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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by komodapson(m): 1:27pm On May 04
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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Canada2021: 1:29pm On May 04
woodfrank:


Please can you help me with your divorce lawyer? I am about to get divorced as well.
chat me up on 08124890654.... I am a lawyer
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by MinistryOfBandi: 1:31pm On May 04
woodfrank:


Please can you help me with your divorce lawyer? I am about to get divorced as well.

What is happening to our world pls? I want to marry and I have been believing God for a future wife who will complement me and I do same because we're definitely not perfect but all these stories I'm reading here makes me fear. Who will deliver our generation biko nu?
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Bet9jaVirtual: 1:32pm On May 04
ahnie:

Mba what love came not do...does never ever exist.you must be pay all the bills,love and pamper me and my extended family,sing to me every morning...lace my feet with vanilla and lick.see infact you must worship me.


Provide funds for me to travel see the world every week,shop and visit choice places.
These re all I want ...Deal or no deal?



pls kindly propose to me with a Ferrari.

I know you must be laughing really hard typing this, because you know that vagina is not an investment

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by postmann: 1:34pm On May 04
foreman:
Thanks people for your contributions.

My children are girls, very brilliant girls. Apart from their mother being a control freak, I think she is okay to take care of them. The major concern for me is that she seems to be naïve about people around the children. She tried to leave them at a time with one of her siblings to look after them, of course I didn't agree because its a guy, a guy that we drink together sometimes. She allows them go to neighbors house, for extended hours, to play which I have had to intervene in the past. And so many instances that we had serious disagreements. I cannot just imagine my girls left around potential rapists. My wife believes my mind is too dirty. I agree. But I have seen things that makes me suspicious of people and I don't want to take chances, especially with girls. If they were boys, I wouldn't even bother. I grew up on the streets and I believe boys must see ugly side of life.

I am thinking taking them with me and hiring a mature maid will work.

All your fears about your girls' welfare and safety are very genuine. Your wife, like many women out there are unforgivably naive. And it's worse when they don't listen to not just a superior argument but one from their lord -- husband.

You must see to it that your girls' welfare and safety are at the top of your divorce negotiations.

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by grandstar(m): 1:35pm On May 04
foreman:
I am about to get divorced. Just wanted have an idea from people who have experience.

Are there things you wish you did differently?

Do you know that 50% of all first American marriages end in divorce while for 2md marriages is 70% and for 3rd marriage, it is 80%.

Yorubas say the broom that swept the first wife away is waiting to send the new wife too.

Please deeply. It's your personal choice.
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by blueblur: 1:36pm On May 04
SportsHD:
I'm not even married yet but i know I'm getting a divorce.
As a future divorcee, life's good. yunno banging pretty beaches, my kids going to the best school. My ex wife receiving her allowance every month.

It's nice to finally have freedom. grin

Ah! Which kind person be dis. I hope you will remember you wish for it when it finally happened

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Nigeriadondie1: 1:36pm On May 04
foreman:
I am about to get divorced. Just wanted have an idea from people who have experience.

Are there things you wish you did differently?
I will tell u it is not fun. I have been there before. My question is who’s filing for the divorce, you or now ex spouse
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Ellasure: 1:40pm On May 04
Divorce is not easy but sometimes it has to happen particularly irreconcilable differences and refusal to changes as they happen with time and children developments.

Believe it ooo, women are very close to cultural heritage and cultural practices. it is not immediately obvious when they are young and yuppie but immediately after child birth they come out with cultural practices they want to practice.

Divorce is like going back to your bachelorhood days as you have to take household chores once again and need new realignments of friends, relations, church members and possibly struggles to find a way forward to a new life without the ex.

You will have to talk less about the divorce to get a new direction and focus on the good future awaiting without the ex. Don't quickly run into the arms of emphatic girls or new lovers in the next few months in order to re assess what the future truly holds for you.

Let me add that you should forget about any feelings of victory over the ex or whomever but rather focus more on new beginning as a fresh young man out of school. Therapy ke, I don't think you'll need that except you need spiritual support from above as you did just out of school before you get the first job.

Hope I make some sense.

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Tatashi: 1:41pm On May 04
Divorced and reconciled. Halleluyah

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Tzar(m): 1:43pm On May 04
If you can’t stand the marriage again, i suggest that you initially separate for a year or two. If you are still convinced about going through the divorce, then go ahead. Marriage isn’t by force.
Note that is may take between 2 to 5 years to complete the process. It depends on the mutual agreement of both parties to divorce, the competence of your lawyers and the court you approach for the divorce.
Document everything going wrong in the martiage to make it easy for the lawyer to build the case and expedite the decision of the judge. Like executing a death penalty, Nigerians hypocritically make divorce a bit strenuous for both parties. Be prepared, because it gets messy and opens old and preferably forgotten wounds. BUT REMEMBER, A DEAD MARRIAGE IS BETTER THAN A DEAD PARTNER WITH A MURDERER.
If you have kids, the woman will be favored to get custody while you get access. You will be required to pay for child support. Nobody will force you to break the bank for child support. Just give what you can afford and is reasonable in the long term.
The kids are the biggest victims, so be prepared to sacrifice your anger towards your ex for their sanity. For their sake, comit to be friendly with each other. Prepare for the usual extreme politics from both parties to get love from the kids. Both of you MUST talk about this and avoid it... IT ONLY DESTROYS THE KIDS. It is not their fault that you are getting divorced.
Divorce becomes more complex if either party wants to relocate with the kid.
Lawyers will charge between 150-500k for divorce. If you as a man want custody, tell your lawyer on time.

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by princewarri1985: 1:52pm On May 04
In a divorce settings, the only way we guys lose, is losing custody of the kids to your ex.......my 3 beautiful daughters are my world and i lost custody of them to my ex........if it was to be the other way round and i was granted custody of my daughters i would have been the happiest man on planet earth.....i will not remarry and i will take good care of them and give them the best education and i will just have some couple of girl friend, just live my life and enjoy my freedom. SO MY FRIEND GET A GOOD LAWYER AND FIGHT TOOTH AND NAIL SO THAT YOU CAN BE GRANTED FULL CUSTODY OF YOUR KIDS AND DONT EVER GO BACK TO YOUR VOLMIT

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by evil1: 1:52pm On May 04
Aswear.

Its the most difficult process in practice
YelloweWest:

After handling divorce cases, I dumped litigation! Nothing is worth the destruction of my mental well-being.
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by chaloskyx: 1:55pm On May 04
Move on fall in love again and find find someone who makes you happy
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Matheusmartin(f): 1:59pm On May 04
Shokoloko:


One advice, whether you were right about the divorce or you were wrong and acted in haste, you are going to regret it. You are going to cry and feel despair/fear. You might want to call up the person and beg. You might want to call up your family and rant/cry
When that feeling of regret comes (it will come) DO NOT ACT ON IT. Lock yourself up: shout, scream, cry to make yourself feel better.

Do not go looking for a relationship with the OPPOSITE SEX UNTIL ALL THE FEELINGS HAVE COME AND GONE.
I honestly wish you have a support system. it makes it better

IT WILL PASS!!!
.
Forget all these stories.
Your experience may not apply to us all..
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by adajoe555: 2:00pm On May 04
foreman:
I am about to get divorced. Just wanted have an idea from people who have experience.

Are there things you wish you did differently?


why do you want to divorce her?
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by sammirano: 2:04pm On May 04
Divorce is an excuse for failure. If you divorce your partner, you have failed in life and no consolation you give yourself or anyone gives changes the fact. If you are incapable of managing a marriage till the end. You are more or less ... don't let me say what is on my mind. The other day, one fool was celebrating divorce certificate. another failed divorce woman on instagram was giving married and single ladies advice. like are you mad. what advice do you have to give for your failure.
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by allanphash7(m): 2:06pm On May 04
Sweet




To hell with marriage
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Toks2008(m): 2:23pm On May 04
foreman:
I am about to get divorced. Just wanted have an idea from people who have experience.

Are there things you wish you did differently?

Wait.

Are you seperated already?

If not I will advise you go seperate ways first then after a year or two you may proceed to divorce if both of don't see reasons to reconcile.

This option is 1000times better than going for divorce straight up.... EXCEPT THE REASON FOR DIVORCE IS INFIDELITY.

See in most cases, separation is what couples need and not divorce cos during separation both party will have time to reflect and reconsider but after a time of reflection, both parties may not proceed to divorce if they are very convinced that is the best option.

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by pappilo(m): 2:23pm On May 04
foreman:
I am about to get divorced. Just wanted have an idea from people who have experience.

Are there things you wish you did differently?

I wish I left much earlier. Only regret is my kids not growing up in a 2 parent home but so far I havent noticed any negatives about me not being around. I see them every other weekend and do parenting by Whatsapp video call. My daughter will rather video call me to snitch on her brother than go to her mum living in the same house with her.

I am also enjoying the peace and quiet of living alone. I have a new girl who wants something serious but I cant see myself trusting a woman again up to the point of settling down permanently with her. She go still f**k up las las.

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by ChereCC77(m): 2:29pm On May 04
foreman:
I am about to get divorced. Just wanted have an idea from people who have experience.

Are there things you wish you did differently?
please this matter should be treated very well.

I am also involved. My wife refused to come my house after marriage for no any good reason. Just that I am in the village. She is in the town doing nothing. I want to get divorce
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Drabeey(m): 2:30pm On May 04
ahnie:
Divorced arena gospel mission.
Anyways I am seriously looking for a recently divorced RICH DUDE with 7 packs to marry.


pls you must be RICH....
oya make una line up.

And that's the goal and your purpose here, how'll you be made if they don't line up grin
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Karlovych: 2:31pm On May 04
Canada2021:
chat me up on 08124890654.... I am a lawyer
you are a lawyer yet you claim to work in a financial institution in the thread you opened about your uncle, what role does a divorce lawyer play in the financial institution? You teenage scammers need to have sense this year

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by steve10(m): 2:31pm On May 04
My brother, for your mind you go say one woman dey wey better pass her . Nah lie oooh
Every woman get their own for body , the devil you know is better than the angel you do not know seek council , communicate with her tolerate her divorce is not an option, wife submit to your husband

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Toks2008(m): 2:34pm On May 04
pappilo:


I wish I left much earlier. Only regret is my kids not growing up in a 2 parent home but so far I havent noticed any negatives about me not being around. I see them every other weekend and do parenting by Whatsapp video call. My daughter will rather video call me to snitch on her brother than go to her mum living in the same house with her.

I am also enjoying the peace and quiet of living alone. I have a new girl who wants something serious but I cant see myself trusting a woman again up to the point of settling down permanently with her. She go still f**k up las las.

You see that your last statement is the reason why in most cases divorce is never the solution.

Every woman has a monster in her and I'm not exonerating men but I'm talking about the women now...

If you like change women from now till eternity, they must show one or two traits that will make you wonder why you ever married them.. Laslas nah tolerance

Except for marital sexual unfaithfulness I honestly see no reason for divorce especially when you have children together..

Guy just reconcile if you can cos to move on go hard o... And even if you think you have moved on, there is a crazy nostalgia that keeps hunting one continuously.

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by GreatManBee: 2:40pm On May 04
foreman:
I am about to get divorced. Just wanted have an idea from people who have experience.

Are there things you wish you did differently?
Ogbeni will you go back to your wife immediately?!!

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by pappilo(m): 2:40pm On May 04
steve10:
My brother, for your mind you go say one woman dey wey better pass her . Nah lie oooh
Every woman get their own for body , the devil you know is better than the angel you do not know seek council , communicate with her tolerate her divorce is not an option, wife submit to your husband

I was never a grass is greener on the other side type of guy. I took the devil you know option and it burnt me.

Na until I meet man inside my yard na im my eye clear. I dont know if it was love or stupidity but even though I knew she was seeing another guy, mumu like me still knee dan beg this naive woman. But there will always come a time when your eye go clear.

These people got me out of the house. Man had to move to a single room garage uninsulated garage conversion while this nigga
moved into my crib and was knocking boots on my brand new matrimonial bed. The dude moved in like 3 weeks after I found him in my house and they got the police to kick me out. A nicca caught a few charges too and this so called now ex wife was a state witness

F**k beaches mayn!

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by Shokoloko(f): 2:42pm On May 04
Matheusmartin:
.
Forget all these stories.
Your experience may not apply to us all..

You are free to also narrate your experience.

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by amuwo1980: 2:58pm On May 04
Am divorced but if am to do it all over again I will make adjustments, forgive more , she was not good to me but we had a thing and all the things I tot was trouble have faded into irrelevance though I feel it is normal to feel this way especially the first few months of ur divorce , finally you women that preserve your own marriage and hastens up other naive girls breakup of own their marriages , the payback is running hard from tangier in Morocco to give u a bear hug

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by amuwo1980: 2:59pm On May 04
pappilo:


I was never a grass is greener on the other side type of guy. I took the devil you know option and it burnt me.

Na until I meet man inside my yard na im my eye clear. I dont know if it was love or stupidity but even though I knew she was seeing another guy, mumu like me still knee dan beg this naive woman. But there will always come a time when your eye go clear.

These people got me out of the house. Man had to move to a single room garage uninsulated garage conversion while this nigga
moved into my crib and was knocking boots on my brand new matrimonial bed. The dude moved in like 3 weeks after I found him in my house and they got the police to kick me out. A nicca caught a few charges too and this so called now ex wife was a state witness

F**k beaches mayn!
Am sorry dude

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Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by ezekieloe: 3:04pm On May 04
God says He hates divorce. Read Malachi 2:16
This message is for both Husband and wife.

Marriage in now a child's play. Na wa o!

Please rethink.
Re: Divorcees, What's Your Experience Like? by amuwo1980: 3:05pm On May 04
Toks2008:


You see that your last statement is the reason why in most cases divorce is never the solution.

Every woman has a monster in her and I'm not exonerating men but I'm talking about the women now...

If you like change women from now till eternity, they must show one or two traits that will make you wonder why you ever married them.. Laslas nah tolerance

Except for marital sexual unfaithfulness I honestly see no reason for divorce especially when you have children together..

Guy just reconcile if you can cos to move on go hard o... And even if you think you have moved on, there is a crazy nostalgia that keeps hunting one continuously.
I still remember my ex wife everyday , she was not good to me but sometimes I wish I forgave her , we passed thru a lot together , she made some terrible terrible mistakes that I cud not bear the anguish to tell the next person , her family is kind of angry at me but I refuse to say all that happened , am in anew relationship though finding it hard immerse myself in it , so dear soul brother if u can sit down with her and decide to work it out , pls do

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