He Loves You But Still Looks At Other Women - What Will You Do?

okay this is for the ladies and maybe some guys,

he loves you a lot, planning on getting married, he's the kind that will not cheat, but he still has wandering eyes, when he sees a woman pass he has to look at her, what will you do, just ignore it, confront him or is just a normal male thing, they gotta look at another woman even when they have their woman by their side.

And guys why can't you keep your eyes on your woman eh!

I think ur guy is just being appreciative of women which in itself is not entirely abnormal. But u shld speak abt it with him n let him know u r not very comfortable with it. But dont fuss about it. He'll come around I'm sure n it's good he feels secured and comfortable enough around u 2 express a healthy dose of appreciation of d opposite sex around u rather than pretend n do something behind ur back. I know it's tough but I think he's just being a guy. I hear d greatest talkers dont do much see it as a plus as annoying as it may be.

Men will be men!

Next time your out with him, you yourself should do the same thing by looking at other guys. See how he likes it.


nosillA xx

Bwahahahahahahahaha . . . . . . OMG! You ladies will not kill me with laffta on N'land in Jesus' name. I am covered by the precious blood of the lamb.
To da topic @hand.
Na so we see am oh! Sincerely speaking I've come to see that it's every guy's problem. Are u aware that u're probably with him as a consequence of a similar looong ogling stare sometime ago?
I feel u ladies sha. Most have serious insecurity probs. If a babe's guy stares at another chick, she immediately believes it's bcs her own booty is not as big or doesn't roll as much, she's not as fair-skinned, her bra cup-size's nothing to write home about . . . all sorts! Women indeed are from another planet! Meanwhile d guy just looked n' in many cases forgets just as soon as d stimulant is out of sight.
  But guys can be really dumb sha. Please now show some respect. I was in a bus one day and happened to be sitting at the back, we then passed this stunner of a babe who was walkin down d street and boiz actually did a 180^o turn and were eventually facing me at d back! Shame on 'em!
I'm not in anyway better than these folks and no girl I ever was with ever complained of such for one simple reason: "Style" I have perfected the art of scoping chicks with d eyes only,never do I engage d services of my neck muscles. So I take everything in pretty damn fast and also employ a wide angle of eye deviation while I'm sayin "Yes u're right y'know" to d one chattering away beside me.

Means nothing, it's a male thing

He has eyes and head, right, and you know there are those things called hammer and pliers, right ?
Now you know what to do 

relax it's just a guy thing, but if u can't stand it shoot him

nuttyproff:

but if u can't stand it shoot him

Thank God for gun control laws.

What to do? Pluck out his damn eyes.!! That will teach all of us lookers (I look too) some hard lesson.

talk to him about it and let him know it makes u feel uncomfortable. its just a male thing sha but it can get out of hand wen he starts ogling,

nosilla:

Men will be men!

Next time your out with him, you yourself should do the same thing by looking at other guys. See how he likes it.


nosillA xx

i like this idea sha

my sista men eye no born again they must look, but if u say he will not cheat on fine,so simply ensure that u keep him well

Allow me to ask, if I may, of the original poster:

When you see a good-looking man, a well-built man, a well-dressed man, a man who moves confidently, a man who has a seemingly pleasant demeanor--do you not notice him?   Clearly, this is a rhetorical question, for if you didn't notice him, how else would you be aware of those attributes?

Please understand that I do not approve of leering, for it is disrespectful to all parties involved.  However, much as you will notice other men (and, admit it, you do!), he will continue to notice other women. 

It's up to you and he to determine how much this will affect your relationship.  Of course, always remember that it is you that he has chosen to be with!

I believe he is just admiring and appreciating God's handiwork.

My sister I like looikng at men especially handsome men but that does not mean anything. The fact that you love someone does not make you men/woman blind. I have a fiance and he understands and he also looks at women but we respect each other and give each other much needed space. As long as he doesnt cheat i dont feel it is a problem

So what the guy can't look at other women?
The issue is not the guy but yoslf u need to learn to feel more secure about yoslf and yo relationship.
All he's doing is admiring, i'm sure u've seen certain girls and the way they dress nowadayz, needless to mention the bustfulls.
The guy is only a red blooded human and short of plucking his eyes out, he has that right as do u and u can't say u dont look either!

lol@Ibdat


@topic, i will look at other men

as long as all he is doing is looking, then just put it down to a man thing.
If he is ogling, and doing a 180 degree turn, n lickin his lips, then tell him wat he is doing, he might not know he is making it so obvious.

thanks for all ur post, i don't have a problem with him looking at other women, just not in front of me, i will not disrespect him that way, i understand guys will be guys, but anyway thanks ya'll

@ima1:
Please let me make an observation, if I may:

I have heard the saying "guys will be guys" for a very long time. All such a platitude does is reinforce that immature, often non-social behaviors are both expected and accepted.

Under no circumstances should we or must we allow childish acts and words to be embraced as part of our adult lives. It lowers the standards by which we all live and that is something that we cannot afford to do.

Bolarge:

Thank God for gun control laws.

ididnt mean it literarily, but if it works for u be my guest

drrionelli:

@ima1:
Under no circumstances should we or must we allow childish acts and words to be embraced as part of our adult lives. It lowers the standards by which we all live and that is something that we cannot afford to do.

u really need to losing up a bit and stop being a guy hater that is if u are a gal, u sound like u've been burnt by a looker in the rcent past; losing up and allow us enjoy some innocent fun, u probably do it too. dont be shy u can talk to daddy. i kno how to keep secrets

As long as he is just looking and not touching, not a big deal.

See what we sometimes go through. . .
   Lord please help us. . . .

                                 

         http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uD7EimwpQtU

Looking in this context is not lust. Every thing on earth is a sort of attraction. Birds, flowers, cars, name them. Too, every beautiful thing is created to be admired. Therefore, guys being glued to beautiful damsels is only natural, although some guys do take it to the extreme.

@ poster: Your guy still loves you, he may probably be doing that unconsciously. You may sometime confront him to redirect his focus.

Give sm folks a yard, they take a mile. . . B'4 u knw, my guy'd be doing more than just lookin. . .
2 all y'all saying "its ok". . . Lol, I laff c'os i knw everytime ur spouse looks @ anoda, in ur heart u burn. . . Its a reminder that in an inkling, ur ass cld be given d boot!
Its downright disrepectfl. . .

We all look its only a blindman that doesnt.
Me dey turn 360 wen lookin
wen u look u feel alive. . . .but wen u dont u æ life-less.

okay this is for the ladies and maybe some guys,

he loves you alot, planning on getting married, he's the kind that will not cheat, but he still has wandering eyes, when he sees a woman pass he has to look at her, what will you do, just ignore it, confront him or is just a normal male thing, they gotta look at another woman even when they have their woman by their side.

And guys why can't you keep your eyes on your woman eh!

When girls can start dressing up decently, then guy would learn to watch the way they look.

@nuttyproff:
With all due respect, for your edification, I am a male. And, as such, I am concerned that those of my ilk are held to a different (and lesser) standard. Should one day I become a father to a boy, I feel it would be an injustice to him and irresponsible of me (as well as those his life might touch) to accept the "boys will be boys" lowest common denominator mentality of upbringing.

crazykid:

When girls can start dressing up decently, then guy would learn to watch the way they look.

men have been saying this since time, so women shud now wear long skirts and long sleeve tops? Even when women wear the buqa men are still eyeing them up in muslim countries. Can u not control ur own eyes!

I think it's a biological instinct. It's natural for a human being to appreciate beauty. It's not necessarily harmful.

Ok…confession time

I can resist turning at least 90degrees to steal a glance, particularly those babes on breast show-off……….Men are in serious trouble ooooooo. Come on daughters of eve; just flaunt it if you got it, But, hey have u guys noticed that whenever girls want to sneak a quick look, they’ll chicly involve us? It’s typical of em but its pathetic we fail to figure out their peeking tricks.

Next plz………,

im sure it means nothing, but i can tell my boyfriend doesnt like it when i STARE at other guys, especially when they are lookin back at me. lol i don't even try to be smooth about it. This is atlanta, there are soo many sexy african american guys here.