jennykadry:

LMAO on em poor dudes making noise and noisesssss here

we get mouth now haba

r231:

well if she wants another woman to cook for me why not since its a big job for a woman that works to make dinner when they get home

Seriously?

Are we talking third party here? I thought this was b/w man and wife?  

dayokanu:

If equal amount is spent on your education and on your brother, You decide to be a HW and your brother decide to be a provider, Dont you think the money spent on you should have been better spent on some other person who would yield return and put the education to use.

Just like the parable of the talents. Most ppl educate their children so that the kids wont be dependent on another human being for survival,

Well, my brother can still decide to be a house-husband!    

Shared responsibilities means Sharing the finances 50-50 and sharing the household chores too. One cook one wash the plates, One hoov the carpet, one mow the lawn

Naaaah . . .  Shared responsibility means one's in charge of finances, one's in charge of housework.

Doesn't mean either of them is being enslaved!  

jennykadry:

LMAO on em poor dudes making noise and noisesssss here

Don't mind them . . . see them having heart attacks already . . .

dayokanu:

What would your daughter think she needs to be in life? She would definitely believe that Daddy is to bring money and mommy to spend daddies money.

What a parasitic mentality

And it works. So keep looking for names to define the ''mentality'' whilst our daughters are busy learning what marriage is all about.

You go define so tey my pikin go grow marry born pikins sef and you are still here defining

r231:

we get mouth now haba

I like you for identifying yourself . I no call names oooo, na you raise hand and talk ''Excuse me ma'am''

Ujujoan:

Lol, what mentality JB?

If you feel it's your family's right to spend your money, why the hell do you think your wife shouldn't expect it

Like I said, I'm all for shared responsibility . . doesn't mean one person can't help out the other. But your responsibility is still your responsibility. . . . that's just the way I see it.

The difference is, it's my choice to labour for my family. I could as well be irresponsible but i chose not to.
It's a problem when the wife expects it cos supposedly it's her right for me to provide for her 100%.
we are two individuals coming together agreeing to go into a relationship. My responsibility is my child because he or she never asked to be brought into the world.


At the end of the day all the above gets thrown outta the window if their is love but i just frown upon a woman that doesn't let things happen naturally/freewilly but harbouring thoughts of "It's my right a wife that you must provide bla bla bla". Just so wrong on many fronts.

I for one never demand from any ladies so i expect to be treated the same

Summarily

With these kind of mentality who now blames Men who treat such women like the parasites and leeches they are.

jay bee:

The difference is, it's my choice to labour for my family. I could as well be irresponsible but i chose not to.
It's a problem when the wife expects it cos supposedly it's her right for me to provide for her 100%.
we are two individuals coming together agreeing to go into a relationship. My responsibility is my child because he or she never asked to be brought into the world.


At the end of the day all the above gets thrown outta the window if their is love but i just frown upon a woman that doesn't let things happen naturally/freewilly but harbouring thoughts of "It's my right a wife that you must provide bla bla bla". Just so wrong on many fronts.

I for one never demand from any ladies so i expect to be treated the same

You took a woman under your roof . . . you took her away from her family . . . you changed her name to yours . . . you planted your seeds inside her!

errrm . . .  I think you made her your responsibility.  

Your responsibility should be, not only to the children, but to the woman who bore them. Except of course she's only a means to an end for you!  

Ujujoan:

Don't mind them . . . see them having heart attacks already . . .    

No mind them. When others were busy making money they were busy pursuing ''awon university babes' now they wanna give us half of their burden because they are still far behind. Abegiiii

dayokanu:

Summarily

With these kind of mentality who now blames Men who treat such women like the parasites and leeches they are.

The idea behind getting married is taking over a woman from her family to build a home with her. Before you can do that, you are expected to convince her family that you can take good care of her.

Is it right to then take her away and start treating her like a parasite        

Ujujoan:

You took a woman under your roof . . . you took her away from her family . . . you changed her name to yours . . . you planted your seeds inside her!

errrm . . .  I think you made her your responsibility.  

Your responsibility should be, not only to the children, but to the woman who bore them. Except of course she's only a means to an end for you!  

hmmmmmm. . . . . . dis analysis is before or after you born pikin

took her away from her family - hmmm by choice she can move bck there and i will visit that way i get to save gas and electricity

jay bee:

At the end of the day all the above gets thrown outta the window if their is love but i just frown upon a woman that doesn't let things happen naturally/freewilly but harbouring thoughts of "It's my right a wife that you must provide bla bla bla". Just so wrong on many fronts.

I for one never demand from any ladies so i expect to be treated the same

This sense of entitlement is cultural and has its roots in the period when economic wealth belonged to men with women having little access to it.

Now that society has rightly progressed and has opened up women's access to this economic wealth through education and careers, it's surprising that there are many women still steadfastly holding on to this "I must be provided for", "My money is to take care of me" sort of attitude.

r231:

hmmmmmm. . . . . . dis analysis is before or after you born pikin

took her away from her family - by choice she can move bck there and i will visit that way i get to save gas and electricity

ROTFLMAO    

Yea right! You can't even let her keep her name and you are talking about letting her move back home.

If only you guys were less controlling, these things would not have been and issue!    

Ujujoan:

You took a woman under your roof . . . you took her away from her family . . . you changed her name to yours . . . you planted your seeds inside her!

errrm . . .  I think you made her your responsibility.  

Your responsibility should be, not only to the children, but to the woman who bore them. Except of course she's only a means to an end for you!  

Why did she bother getting an education if she sees herself as being the responsibility of someone equally educated and intelligent

dayokanu:

Why did she bother getting an education if she sees herself as being the responsibility of someone equally educated and intelligent

true

Ujujoan:

ROTFLMAO

Yea right! You can't even let her keep her name and you are talking about letting her move back home.

If only you guys were less controlling, these things would not have been and issue!

i don't it as controlling now haba

Claus:

This sense of entitlement is cultural and has its roots in the period when economic wealth belonged to men with women having little access to it.

Now that society has rightly progressed and has opened up women's access to this economic wealth through education and careers, it's surprising that there are many women still steadfastly holding on to this "I must be provided for", "My money is to take care of me" sort of attitude.

We acknowledge that times are a-changing, but men have refused to change with it.

A man and woman works from morning till evening, and yet the woman is expected to be up all night, alone, doing baby duties. While the man 'rests'!

So my questions is . . . when does the woman 'rest' from her own work?  

But if a man 'provides' for her and lets her work flexible hours, she can have time to 'rest' once in a while!

dayokanu:

Why did she bother getting an education if she sees herself as being the responsibility of someone equally educated and intelligent

That she's your responsibility doesn't mean she can't help out if she can . . . or that she can't work if she wants to!

I got an education because I want to work . . .

But if I'm allowed not to 'want to' work anymore, but you guys are not!

Ujujoan:

You took a woman under your roof . . . you took her away from her family . . . you changed her name to yours . . . you planted your seeds inside her!

errrm . . .  I think you made her your responsibility.  

Your responsibility should be, not only to the children, but to the woman who bore them. Except of course she's only a means to an end for you!  

Surely the mentioned acts are the workings of the primitive man, no? I mean he must have woken up one morning slapped himself in the butt and said, "I will take a woman without any will or choice of her own from her family, bring her under my roof and plant my seed inside her." Sounds like the attack of the cave man.  

Bawss1:

Surely the mentioned acts are the workings of the primitive man, no? I mean he must have woken up one morning slapped himself in the butt and said, "I will take a woman with anyout will or choice of her own from her family, bring her under my roof and plant my seed inside her." Sounds like the attack of the cave man.  

ROTFLMAO . . .

Ok maybe not quite like that . . . .

You know in my state, women were sent to school to study while men were sent off for business.

The belief is that the woman gets a degree, becomes a civil servant - something to keep herself busy, while the man establishes a good business at Alaba Int'l market, to take care of his family!

So really, when it comes to education, it's not necessary a mean to achieving success as afar as Anambrarians were concerned!

Ujujoan:

We acknowledge that times are a-changing, but men have refused to change with it.

A man and woman works from morning till evening, and yet the woman is expected to be up all night, alone, doing baby duties. While the man 'rests'!

So my questions is . . . when does the woman 'rest' from her own work?  

But if a man 'provides' for her and lets her work flexible hours, she can have time to 'rest' once in a while!

Certain men have refused to change with the times, likewise certain women have refused to change. Each one blaming the other for their refusal to change in a never ending cycle.

In other circles, men and women are embracing this change, with women having a more significant economic input into the family and men having a more significant domestic input.

Each one can "provide" and "rest" according to their God given talents.

r231:

true

i don't it as controlling now haba

Oh but it is . .

Every husband wants to be 'in charge' . . .  but doesn't really want to be 'in charge'! Talk about eating your cake and having it. 

Claus:

Certain men have refused to change with the times, likewise certain women have refused to change. Each one blaming the other for their refusal to change in a never ending cycle.

In other circles, men and women are embracing this change, with women having a more significant economic input into the family and men having a more significant domestic input.

Each one can "provide" and "rest" according to their God given talents.

8 out of 10 women will rather work today than stay at home to be full time HWs.

But pray tell, how many men will be willing to do house chores on a rotational basis with their wives   

Ujujoan:

But pray tell, how many men will be willing to do house chores on a rotational basis with their wives

I for one see no problem with that and I don't think I am in the minority. Any reasonable man will agree to share the domestic workload.

Bawss1:

I for one see no problem with that and I don't think I am in the minority. Any reasonable man will agree to share the domestic workload.

Oh honey, trust me . . you are in the minority!

Ujujoan:


8 out of 10 women will rather work today than stay at home to be full time HWs.

But pray tell, how many men will be willing to do house chores on a rotational basis with their wives

1 in 10, 5 in 10, maybe 8 in 10.

90% of statistics are plucked from thin air.

There are differences, depending on country. I would guess that a greater % of men in the developed world are willing to share in household chores than men in the developing world.

Uju instead of you to dey find BIG FISH(that is if you don't have one) to catch you dey here dey answer these boys men?

jennykadry:

Uju instead of you to dey find BIG FISH(that is if you don't have one) to catch you dey here dey answer these boys men?

Jenny nwa nne'm, if to say I know I for marry that rich bobo wey dey disturb me when I dey school.

He was even offering to see me through school and send me for my master in obodo oyinbo. Plus take care of ALL my financial needs as his wife and mama of im pickins dem! I dey there dey form, thinking I had all the time in the world to meet another 'big fish'!

Not all I'm meeting are Dayos and JBs and r231s and Bawss1s . . . Chei, I'm finished!

Claus:

1 in 10, 5 in 10, maybe 8 in 10.

90% of statistics are plucked from thin air.

There are differences, depending on country. I would guess that a greater % of men in the developed world are willing to share in household chores than men in the developing world.

Seriously? You really want to argue that most men will want to help with house chores as much as most women will want to work?

Try and be a lil objective here ok? Women don't just like to 'depend' just for the heck of it!

But contrary to popular belief, we are human beings too . . .

All this 'Why Spend Mine When I Can Spend Yours' girls sef.

See opportunity wey u miss that time your NAFDAC number still dey fresh.

Ujujoan:

Jenny nwa nne'm, if to say I know I for marry that rich bobo wey dey disturb me when I dey school.

He was even offering to see me through school and send me for my master in obodo oyinbo. Plus take care of ALL my financial needs as his wife and mama of im pickins dem! I dey there dey form, thinking I had all the time in the world to meet another 'big fish'!

Not all I'm meeting are Dayos and JBs and r231s and Bawss1s . . .  Chei, I'm finished!      

I do house work all the time and i don't complain about it

helped my wife in the kitchen all the time and sometimes when i feel up to it i tell her to sit i will make dinner

maybe once or twice in a week

Bawss1:

All this 'Why Spend Mine When I Can Spend Yours' girls sef.

See opportunity wey u miss that time your NAFDAC number still dey fresh.

My NAFDAC number is still very fresh thank you . . .    

Unfortunately, the quality of your 'stock' is reducing drastically!    

r231:

I do house work all the time and i don't complain about it

helped my wife in the kitchen all the time and sometimes when i feel up to it i tell her to sit i will make dinner

maybe once or twice in a week

You see . . . you 'help' her!

All we want is to 'help' you guys too!

Ujujoan:

Seriously? You really want to argue that most men will want to help with house chores as much as most women will want to work?

Try and be a lil objective here ok? Women don't just like to 'depend' just for the heck of it!

But contrary to popular belief, we are human beings too . . .

I wouldn't like to argue that at all. I don't have the statistics, and in being objective, I don't want to make them up.

What I've said, based on anecdotal evidence, is that there are circles in which men and women are now adapting to the new responsibilites that the changing society dictates.

I then further said that I think a greater % of men in the developed world are willing to share household duties than men in the developing world.