Belafonte:


Without starving her, she pushed herself into the arms of another already. So, the starving will just help her live her true nature of hoedom

muller101:
Throw her out

AutoChick4U:
But he disvirgined her naw, how come she ate another plantain? I thought virginity assured loyalty

Belafonte:


How did your argument fly from not starving to him marrying her a virgin?

Dufil:
This is really tough. Pls uncheck her friends, watch out for them.

Report the number to your service provider for tracking.

Your disvirgined her and she sleeps with an older man; it's definitely, for money nothing more.

She is giving that man hope that baby was his but thank God you found out, it was yours. She wants the man to be her maga. Maybe they met at work place.

AutoChick4U:
We brainstorming arguments naw. Las las loyalty has to do with individual values

Justanonymous:
won't she just cry and say it's the devil..my brother make I do like say I no no yet and just dey use style check her phone and if by March Next year the love never come back then we go end am

Justanonymous:
lol I understand bro, I no be simp oo, and if you see me I don't look 28, the man is an older guy from his picture of whaatapp..I feel like posting that bastards picture sef but what would I gain from it. But I just feel when you love your woman you should love her with all your heart and soul and not look outside. But thanks

Belafonte:


Sorry, I don't scalar brainstorming

2rez:


Hey bruh, nah common. Cut the older nigga some slack, aight? If your woman loved u, she wouldn't have cheated on u. However, we aint perfect. Since she a good girl like u said, be easy with her when u confront her. Yeah, do confront her & let her conscience take it up from there. BTW, the niggar aint no bastard. Niggar just catching cruise & your woman, loves cruise i presume. That said, thank God the boy is yours. Once again, go easy on your woman. All the best.

Justanonymous:
lol I understand bro, I no be simp oo, and if you see me I don't look 28, the man is an older guy from his picture of whaatapp..I feel like posting that bastards picture sef but what would I gain from it. But I just feel when you love your woman you should love her with all your heart and soul and not look outside. But thanks

Justanonymous:
won't she just cry and say it's the devil..my brother make I do like say I no no yet and just dey use style check her phone and if by March Next year the love never come back then we go end am

Justanonymous:
Ok I never wanted to share this with anyone else ( my Best friend and neighbor knows) till I decide on what to do with her but an earlier thread on nairaland today about this same paternity issue that I read ( Papa ijeoma) is making me pen this down and due to the insensitive nature of the issue I had to create a new account because she is also in nairaland like me

Me and my lady ( we aren't married but engaged) never hide anything from one another, she knows the password to my phone's and I likewise her's but we never picked each other's call or read a text that isn't meant for the person that owns the phone

But everything changed 7 weeks ago when a text came through to her phone from a number she saved with a different name but in that text the person Said " you can't give my son to that small boy, he is my son and when I get back home I would come collect him"

She was taking her bath and her phone rang repeatedly and almost immediately when the last call stopped then a text came in, and because I was close to it something told me hey man take the phone to meet her maybe it's her work place calling her and as I picked up the phone i unlocked it and just was innocently playing with the phone and walking to the bathroom when I opened the text and when I read it I was broken, so so broken. I opened her WhatsApp for the first time in almost 3 year's of been together and I read the message her and her " man friend" have been sharing, mhen what do ladies want? Why do you have to cheat on a man that loves you? Where is the sacred pure love our parents shared

I won't advice anyone to check their partners phone but at times it could save you

Immediately I read that text I lost my head but I didn't tell her or confront her with it, I was hating my son ( yes he is mine), wasn't eaten at home, but that wasn't who I'm, I'm better than that

Gosh I loved that girl, still love her, I deflowered her, I just couldn't wrap my heads round it for the first 3 or 5 day's, she knew something was off but I just couldn't tell her, I couldn't carry my son and then I told my older neighbor and he advised me, prayed with me and told me to be calm

He suggested we did a DNA test and I checked through nairaland and got a center and when I heard the price gosh ( 110k) I said I wasn't gonna do it and he asked me how much I had and I said like 190k and he said isn't it better to know the paternity of your son with 110k than train him with far more?

I went for the DNA test and God that 23 days I had to wait was the longest of my life and when the results came out and I was texted by the center in Allen Avenue God lol my heart was pounding, I told my best friend everything and he wanted to go throw her out of the house but I told him all I needed was his support in the center Incase I collapse lol

And when I was given the envelope my god my hands were shaking, I was sweating under an air conditioner my friend took the results and opened it and smiled and yelled and said he is yours bro and I took the results and thank God he was my son, gosh I cried hahahahaha, I was crying like mad

While me And my friend was going home he was asking me what I wanted to do with my lady and I said I don't know and 2 weeks after I still don't know I swear

I love her, oh my God I still love her but I feel so much anger and bitterness in my heart towards her and now I direct all my love to my son

We haven't made love in 6 weeks and she is complaining and crying, called my Mom to report me and my Mom is asking why I just told her I don't feel like it

I can't throw her out because her parents are late but I keep on asking my self what happened, where did I go wrong that would make her cheat on me till her " Man friend" thinks she has a son for him, I try for this girl I swear do, yes we aren't rich but come on, she uses an iPhone while I still use an Android, I make sure she doesn't lack anything her single friends has, yes we are young, she is 25 while I'm 28 but I try for her and treat her like a wife because we share a child

What do women really want, I know why the comedian Nedu couldn't tell anyone about his wife given him another man's kid it's because of the shame involve, no one knows about this than my neighbor and my friend and of course you now reading it, I would keep her and see if the next 6 months I can feel what I felt for her just a few months back which was real and genuine love and if I can't feel that way I would Respectfully tell her everything and no one else would know as I would keep her shame because she is a good girl, I know she is but I just couldn't imagine why she did what she did

Ladies please be like our parents so you don't give your husband a child that isn't his and that's the DNA results

Goodnight

Decency2020:



If only you know that most of these stories here are fabricated. People with real marital problems don't run to nairaland because here is full of lunatics.

Never be deterred about marriage. It is an institution made by God so it is good. Reason why many marriages are suffering today is because many don't prepare for marriage rather they prepare for wedding and after the one day event they are not ready for the real deal.

Having said that no sane person runs to social media to discuss his or her private life . Don't just mind them

JovialJune:



Very very mad, most guys on here are fond of saying that trash yet they will be one to open multiple threads crying about what the gf or wife did to them, like how will I be in a relationship or married to you and I won't have access to your phone? Once a man/woman hides things or prevent you from checking their phone, them be cheats simple.

Justanonymous:
lol I understand bro, I no be simp oo, and if you see me I don't look 28, the man is an older guy from his picture of whaatapp..I feel like posting that bastards picture sef but what would I gain from it. But I just feel when you love your woman you should love her with all your heart and soul and not look outside. But thanks

AutoChick4U:
Yea imagine d guy in that position.

Lamasta:

Your girl is taking advantage of your calmness and gentility to cheat on you.....

Voice out your discovery to her and make your decision to forgive her or let her go instead of holding grudges towards her

Justanonymous:
brother it's hard. I can't imagine she keeping such secret. Haba, someone else was banging my woman while I was loving her and caring for her and toiling for her. Thank God he is my son if not I for fit beat her for the first time. But I hope the love comes back Sha

realestate99:


The love can't come back, don't deceive yourself, for that man to think he has a son with your girl means they have done " terrible things" for long.
Most times girls cheat just to have a feeling of being with a new person, not that they have any problem with their relationship.

I really pity you because psychologically you are down at the moment, Time will heal you but you are better off by solving the whole issue once and for all, you can call respected people from both families and treat it once and for all, any move you want to take is in your hand.

do you know your evidence is weak in front of a defiant lady?, you still have unfinished business with her phone, you need to get more details of their chats and get a vivid identity of that man or else your lady might deny everything and turn you to mutembe.

Justanonymous:
I have pictures of the chat saved on my phone, I know if I tell my Mom the marriage is over, I made my friend swear a oath of silence not to tell another soul? This girl is sweat like really kind. My perfect kind of lady, innocent ( I thought she was) gentle, super clean, prayerful ( she wakes up each day by 3am and pray and all she says is God bless my husband) she never allows me and my son gets hungry, she never fights or quarrels with my neighbors, like I don't know why she did that. I don't just know. I swear I still love her and pray I grow feelings back for her

Justanonymous:
won't she just cry and say it's the devil..my brother make I do like say I no no yet and just dey use style check her phone and if by March Next year the love never come back then we go end am

Pierocash:
Your post is incoherent. You started of with paternity fraud ,later switched to cheating. And turned to you hated her,but you still love her.


Your post is direction less.

AutoChick4U:
Yea imagine d guy in that position.