chris51:
You are a characterless human being. Why do you want your girlfriend to detach herself from her family? It means you have an ulterior motive. That girl doesn't deserve an inhuman person like you.

If her brother gave her N15k as transport for NYSC, what stopped you from topping it up?

Selfish human being, you are.

chidekings:

most won't understand where your heading.certain things can't be explained.but if you feel you can't cope better cut off now.

Fuckyoumod:
you are a daft person.

What a nonsense response!

You don't know anything about marriage or family bond.
You are the type that would milk your sisters and brothers married or unmarried dry.

Marriage is bigger than that useless family bond of yours. A family bond that does not respect marriage is nonsense.

Now let me tutor you, so you don't go about breaking peoples marriages, when a lady is married, her husband and children becomes her number priority! She starts building her own home. This is how God has planned marriage. That does not mean her siblings father and mother are number two priority, No, rather she must find a way to reach out to them and carry them along as family too.

It is optional dear, when you eventually get married, please follow my advice to avoid divorce.

bigpicture001:
Yes it true that we always claim that family is everything, they will never desert you bla bla bla....but my main question is, is your family always right in taking your top ranking position of importance..?

Many atimes we have heard of family members betrayals just like friends do. We have heard of family abandonment of a sibling, we have seen a lot if times how elder siblibgs jettision youger ones and face thier own life...

My girlfriend is an orphan with four other siblings. Who grew apart in other relatives houses. Everyone is now adult..she cant seem to get over her emotional connections to her siblings, always claming they com first even before her lover or eventual hubby or even the children she will birth...

Looking at the family, I don't even see what is so special a sacrifice they have done for themselves. Example her eldest bro who earns over 600k monthly gave her a paltry 15k for a trip to sokoto for her NYSC. A place she has never been to..this includes t/fare, feeding etc. Her siblings would never feel like being around each other except it calls for a serious Holiday like xmas...there are many more I can't list here.

Wtf! My family have much more sacrifices for each other yet we understood the roles new person entering the family through love have in each and everybody's lives....

People are so two faced in this country claiming family family but dont really care..for the ladies that wil crop up on this thread..first ask yourself how many times have your brother bought you exmas gift or burthday gift before you open ur lieing mouth

Mind you this is not to underscore, the relevance of family bond, but everyone that affects your life should be rightly placed where they importantly belong.

NoToPile:





Same thing I have been wondering and he is even a boyfriend, he didnt even manage to say fiance, that makes the situation worse.

He is even calculating the salary one of the girls siblings earn, his mouth like he's earning 600k and only gave her 15k. I just tire for the guy. I would be very careful with someone like him.

And then the boys that are preaching 'when are woman marries attention is shifted to immediate family' should preach it for the guys too. It goes both ways that's how it should be.

JovialJune:
Imagine Op already concluding that ladies here will be quick to condemn him and his obviously bad thought process, he is already making his in built selfishness a gender thing, I am so glad his own gender is also telling him the truth, even though there will be some to massage his ego, you reek of insecurity and very low esteem, imagine comparing yourself with her siblings as if it's a competition, are you a child? How old are you?

You are a very selfish person, I blame your gf for telling you things about her life and siblings, so because her bro gave her small funds she should cut off from him and the rest of them? You are a bad energy, their bond will always be there even if they have differences or misunderstandings, it is expected of siblings. If she focuses the whole of her attention on you and at the end of the day, you break up with her, who will loose? Will you help her make amends with her siblings that she neglected?

You are a bad energy, I wish she can see this thread and stay the hell away from you.

VTJN:
that is how they start

He will take the girl out of her family reach

Na from clap dance take dey start

I love the girl for the genuine love she had for her family

VTJN:
ok e right to place husband/wife over family?

Nwodosis:
You are not a good person, a family that you are yet to be officially part of, you want to break the family love bond! You are materialistic and selfish but love is not about materialism and selfishness.

bigpicture001:


But we are planning to marry...and I dint mean cut off from ur siblings...I mean pay more attention to ur relationship and and get more involved with ur man...ur brothers and sister wont take a biga risk for you than your loving husband and boyfriend...

kkboy:
If you don't like her emotional attachment to her family, why not discontinue the relationship and look for someone who have the same believe system . Your complian is already a red flag. Relationship are entered for each parry to support and encourage each other not to tear apart.

osazsky:
oga go and sit down u have no moral right to discuss on this matter..for now u are only her friend...we all stayed with different babes in hospital during our university days.we nor marry any one..if u have not done this u nor be guy..I will answer you in 8 years time when u are married..for now continue with ur boyfriend and girlfriend..she may even have other plans u are not seeing now nor be woman

grossintel:
OP, you are a very selfish person. What's your business with her attachment with her family? You expect her to cut ties with them over your dick or what? Omo face your role and leave the rest!

As an orphan you don't know what they went through and the sacrifices they made for each other to be where they are today, I bet if she turned out to be a bread or akara seller in the street you won't notice her.

Nwodosis:
You are not a good person, a family that you are yet to be officially part of, you want to break the family love bond! You are materialistic and selfish but love is not about materialism and selfishness.

Contekbbc:
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Pls don't waste your time to explain this t them ,they will never understand
Pls,help me ask him again, he said the brother was not with her @ the hospital
Is staying with her at the hospital now a big project to you?
Now let me ask him this
Can the brother have sex with the sister?
Can he rough handle her on bed as you do
Don't mix things that don't go together to confuse this honourable house
It's your responsibility to stay with her because you use her too
Who knows maybe you are even the cause of her being hospitalized?
Nawa o

Honesty36:
I pray she ends the relationship with you and find someone that will love her and her family , someone that'll wanna be a part of her family

So bc u get preek make she ruin her whole life love which is her family ozuor

Lights up my kpoli in peace

wirinet:


You logic is warped. So you are aware that the brother have sex with the sister rough handle her on bed, but the same brother should take precedence over the boyfriend who does?

So because the boyfriend have sex and rough handle her on bed, he should expect to stay in the hospital with her and meet all her emotional and physical needs, but not expect to be the most important person in her life. If the boyfriend is not the most important person in her life, why then should lady in question be the most important persin in his life. Does the guy not have sister, brother or other family members he can spend his is precious time and resources in?

We seem to have different approaches to life.

To my wife I am the true "olowo orï mï" (buyer or owner of her head".

Contekbbc:
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Bro
I now know sense is expensive cos if it's cheap you would have got one
[color=#990000]People like you will never marry in life
That's my prayer for you
Do you pray to have such a person as an husband to any of your daughters?

Spit

wirinet:


I also pray the guy dumbs the emotional unstable girl. If he marries the girl, the family will have more control and influence than him over his wife.

There are many girls out there who are ready to "forsake all others" for him.

bigpicture001:
Yes it true that we always claim that family is everything, they will never desert you bla bla bla....but my main question is, is your family always right in taking your top ranking position of importance..?

Many atimes we have heard of family members betrayals just like friends do. We have heard of family abandonment of a sibling, we have seen a lot if times how elder siblibgs jettision youger ones and face thier own life...

My girlfriend is an orphan with four other siblings. Who grew apart in other relatives houses. Everyone is now adult..she cant seem to get over her emotional connections to her siblings, always claming they com first even before her lover or eventual hubby or even the children she will birth...

Looking at the family, I don't even see what is so special a sacrifice they have done for themselves. Example her eldest bro who earns over 600k monthly gave her a paltry 15k for a trip to sokoto for her NYSC. A place she has never been to..this includes t/fare, feeding etc. Her siblings would never feel like being around each other except it calls for a serious Holiday like xmas...there are many more I can't list here.

Wtf! My family have much more sacrifices for each other yet we understood the roles new person entering the family through love have in each and everybody's lives....

People are so two faced in this country claiming family family but dont really care..for the ladies that wil crop up on this thread..first ask yourself how many times have your brother bought you exmas gift or burthday gift before you open ur lieing mouth

Mind you this is not to underscore, the relevance of family bond, but everyone that affects your life should be rightly placed where they importantly belong.

JovialJune:
Imagine Op already concluding that ladies here will be quick to condemn him and his obviously bad thought process, he is already making his in built selfishness a gender thing, I am so glad his own gender is also telling him the truth, even though there will be some to massage his ego, you reek of insecurity and very low esteem, imagine comparing yourself with her siblings as if it's a competition, are you a child? How old are you?

You are a very selfish person, I blame your gf for telling you things about her life and siblings, so because her bro gave her small funds she should cut off from him and the rest of them? You are a bad energy, their bond will always be there even if they have differences or misunderstandings, it is expected of siblings. If she focuses the whole of her attention on you and at the end of the day, you break up with her, who will loose? Will you help her make amends with her siblings that she neglected?

You are a bad energy, I wish she can see this thread and stay the hell away from you.

Nwodosis:


No woman plays with her child excerpt Tiwa Savage that swears with her child's life.