobio girl for exchange.

4) you come across like someone from ibiobio or efik, am going to be honest with you next time is going to be your head if God never destroy you.

God is going to judge you. Go confess to her parents how much you were paid.

22brains:
[/b][b]organ harvest business spotted here. The truth is, they harvested her two functional kidneys, sold it and planted bad one in her. Imagine her sudden death within a period of one Year. One can live a lifetime with one functional kidney! This issue should be probed. Maybe they always prey on their maid to harvest their organs but this one will expose them.

My sister almost fell victim to this kind of shit few years ago if not My swift intervention. She met a rich guy who promise to secure a good paying job for her abroad and she should keep it a secret until she arrives abroad to shame her enemies. A trait he use to lure unsuspecting victims to "organs harvest market (black market). He flies his victims secretly and have their organs harvested

MufasaLion:
A legally documented agreement between the parties involved would have saved you from all this drama.

James4358:
i was present at university of calabar teaching hospital where test where carried out on his son, he was nt compatible. The other son is diabetic and was nt fit medically for a transplant. People donate kidneys even for free, u need to be exposed to knw this facts.

pinkygurl:

People donate kidney for free.thats why you should have donated your kidney or your fiancee should have donated or your siblings or fiancee's siblings.out of pure love
The late girl was just 18,a total stranger & a maid/a little better than a slave on little wages.
No parent would sign documents for their 18years old househelp child to donate kidney to his or her boss

James4358:
Should her family carryout their threats, Are they spiritual side effects to marrying a corpse? am already in a relationship that w'll tie the nots in no time. Does it mean i wont get to settle down if eventualy i perform her marraige rites? To be sincere,. Av seen comments here suggesting we forced her. We never did. I lived on my own while she was with my boss. She was certainly of a legal age when she accepted to do this. My boss took care of her parents and her salary was very impressive. She was given an appointment into the correctional service where we work as compensation. I never knew what went wrong because i work in the north central part of the country. Currently am planing to travel with her corpse to her home town fro lagos. I already sent an advanced party to meet with her family to help calm their nerves. Am only 29yrs old and has never had such an experience before. Family men & ladies, how do i handle this situation?

Cutie09:
I don't want to judge here, but officer your story is too good to be true. You've painted a picture as if you are saints here but you are not. Because of poverty you guys use this girl for exchange.

1) your boss have family extended family why can they not offer their own kidney why this young girl.

2) how much were you paid be honest.... why didn't you give your boss your own kidney since You've known him longer.

3) your boss probably killed his wife, now his secret cult need another head he used this ibiobio girl for exchange.

4) you come across like someone from ibiobio or efik, am going to be honest with you next time is going to be your head if God never destroy you.

God is going to judge you. Go confess to her parents how much you were paid.

James4358:
No one seems to understand my story. I was practicaly far away from them. I was working in calabar at the time when she was at abuja. But nt for respect for the dead, i would have uploaded her pics. This girl was jst too big for her age. She was 21yrs old this january. I was the one who approached her parents for her services, that's why the blame is upon me. As am typing, my boss is stil abroad & planning to return to nigeria this week. She was never used or forced.

Originalsly:
Hmmm.... this calls for some serious chewing. This is not much about the maid losing her life.... but about you fearing what will happen if you don't marry the corpse. You will fear only if you're Efik or Ibibio ... and if your hands are not clean. Your boss wanted a maid from the south ... why? He now has a new maid... is she also from the south? ... and did you get her for him?... or did he suddenly become capable of finding his own maid? People do not need emergency operation for a new kidney. If his condition was bad he would've been on dialysis.... and if on dialysis he would not be at work.... let alone to be transferred to Abuja. You found him a maid in 2019.... and within the same year she loved him so much that she decided to make her kidney available. If she was so determined... why did you had to visit her parents? Why was her boss not involved? His sons kidneys didn't match but hers did? What about yours?.... didn't you test yours for a match? ... or you don't love him that much? So both your boss and the maid were trapped in Germany and returned fine. Why the need for a second maid?.... when he travelled abroad?... for a course in January? Which country was running in person courses in January for locals? .... let alone foreigners?....and when is he returning? ... the one with the transplanted kidney is doing fine but the donor is dead. Bro..... I can bet my life your boss has his two original kidneys and they are working just fine. Both you and he need to be arrested and charged. You are locating poor young girls for him to extract and sell their kidneys in Germany. The new maid is next in line. The wicked shall prosper but just for a while. This one... you cannot pay off..... go and marry the corpse... and make love to the body. Don't you know the evil you do will one day return to visit you? Life has a way...... the haunting has now begun. And we wonder why some rich people end up mad or commit suicide. Thanks for sharing.