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Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by BRATISLAVA: 11:11am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Lessons123: Inform us of your other flaws, so that you don't come in here painting your wife black while you pretend to be a saint, and receive advice from small boys. If you're looking to do things for people so that they will be indebted or grateful to you, you've missed the point of doing good. With your own wife you're still looking for how to count what you did in the back of your head, so that you can demand gratefulness? Do what is right and responsible by your family and leave the rest to God. Your issue is debt, not her gratefulness. What made you open a business without proper research? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by xtervaganza(m): 11:11am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Lessons123:if you cannot send the idiot and her brother away then you're a simp. Also you don't need to come online for advise. If I were you I'd raise hell and show her craze 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by PlayMaker14: 11:14am On Sep 17, 2021 |
TenQ:Dear Special Adviser, Kindly be informed that I am not the Op and I will appreciate if you learn how to quote the right person instead of giving me unsolicited mention. Thank you and may God bless you. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by od501: 11:18am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Lessons123: Are you seriously saying this sir? No divorce? Even when it is obvious she is choking you? With all due respect bro...you need to man up, grow some balls down there. Like seriously. Let me give you an example. I don't know what that brother inlaw of yours have done, but when next it repeats itself, slap the OMG outta him. That will be before you set him packing, if he gets too violent, call the police or bouncers on him. And if your wife does the usual by trying to defend him, lock her up in one of the rooms for the whole day and threaten to deal with any fool that tries letting her out (no beating). Finally, never spend any more dime on the woman until you are done with the said debt. As for your sister in law, I don't know what she has done, but I doubt she will try anything stupid after she'd seen how you handled the sister. But stay away from her cooking hence. See bro...it's time you man up. You are an African man for Christ sake, act like one. Let them know you have kept quiet for too long. And if you have a gun or machete, it's time to use it and scare the fuvk outta them. No go shot or cut anybody oo...but do it in such a way that your kinsmen go hear the story. Enough of the nonsense! But if you continue with this your gentle man nonsense, read my lips "you-will-die!" And those bitches will proudly possess those riches you think you have, ripping where they did not sow. I rest my case. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by marvellously(m): 11:18am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Guy what you're are saying is very stupid like the man is out here pouring out his pains and that of majority of naija men who live with entitled women n you're asking irrelevant question like wtf stays with his in-laws n pays rent, this days it's becoming a norm where u get married and it's like u don buy the woman family market which is exactly wats happening and you're are saying that his own dad issues does not concern him, guy if u don't have any advice for him you for like shut up 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by Ikwerelastborn: 11:20am On Sep 17, 2021 |
mariahAngel:They create new account if their main is known to avoid stigma. I thought you even had a strong evidence as to why it is a fake story, nawa for Nigerians o no wonder efcc and police de always label any young successful person as a yahoo boy or criminal, the police and efcc are a replica of the people, tueh! |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by teeste: 11:20am On Sep 17, 2021 |
ibechris: You are still young , you can't drag me along as you pay back your debt. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by Ikwerelastborn: 11:20am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Xilsbridalhouse:Don't mind her They create new account if their main is known to avoid stigma. I thought you even had a strong evidence as to why it is a fake story, nawa for Nigerians o no wonder efcc and police de always label any young successful person as a yahoo boy or criminal, the police and efcc are a replica of the people, tueh! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by Minuli: 11:21am On Sep 17, 2021 |
This is a fake story. Go and live with your fake life please |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by Patented: 11:22am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Lessons123: Start by exiting non members of your nuclear family from your house. Let your wife go back to work. As u said the business is a failure so why continue? |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by bepositive11: 11:22am On Sep 17, 2021 |
EmptyGarden: Some not all. Based on what OP wrote, he used money to win her over. She never loved him. She's using him for money. OP also has low self esteem |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by Xilsbridalhouse(f): 11:28am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Born2conquer:Exactly, truth be told...it takes a lot to create a new account just to post fake story, unless the person is a regular troll and those stories would easily be detected as being false. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by bepositive11: 11:29am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Lessons123: First of all, you have low self esteem. Be honest with yourself. You used money to win her over right? Your wife doesn't truly love you or respect you. She only loves and respects your money Since you don't want to divorce, accept the above truth and learn to live with it. Now, as for her bad behaviour, you're enabling it. By not setting boundaries and asserting them with consequences, you're allowing her to mistreat and disrespect you. I'm guessing that you lack self confidence It will take time to build your self esteem and self confidence. Take it one step at a time and start standing up to her misbehaviour. Start setting boundaries with consequences and asserting them. Please don't be passive aggressive. Don't do stonewalling or silent treatment. Be open, honest, and direct When you lack self confidence, women like her can see it and they take advantage of it She is not a good woman so you cannot be vulnerable with her. She will just use your vulnerability against you If you should have a son, please advice him to never use money to win over a woman. Money can NEVER buy love and respect. NEVER |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by bepositive11: 11:31am On Sep 17, 2021 |
HRHQueenPhil: That's a coward move |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by Sparklinglyte(m): 11:37am On Sep 17, 2021 |
A woman will never appreciate your help no matter what unless the sensible ones |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by prophetfire: 11:41am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Lessons123:. Divorce her and move on. SIMPLE AND HONEST AND STRAIGHT TO THE POINT. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by skuribeebo: 11:42am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Ogaaa , send all of them away. Na by force? |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by TenQ: 11:44am On Sep 17, 2021 |
PlayMaker14:I'm sure there are more matured way of registering the thoughts of your mind. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by Hassanmaye(m): 11:45am On Sep 17, 2021 |
EmptyGarden:Only this your statement can spend me from getting married, you mean after working hard |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by LegitLexLuthor(m): 11:46am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:Which side of the world are you from? Definitely not Nigeria lol |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by bluefilm: 11:47am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Lessons123: Sadly, I don't give SIMPs advice. It's of no use to them. Your brother in law is disrespecting in your own house and you don't know what to do about it? SIMPs have no shame, aswear. Nonsense. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by timefarm(m): 11:52am On Sep 17, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:You must be a lady eith this your advice. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by OlawaleBammie: 11:53am On Sep 17, 2021 |
teeste:hmmm, word!!! |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by ibechris(m): 11:59am On Sep 17, 2021 |
teeste: U are u just spreading ur stupidity every where. Any talk about women,u will stretch ur tiny neck talking as if u created women. U talk and responds like a frustrated man. Ur hate over women will surely keep u in regretful mood except u change ur barbaric thinking. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by UcheforGod(f): 12:00pm On Sep 17, 2021 |
teeste:Be calming down bro This una hatred for women is becoming too much! How exactly do we offend you people? |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by Ketapu: 12:00pm On Sep 17, 2021 |
Read the book called "Anatomy of female power" by the Nigerian author, Chinweizu. You will understand everything that is going on with you. I feel very sorry for you because you have already entered the trap. You can download and read the book below: https://b-ok.cc/book/2329793/349711 |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by whirlwind7(m): 12:01pm On Sep 17, 2021 |
Lessons123: You seek mature advise, but are you ready, are you man enough to heed a seemingly difficult advise? Ok, here's an advise from someone who appreciates what you are going through, for the fact that I am married and been through similar situation: Nothing will make your wife change. NOTHING She will keep on being herself, to your chagrin, and she's gonna do worse things. If you expect her to change, then you're living in a fool's paradise. With this in mind, it is up to you to do what you believe is best. Nobody will tell you what. You get to that phase when you're thoroughly frustrated and at your wit's end. God speed. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by chukel(m): 12:04pm On Sep 17, 2021 |
HRHQueenPhil:you are just a tool in the hands of pastorpreneurs. Who do una gender like this. Kai. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by Commanderinpips: 12:04pm On Sep 17, 2021 |
My brother, you have to be a MAN. The following suggestions might be of help to you: Send your brother inlaw packing with 3 months notice. Be assertive and firm with your wife going forward. Do not disclose your earnings to your wife. Don't give room for any un necessary demands from her. Starve her of luxury for a while so she can appreciate you. Note: I am married and I am speaking from experience. Above all pray for her to succeed in her business but don't pamper her when she goes wrong. |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by frozen70(f): 12:06pm On Sep 17, 2021 |
Lessons123: You are just being a gentleman and and she is just being the wild cat It's time to make up your mind on how best to deal with her Draw a line that for now, you don't want your inlaws visits or stay in your house Next move, once it's now your family alone, give her the attitude that will humble her, make her to change from bad to good or she is free to leave the home Take only action follow her, don't talk because any negative statements from you is a weapon against you Stop whatever business you are setting up for her, if the business hasn't been yielding any profit, so that you can clear your debt Her income is not even enough to feed the family so let her go back to teaching if possible, since her character changed after you set up the business Reduce your domestic staff to just one and she will be forced to do some house chores that will keep her busy You can go into plan B of any business to support the family or hold on and clear your loan debt hanging on you Time will tell you what next to do, after thinking about all I mentioned I think you are spoiling her but you were actually building her as a future back up Some women don't know how to treasure a gold simply because they didn't sweat to have it |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by DWJOBScom(m): 12:06pm On Sep 17, 2021 |
Leave her!!!!!!!! |
Re: My Wife Is Ungrateful by Fejimummy: 12:07pm On Sep 17, 2021 |
Love and business shouldn't mix .. my father's words. I'm a married woman also and my husband invested in my business so did my father but there's a written agreement on how their money would be paid which was signed by 4 witnesses two from my side two from my husband side . To God be the glory I haven't defaulted even though my husband tells me to forget about the money but still pay and I have a record for it. I have earned both my father's and my husband respect by honoring our agreement. 1 Like |
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