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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by AuroraBrls: 7:08am On May 24, 2021

The earlier you use the worst case scenario approach the better. Then try resolving each possibility one by one.

Assume the worst, but don't be emotional or sissy about it.

If you were not able to get her pregnant while dating her or confirm her fertility, either you be simp or religious rat.

1. Assume that you are not fertile or have developed a low semen count. Visit only a specialist medical professional and prove this wrong or write. PLEASE DONT PATRONISE A PASTOR, IMAM OR HERBALIST NO MATTER WHAT. ALSO DONT TEST THE EFFICACY OF YOUR FLUID BY TRYING IT ON ANOTHER WOMAN.

2. Also assume that her series of abortions and sexual escapades has ruined her chances of conceiving or she is sterile until you can prove this wrong or right via a Specialist Fertility Personell.

Seems you are one of those guys church pastors arranged wife for. Try and keep enough wealth for this baby you are itching badly to sure, Naija na hell already, if poorman come born you life is already playing you under 0.5goals, if the poor man come be faceme l faceyou tenant, it's worse than under 0.5goals ... Maybe na him make the pickin no wan come.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by drLammy(m): 7:12am On May 24, 2021

Physiologically
1-2 years after steady unprotected Sex you can start to suspect infertility either in the man or woman

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by squad03: 7:17am On May 24, 2021

Dear Op,
In my opinion,2 months is too soon and a doctor's visit at this time MAY be counterproductive.
Generally speaking, I'd say give it 2 years unless there's a reason to suspect the delay should be looked into promptly (for example if your wife has any pre-existing problems with her menstrual cycle,there's a family history on either side of sub-fertility or you both are of an advanced age etc).

Seeing the doctor this early may be overwhelming for your wife and the hormones are very sensitive to emotional states.

Intercourse should be unlimited and with no particular emphasis to the 'ovulation period'.

Have a 'no pressure' conversation about this with your wife and just generally support her.You both should still be honeymooning rather than putting a timer on her uterus.

Cheers to the babies to come.
In the meantime, explore your wife's companionship.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Quaddafi29: 7:20am On May 24, 2021

Two months and you are on nairaland moaning. This guy will make a very terrible husband.

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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Viking007(m): 7:24am On May 24, 2021

nemynely:
If I were your doctor, i would have a long good laugh after listening to your presenting complaint. Yes, like some have mentioned already, raised eye brows are only taken seriously after 12months of REGULAR, UNINTERRUPTED, UNPROTECTED, UNINHIBITED sexual intercourse.
REGULAR - on at least 3-4 days in any week of 7days
UNINTERRUPTED - week after week, month after month, no skipping
UNPROTECTED - no contraceptives allowed
UNINHIBITED - spontaneous and not strictly for the bedroom alone in any style that catches the couple"s fancy

After these criteria have been met for a continuous 12month period without a successful fertilization, you and yours are free to book an appointment to see a gynaecologist.

This looks so stressful. Constantly having sex is not easy. cheesy

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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Jefferyhi86(m): 7:25am On May 24, 2021

Like say after 12month d belly go come, wat about those who stay more than 8yrs without a child, u think is everything a gynecologist knows, by now there will b no complain oga motivational quote author=nemynely post=101999080]

Yet again another quackery.
For the upteen time, self medication, self test/investigation is quackery.
See your gynaecologist after 12months.
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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Jefferyhi86(m): 7:28am On May 24, 2021

nemynely:

Yet again another quackery.
For the upteen time, self medication, self test/investigation is quackery.
See your gynaecologist after 12months.

Like say after 12month d belly go come, wat about those who stay more than 8yrs without a child, u think is everything a gynecologist knows, by now there will b no complain oga motivational

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Viking007(m): 7:28am On May 24, 2021

vickydevoka:

Wrong . 3 times a week. Na small girl u de Bleep. He need to relax and boost de sperm. Someone looking for a child need to apply wisdom and not to de Bleep Bleep all de time, same thing will happen bcus u repeating same thing. At least three time in a month.

Person way de prepare war no de take 1 or two days do preparation. I go plan well

You have said it all and this works. Talking from experience. Constant sex is no guarantee.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by chuks190: 7:29am On May 24, 2021

Brother I believe you and your wife has no problem but what also contributes majorly in many women not taking in is worm. When last did she deworm herself? Make sure she deworms before her next ovulation and kindly do your work if possible on daily basis.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by AmazonTopaz(f): 7:34am On May 24, 2021

BRATISLAVA:

They only want to believe women are promiscuous. They cannot reason beyond abortions. Even supposedly educated men will come out with that rubbish, even the ones who have erectile problems.

If you check some of these cases, it's the man who has erectile and ejaculation problems. After all the happy sex they got, they've contracted enough STDs to wilt their willies and are looking for who to blame because it's easy to blame women in Nigeria for their every misfortune.

The men on nairaland are something else.

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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by nemynely(m): 7:51am On May 24, 2021

Viking007:
This looks so stressful. Constantly having sex is not easy.

On the contrary, frequent sex is actually fun for newly weds, especially if they abstained from sex before marriage.
You see, the guideline I recommended is to ensure that the couple have fulfilled all unaided natural righteousness, allow the couple time and space to truly explore and understand their bodily needs and to justify an subsequent intervention.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Pharaoh4rin(m): 7:59am On May 24, 2021

Kingluqman:
Why you no impregnate your wife before you marry na?

Don't make us think it is what people are thinking na

Werey

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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Nobody: 8:00am On May 24, 2021

If they have been flogging a year before marriage without protection or 1 year after marriage,

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Richmondoau(m): 8:06am On May 24, 2021

R@OP, let your mind be off it that you are having sex for procreation instead just let it be for pleasure. Its work.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by ak22(m): 8:11am On May 24, 2021

If God say yes. that is the right time.
It is just by grace so you don't have to be worry, worry for what self ? Are you both God?
My conclusion that is God work so wait for God time.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by NoToPile: 8:24am On May 24, 2021

I was watching a YouTube clip about the journey from conception to birth and one thing the narrator of that simulated clip stated is
An egg, a sperm and a miracle is needed for pregnancy to occur
I kept wondering about that statement, it was a scientific simulation non religious then I realized that achieving pregnancy itself is a miracle, all other factors maybe constant and pregnancy may not occur.

So keep on having sex , before, during, after ovulation and pray/ hope for a miracle to occur.Hopefully all other factors are constant.

It is well oo

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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Nobody: 8:30am On May 24, 2021

AFTER 3 YEARS BY SCIENTISTS

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by IamAsiri: 8:41am On May 24, 2021

drlateef:

Why? Do you know the definition of infertility or you think I am making beer parlour talk?

Uncle! I am telling that it's not 100% correct. Just take it like that.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Bahamas95(m): 8:43am On May 24, 2021

I must impregnate my woman first before marriage, e get why.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by tolaade1960: 8:54am On May 24, 2021

It depends, but a year is okay . No cause of alarm.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by OtunbaJ: 9:12am On May 24, 2021

2 months is too early to get worry. We visited our doc 7 months later n e said is an average of 1yr. So calm down n be prayerful

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by 9jaRealist: 9:14am On May 24, 2021

zeenaman:
I would like to hear from experienced couples here. 19th of this month made it two months since I've been married, yet my wife has not conceived. I'm getting a bit worried. We have intercourse all through her ovulation, though we plan on seeing the doctor this week.

Could you render advice as well as share your experience here? How long did it take you or your wife to conceive after marriage?

Two months!

Meanwhile, do Nigerians just get married to have children...
Why would a new (presumably young) couple not simply enjoy each other’s company first?!
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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Aguogba(m): 9:26am On May 24, 2021

I am not a doctor/gyno but these are some time-proven tricks and measures that enhance your chances to conceive.

1. Both parties should exercise more and keep fit. Physical fitness correlates with gamete viability. (Sperm/Ova)

2. Quit smoking/alcohol for now.

3. This is not the time to be trying out different angles for fun. Missionary is best for your present goals.

4. Enhance your ejaculations by squeezing your external urethral sphincter when u ejaculate. It adds speed to the semen (that is the muscle you use to hold pee) you can try to squeeze it now as u read this.

5. After the male ejaculates COMPLETELY by not hurrying off too early, the woman should NOT stand up. Rather lift both legs up and support your hips with both hands to assist inflow of semen across cervix.
To make this easier, move closer to the walls and place your legs on the walls while your back is still on the bed. 10-15 mins is enough.

6. Try not to urinate before 20 mins after sex. The pressure you apply to urinate can push down semen. Rather urinate just before sex.

7. Good luck.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by ladundami: 9:27am On May 24, 2021

I WOULD ADVICE YOU DON'T TAKE CHANCES. TWO MONTHS CAN LEAD TO YEAR AND MORE (GOD FORBID). TAKE IT UP NOW.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by felix55(m): 9:39am On May 24, 2021

boss, before going to the doctor let me ask u this...
1. how old is ur wife?
2. have u ask her about her past b4 u met her ?
3. u as in person, hv u chk ur past life because u will get those girls u Bleep and dump till u met this woman u r calling ur wife and so apply to her.
so pls u both should cross check una past life then from there u will know where the problem is coming from.
pls note...our women of nowadays now no be woman again mostly those ones in schools... they Bleep anyhow not minding their future.

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by phazotron(m): 10:13am On May 24, 2021

zeenaman:
I would like to hear from experienced couples here. 19th of this month made it two months since I've been married, yet my wife has not conceived. I'm getting a bit worried. We have intercourse all through her ovulation, though we plan on seeing the doctor this week.

Could you render advice as well as share your experience here? How long did it take you or your wife to conceive after marriage?

Relax. Whats the big deal with kids anyway?

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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Auraby(f): 12:52pm On May 24, 2021

I was over worried after a month when I just got married. So I visited a gynecologist. Lolz, not funny then. To cut long story short, the gynecologist told me that it is after six months after marriage before couple get worried about concept.

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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by Sukkyy2010: 1:36pm On May 24, 2021

DDDEnterprises:

Eleribu!!! Married women should be off limits for this kind of jokes or comments nah.

As for the OP, 2 months

My parents were together 8 years before they had first born and they later had 3 more children making 4.

Just visit the doctor and take necessary physical/medical measures to ensure you guys are okay. Then continue to pray and fvck, until God answers your prayer through your fvcking.

2 months is quite early to be worried. Wetin happen?

Nigga said "through your fucking" grin

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by DDDEnterprises: 1:59pm On May 24, 2021

Sukkyy2010:
Nigga said "through your fucking"

yes nah. is it not through fvcking God will answer their prayers? grin

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by legacystore: 2:20pm On May 24, 2021

zeenaman:
I would like to hear from experienced couples here. 19th of this month made it two months since I've been married, yet my wife has not conceived. I'm getting a bit worried. We have intercourse all through her ovulation, though we plan on seeing the doctor this week.

Could you render advice as well as share your experience here? How long did it take you or your wife to conceive after marriage?

How old are you and your wife?

Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by OyinNurse(f): 5:54pm On May 24, 2021

OP, I validate your concerns. When the couple is ready to conceive, 2 months will seems like a very long time. Barring any medical concerns, conception should happen if you are sure you guys captured the fertile period accurately. Does she track her ovulation? Have you heard of the symptothermal method? This involves graphing her basal temperature and cervical mucous consistency throughout her cycle. I'll use myself as an example: My cycle is irregular and when it does play itself out, it's 40 days long instead of the customary 28 days. Hubby and I were well aware of this going into marriage and I had a big graph in our bedroom. Every morning, I tracked my basal temperature and cervical mucous and plotted everything. Even with a wonky cycle, the graph clearly showed when I was ovulating and I confirmed with the ovulation test. To cut a long story short, we conceived within a month.
It's good you guys get a medical check-up and barring any complications, you will conceive soon. Stay prayerful, hopeful, and active. Best wishes!

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Re: At What Point Should A New Couple Get Worried Over Conception? by galantjoe(m): 6:03pm On May 24, 2021

You need understanding how fertilization take place

First you should know her menstrual circle. Most women have 28 days circle, some have 30 and 26days.
Secondly you know her onset of her menstruation. That is first day she starts having her menses.
If ur wife gets 28days circle, her peak period (Ovulation) will be on 14th to 16th days from onset of her menstruation.

Good luck

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