Welcome, Guest: Register On Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / NewStats: 3,152,708 members, 7,816,912 topics. Date: Friday, 03 May 2024 at 08:04 PM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care (23770 Views)
Married Women Don't Care About Condoms When They Cheat / Women Don't Care About Your Struggle. / 'I Need A Wealthy & Handsome Boyfriend, I Don't Care If He Is Gay- Lady (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by NovusHomo(m): 4:06pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Shayron: No one owes you a living. Sort yourself out. That was what most of us did. Everyone wants their relatives to help them. They ask for help, all of them at the same time. What do you want those folks to do about their own children? If Nigerian parents know how to make many children, they should have a plan on how they want to raise those children. When you have ten children, you should stop bothering the man who chose to have only two. We all know how to have sex; some just control the urge, plan their family, or better still, plan ahead. Now, go back to watching BBNaija while your uncles and aunts keep making money. 8 Likes |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by SeriouslySense(m): 4:09pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Abi, if the uncle does not want to help, is not by force, we dont know why he does not want to help. Some people, think its their right because its family or blood, but different families, have different kinds of understanding or bonds. For example i don't like collecting things from my family every time, and in my understanding, i should not bother them because they are family. Different family have different kinds of relationship and how they relate, so i will not understand what is really happening. To be on a safer side, do not expect anything from anyone, its not a right, but you can ask if you really need help. My point is, do not form unnecessary dependence on anyone. If you are a graduate and you are still looking for help on a family to fix you into a job, then you have the wrong mentality. ultimateprof: 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by Lebronjames23(m): 4:11pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
SeriouslySense:lol u re absolutely right, I don't expect anything in return when I render assistance the Lil way I can. Right now sef. Im dead broke, but to ask now ehn dey do me somehow.. But what can we do? Family is family. God help us 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by SeriouslySense(m): 4:17pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Normally if a family have a quality relationship, if there is kindness in spirit, understanding and they are very thoughtful, then you will always get help, when you are really down, but to me, the way family is taken in Nigeria, is superficial, no good relationship, or kindness or respect, its all about money request, and how to play smart. I really hate that. Lebronjames23: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by Lebronjames23(m): 4:24pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
SeriouslySense:my guy I've asked and asked for help, even when I was shivering due to hunger, but none of them helped. A friend of mine called me that same day and asked how I was doing .. I was like ur guy wan die of hunger o, immediately he asked for my details and sent 5k to me. I cried sef while thanking him. So u see its not until u re related by blood.. !! And funny enough I call to check up on my uncles ,aunties..not until I need money b4 i remember them 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by SeriouslySense(m): 4:38pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Its sad that your family was not bothered tat you are hungry, and they could have discuss how you can stand on your two feet, any family member of mine must not go hungry, as long as i can help. They should have asked if you have any idea on how you can stand on your two feet and how they can help you stand on your two feet. Thats the kind of talk i usually have with any relative that is such urgency. Lebronjames23: |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by Lebronjames23(m): 4:46pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
SeriouslySense:my guy I'm just really tired, they won't ask.. Okay I asked for a capital to start a small business. They ignored, I locked up. Went to do menial jobs to support myself and Mum.. E no easy walahi. There was a time I saw my mum crying . my guy I weak. As at now!! Im just tired of everything! Did u know I even tried to end everything? Most times I wish I wasn't born sef. Lol . I'm 27 and I don't have a source of income, I don't have a degree too.. Doing menial jobs to survive. |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by yemi1504: 4:54pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Shayron: Welcome to Nigeria, especially the South. I also have rich uncles my Dad helped when he was rich but no help whatsoever from them and you wonder why we as a people except the Igbos are not affluent societies. I rest my case. |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by SeriouslySense(m): 4:54pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
One of my relative is like you he has no degree, so its more challenging to know what he can do to stand on his two feet, but he told me that he will learn how to repair phones, but he is not sure how strong his brain can be to obtain this knowledge within a short time, he is not sure that he can learn fast, so i gave him capital to start learning how to repair phones, he is getting old, and hard labor is not sustainable. My advise is is find something to do or learn, it can be simple things like cooking, or fishery, or anything you are good at, or you have talent in, or it can be making shoes, making something, you know yourself. Now you have to brain storm ask yourself what is good for you to do, even if is small small, or gradually, somethings take time. Lebronjames23: 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by SeriouslySense(m): 5:00pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Not all southerners are like that, the Igbo Model of bringing people up is really good, something to adopt, so people around one, can stand on their two feet yemi1504: |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by yemi1504: 5:00pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
NovusHomo: That is nonsense! We pride ourselves as Africans on community living and now behaving like the whites we deride. Unlike the whites, we don't have opportunities here, so how do you expect the person to sort himself out? I thought the Obi Cubana case and the Igbos in general helping their people to become affluent should be a lesson but other Southern tribes are not willing to learn that lesson! It is just unfortunate that the people we refuse to help show up at family functions, if they were vindictive like me and don't show up, we will see we really have a problem! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by yemi1504: 5:05pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
slawormiir: Same observation here too bro! Unfortunately, the uncles from the father's sides are always well-to-do unlike the other side which dey make person pained. |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by Lebronjames23(m): 5:05pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
SeriouslySense:bro u re right, if I had that capital I'd have started something, okay I wanted to learn makeup and nails. I was told to pay 15k to learn. Bro where I wan see 15k? If I had I'd have paid to learn. still wanted to learn tailoring was told to pay 20k , bro I weak!! . thing is if I can get that 15k or 20k I'd pay and learn a skill.. Its what I intend to do , and I'm not getting any younger |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by yemi1504: 5:09pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
SeriouslySense: I already mentioned that in my comment sir that except the Igbos, other Southern tribes are nothing as regards this issue! |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by yemi1504: 5:13pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Shayron: Thank God, you even mentioned it was the southw3st especially. I am in the same boat with the lady as regards this but I will find my way. |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by SeriouslySense(m): 5:18pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
I do help my fellow tribe get on their feet, even though i am not Igbo. Once i know they are serious or have planned to become independent, we as other tribe in the south have to copy this attitude of helping others establish, it should be encouraged. yemi1504: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by Gfskw: 5:25pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
This century nobody cares any more not only families Just go out there and make a difference And get your recognition and respect |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by yemi1504: 5:26pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
SeriouslySense: Same here sir unfortunately, I don't think my tribe of Y0rubas will ever change concerning this! I don't need family's help anyways, I will do fine even though it might take longer without them! But nobody should say I am vindictive when I pay them back in their own coins by not giving a damn about them too! I am already doing that anyways! 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by yemi1504: 5:35pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
1MILLIONLiGHTS: Me too. |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by SeriouslySense(m): 5:37pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Sadly, when you are doing fine, that is when they'll remember that you are family. yemi1504: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by NovusHomo(m): 5:52pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
yemi1504: [b]Your reference to Obi Cubana almost stopped me from responding to your submission. But please note the following: 1. Count me out of communal living in which most members are parasites who think having many wives and children is an accomplishment. 2. God did not favor the whites over blacks. White folks created opportunities for themselves. 3. There is no lesson to learn from Obi "Cubana". He has only succeeded in taking profligacy to another level. It has to be a record, really; one at which the white man will forever marvel. The next few years will bring out copious writings on this topic (Cubana) by those whose job it is to do so. They have started already. I read a column on the topic in Tribune sometime last week or so. 4. I remember Charles Darwin's Theory of Evolution (the change in the characteristics of a species over several generations) which essentially talks about what he referred to as "natural selection". Simply put, it is that all humans have natural gifts and capabilities. Those who can't or won't develop these will be phased out by nature. "Racist" as this theory is, because his research was carried out in Madagascar (in Africa), Africa and Africans are proving the theory to be correct and on point. I hope you did not find this to be nonsense.[/b] 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by yemi1504: 6:11pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
SeriouslySense: Abi o and when you give them the cold shoulder, they bring the we are family bullsh1t SMH. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by yemi1504: 6:15pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
NovusHomo: Once again, I ask , do we have the opportunities to become someone here unlike abroad? I can bet a billion dollars that you will not answer that question. Awolowo once said "those children you refused to train...", Complete it yourself! And you now wonder why kidnapping is on a rise in the country! If we don't have a communal living spirit, the kidnapping cases will soon become something else where someone can make it here and not sleep with two eyes closed because of your and such mindset! I rest my case. I hope I schooled you here and you are welcome. Atimes, it is not everybody you reply. There are people that have experiences, you will not experience even in 10 lifetimes and I am not even bragging! |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by ChiefS(m): 6:29pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
At 27 you ought to have acquired a skill or obtained at least an OND. It's really difficult for a salary earner who is managing himself to raise substantial capital to support someone without a skill except the person in question is truly rich. Instead of blaming others you should start with menial job. Save some money and acquire a skill or go back to school. The earlier you take responsibility the better for you. [Quote author=Lebronjames23 post=104462084] my guy I'm just really tired, they won't ask.. Okay I asked for a capital to start a small business. They ignored, I locked up. Went to do menial jobs to support myself and Mum.. E no easy walahi. There was a time I saw my mum crying . my guy I weak. As at now!! Im just tired of everything! Did u know I even tried to end everything? Most times I wish I wasn't born sef. Lol . I'm 27 and I don't have a source of income, I don't have a degree too.. Doing menial jobs to survive.[/quote] 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by ume1000: 6:29pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Vivov21e:you owe your family everything You share some blocks of dna If u cannot help your flesh and blood who would you help |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by NovusHomo(m): 6:40pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
yemi1504: [b]Now its insults. Typical, when logic is too much to grasp. You schooled me?, If only you knew! I told you already: white people create opportunities for themselves and their societies. Its nice to cite Obafemi Awolowo. Everybody does without putting his sayings in context. Awo was referring to the larger society and the role of leaders, especially political leaders. Apply that to parents (leaders in each household), and the implication is huge. Eventually, it is society that pays the price of their laziness and carelessness. Why not ask your "communal living" members to stop having children like rabbits. Tell them to come together and clean up all the unoccupied land in the neighborhoods to plant vegetables instead of whinnying about rising cost of food items? In places with better economies, people grow their own food as a hobby. Shouldn't that be a necessity to poorer economies? But they wont, they expect their uncles and aunties to give them money for food. How do you expect someone with two children to help someone with ten? What is going to remain for him to raise his own children? In the end, they drag you to their own level. Helping such folks eventually leads to your own poverty. I refuse to be made poor because of some family members who do not understand what life entails. It is the feeling of entitlement that you attempt to cloak in the garment of morality. I DO NOT CARE. Let each carry his own responsibility. Thank you, teacher. I stop here. There is no need for you to respond.[/b] 4 Likes |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by Vivov21e: 6:56pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
ume1000:I will help who I wanna help or feel like helping Stop with the self entitlement thing 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by yemi1504: 7:10pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
NovusHomo: They say don't wrestle with a pig, you can complete it yourself! And silence is the best answer for, complete that too! I will not be bothered to reply any more of your mentions, silence is golden! I rest my case. |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by BareFacedLies(m): 7:25pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Beancounter94: You have said it all 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by malcom1X: 7:43pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
The same Uncle wey una dey call rapist na it una want help from. I avoid my nieces like a plague. I don't want to hear rumours. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by ezewealth(m): 10:01pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
oyeb15:Is a lie, my mum eldest brother, is most selfless man in d whole world. God!!! I never see. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Some Family Members Act Like They Don't Care by CavemanDefuturo: 10:32pm On Aug 05, 2021 |
Shayron: Because they truly don't care and most importantly they own you nothing! Deal with it and face your life..alone 3 Likes |
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (Reply)
Hilarious Post Of A Couple Who Met On Twitter / What Feature (s) Is A Must Have For A Partner You Intend To Date Or Marry? / What’s The Best Place And Time To Approach A Lady?
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 120 |