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Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by bluefilm: 11:00pm On Apr 07
needanswer:
Tough questions about relationships, can you answer it. The rules are simple. Whatever options you picked in scenario one, you must pick in scenario two, you can't switch, so are you ready?


Scenario 1

Let's imagine you are married to a woman you love. You get along fine with her and your family. One day in your absence she gets into a verbal exchange with your mother while you are at work.

She calls to inform you before you return so you can have her back cause you are her husband. So as you get home, you wife is outside to welcome you and lead you inside, your mom is waiting for you patiently in the living room, as soon as you walk in she begins to call out your wife in your presence while your wife nudges at you to confront her on her behalf, what will you do?

(A) confront your mom and defend your wife as a lover boy?

(B) side with your mom as a mommy's boy?

(C) become the CONFUSED FELLOW and try to BEG EVERYONE like you were the cause of the fight and be seen as a weak man?

(D) rebuke everyone including your mother and wife and become the NEW VILLAIN as the disrespectful man?

(E) Ignore everyone and be termed disrespectful and insensitive, as the heartless man?

(F) Try to know who is wrong in the situation and BLAME THAT PARTY ALONE, and be seen as A JUDGE and not a CARING SON or LOVING HUSBAND?


Scenario 2.

You have been married to your husband, who has been such a blessing. One day you go to the market and before you can come back your husband calls you on the phone and started complaining bitterly about the heated argument he and your father just had at your back and that it is still on going. You quickly rush home. At the door your husband is waiting for you, in the dining room your dad is waiting for you also. And as soon as you walk in with your husband he begins to tackle him again in your presence, while your husband nudges at you to confront him on his behalf, what will you do?

(A)confront your dad and defend your husband as a lover girl?

(B) side with your dad as a daddy's girl?

(C) become the CONFUSED FELLOW and try to BEG EVERYONE like you were the cause of the fight?

(D) rebuke everyone including your dad and husband and become the NEW VILLAIN?

(E) Ignore everyone and be termed disrespectful and insensitive?

(F) Try to know who is wrong in the situation and BLAME THAT PARTY ALONE, even if it's your husband or father?

Seun
Rocktation

I'm sure you must have been watching I'M IN LOVE WITH A MAMA'S BOY on DSTV of lately?
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by kingemaker(m): 11:03pm On Apr 07
needanswer:


I see your point, nice take, really nice.

Your approach is slightly suited more to your mother though.
Your wife may be expecting she takes first preference though.

Ko ni da fun wife yen
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by needanswer: 11:03pm On Apr 07
bluefilm:


I'm sure you must have been watching I'M IN LOVE WITH A MAMA'S BOY on DSTV of lately?


Am the wrongest person to be caught watching nollywood movies either on mnet or Rok.

The story lines are too simple for me
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by EmekusTHEgreat(m): 11:04pm On Apr 07
needanswer:



(A) confront your mom and defend your wife as a lover boy?

(B) side with your mom as a mommy's boy?

(C) become the CONFUSED FELLOW and try to BEG EVERYONE like you were the cause of the fight and be seen as a weak man?

(D) rebuke everyone including your mother and wife and become the NEW VILLAIN as the disrespectful man?

(E) Ignore everyone and be termed disrespectful and insensitive, as the heartless man?

(F) Try to know who is wrong in the situation and BLAME THAT PARTY ALONE, and be seen as A JUDGE and not a CARING SON or LOVING HUSBAND?


Seun
Rocktation


All these questions are relative, my momsy and current babe get along very well, they are both really calm people that don't like confrontation, the likelihood of such happening to me is slim


But if it does then I don't mind being the villain to both of them. How dare they try to confuse me after a hectic day at work. Both of them dey ment!!! I would castigate them, and query them for trying to make me pick sides to spite the other person. I would then go on to guilt trip the heck out of them.

"Mom, this is your daughter why are you trying to hurt her"

"Wife, is this how you would treat your biological mother "

"If the two of you don't make up and stop bickering like silly prejuvenile children right now, you'll both go back to your husband's and father's houses and never hear from me again"

This can only work for males because well... na me get prick and na me dey provide, it's different for women but I would not recommend picking sides and any partner that wants me to pick against my mom is immature
Likewise only an insecure and overbearing mother would want to come to someone's home and cause havok..


Can never be my mom. The woman is too conscious about imposing
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by needanswer: 11:04pm On Apr 07
kingemaker:


Ko ni da fun wife yen

Your ONE and ONLY, your LOVE cheesy
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by needanswer: 11:06pm On Apr 07
EmekusTHEgreat:



All these questions are relative, my momsy and current babe get along very well, they are both really calm people that don't like confrontation, the likelihood of such happening to me is slim


But if it does then I don't mind being the villain to both of them. How dare they try to confuse me after a hectic day at work. Both of them dey ment!!! I would castigate them, and query them for trying to make me pick sides to spite the other person. I would then go on to guilt trip the heck out of them.

"Mom, this is your daughter why are you trying to hurt her"

"Wife, is this how you would treat your biological mother "

"If the two of you don't make up and stop bickering like silly prejuvenile children right now, you'll both go back to your husband's and father's houses and never hear from me again"

Option G, guilty trip them cheesy, that scope go work o grin
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by kingemaker(m): 11:06pm On Apr 07
needanswer:


Your ONE and ONLY, your LOVE cheesy

Ko ni da fun love. Describing the mum-son relationship with love would be an understatement.

I'm not even so close to mum, but that woman is my Orisa.

I'll respect my wife, but I can't place her side by side with my mum. Will never let any family member including my mum disrespect her, and vice versa.

Reason why I'll rather not let my mum-wife have any personal relationship. Just hello from afar.
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by ImaIma1(f): 11:45pm On Apr 07
D or E. They can't come and kill me

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Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by Stanleyville(m): 11:58pm On Apr 07
grin




Been almost a year now..no gulfriend no wifey,..just me and my Hustle.
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by SimplyFacts: 12:00am On Apr 08
Make my wife no even try having any issues with my mother. I'm not predictable when it comes to Maami's matter angry. I don't pray to be in such scenario. I would do my best to make the two be at peace always.

@stanleyville above, singleness & peace of mind are like 5&6 cheesy
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by addictiv(m): 12:40am On Apr 08
Wife: Which side are you on?
Me: I am on the Lord's side...

A more practical approach will be to quickly deescalate the situation by separating warring parties. Take wife to the bedroom and listen to her version, from her version, praise her for what she did right and point out what she did wrong. Then listen to Mum's version, praise her for what she did right and point out what she did wrong... Then bring them together and have them apologize to each other for the areas I told them they went wrong, then do something I know will make them happy, maybe gifts, outings, a stroll in the park, etc, according to their individual preferences. Luckily I have a great mother, even Jezebel herself won't be able to have issues with her.
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by Yeahmehn: 12:57am On Apr 08
Option E. The 2 of them never pull cloth fight before I come house and so they won't do it when I'm there.
you cannot divide women fight o. Na to hear gist later
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by needanswer: 7:33am On Apr 08
addictiv:
Wife: Which side are you on?
Me: I am on the Lord's side...

A more practical approach will be to quickly deescalate the situation by separating warring parties. Take wife to the bedroom and listen to her version, from her version, praise her for what she did right and point out what she did wrong. Then listen to Mum's version, praise her for what she did right and point out what she did wrong... Then bring them together and have them apologize to each other for the areas I told them they went wrong, then do something I know will make them happy, maybe gifts, outings, a stroll in the park, etc, according to their individual preferences. Luckily I have a great mother, even Jezebel herself won't be able to have issues with her.

Lol....you're on the lord's side. Wahala for who marry MOG cheesy
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by rita25(f): 10:23am On Apr 08
omo my husband and father ke? my husband must give way oh............me and him will settle but NEVER disrespect my dad since i havnt done that to any of your parents.....then i will go inside and talk to my dad if its his fault but right there i will just beg for peace to reign and cry better cry for the both of them
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by gentleibraheem(m): 11:51am On Apr 08
I think the second scenario Either doesn't happen or is very rare.
Men don't have time and Energy to waste on useless stuffs
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by needanswer: 12:28pm On Apr 08
rita25:
omo my husband and father ke? my husband must give way oh............me and him will settle but NEVER disrespect my dad since i havnt done that to any of your parents.....then i will go inside and talk to my dad if its his fault but right there i will just beg for peace to reign and cry better cry for the both of them

What if it was the first scenario, what will you have your hubby do?
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by needanswer: 12:28pm On Apr 08
gentleibraheem:
I think the second scenario Either doesn't happen or is very rare.
Men don't have time and Energy to waste on useless stuffs

Good observation
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by rita25(f): 1:50pm On Apr 08
THE GUY HAS SUPPORTED HIS MOTHER OVER ME SEVERALLY I DID NOT DIE SO ANY OPPORTUNITY TO PAY BACK EH............E GO CHOKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
needanswer:


What if it was the first scenario, what will you have your hubby do?
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by Michaelcas(m): 2:05pm On Apr 08
needanswer:
Tough questions about relationships, can you answer it. The rules are simple. Whatever options you picked in scenario one, you must pick in scenario two, you can't switch, so are you ready?


Scenario 1

Let's imagine you are married to a woman you love. You get along fine with her and your family. One day in your absence she gets into a verbal exchange with your mother while you are at work.

She calls to inform you before you return so you can have her back cause you are her husband. So as you get home, you wife is outside to welcome you and lead you inside, your mom is waiting for you patiently in the living room, as soon as you walk in she begins to call out your wife in your presence while your wife nudges at you to confront her on her behalf, what will you do?

(A) confront your mom and defend your wife as a lover boy?

(B) side with your mom as a mommy's boy?

(C) become the CONFUSED FELLOW and try to BEG EVERYONE like you were the cause of the fight and be seen as a weak man?

(D) rebuke everyone including your mother and wife and become the NEW VILLAIN as the disrespectful man?

(E) Ignore everyone and be termed disrespectful and insensitive, as the heartless man?

(F) Try to know who is wrong in the situation and BLAME THAT PARTY ALONE, and be seen as A JUDGE and not a CARING SON or LOVING HUSBAND?


Scenario 2.

You have been married to your husband, who has been such a blessing. One day you go to the market and before you can come back your husband calls you on the phone and started complaining bitterly about the heated argument he and your father just had at your back and that it is still on going. You quickly rush home. At the door your husband is waiting for you, in the dining room your dad is waiting for you also. And as soon as you walk in with your husband he begins to tackle him again in your presence, while your husband nudges at you to confront him on his behalf, what will you do?

(A)confront your dad and defend your husband as a lover girl?

(B) side with your dad as a daddy's girl?

(C) become the CONFUSED FELLOW and try to BEG EVERYONE like you were the cause of the fight?

(D) rebuke everyone including your dad and husband and become the NEW VILLAIN?

(E) Ignore everyone and be termed disrespectful and insensitive?

(F) Try to know who is wrong in the situation and BLAME THAT PARTY ALONE, even if it's your husband or father?

Seun
Rocktation
Oh this is a simple one, OPTION (G): I'll just turn back go out again, they should settle themselves, a man needs rest after work
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by needanswer: 2:17pm On Apr 08
rita25:
THE GUY HAS SUPPORTED HIS MOTHER OVER ME SEVERALLY I DID NOT DIE SO ANY OPPORTUNITY TO PAY BACK EH............E GO CHOKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wow, so this scenario has happened live to you shocked. Hope you are fine sha? No vex o
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by rita25(f): 2:24pm On Apr 08
its a very normal thing men have been choosing their mothers and sisters over us,the way our brothers do to other ladies...........its a circle......but las las women will be fine..........
needanswer:


Wow, so this scenario has happened live to you shocked. Hope you are fine sha? No vex o
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by needanswer: 4:55pm On Apr 08
rita25:
its a very normal thing men have been choosing their mothers and sisters over us,the way our brothers do to other ladies...........its a circle......but las las women will be fine..........

Amen.
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by Analyst7(m): 10:58am On Apr 11
The funny thing is that second scenario is almost impossible to happen, men rarely fight men and will now go to the extent of calling the wife, it’s only women that like all those headache kinda fights
Re: Tough Relationship Issues, Can You Answer? [images] by needanswer: 3:39pm On Apr 11
Analyst7:
The funny thing is that second scenario is almost impossible to happen, men rarely fight men and will now go to the extent of calling the wife, it’s only women that like all those headache kinda fights

Yeah, the keyword is RARE.

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