wwwihy:
#Copied


My salary came yesterday and immediately I received alert, I rushed to my husband and asked him how much he needs me to contribute after informing him that my salary has been paid. Oga thought I was joking and mentioned a figure thinking I was going to contest because it was

Almost all my salary, I just carried my phone and transferred it to him. It was doing him like film, I then went ahead to pay the salary of our children's lesson teacher so that he would stop thinking about it. That's when I realized that he was doing so much without complaining.

He sees it like his duty and even when the financial burden is too much, he struggles to pay without asking me. He was so surprised and happy, I know that my money is just a fraction of what he brings but he felt like I gave him millions. I then told him that I am putting in the effort to make more money so that I can still reduce his stress. He didn't marry a responsibility, he married an helper and he should be feeling more relaxed than when he was single. I have never felt entitled to anybody's pocket and I won't do that with my husband. Omo, oga went to the market without even telling me, stocked up the home. Cooked and served me o, this small support has gone a long way to settle silent quarrels that I didn't even know about. I will keep working harder and doing my best, men also need support, they are not superman.

https://mobile.twitter.com/jagzangel/status/1377989341801250816

Ikillbrokehoes:
Don't get me wrong, I never said women of these generation don't help their husbands, only few help which was actually what I was implying. except those that believe that a man should be the one to provide for them always, they will rather spend their money on frivolities than supporting their husbands, though not all women are that heartless, we still have wonderful women out there too that are very supportive.

happy Easter.

DaddyRochie1642:
Alot of people think that the way to a man's heart is through "Food", Men nowadays know how to cook so well that they're ready to put a "Strong Challenge" when it comes to kitchen matters.

But there's another way to a Man's Heart that's been Neglected for ages.
Another way to a Man's Heart is by being a "Pillar Of Support" to that man.

I can assure you that a Man never forgets who Supported him when he needed it the most and I say this without Remorse.

JidennaJason:
You will see most of them risking their lives sitting at the back of a pegueot pickup loaded with garri and other goods, while their men sit at home with a bottle of seaman schnapp to argue politics and reduce bride price to afford more wives.


I know them.

FashionCookie:


U don see where these women for dey mix and carry concrete? May God crown their efforts with success...

wwwihy:
#Copied


My salary came yesterday and immediately I received alert, I rushed to my husband and asked him how much he needs me to contribute after informing him that my salary has been paid. Oga thought I was joking and mentioned a figure thinking I was going to contest because it was

Almost all my salary, I just carried my phone and transferred it to him. It was doing him like film, I then went ahead to pay the salary of our children's lesson teacher so that he would stop thinking about it. That's when I realized that he was doing so much without complaining.

He sees it like his duty and even when the financial burden is too much, he struggles to pay without asking me. He was so surprised and happy, I know that my money is just a fraction of what he brings but he felt like I gave him millions. I then told him that I am putting in the effort to make more money so that I can still reduce his stress. He didn't marry a responsibility, he married an helper and he should be feeling more relaxed than when he was single. I have never felt entitled to anybody's pocket and I won't do that with my husband. Omo, oga went to the market without even telling me, stocked up the home. Cooked and served me o, this small support has gone a long way to settle silent quarrels that I didn't even know about. I will keep working harder and doing my best, men also need support, they are not superman.

https://mobile.twitter.com/jagzangel/status/1377989341801250816

Lilfire:
I literally trained my wife in the university, she is lost her dad and mom in the space of two years, she started her NYSC of which I paid for everything including the runs on where her PPA would be, This is her fourth months in service, and the has only bought me a card of 1k, why am I writing these, when I saw This post I was move to my bones, I don't earn much, yet her junior brother is also in the university, the other two junior once are in my house, one just finished writing her SSEC of which I have to take him to a miracle center, she told to me my face that I have no right over her money �, a was cool with that, recently they just paid her, she called me to tell me how she planned to spend her money, and not a dime goes into the family expenditure, when I complained it becomes an offence, am so tired with the whole thing, my problem is that she is not seeing how am suffering to make ends meet, I feel like running away from home right now.

Lilfire:
I literally trained my wife in the university, she is lost her dad and mom in the space of two years, she started her NYSC of which I paid for everything including the runs on where her PPA would be, This is her fourth months in service, and the has only bought me a card of 1k, why am I writing these, when I saw This post I was move to my bones, I don't earn much, yet her junior brother is also in the university, the other two junior once are in my house, one just finished writing her SSEC of which I have to take him to a miracle center, she told to me my face that I have no right over her money �, a was cool with that, recently they just paid her, she called me to tell me how she planned to spend her money, and not a dime goes into the family expenditure, when I complained it becomes an offence, am so tired with the whole thing, my problem is that she is not seeing how am suffering to make ends meet, I feel like running away from home right now.

9jaRealist:


Do you barb your own hair? Why not leave it the way it was created?
Hopefully, you don’t wear Western clothes, like suits or blue jeans or Oyibo shoes.

It’s bad enough you write in English like “Oyibo” instead of using your native language...
Let’s not even mention abandoning our traditional talking drums to use Oyibo computers and Internet.

Crude misogyny like yours would be dismissed as tragic comedy if it wasn’t a symptom of the sort of toxic insecurity that leads to abuse. SMH
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JidennaJason:
One of the many disadvantages of marrying someone out of PITY.... You'll get disappointed at the long run.

My brother, you've tried, and I will commend you for coming out to speak up.

Never you displease yourself to please anyone in this life, if your wife cannot contribute to the well being of the family and also help to ease the financial burden rested on your young shoulders, I will advise you cut all her expenses and use it to invest in something that would rake in some cash for you and your kids.


Cc; Kriss216, Ikillbrokehoes, please help this brother with your advice.

Kriss216:

@Lilfire.
Treat her same way she treats you. Stop crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you.

Your kids should be your priority not her and also limit her siblings from visiting your home. The money you spent on her siblings would have been enough to open a poultry business. Stop every nonsense familiarity with her siblings!

Every abokii to his own kettle. When the music changes, the dance step also change.

OscarJaden:
A relationship should be 'I water you,you water me,we grow together


Not I water you,I water you,I still dey water you

Ladycewhy:
This could have been me ,but Nigerian men I know will likely use the opportunity to get another woman pregnant outside.

Liposure:
All men are not the same. There are still good men out there. Jesus said seek and you shall find. Happy easter.

wumi2017:
Amazing and Rare,, that's how it should be.i mean our Kings are trying so hard...... ;Dthat's one of us association of good women of Nigeria ibadan Chapter ....May God bless me beyond my expectations to be this type of woman when am married....... anyways get ur quality and affordable shoes from Wunmi's Collection

Ikillbrokehoes:
You found a good and respectable woman for yourself, please don't disappoint her.

dollytino4real:
u do dis kind thing 4 my husband, one year he will not go work again!! I buys things 4 house but is capital letter NO 4 me to give him cash at hand, far-far-foul

StacyO:
I would do same without screaming it on SM though.

Queenslander:
[s] at Least I do have a formal education, you have absolutely none,. You this HIV positive jobless broke old fool.. don't forget zlatansomto is still waiting for you.. you weak being.. who only has power for women.. when you see women all your power will come out, but when your fellow men get involved now.. you run and cry to the mods to rescue you.. bastard!![/s]

Ladycewhy:
But then you know my point is very valid. My eyes have seen my ears with Nigerian men. The responsible men who will not take a woman for granted for being his backbone and support till death do them part is in limited supply.

Gagare1:
A rare gem indeed. Disappointing my wife is something never in my dictionary.

pozehnani:
When you love someone, you can give him your all. So no be big deal madam.
Besides you didn't dash him the money to trip himself out. It's still for the upkeep of the house which you also benefitted from.

cococandy:
No news here because Nigerian wives and moms have been financial pillars in their homes as far as I know. Many many homes would have crumbled by now if not for their working, trading, teaching and hustling wives/moms. It’s a reality in our face everyday. People just like to come on the internet and be weird like they don’t see it.

If you know your mom has supported your family financially and you come on this thread to act surprised that a Nigerian woman is helping her husband with money, I’m disappointed in you on behalf of your mom. Yes, She told me to tell you.

JovialJune:




Good for you, so do you share house chores 80-20%? 80% being from you since she contributes 100 finance?

OscarJaden:
A relationship should be 'I water you,you water me,we grow together


Not I water you,I water you,I still dey water you