Lord_Reed:

I don't mind trusting my partner but the question is should trust be blind? And I say no because every situation will not be the same. While you may trust your partner I don't think it's right to allow them to be willfully tempted.

If going to that event will present to the escort a chance to be a devil then I think as far as your knowledge discerns abort that devilish chance.

In that case you should keep your woman locked up in the house because everywhere she goes there is a possibility she will be tempted. She can be tempted going to the doctor office or be tempted going to the hair salon. The bottom line is you have to trust your partner will withstand temptation regardless of whom she is with.

She can be with someone that you guys trusted so much and all hell can break loose. Never underestimate the power of the devil. I am just saying.

She has to keep her full armor of God at all times even at home.

livedit:

@MzDark-  I LOVE that movie and that's my favorite scene.

It is true, it's very few people Livedit completely trust.  But even still, you can't just go around trusting everyone.  I trust my husband and my husband trust me.  But people can be tempted and you can never say never.  Some people will have their own agendas although what you meant was to be innocent they could influence to evil.  Jesus was tempted by Satan.  However, Jesus was the only one who IS perfect and never sinned and incapable of sinning.  That is why He was sent here.  Because "MAN" is not perfect and we were born in sin.  Maybe you're right. It could be a bit of "paranoia" on either or both parts in the mix. But it's better to be safe than sorry.  Especially if you know what kind of bag the other person is coming from. (friend)  I remember a story with Mrs.Eve and her husband friends who would hit on her (you)  . I truly doubt your husband would allow one of them to take you to an event.  I'm sure he trusts his wife (you)  completely.  But people can be unpredictable at times and I don't know how many times I've heard incidents happening and people to say, no, I never expected that.  Just be careful whom you let in your life. Family/friends, everyone is capable of betrayal I don't care who they are.  But like you said, that's a risk you have to take. But be wise in the choices you make. 

No one is saying that you should go around trusting people.  I am saying that if you trust your husband as you say that you do then you should not expect him to destroy your trust.  Even if you do not allow your husband to go to an event with another woman it doesn't mean he won't be tempted elsewhere and if he is a man of God he will RESIST the temptation.  Remember the story about Mrs. Eve and her husband's whorish associate, now if Mrs. Eve didn't have respect for herself and her husband and wasn't strong spiritually then she would have given into temptation and ruined her relationship with her husband.

That why people need to put on the full armor of their God (everyone do not worship the same God) before stepping out or otherwise Satan will be ready to play. 

Preventing someone is not going to stop anything but strenghten someone's mind, body,and soul will help fight the battle.  A person who is not strong spiritually will not be able to fight against evil or wrongdoing.  I am not saying they will not fall but they would be slow to fall than someone who isn't strong spiritually. 

You are exactly right when you said Man isn't perfect and people are saying I didn't expect that or this would happen that why we shouldn't put anything pass anybody or anything. We have to pray and trust that they will not betray the trust.  If they betray our trust, would we forgive them and trust them again?  I don't expect an honest answer because no one wants to believe it could happen to them.

As far as my husband go, he always tell me to pray for PROTECTION against the enemy before stepping out the door and he always say if you have God driving, your faith and conduct will reflects that.  Of course, he would want to be the one to take me to an event or engagement however if I am going to cheat there is nothing he can do about it.  Hence Mrs. Eve's story of the creepy associate.

Trusting that your partner will do good is the hardest pill to swallow in today's society and it is normal.

Mrs.Chima:

Okay. You trust your woman like that? Cool.

Yep i do, More than i trust you.

D-sense:

Yep i do, More than i trust you.

You shouldn't trust a complete stranger. That where many people fall and crash.

@ op
Is that how you run following all men for an event? Why must my girl follow another man for an event, e wan use my girl shine. he should try next girl.

Mrs.Chima:

You shouldn't trust a complete stranger. That where many people fall and crash.

Yes! With Jack Bauer, the entire CSI team, Snipers and Counter Snipers in tow

But seriously, I would have no choice in the matter cuz most of my friends are female so it would be hard to turn round and start yarning french!

If I have any doubts about the event/friend I would be upfront about them and discuss some compromise/measures etc. and request details of the what, where and when without trying to sound like some control freak.

Life is too short for all that drama, save your energy for other things. If your partner is promiscuous or weak willed in the first place then he/she will disappoint, regardless.

yes i will, done it before and i will do it again, its basically trust, if u like use mental padlock to lock her private part, her mouth and breasts, if she wants to cheat on u she wil, so far there is trust and u have set boundaries, d rest is story,

Really not sure of what you meant by a guy, suppose is one of her siblings, can i say no?

can i say no if it is my own junior brother?

Sure, i can't say no, a guy can take my wife out to an event.

My wife is free to leave the kind of life she life because i can not watch / guide a lady because if  she want to play any dirty game under ur nose she will and you will not know.

I know of a woman that was dishing her husband food and she said she has to go to one of their neighbor to collect cold water, can you imagine as the woman was opening the fridge the neighbor has started the action from behind and within 3 to 5 mins ia over. The was busy enjoying the food while another man was busy enjoying his wife. That's the length our woman can go {infidelity is d order of the day}

Second to it was a woman cooking and she told her husband that she wants to go and buy seasoning next compound and the woman has done the (sex) thing.

A WOMAN has no heart of her own, they are always controlled by situation {[b]money, handsomeness, opportunity, cheapness, fond, likeness [/b]etc} and friend {advise}.

I am talking about another man/boy or woman/girl regardless of relationship.

Man TJ:

Really not sure of what you meant by a guy, suppose is one of her siblings, can i say no?

can i say no if it is my own junior brother?

Sure, i can't say no, a guy can take my wife out to an event.

My wife is free to leave the kind of life she life because i can not watch / guide a lady because if  she want to play any dirty game under your nose she will and you will not know.

I know of a woman that was dishing her husband food and she said she has to go to one of their neighbor to collect cold water, can you imagine as the woman was opening the fridge the neighbor has started the action from behind and within 3 to 5 mins ia over. The was busy enjoying the food while another man was busy enjoying his wife. That's the length our woman can go {infidelity is d order of the day}

Second to it was a woman cooking and she told her husband that she wants to go and buy seasoning next compound and the woman has done the (sex) thing.

A WOMAN has no heart of her own, they are always controlled by situation {[b]money, handsomeness, opportunity, cheapness, fond, likeness [/b]etc} and friend {advise}.

Basically what you are saying that if someone is going to cheat or be unfaithful they will do it at an event or somewhere else. Which is true and it take two people to commit adultery or fornication but it take one person to have self respect and decency to say hell no and mean it.

I will ask her to promise that she will use a condom.

if you drop your phone without checkn the balance, someone could make use of your airtime without you knowing. Lets not kill ourselves even those in purdah dey cheat. you cant and wont know if she#s cheating on u. So, whether you allow some other guy to take her out doesnt change anything.


to the question, everybody can take her out . my business is not having the slightest headache and consequently not kill myself.

Woman; Everything is built on pretense (br**st,eyelassses,accent,hips. its all packaging Na nylon,container they deceive guys

Another post that proves that the majority of posters on here are intellectually and culturaly challenged

Baby girl go well and have a nicetime na you get you self. Na today?

Personally I don't the reason why another man can't take my wife to an event. If there is no trust in a relationship then what do we have?.

See I don't want to die before my time. I don't follow my wife up and down, I'm a busy person. If I don't trust my wife then I will worry my self to death since am always out of the house. Beside I have travel and one of my friend called me that he is in town and tend to stall in my house for a conference, I was out of town but I asked my wife to house him for one week so what?

never

chines4:

Personally I don't the reason why another man can't take my wife to an event. If there is no trust in a relationship then what do we have?.

See I don't want to die before my time. I don't follow my wife up and down, I'm a busy person. If I don't trust my wife then I will worry my self to death since am always out of the house. Beside I have travel and one of my friend called me that he is in town and tend to stall in my house for a conference, I was out of town but I asked my wife to house him for one week so what?

one week? bros u sure that your friend did not touch your treasure?

My companion elsewhere without me but with my awareness and accompanied by my buddy and allowed by me? Haba, that's an ideal scenario for absolute trust. I'll snooze like a toddler cos she'll be too irrational to misbehave in such a situation where I enjoy some element of control. The concern truly ought to be what occurs without my knowledge, without a friend and without my permission. Given that these uncontrollable scenarios are inevitable, it’s better to let her be. I tell you, women are more dependable once they realise they are trusted. Don’t stalk her. This is from a personal experience.

CAPITAL YES.

THE FACT IS THERE ARE MANY EVENTS YOUR BABE/GUY WILL ATTEND THAT YOU WILL NEVER KNOW EXCEPT SHE OR HE TELLS YOU.

EVEN IF MY BABE GOES TO AN EVENT WITH ANOTHER GUY AND THEY SHAG, THAT IS HER BUSINESS AS LONG AS SHE DOES NOT RETURN TO DISTURB MY PEACE OF MIND OVER IT LATER.

Tufiakwa!!! *flicks finger*

If I have a moderate amount of trust for the guy, AND if the wife hasn't done anything in the past that calls her loyalty to question.

Sex and attraction is just one of the issues that could amount from such. There's also kidnapping and ransom.

Re: Men/boys, Would You Allow Another Man/boy Take Your Woman/girl To An Event?
« #1 on: May 09, 2011, 09:03 PM »

what kind of question is that, @op would u u allow your wife/ husband to sleep alone in the same room with your house boy/ house girl?
@op, u go gree

@Poster,
Yes I would. If she respects me enough to ask, and I'm unable to go myself, why not?
If she's true to us, she won't do anythin she knws she shudnt do. It's all abt trust. Some guys don't allow their women do anything with another male, want to know who called, all the men she spoke with that day,etc. Why? I'l allow her to go anywhere she wants to go if she insists. I'l let her conscience be her judge.

I will be a little uncomfortable but won't really mind it I would let her go.

If he takes mine own out. I will do his likewise. His wife, sister or even daughter

I will aways pray that he go and come back safely without bringing reproach to our relationship.
I can only trust God.

Wow a lot of guys here are very insecure in their relationships and acting like they own their ladies. Quite sad. Cos a lady is dating you doesn't mean she can't have a life outside of you. She can have female and male friends. Hang out / Go out with them too and do as she wishes. It doesn't mean she is going to cuddle, have sex with the friends or do anything crazy. Its all about boundaries.
How many of you can really say you dont hang out with other ladies? In my experience, people who are usually insecure are people who are really guilty of their insecurites.

If a lady wants to screw the guy in question, she will screw him without the event. All she needs is couple of minutes for a quickie in the car behind your house, and still stay home with you without going home to the event.
Guys, don't kill yourself with worry or insecurity about a woman. If you don't trust the girl in question, don't date her.

When I moved to a nearby city, my friends wanted to keep an eye on my gf. She went to a party once, and my friend was questioning her later on how she got home, and who she went home with. I told him never to do that again.

I let my friends know that if a guy tries picking up my gf, they should never try interfere without her asking for their help. She can take care of herself. If she decides to do anything dishonorable, then its good for two of us. That way, I will know her true color and bounce rather than wonder if my friends had not interfered, would she had gone home with him.
No matter how long it takes, the truth will come to light. If it doesn't, ignorance is bliss

I have a very solid relationship with my woman. It's built on trust that I think neither one of us will destroy.

So, yes, I will.